u/OkJellyfish9236

Bonsoir,

Récemment j'hésitais beaucoup à en parler à une de mes sœurs. On va dire qu'elle a pas mal de symptomes tdah mais qu'elle est dans le déni et je ne lui en parle pas car pour moi c'est a chacun de faire son propre choix concernant la recherche de diagnostic. L'école lui a parlé d'un potentiel tdah chez son enfant qu'elle a rejeté en bloc et elle m'a meme dit une fois qu'elle "dormait comme les tdah" mais qu'elle "n'était pas eu tout tdah" bref..

Je lui en ai parlé aujourd'hui car je voyais qu'a son habitude elle me parlait de ses problemes et j'avais besoin qu'elle comprenne que j'ai du mal actuellement. Que je pouvais plus faire semblant , que vraiment ca ne va pas et que cest difficile pour moi d'encaisser quand elle me parle de ses problemes. Je lui ai parlé de mes troubles de santé mentale et du diag tdah + trauma complexe.

Elle a simplement dit que beaucoup de gens sont diag tdah aujourd'hui sans l'être. Et ensuite s'est mise a parler d'autre sujet.

Voilà c'est tout pour moi.

Et vous?

Hello everyone,

Been suspecting ADHD for the past 10 years but only got diagnosed now (this month), because dealing with PMDD and cptsd, unable to really function properly.

I have a big sis I'm like 200% sure she got ADHD (she has lots of symptoms), but I never talked to her about it because she really denies the fact that her children may have ADHD (school talked to her about it). Also I know it's important she has her own journey. So I usually never talk to her about my suspicions. But now that I got diagnosed, I announced it to her because I told my close relatives and didnt want her to feel left out.

It wasnt a pleasant experience. She basically told me nowadays everyone is labelled adhd. I was really taken aback since well, I've been there to listen to her everytime she needed it, her talking about her life/traumas. Our convo usually only revolves around her. But now that I have something I share about me.. She dismiss it. I also spoke to her about the mental health issues related (pmdd and cptsd). And she basically didnt react at all (as if it was never spoken) and talked about her friend who has health issues. So now she talks about her friend and her friend's trauma, and she also spoke to me about her own trauma.

I know I shouldnt have expected anything from her given the fact she has dismissed me hard in the past (which is why I got used to talk to other ppl and therapist, but not her..). I just thought.. well that it's normal to share it with her since she's my sis.

I feel so bad and want to go back in time and never speak to her about it. I feel dirty. Idk how to explain. I told her that I disliked the fact she dimissed it because it was important for me that people believe me (it's a late diagnosis Im 30yo and since I have other disorders related to adhd I know it's not "a trend").

Here's the cat haiku :

Kitty likes plastic

Confuses for litter box

Don't leave tarp around

So it's my first post here. Before I used to vent about my mom's behavior to other groups but people dont seem to get it. Then I discovered this sub and it all made sense.

First of all, my mom is not only BPD she's also got bipolar. Which is why I never understood why she was like this. Thought it was bipolar but.. Therapist explained to me her behavior were borderline and explained to me what is was. Side note, I cannot be independant for now as I have my own health issue and unable to work atm.

So here I am because sincerely I just DONT KNOW how to deal with all the sh*t. Every day I wake up early but today I had nothing planned so I slept. I have stopped helping her in the kitchen because of all the abuse that happened all these years. She now picks on me a lot and it's not easy to deal with it but I stopped caring over time. This time I care because she got right at me in front of my small nephews/nieces that came to spend the afternoon, they're kot supposed to be exposed to violent speech but here we are, she said with lot of sarcasm in her voice that "it's so nice to come when everything is ready" (she means that she cooked), when I actually came to stay with the kids when they were eating. So I told her it's not that I didnt want to help, I just fell asleep. Then she keeps being in her "mocking" self. I said I wouldnt eat of she doesnt like it, then I walked away and she started yelling at me in front of the kids. I felt so bad because I dont want them to see all of this. The thing with my mom is, she s got different personalities, and yesterday, when I learned I had endometriosis, she was nice for the first time in a long time (she kinda downplayed it tho.. and made it about herself, unloaded her own gyn trauma, stuff she went through) and then today she's back to being mean for no reason, also she deciced long ago that I was a bad person (I was always the most calm, obedient girl growing up, I just couldnt do it when I became an adult because of so much abuse) she s literally the person that hurt me the most imo. In her eyes , there's a whole "me" she created which is a bad, bad girl.

I have basically stopped trying to have a normal relationship with her but she always uses against me in front of family members, saying how I dont help her at home (I do, she just has.. well, BPD). Recently I started trying to stop the "war" by being more gentle towards her after I learned she went through abuse in her childhood (she unpacked all her traumatic memories to me over time BUT the childhood one she doesnt talk about it and she always forget that she alread unloaded her trauma to me she keeps doing so...). Yesterday I had to tell her I cannot bear listening to it anymore (since it's damaging to my own mental health and she knows it) that she needs therapy, like EMDR or so and as usual she blatantly refused to seek help saying she s perfectly okay.

This all must sound so classic to y'all but I just need to vent because whenever I tried to speak about it to my sisters they always kinda try to find excuses for her, except one of my big sis (which also has the highest level of enmeshment imo) she was, along with me, the most abused by mom. She still doesnt fully see the "evil" part of mom though. She keeps trying to make mom love her. My other sis which I talked to about it is supportive of me and knows how scary mom can get but at the same time she also dont see the full picture. I told her it's because when she left home (my older sis are married), mom had to change her bipolar meds and her behavior worsened. Tbh being the pnlu one who actually sees the whole picture makes me feel so alone and frustrated.

It's difficult to write about it because it's often so subtle. I have c-ptsd and got burnt out these past few years. Now about to get a treatment because I discovered I had adhd along the way.

Last time I saw therapist she said I finally became adult because now when mom speaks mean stuff to me it doesnt hurt me anymore, I dont go all dysregulated and spiralling like I used to.

There's more to unload but I dont want to write too much also my thoughts are disorganised. I just feel sad because this was supposed to be a good day and now she kinda once again SPLIT me from the kids (she often did that idk why but all my nephews/nieces love me a lot, and she often kinda yell/dismiss/mock me in front lf them). She dislikes a lot the fact that I have put boundaries now and her little power moves dont work on me because I've fully accepted thzt I'm "the bad child" in her eyes. Took me 27years tho... Now I'm 29. I really want to leave home but atm cannot. I want to be financially independant it's my goal.

Hello everyone :) I've been dealing with different kind of "women health problems" starting from severe PMDD and chronic metrorragia. Been years that dr tell me I probably have endo but we couldnt see a thing 6 years ago on the MRI. Today got new MRI results and it says I do have it.

Short summary of my symptoms: starting about 10 days before day 1, and during periods, I have big pain. I am so used to awful belly cramps since young age that I dont really realise it's "endometriosis" which is a condition I really see as the worst thing for a woman which also means I dont deserve to "claim" this diagnosis because my pain isnt as strong as others. I know because my diagnosis basically says " Mild deep endometriosis with thickening of the torus and thickening of the right uterosacral ligament." My organs are safe which Im soo thankful for and it looks like it's not serious in my case.

I just wanted to ask if I can say that I do have endo? I really feel like it's not "real" endo? Idk how to explain. Like it would be disrespectful towards women who have it worse. Im sorry if it sounds dumb but that's how I feel atm.

It feels so weird especially given the fact that about 6 years ago I suspected endo & PCOS because of heavy metrorragia and horrendous pain during periods (would vomit because it hurt so bad) and dr saw nothing on the MRI. I still tried the anti inflammatory diet and tried to manage PMDD by myself and forgot about endo.

Still whenever I went to doctors for PMDD each one of them told me I had endo symptoms. Back to today, I just got my results and it says it's not severe endo (thank God) but it's there. I dont know what to feel especially given the fact that I just got my ADHD diagnosis last month and also my therapist recently told me I had cptsd.

It's like life is telling me "no you were not weird, crazy nor liar, you actually had problems!".

It feels so weird especially given the fact that about 6 years ago I suspected endo & PCOS because of heavy metrorragia and horrendous pain during periods (would vomit because it hurt so bad) and dr saw nothing on the MRI. I still tried the anti inflammatory diet and tried to manage PMDD by myself and forgot about endo.

Still whenever I went to doctors for PMDD each one of them told me I had endo symptoms. Back to today, I just got my results and it says it's not severe endo (thank God) but it's there. I dont know what to feel especially given the fact that I just got my ADHD diagnosis last month and also my therapist recently told me I had cptsd.

It's like life is telling me "no you were not weird, crazy nor liar, you actually had problems!".

Hello

I suffer from eczema/irritations on my face and it got a lot worse this past month. I asked pharmacist to help with finding a good cream for my skin because it is damaged and doesnt heal despite applying thermal water, apricot oil, uriage bariderm balm (it's like vaseline but with shea butter). She suggested uriage cica daily cream for the skin and eye contour.

My problem is, when I apply it, it feels like it burns my damaged skin. I read the ingredients but nothing sounds like I could have a reaction to it. It doesnt contain perfume nor the ingredients I know Im allergic to.

Here are the ingredients :

INCI : Aqua (water, eau), dicaprylyl ether, glycerin, diglycerin, squalane, 1,2-hexanediol, inulin, sodium polyacryloyldimethyl taurate, acrylates/C10-30 alkyl acrylate crosspolymer, panthenol, xanthan gum, sodium hyaluronate, sodium hydroxide, copper gluconate, Centella asiatica leaf extract, zinc gluconate, citric acid, tocopherol.

Is any of those irritating for the skin? The burning feeling disappeared after 2-3min. I'm just scared it will not have a good effect on my skin. Thanks.

- En quoi avons-nous foi, Sam ?

- Il y a du bon en ce monde, Monsieur Frodon, et il faut se battre pour cela.

Bonjour

J'ai perdu mes ambitions et je ne souhaite qu'une chose c'est de vivre tranquillement et qu'on me laisse tranquille. Je n'ai plus de hobbies a part la lecture que j'ai enfin réussi à retrouver très récemment, sinon j'étais vraiment pas investie dans quoi que ce soit. Je précise, j'ai un tspt chronique donc ça vient probablement de là, mais c'est aussi lié à mon tdah je pense.

Pourtant j'étais une ado énergique qui avait des rêves plein la tête. Est ce que ça vous le fait aussi?

I don't know if PMDD has started yet because my cycle is so unpredictable. Past 3 days I've been dealing with light rumination, lack of interest and staying stuck on my phone without wanting to.

I was so eager to go with family but I felt sick and despite sleeping a lot I still feel very tired and not wanting to be around kids (not mine, I love them but..noises).

Now I have to decide today if I go or not and I know how much I wanted to spend time with everyone but I just feel like having 0 interest into spending time in another house. The fact that I need to change bedroom, use another bathroom, deal with conversations and going out with everyone makes feel soooo tired already.

But every time something like that happened, it made me feel good to push myself out there and not stay in the depressing mood alone.

Any advice? Im sorry I know I should be able to take my decision by myself but I feel lost.

J'aimais beaucoup leur contenu qur facebook mais depuis 2020 on ne les a plus entendu.

I just read a post in r/AskWomenOver30 about perimenopause. Some women said it started around 36yo for them.

I've been struggling with my cycle (PMDD and other) and turning 30 this year, Im finally about to try medication to "finally have a normal life", what do you mean in less than 10 years I could start dealing with peri 😭

Salut

Après des années (+7 ans) à aimer une personne a la folie, une rupture initiée par moi (seule solution pour ne plus souffrir), et deux ans à essayer de faire le deuil, je me rend compte que je n'arrive pas à passer à autre chose.

Je pensais que ca se ferait avec le temps. Deux ans et je l'aime toujours autant et je suis persuadée de ne jamais retrouver quelqu'un comme lui (les bons côtés, pas les mauvais). C'est la seule fois où j'ai réussi à aimer d'ailleurs (très rare pour moi de ressentir de l'intérêt envers une personne).

Je pense que la dopamine et le coté hyperfocus ont énormément joué dans cette relation et le fait que lui et moi avions un tdah (non diag a cette époque).

Ps: Je cherche des témoignages avant tout, pas de discours sur la psychologie merci de respecter ça 🙏