u/TheKhaos121

Hey! This will be my first concert and I'm a little nervous I've never been to something this busy or big. I have a few questions and I guess I'm also looking for any advice on things I may not expect that only a person that goes to concerts would know.

I have seated tickets, what is the ideal time to arrive at the stadium, fill water bottles, buy merch, and find my seat, before the show starts? I don't want to go too early and spend hours waiting but also don't really know the exact start time to make sure I don't miss the beginning.

How does merchandise work? I've read there are sellers outside but then also unofficial sellers, how do you tell? If I'm only allowed to take a bag the size of an A4 sheet of paper, how do I buy the merchandise beforehand and keep it with me? What's the average wait time in line for merchandise?

How strict are they on what you bring in? I plan to bring 4 empty 500ml bottles of water with the lid off(Do I need to hide the lid? do they want it off permanently? or just to prove its empty?) some sachets of electrolyte powder, a pack of peanuts (some type of food, edited after realising it was a bad idea) sun cream, and an electric handheld fan, and a folded up shopping bag in my bag that I guess would be bigger than an A4 sheet if unfolded(for the yea & nay cards). Also, if there is anything they decide I cannot bring in, what happens? do they have a bin right there? do I have to go find one and get back in line?

When leaving I'm heading to Euston station, I've read the trains are packed but also organised, how do I know what line to join to get to Euston? is it all signed? are staff pointing you in directions? do you buy the tickets before joining the line? I have never used the tube before.

Sorry if these all seem like silly questions, I worry a lot! Thanks!

I struggle to let things go and forgive people. Even when I feel like they are forgiven and things have moved on my view of them is changed forever and I can never truly let go of whatever they did. This can be over very small issues that are laughably stupid.

I really need to find a solution because I can't stop ruminating about those things and it's driving me crazy. I don't get how people can just happily move on and forgive like nothing happened when someone clearly did something horrible to them? I wish I was like that but my sense of justice won't allow me to just accept it.

I'm really struggling to stop ruminating I've tried so many methods and just don't get it. No matter what I try to do, how much I acknowledge it's harmful, or try to move on I cannot.

The thoughts are always there, bothering me, waiting for their turn to be back in the front of my mind, it's never ending and they just don't disappear. I feel anxious when I'm not thinking about them and when I am I'm the same. I don't understand how people are just watching a movie and forgetting about their issues when the issues in my mind seem so much more important than any distraction I try to use.

I had therapy for social anxiety, she gave a lot of tools to help, but at the end of every session she would have me rate my anxiety levels and other feelings over the course of the week. I told her once that I think it's kind of silly because I can have a great week then something can trigger my anxiety and my scores would all be awful out of nowhere. From here she agreed with me that it was silly, but insisted we had to do it as her manager was making her do these surveys to track her progress she had made on me.

On my last session the entire thing was focused on these scores, lets say for example the question was "On a level of 1-10 how anxious was you this week? 10 being very, 1 being not at all" If my score was high, she would twist the question to exclude one off trigger instances for the week. Or the worst felt like she would use things I had previously said to make me lower my score, like "Well you seem fine now and you achieved these goals so you must have not been that anxious". This went back and forth for the majority of questions, with me mostly being talked down and talked into just lying and saying I had a great week despite it being fairly awful.

I ended my session feeling like she just used me to mark herself high scores to show to her manager, she gave some great tools but I really never felt as fixed as my final results showed. It's bothered me a lot since and took a lot away from the entire therapy.

Am I being paranoid here? Is there a bigger therapist reason she did these things?

I've tried a lot of methods to stop ruminating.

Distractions, leaves passing in a stream, acknowledging that it's not helpful, only giving it 10 minutes of thought, & writing it all down.

They don't work, or I don't know how to do them properly. Despite doing them, the thoughts are still there, bothering me, I can't just stop thinking about them, I think about them whilst doing my distraction, and the distraction has to end sometime so even more free time to keep ruminating. I know they are not helpful, but I keep doing it, and I have no clue how the solution is to literally just accept them and focus on other things when the whole point of ruminating is to invade your mind. I give it 10 minutes of thought, walk off and it's still there.

I feel like I'm the best multitasker ever, I can ruminate whilst trying to sleep, watching movies, playing video games, working, talking to others, doing hobbies, cooking, & eating. It's non stop and I don't understand how to just stop something that seems to just be a natural part of how my mind works.

A customer blew up at me once, full on supermarket tantrum you'd watch on reddit. I reported it to management, they did nothing about it. She still shops there every week, a few colleagues have told me she's told them a story about how she "upset me and I tried to get her kicked out" They told me because they didn't believe it, but it really triggers my anxiety when thinking about the few who haven't told me and do believe it. I've reported it to management who did absolutely nothing.

I just feel really uneasy around them, the other day I walked by them and they said under their breath "always in the fucking way" I asked if they swore at me, they said they did not say anything in utter shock. Then found me later and apologised whilst still saying they said nothing, they seemed friendly but also said things like "I'd say it to your face if I wanted to" it just kind of came across as smug.

I just hate my job now, it's been ages since the original incident, but I feel overwhelming anxiety when she is around every single week, I go home every day of that week feeling miserable and depressed, because of this one fucking customer and I can't stand that this one single crazy old lady holds so much power over me.

Got the game on Xbox, I have not tried quick matches or ranked as I'm too scared I'll get my ass kicked so thought I'd go to the fight lounge to fight some ghosts for the battle pass weekly challenge, but every region I've selected they are all empty.

Is there any way to find ghosts that'll count towards the weekly challenge for xp? Is my connection just glitched? Or is it always this quiet on Xbox? I've tried a few days in a row now and it's just empty.

I'm struggling with the new update and knowing what to do. I was not a huge fan of the previous victories but at least on each age it was pretty obvious what to do. Now I kind of just juggle a bit of everything and watch as we all remain neck and neck throughout the entire game until the very end.

What specific things should I be doing in each age? I know the new victories can be gained in a variety of ways but what are the must do things I should focus on? I feel like every age is a huge rush to build wonders and grab land, other than that I just run through the tech tree's and increase my gold income, but every match even on easier difficulty feels like I'm missing something as I no matter how good I think i'm doing I'm always right behind them or only slightly ahead.

I've played 3 or 4 matches, every match on exploration I immediately put my research to ship building and start sending settlers out into deep ocean even if it's risky.

Every single match every island I find is already inhabited by the AI, their continent is usually fully covered by them. Yet the AI on my continent leave massive gaps.

Is anyone else finding this? The AI seems way too on top of things since the update to the point it's just boring, can't build wonders because they get there first, can't settle because they get there first, my victories are no longer about building a civilization to stand the test of time it's just letting them do it then stealing all their cities. I've lowered the difficulty each time and can't seem to ever find space to settle outside of my own continent.

I got to the end of last season's invasion but struggled to beat the boss with sub zero and activate the secret fight. I'm really struggling to find solid information on each season's secret fight and not too sure what season to go for it. Any info on this? Is this season a good one? What one should I wait for and how do I activate it on that season?

Thanks

I mostly enjoyed leveling up skills, getting max promotions on jobs, and playing families through a lot of generations, & building buisnesses on the sims. How does this compare? Is it something to sink hundreds of hours into?

I play a lot of games, this one is really confusing me, probably because I'm not use to not having my hand held for the last 10 years on every game I play.

I've started the game, found a camp of refugee's having issues with the druids. Decided to go find the Druid leader at a goblin camp. Talked my way through the goblin camp, found out the leader is most likely a bear, spent hours trying to find them, finally did, decided to stealth kill the goblin leaders. Attempted this for several more hours before giving up as I kept getting overwhelmed by the entire camp going aggro. Decided to leave it for now and check out another quest, found the cave system underneath the temple of the goblin camp. Wherever I go in this cave an enemy with 50+ health spawns and instakills my entire party.

I feel like i've spent more hours learning what not to do then reloading my save and trying it again only to find that also does not work. I was enjoying the game but the moment I was left to go my own way I feel under leveled for most fights & unsure of how to solve situations without reloading the save 50 times. Should have I done another side quest first? why am I so bad at this game?

I am not great with crowds, I'm willing to walk half an hour away from the stadium just to avoid lines and crowds after the show. What station within this radius would be the most quiet? Or is there no avoiding it? Thanks!

I think so little of myself that I'm always second guessing whatever I do or say to people.

I've made a big choice, this time I committed to it and now I can't stop obsessing how it may have been a mistake.

How do normal people just do and say things without thinking twice about it? I want to be like that.

England.

I work a fairly physical job and in this hot weather drink a lot of water. I have quick bathroom breaks throughout my shift.

Management has now said bathroom breaks can only be taken during our break time. Is this legal? It seems reasonable from their perspective but it also seems unreasonable that I should restrain from hydrating too much or else I'd have to wait several hours to use the bathroom.

Is there anything I can do? Can I get in trouble for using the bathroom? Is it legal?

A long time ago whilst arguing on Reddit a person replied and then blocked me, stealing the last word and preventing me from responding as their posts would only show as "deleted"

I was devastated but amazed by this revelation and have used it ever since.

Until one day I was mortified when I had the last word... But the block technique failed me, they was still able to reply to my shock and horror, I was not not being notified about it, I couldn't reply to it as they was blocked.

I assumed there was an update and the days of running away from my arguments like a coward whilst still feeling like I had won were over. Until someone did it to me recently, I was notified of their reply to only find all their posts "deleted" which I always assumed was them blocking me.

I'm now confused, how does blocking people work? What does it actually do?

I just had my first game with the update and three AI players spawn next to me, settle next to my capital and despite having good relations all lowered it through denouncing then declared war within the first 30 turns.
I wasted all my time defending and by the time antiquity was coming to an end with me having achieved nothing I lost 3 cities due to the happiness crisis. I played at the same time as a friend who had a similar non stop war game for seemingly no gain or reason, this was on the middle difficulty.

Is there no more chill civ building? Or did we both get unlucky?

I've recently been asked to extend my shifts and work less days, which sounds like a sweet deal, but I can't stop dreading over the idea of staying longer, it really bothers me and is ruining something I'd usually be excited to.

It's not much longer at all, I'l just work more departments, have more managers giving me odd jobs, and more opportunities for customers to just absolutely ruin my day.

How do I just not give a fuck? I know its obvious to take less work days, the pay will be the same, but I can't stop over analysing and worrying about how shit it will be to spend even more of my day at work, despite getting an entire extra day off.

I work a lot of days, I recently decided to cut them down and work longer hours so I have more time at home to pursue my hobbies. I spent a couple of weeks thinking of the negatives and what if's just to be sure, but its sent my mind spiralling into anxiety and panic over things that I know are logically fine.

The shifts will be a little longer, I will probably finish my duties early so will be asked to work on other departments, which kind of scares me as that could be random every day, but it's really not that bad when I consider it's only for a few hours of each shift and I'l have so much more time off.

I'm now stuck not wanting to move my hours out of anxiety and fear it's the wrong choice, but also knowing it IS the right choice and some minor nuisances will be well worth the benefits.

How do I stop getting so worked up over something so stupid? It's been driving me mad for the last month.

I know I'm legally entitled to a break, but I'd rather skip it and go home half an hour early, is this possible? Or do I have to take my break?