u/dcmommy33

Do CDS employees (the sample / display booths) get free Costco memberships?

I thought reviewers were being too harsh but yeah I’m starting to agree. This show is Gen Z trying to pretend nineties.

We did not talk like this.

My 18 year old son has been apply everywhere that’s hiring for months now. He can’t even get an interview even though he’s servsafe certified. How are you supposed to get experience in the restaurant business when the entry level places won’t even hire? Honestly I’m about to tell him to lie on his resume at this point.

Has anyone else watched Flowers In the Attic yet? Wtf did I just watch lol. I need to discussssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss.

Where can I get that shirt? It’s not on Amazon

Hello! Any recommendations for local movers that are reasonably priced?

I just finished watching this. Obviously Heidi didn’t deserve to be murdered, but watching this I was just in awe of how stupid everyone around Megan was. Getting in a car without a car seat… the ex believing she came home say day as giving birth… I think I’m forgetting more. I was just like aghhhhhh

My son just graduated, he’s 18, so the parenting plan is officially null & void.

I’m just curious what others did — block the ex?

He wasn’t capable of coparenting. It was counter parenting for 18 years. Like even giving my son foods he was allergic to just to try to anger me, & dragging me through completely unnecessary litigation abuse for 13 years because he was mad he couldn’t abuse he in person any more, & he was mad I had the baby.

This weekend at graduation I saw him for the first time in 12 years (he’s always lived out of state). I tried to say hello. Him & his wife literally turned their backs to me… Thanks for making it weird for our kid! This is not the last major life event that will bring us all together, fools. Try therapy please lol.

Anyways, after all of that they had the nerve to ask be to help figure out purchasing Florida resident tickets for my son for Disney lol. He always treats me like trash, then wants me to be his secretary.

I’m honestly thinking with the parenting plan being expired & how he acted at graduation there’s just no point in putting up with his crap any more. I might block him.

What do most of you do with a toxic ex when you’re finally legally free?

My son just graduated, he’s 18, so the parenting plan is officially null & void.

I’m just curious what others did — block the ex?

He wasn’t capable of coparenting. It was counter parenting for 18 years. Like even giving my son foods he was allergic to just to try to anger me, & dragging me through completely unnecessary litigation abuse for 13 years because he was mad he couldn’t abuse he in person any more, & he was mad I had the baby.

This weekend at graduation I saw him for the first time in 12 years (he’s always lived out of state). I tried to say hello. Him & his wife literally turned their backs to me… Thanks for making it weird for our kid! This is not the last major life event that will bring us all together, fools. Try therapy please lol.

Anyways, after all of that they had the nerve to ask be to help figure out purchasing Florida resident tickets for my son for Disney lol. He always treats me like trash, then wants me to be his secretary.

I’m honestly thinking with the parenting plan being expired & how he acted at graduation there’s just no point in putting up with his crap any more. I might block him.

What do most of you do with a toxic ex when you’re finally legally free?

So long story short, I found myself unexpectedly pregnant at 20 years old by a guy I knew for 2 months. He became abusive while I was on bed rest, then vanished for a while after my son was born. He got his visitation rights back after completing supervisors visits so he didn’t look like a deadbeat for a girl. Then he dragged me through court non stop for 13 years (because I’m told former abusers do that when they can’t do it in person any more. It’s called litigation abuse). He never won anything in court, but he did drain my bank account.

I did a lot of therapy to survive all of this, heal my diagnosed C-PTSD, & move on with my life. So flash forward to today. I haven’t seen the guy in person in over a decade (we’ve lived in different states for almost 18 years now). I don’t want to be the guys best friend, but I’m willing to put on a happy face in front of my son on his special days so he can enjoy himself. After the ceremony, we all were in the same area. I tried to say hi to him & his wife. They just turned their backs & said nothing. I shouldn’t be surprised, but it did bum me out. We still have college graduation, probably a wedding, grandchildren, etc. we’ll have to be around each other for & you can’t even do a polite hello? You’re really that selfish you gotta make it weird for your kid? So frustrating, but I obviously have no control over it.

Side note: funny part is after all of that, they want me to help my son buy his Florida resident Disney ticket for them cause they’re taking him to Disney tomorrow. I so badly want to say eh no you didn’t say hi don’t feel like helping you lol. But I won’t. I’ll help my son just to make his life easier even though they wouldn’t do it for me.

Just had to get this out.

My son & I are moving from the Cape to FM… so many of the apartment complexes seem to have slumlords in charge based on the reviews. Anyone have any recommendations?

Looking for a 2br, 1.5+ba, allows a very good cat, in a quiet area, no neighbors above, within ~15 min of FSW, hoping to stay under $1,600.

I have been renting since I was 18. I’m 40 now. I’ve never been late on rent, never been evicted, never damaged a place I lived in. I did declare bankruptcy on student loans a few years ago, so I have no credit. I have a co-signer. On paper I qualify for the place I want to live at.

It can get me in before my current lease is up, it is close to where my son will be attending college in the fall (he will be living with me as it is a community college), it is one of very few complexes that is not owned by slum lords, & it passes the not by loud things like airports or train tracks test so I can sleep.

Then at the last second after a different hiccup, they informed me they couldn’t accept me because part of my income that gets me over the “must make 3x’s the monthly income” requirement is the monthly support a family member has been sending me for years. I work part time too, but his contribution helps. (I did apply for disability back in February but that’s still pending so that’s of no help right now).

Like I said, I’ve been renting for 22 years. No other management company has ever had an issue with accepting his contributions as income.

So I started looking at other places. It turns out literally the only 5 places that are well maintained by the college are owned by this same company, & I’m blocked from renting at all of them.

So my choices are to live in rat infested places that have serious mold issues from hurricane Ian (I’m allergic to mold) & they have terrible management, or I don’t know, live in my car?

The affordable housing resource lists waits are still years long because of the hurricane, so that’s out.

I feel that this company (Northland) is not adhering to the fair housing laws, so I’m going to make some calls tomorrow. I doubt that will be a quick process though & I have to be out soon.

Plus I’m just sick of everything having to be a big deal, always having to fight for myself, always having to be the difficult one, etc. etc.

It’s just wild to me they are a huge company, have a monopoly on the town, & don’t provide reasonable accommodations. I shouldn’t be surprised though I guess. But as I said I’ve never had this problem so I am. Just needed to vent. Really overwhelmed please be kind.

I’ve been checking all of the sites & apps non stop & their 5 properties are literally my only option right now, except they’re not even an option 😭

I have been renting since I was 18. I’m 40 now. I’ve never been late on rent, never been evicted, never damaged a place I lived in. I did declare bankruptcy on student loans a few years ago, so I have no credit. I have a co-signer. On paper I qualify for the place I want to live at.

It can get me in before my current lease is up, it is close to where my son will be attending college in the fall (he will be living with me as it is a community college), it is one of very few complexes that is not owned by slum lords, & it passes the not by loud things like airports or train tracks test so I can sleep.

Then at the last second after a different hiccup, they informed me they couldn’t accept me because part of my income that gets me over the “must make 3x’s the monthly income” requirement is the monthly support a family member has been sending me for years. I work part time too, but his contribution helps. (I did apply for disability back in February but that’s still pending so that’s of no help right now).

Like I said, I’ve been renting for 22 years. No other management company has ever had an issue with accepting his contributions as income.

So I started looking at other places. It turns out literally the only 5 places that are well maintained by the college are owned by this same company, & I’m blocked from renting at all of them.

So my choices are to live in rat infested places that have serious mold issues from hurricane Ian (I’m allergic to mold) & they have terrible management, or I don’t know, live in my car?

The affordable housing resource lists waits are still years long because of the hurricane, so that’s out.

I feel that this company (Northland) is not adhering to the fair housing laws, so I’m going to make some calls tomorrow. I doubt that will be a quick process though & I have to be out soon.

Plus I’m just sick of everything having to be a big deal, always having to fight for myself, always having to be the difficult one, etc. etc.

It’s just wild to me they are a huge company, have a monopoly on the town, & don’t provide reasonable accommodations. I shouldn’t be surprised though I guess. But as I said I’ve never had this problem so I am. Just needed to vent. Really overwhelmed please be kind.

I’ve been checking all of the sites & apps non stop & their 5 properties are literally my only option right now, except they’re not even an option 😭

Wait did my autism just confuse me? Help decode this please... Applied for an apartment. They have a form of instructions for how to verify income if you're self-employed. It says EITHER provide last year's tax return which means you have to make 3x the monthly rent, OR if you want to do 12 months bank statements, you have to make 5x the monthly rent. Dumb but whatever... they also said you could provide proof of other things like child support.

So, I provided my tax return & proof of child support. They said their AI computer system couldn't accept the child support because proof, so that was out, and I was now short of the 3x the monthly rent.

So she called me & kept asking me if I had any other sources of income I could provide. I kept saying no, I've already provided everything. She said a few times do you want to come by on Tuesday & go over everything & see if there's anything else we can use? In my brain it was very black & white. I provided what the sheet said to qualify for 3x monthly rent & you're saying I'm short, so I guess I'm short. (I was honestly also fed up because they were having a lot of tech issues during this whole process & it was kind of just like why bother at this point).

But now it's hours later & I'm remembering their phone calls are recorded & their emails are monitored, so maybe she wanted me to come in in person so she could use some of this years income towards it even though technically according to the sheet that unlocks the 5x the monthly rent option & I would still be short then... but in person maybe she could fudge things?

I can't tell if she was just sad & trying to be "helpful," or trying to send me a hidden message my brain was unable to pick up on.

They're closed until Tuesday... I wasn't like MEAN, but I wasn't exactly happy to get denied after 5 days of jumping through hoops, & then being pestered non-stop about trying to find income I forgot to report, so I feel a bit weird trying to follow up with her now, but I LOVED this place. And honestly, it's part of the disability. Black & white thinking, strict rule following, not picking up on social cues, social anxiety, rigidity, etc... but, most people aren't very understanding of all of this (even though she does know I'm on the spectrum).

I’m in Florida. No offense to any boomers, but sometimes they are just confused / confusing. There are some potential red flags with this situation either way though. I’m desperately trying to find a place, running out of time trying not to get screwed… but kind of in a beggars can’t be choosers situation.

>noticed the listing has been on Zillow for a month 🚩 people sometimes do that here to just keep collecting application fees & deposits… asked him if they were just having a hard time finding the right fit, or what. He said “no one wants to be an adult these days.” …ok…

>told me at the place the application fee would be $200, & then mentioned $1,300 deposit, $1,300 first months rent but I’d be refunded the deposit by the owner cause he said $2,600 to move in is ridiculous.

>he said I’d come to his house & fill out the application with him & his wife, bring the $200 & $1,300, & it’d take them 7-10 days to get it processed. He doesn’t run credit checks (but hasn’t found a tenant in a month?)

>thought I misheard that, called him when I got home. He said it again. I said can’t I give the $1,300 once I’ve been approved??? He got a bit annoyed & said well then I could have wasted more weeks & be out more money so I’d need another $100. So $300 application, then you can do $2,600 to get keys.

>I was again caught off guard by this (I’m autistic, takes me time to process). Texted him to clarify when I’d get the $1,300 refund from the owner, on move in day or later. He replied but never answered that part.

>he says he’s the maintenance guy, but, the office is closed for the holiday so I can’t call to verify (my move out day is soon so I’m getting nervous waiting). It is a gated community & I said I was there to meet Scott & they pointed to his car & said “oh that gentleman right over there?” Gentleman. Not like oh yeah Scott our guy or anything…

I don’t know this is so weird. Honestly can’t tell if he’s just a lost in the world boomer, or scamming people for a month now…

EDIT: where do you people live that you’re paying deposits before getting approved for a place?! I’ve been renting for 22 years & have never heard of or done that. You always pay application fee, then if you get approved that’s when you drop thousands.