u/be-sweethearts

I’ll try to be short so if you have any questions please ask. I’m 21F and my bf is 25M. We had an issue around a week ago where he went to see this other girl without telling me. We promised we would tell each other any encounter we had with anyone else, but his excuse was that he didn’t have sex with her so he didn’t think he would have to tell me. He said they just went for ice cream. But the way I’m feeling is that if he couldn’t even tell me he went to get ice cream with this girl, how can I trust him to tell me when he does more with someone else? That same day I also found out he had more than one partner. He was talking to someone else without telling me. They didn’t meet up but were planning to. Our agreement was for this open relationship to just be sexual but he’s getting pretty emotionally invested in the first girl I mentioned. We can call her Jay.

So yesterday I went to my bfs place (we live an hour 30 away from each other) and when I got there he sprung it on me that Jay was free that weekend so he wanted to bring her back to his place. I said that was okay with me. He brought her back, I eventually left to go get food for all of us and that’s when they had time to have sex. I came back and I felt really awkward.

This is the part that’s bugging me the most. His brother invited us (just me and my bf) to go watch fireworks for 4th of July with his friends, the brother’s wife, and their baby. My bf invites Jay to this family activity and he introduced her to his brothers friends but not me. While we were at dinner he shared food with Jay and his sister-in-law looked at me confused. I made up some lie and said I was sick and wanted to go back to his place instead of fireworks. We went back to his apartment and I lied again saying there was a family emergency and I had to make the nearly 2hr drive back to my town. When I left, they had slept in the same bed together. He has a pull out bed in his living room so I assumed one of them would sleep there, since I don’t ever sleep with my partners in the bed that I sleep with my bf in.

This was just supposed to be sexual and now he’s bringing her around his family and sleeping in my spot on his bed. When I asked him why he allowed her to sleep in bed with him he said “how am I supposed to know what you want and don’t want” I’ve never EVER slept with my other or had them sleep with me in the bed that we sleep in. I thought it was common sense and respectful not to do that. And when I found out he was seeing her behind my back, that’s when I told him “hey this is nearing emotional cheating for me so please be careful”. He talks to this girl so much, telling her details about his day that I’m not even getting. I talk to my partner to briefly catch up or to set up another time to meet up. I’m never telling him deep stuff.

My post got longer than I thought. But this is my first open relationship like this. Maybe it isn’t for me. I just feel like he’s replacing me and not listening to my boundaries. I’m confused because one of my friends said this is what I get for agreeing to an open relationship, and the other one is on my side saying he’s being too emotional and he thinks he’s getting two gfs out of this. I’m not talking to him right now but I doubt he will miss me since he has his backup gf to keep him company. But please tell me, am I being dramatic right now? Should I continue to try and communicate with him or just call it off?

I’ll try to be short so if you have any questions please ask. I’m 21F and my bf is 25M. We had an issue around a week ago where he went to see this other girl without telling me. We promised we would tell each other any encounter we had with anyone else, but his excuse was that he didn’t have sex with her so he didn’t think he would have to tell me. He said they just went for ice cream. But the way I’m feeling is that if he couldn’t even tell me he went to get ice cream with this girl, how can I trust him to tell me when he does more with someone else? That same day I also found out he had more than one partner. He was talking to someone else without telling me. They didn’t meet up but were planning to. Our agreement was for this open relationship to just be sexual but he’s getting pretty emotionally invested in the first girl I mentioned. We can call her Jay.

So yesterday I went to my bfs place (we live an hour 30 away from each other) and when I got there he sprung it on me that Jay was free that weekend so he wanted to bring her back to his place. I said that was okay with me. He brought her back, I eventually left to go get food for all of us and that’s when they had time to have sex. I came back and I felt really awkward.

This is the part that’s bugging me the most. His brother invited us (just me and my bf) to go watch fireworks for 4th of July with his friends, the brother’s wife, and their baby. My bf invites Jay to this family activity and he introduced her to his brothers friends but not me. While we were at dinner he shared food with Jay and his sister-in-law looked at me confused. I made up some lie and said I was sick and wanted to go back to his place instead of fireworks. We went back to his apartment and I lied again saying there was a family emergency and I had to make the nearly 2hr drive back to my town. When I left, they had slept in the same bed together. He has a pull out bed in his living room so I assumed one of them would sleep there, since I don’t ever sleep with my partners in the bed that I sleep with my bf in.

This was just supposed to be sexual and now he’s bringing her around his family and sleeping in my spot on his bed. When I asked him why he allowed her to sleep in bed with him he said “how am I supposed to know what you want and don’t want” I’ve never EVER slept with my other or had them sleep with me in the bed that we sleep in. I thought it was common sense and respectful not to do that. And when I found out he was seeing her behind my back, that’s when I told him “hey this is nearing emotional cheating for me so please be careful”. He talks to this girl so much, telling her details about his day that I’m not even getting. I talk to my partner to briefly catch up or to set up another time to meet up. I’m never telling him deep stuff.

My post got longer than I thought. But this is my first open relationship like this. Maybe it isn’t for me. I just feel like he’s replacing me and not listening to my boundaries. I’m confused because one of my friends said this is what I get for agreeing to an open relationship, and the other one is on my side saying he’s being too emotional and he thinks he’s getting two gfs out of this. I’m not talking to him right now but I doubt he will miss me since he has his backup gf to keep him company. But please tell me, am I being dramatic right now? Should I continue to try and communicate with him or just call it off?

I keep getting different answers. At first, i was storing mine in the fridge after I poked it because I thought that made the most sense, then I saw another source saying to keep it room temperature. So I threw out my old refrigerated BAC water and got a new one to keep in room temp. Then I saw ANOTHER person saying that you shouldn’t keep it in room temp. So does it really matter?? I used the search engine for this question and im still seeing mixed responses. Most people do say to refrigerate after poking it though, but what do you do?

I’m 21 and I work with kids. I feel like I need to have a more lively voice. My coworkers at my other job (target) make fun of me sometimes or just light fun teasing because I’m so monotone. I need to fix it. My bf is telling me now that he doesn’t know how to tell when I’m joking because I’m so monotone. It’s starting to mess with our communication.

I used to have a very lively voice but somewhere along the lines I started being scared to show emotion and really use my voice, so it became very flat. It makes me really sad. I want to feel comfortable showing emotion. I like talking to people now and Im not as quiet and shy as I used to be.. so I really want to have better conversations since I’ve gotten more comfortable talking, just not with inflection if that makes sense. I I honestly don’t hear the monotone in my voice much, but when I try to be more lively I sound sarcastic. I feel like this is such a stupid question. I feel like it should be an easy thing to fix but I’m trying and I don’t see (or hear I guess) improvement.

I’m 21. I used to have a more lively (idk what else to call it) voice before maybe my sophomore year of high school. I don’t really know why or what changed but my voice is so monotone now. I don’t know how to fix it. I work with kids now so I need to sound more lively. Plus my boyfriend keeps saying my monotone voice is making it hard for him to tell when I’m joking which is kind of messing with out communication. I don’t know how to be more lively. I think I get really nervous with showing a lot of emotions so I’m just so monotone. But with my best friend I feel like I’m more lively. I don’t know.. how do I get more comfortable showing emotion in my voice?

I’ve been asleep nearly all day. I woke up to go to work 8am-11am and I came back and slept. I woke up briefly because I wanted to go to the gym but I was so lethargic that I went back to bed and slept. I just woke up again and it’s nearly 6pm. I’m still so very sleepy.

I’ve never really had extreme fatigue as a side effect. I took my last dose around 5 days ago. The only negative side effect I’ve had was nausea and that goes away within a day of pinning. I’ve pretty much slept the whole day away. Has anyone else experienced this? Is this a side effect or is it something else? My eyes are still so heavy.

Does anyone experience immediate nausea after pinning? I just pinned like 5 minutes ago and I always feel nausea right after. It’s quite bad. I usually just sleep it off though. This is like the only side effect I get from Reta, it goes away in a day. I’m just surprised that it hits me so quickly and im wondering if anyone else has this experience. I’m on 2.5mg now. I’ve been on it for about 5 weeks I believe, pinning every 5 days. I started at .5

Im freaking out. I genuinely don’t know what to do. Im 21. I used to have a problem with wetting the bed up until I was 15. I haven’t done it since then. I don’t know how this happened..

Im at my boyfriend’s apartment. He doesn’t have a wash machine here. He gets back at 3:30. I have a work zoom meeting from 12-3. I think I HAVE to tell him I wet the bet. I’m so sad. He’s going to think I’m disgusting. I don’t know what to do. Is there anyway I can fix this without telling him??? I can’t take the bedding back to my place because I live an hour 30 away.

I don’t have time for a laundromat I don’t think.. I don’t know what to do. No this isn’t some type of fetish or something. I’m so sad, I’m freaking out. Please help and give me ideas. I know this is gross.. i feel disgusting I don’t know what happened. I didn’t even have any dreams of a toilet or anything. I just woke up, my bf had gone to work, and I was pissy. Please give me ideas. I would call my mom and ask but she used to be so mean to me about wetting the bed. It’s currently 10am so I have 2 hrs until my zoom meeting. I can’t reschedule this because it’s an orientation zoom for my new job.

I genuinely don’t know what to do. Im 21. I used to have a problem with wetting the bed up until I was 15. I haven’t done it since then. I don’t know how this happened..

Im at my boyfriend’s apartment. He doesn’t have a wash machine here. He gets back at 3:30. I have a work zoom meeting from 12-3. I think I HAVE to tell him I wet the bet. I’m so sad. He’s going to think I’m disgusting. I don’t know what to do. Is there anyway I can fix this without telling him??? I can’t take the bedding back to my place because I live an hour 30 away.

I don’t have time for a laundromat I don’t think.. I don’t know what to do. No this isn’t some type of fetish or something. I’m so sad, I’m freaking out. Please help and give me ideas. I know this is gross.. i feel disgusting I don’t know what happened. I didn’t even have any dreams of a toilet or anything. I just woke up, my bf had gone to work, and I was pissy. Please give me ideas. I would call my mom and ask but she used to be so mean to me about wetting the bed. It’s currently 10am so I have 2 hrs until my zoom meeting. I can’t reschedule this because it’s an orientation zoom for my new job.

Hi I’ll keep this brief but ask for info if you’d like! I’m 21F and my bf is 25M. He recently just got a new apartment and I helped him move some things in. He kept asking me where things should go, I gave him some suggestions. He FaceTimed his friend and showed him around the apartment. His friend also made suggestions.

His friend and I mainly told him to just get his stuff in and it’ll all fall into place. Everything will find a spot eventually and it will come together nicely. My bf then goes “You know , I think I’ll just ask ChatGPT where to put stuff”. I hate when people say “I got the ick” but oh my gosh this really did.. give me the ick. His idea was to take pictures of the apartment, put it into Chat and ask how to decorate the apartment.

I’m so against AI use. I PERSONALLY think it’s making people less creative and making people dumber. I groaned and said “Oh my gosh are you serious? Be creative. Just use your brain.” I felt so bad once those words left my mouth. I feel like it came across as I was calling him dumb, but I was mainly saying that idea he had was dumb. He got quiet and just stared at me. His friend started laughing and said “She’s right dude, don’t be an idiot.” I felt like that comment from his friend made it worse, like we both were dogging on him. I apologized and explained that I thought the idea of using AI was dumb, but I didn’t think he was dumb. He just said Okay and I feel really bad. AIW?

hi so I’m 21F and I don’t know how to swim. It’s not that I never learned, I had an instructor when I was a kid and I swam often. I just had intense body dysmorphia when I hit puberty. This caused me to be repulsed by the idea of me in a swim suit, and I didn’t swim the entirety of middle school to high school so I forgot how to swim. Apparently it’s not like riding a bike, I completely forgot how to swim. I only found the confidence to go out again in bathing suits recently and i just graduated college a week ago lol.

Anyway, I’ve been with Guy 25m for only a month. He really likes me and introduced me to his friends early on. I’ve hung out with him and his friends a few times now. This time we went to Guys parent’s house to swim. I told everyone there I didn’t know how to swim and I’d just sit in the floatie. One guy there said “let me teach you how to swim” and I said okay and he showed me some basic swimming techniques. He told me to do a bit of kicks and laps in the pool with the floatie.

After a while, I stopped using the floatie and was just chilling in the 3ft area. My bf says “throw the floatie down a bit, I wanna see if I can throw this football in it. I throw it to where the pool starts to slant down into 8ft. He misses. So I grab the floatie (it’s donut shaped) and I start swimming to where the football bounced bc I was confident in my rediscovered swimming skills. Well! The floatie is really floaty. It flips me over and I start splashing. I grab the floatie again but it flips me again. I try again and Im holding on to it but it’s tilting and I’m losing grip. I let go and I start splashing again. I’m bobbing up and down, struggling, and I can hear his friend saying “yo I think she’s drowning go help her”. I manage to swim to the edge and grip the wall dig my toes into the wall. my bf comes running and he pushes the floatie closer to me and I hold on to it better so he can drag me over to the 3ft area.

I’m intensely embarrassed. But I know they didn’t care too much. This happened yesterday but every time I touch water I think of it. Like I was cleaning my tub earlier and the splashing of the water just reminded me of the ordeal. I’m so embarrassed. I really overestimated myself lol but I’ll get better at swimming before I do that again.

TLDR

I overestimated my swimming skills and tried to retrieve a football for my bf and my floatie betrayed me