u/dotdedo

I have extended family from Thailand and they are visiting here in America for the week. They speak and understand English really well but there is a few times they struggle to understand what we are even talking about because they are self taught English speakers and don't have many chances to talk to Natives expect with my uncle.

We take them to this local diner and right away the vibes are off. Our server, who we later learned was the owner, was taking our order and he was very impatient with my cousins over them trying to order fries. They asked fries came with the meal and the owner just asked if they wanted a bowl of fries to share with the table, they said no as they assumed he was asking a different unrelated question (to be fair I would too) and they finally settle the fries thing and ordered all their food. To which he just says "Okay are we done? We're done? Good, I'm leaving now, bye". My god the horror, you had to repeat a question a couple times to people who learned English as their second language, when there was only one other family in the building, your job is clearly so hard.

When the food arrives, (worst shrimp I ever had by the way. I know what veined shrimp is and what I'm eating and its never bothered me, but it was like this place bought exclusively severely constipated shrimp and over fried the fuck out of them. I work in a kitchen too and the fries tasted like they were cooked in old oil too)

A few minutes later my uncle asks for his turkey burger. The owner said they never ordered it. When they say they did, he just goes "Well it wasn't written down, can't ring up what wasn't written down" and he tries to blame it on one of his employees who just only asked us for drinks. We feel weird about it but finally they got their burger. All while the owner keeps saying hes been doing this for 40 years so he knows how to run a diner. We weren't throwing up a fuss, just pointing out things that were wrong.

When he comes back with the check, the owner very rudely says "So did I mess anything else up? Any other big mistakes?"

My uncle tries to press that all he wanted was just for him to admit he messed up, not blame other people or them. My uncle decides he doesn't want to tip because of how he treated his step daughters, himself, and his wife. That is his choice to make and honestly this time, I can see why. I wouldn't want to tip either. The guy then tried to guilt trip us over it saying its okay because it's not going to effect him, but the employee who took our drinks.

It hasn't been a issue that a manager brought up to me, but I can tell they notice and just want to work on this before it's a problem as I need this job for now. I have ADHD and my doctor has suggested I cannot be on meds for it because I have tried many ADHD meds in the past and they all either make me throw up, or not eat at all so I'm on pure coping mechanisms babyyy.

Sometimes when it's chaotic I start to zone out. They have been trying me out at presenting more lately and sometimes with big orders I get sorta like 'tunnel vision' if you will trying to remember it all. There's been once or twice I had a mix up because of it. The drinks is the worst part, when it's busy. Our ABS system is good but when its busy and they also need it for McCafe things, that's where I struggle the most.

Also when coworkers talk to me, I try not too, but sometimes I fall into not being able to work and talk. I have been trying to get better though.

But other than me having a hard time to focus, I do like it when it's busy in a way because if I'm idle for too long I go into procrastination mode. But if I'm constantly kept stimulated by being given tasks, then it usually stops me from being 'lazy' so to speak.

I got a new used car this year, bought it from my dad. I noticed the brights were on constantly and I couldn't figure out to turn them off. My last car was really easy but these controls were all different to me. My last cars auto lights worked in that at certain light levels it would switch to the low beams, so when another car was coming, and then back to high beams when it was pitch black. I asked my dad and he was just saying they weren't brights, the car was just like that. (Buick LaCrosse 2007 for those curious) I kind of believed him until I started to get people flashing their lights at me and was confused. Usually where I live flashing lights at someone is used to communicate something is wrong with your car. When I noticed my headlight was out, assumed that was it. The LaCrosse has 4 headlights in the front so that's why I didn't notice right away as it was one of the smaller ones. But it kept happening of people flashing lights. I finally sat down with my car on and parked and played with all the settings until I finally figured it out and I feel so dumb because its actually easier than my last car's manual mode for it.

The whole time I thought the headlight controls were purely on the dashboard dial thing but anytime I switched it, it just turned the headlights off totally. So that's why I was also included to believe my dad when he said the lights were just like that.

So, I guess this means my dad was also driving with brights on 24/7 when he owned that car.

You can boo me now, I deserve it.

I'm a trans man and everytime I go to get my hair cut it's a whole ass ordeal basically begging the stylist to cut my hair short but they always have to push me towards feminine styles.

I remember once a salon asked me 7 times in a row if I was sure I wanted short hair, another kept thinking I wanted a bob, or will leave my hair way longer than I asked for. Like I would say cut 6 inches and they do 3.

I just want to be like everyone else where you ask for a haircut and get it, no constantly asking if I'm sure I'm okay with it as if I'm insane for wanting short hair. Most of the time I don't even tell these people I'm trans, as I don't want to cause issues, just show and describe the hair cut I want and get hella push back for it.

For my birthday I wanted to go to the Detroit Institute of Arts. We had a nice time but my dad got almost instantly kicked out. We entered and saw this Baptismal Basin from the 1100s or eariler as the plaque said, from France. Made out of stone and already had a large crack across it. We were remarking how freaking deep the bowl was for just a baby and my dad puts his whole arm on it to lean over and take a look. We already reminded him not to but as we did a security guard came over and told my dad out, he had his voice down so I didnt hear what he said to my dad but just heard my dad say "I know, I know I'm sorry"

For a while I saw the same security guard behind us often or going into nearby rooms until I didn't see him anymore so I swear he was following us for a bit to make sure my dad didn't touch more stuff.

While rewatching this series when I'm older, I started to realize my mom is pretty much a carbon copy of Lynette. She even had an argument with my teacher when my teacher said I might have ADHD (teacher was right lol) and had issues with me being on medication too. She didn't abuse my meds, but I remember she would prevent me from taking them some days when I didn't have school because she felt weird about it, much like Lynette did.

However, I think my mom wants to be like Bree. I can see resemblances there too, she's like a mix of both oddly enough.

I can't really see my Dad in any of the fathers on the show. If I was forced to pick one, I would say maybe Carlos as he always took his job seriously and he can be really loving, or really angry, with little warning but he was never abusive like Carlos was at times to us or my mom.

I got no slip shoes from Walmart and every little thing and bit gets caught in those. They smell bad, just like the grease trap at work. I just tried using dawn dish soap and a hard bristle brush and just hosed them down but I can still see bits and stuff stuck in there.

I'm not a stranger to the show but my gf is. When I was a teenager I ended up first getting into the show, watching it with my mom. But that was the cable days so I have better memories of the later seasons and probably watched them out of order too.

But my gf and I were debating what to watch, we've watched so many movies and shows we were running low on ideas. My mom has been rewatching the show again recently so I suggested we watch it. My gf thought it would be really cheesy and such or not like it, but no by the end of season 1 we were fully invested.

We both like Bree a lot. She is the kind of person we would dislike if she was a real person, but Maria Cross' acting is just chefs kiss. I really do think she is the reason why I love Bree so much, as well as her later developments.

Has anyone else got into this show this way or had similar memories like I am if we are similar ages?

Really need to vent about one of my shift leads today. I've had some issues with her attitude in the past and have even debated changing the hours I can work to avoid her. But after talking about it with some friends and family they said I should just ride it out and just avoid her as best I can when are scheduled together, just try to be on her good side and maybe things will turn better. It did not, today at least.

I was on back cash all shift and halfway through I had a brain fart and really couldn't remember if I had a 5 or 6 hour shift. Here in Michigan you get a break at 5.3 hours so I just looked at the schedule sheet to remind myself.

Shift lead comes over and demands to know what I'm doing and I tell her. She blows up on me, inventing this story that I have been 'begging for my break all shift' and that the dishes need to be done now because she's already being forced to work past midnight 'because of me'.

I leave her alone for a bit until I'm sent for my break and as I'm leaving to my car I say "I'm sorry you're frustrated, but I have had non stop customers all day and little time to do the dishes."

The dishes were like that, worse even, before I got in and the person before me said the same thing, also telling me they got so behind because the kid before her was a fresh newbie so dishes weren't being done at all when he was there. She screams at me again for 'standing around' which is another lie she made up. I didn't dignify her outrage with a response and went to break.

I reported her behavior to the gm and even said that if she did see me 'standing around' I probably was just breathing for a second or waiting for the next car to pull up to take their payment. The gm was on my side and was just as confused by this as I was, saying they will have a serious talk with her. The gm also mentioned good news to my ears in that 2 weeks she's leaving for university.

Good, would love to see how they handle this piece of work over there.

Also the real kicker? The gm knew the dishes would be behind today and planned extra coverage for someone to only wash dishes for a while in the afternoon. And she left 1 hour before me, while having a much shorter shift than I did. So she also lied about having to be forced to stay until after midnight.

I just want to find a normal subreddit with normal people who dislike ai art.

r/antiai is just basically an ai art subreddit at this point, the mods don't give a damn and still have a rule about censoring ai art even though NO ONE follows it and posts are never removed for it.

r/Ai_art_is_not_art looked okay, but they just had a drama about an ai supporter who was just confused and starting to change their views on their support of ai but they basically called a witch hunt on the poor guy because he didn't sing their praises in less than a couple hours and said some lukewarm insults about them on a separate sub that they seem to think are slurs (luddite mostly is what they were saying was a slur against anti ai supporters). They all seem to think this guy 'betrayed' them is what I read over and over.

So yeah is there any sub that is semi normal and is able to have adult discussions on this topic?

My friend recently posted in our discord group that I own about the one good thing of ai is does summaries a lot better than she can. She said that she sucks at them and just uses ai to make them now. I'm conflicted on this and just haven't responded yet.

On one hand I don't want to basically crucify someone for having a mistake, when she's not even using ai in the writing, but it makes me a bit sad and worried. I suck at summaries too but I got better by just doing it over and over, its like she's given up and seriously thinks she can write these amazing stories but just can't do summaries so she just gave up. Then worried because what if ai is training on her work? Or what if other readers see its an ai gen summary and then don't want to read her stuff if they assume the whole thing will be like that?

I already talked to my gm about this and she promised things would change, but lets see.

I'm often just put on back cash and promptly forgotten about. The front staff turn off their headsets so any time I need help I need to tell the customers to wait and go to the front and ask for help in person. They forget my breaks for hours even we we aren't busy or behind. They have admitted to forgetting about my break too. I'm forgetting service entirely and don't even know how to make the new drinks because I'm just on back cash. I had to use a slow moment to go in the front and read our cards to sorta teach myself it.

I told my gm that being on just back cash is really effecting my work preformance in service and now they just get upset with me for not knowing everything up there anymore and then send me back, so can I please have some hours on presenting, or service, literally anything. I said I wouldn't mind back cash so much if maybe they remembered me once or twice. I even asked some other managers if I did anything wrong and they couldn't think of anything. My gm said that I should be rotated, especially on a 8 hour shift, but I'm worried today will just be the same and I will bored to tears on back cash. I'm covered in dirty water basically head to toe every day from doing dishes. And once for my go home task, they made me do ALL the dishes, which was a full shelf. The shift lead smugly going "You can do this in 10 minutes right? :)" and me looking at the biggest pile of dishes ever. It took 30 minutes after my shift end until someone else said "Oh she only meant front end dishes, you can go."

This story I'm writing with my gf is still a bit of a wip, but I'm not sure if I am very committed to it and open to feedback or ideas.

Stigr is a demi god from my medieval world set in the 1300s. His father is Loki and some tldr backstory on him is that he starts off chaotic evil. He's in a deal with the Goddess of Death, Hel, to trick souls into Helheim when they die, but he cannot kill anyone for any reason. Even though he basically has the mind of a serial killer, he accepted but later on kind of regrets it because he really wants to kill people. He's never actually killed anyone in the canon but he's witnessed my other villain (briefly mentioned below) kill people and did nothing to stop it. Overtime he meets my gfs oc, Ivar whos a werewolf pagan who's a follower of Baldur and Stigr gets this stronger than usual urge to kill him, almost like a supernatural pull to do it. But he stalls on this because of the limits of his deal and he's trying to find a loophole in his deal. With him being around Ivar so much and pretending to be somewhat friendly with him, over time it develops into actual feelings for Ivar and he starts to second guess himself.

However his scheming for so long was enough for the Aesir (Norse Gods who live in Asgard) to notice and his plans really piss them off, because apparently it turns out that if Stigr kills Ivar, that would technically count as 'Loki killing Baldur', which starts the Prophecy of Ragnarok. Which this is the first time Stigr is learning that he actually has the power to end the world if he really wanted. So he has to explain and prove to them that he wasn't trying to end the world on purpose. He's evil, but doesn't want to actually end the world, why end his fun? The one thing that actually scares Stigr is the Aesir so being put on trial basically scares him into starting to become a somewhat better person. As well as Stigr and Ivar eventually being a canon couple. But it's not very quick, a bit more gradual.

I wouldn't say he's fully redeemed, he ends up more Chaotic Neutral, because he still is in his deal with Hel, but at least is more honest what happens if people accept the wishes he can grant now. Before he didn't tell them and was pretending to be Christian Miracle Worker. For a while when he's introduced in the story he's pretending to be a human priest 'working' for my other villain Inquisitor Zeno. He was there to trick souls into Helheim. But most of Stigr's redemption I mentioned here starts after Zeno died in the canon.

Last night me and my girlfriend watched the Jeep video together. We joked about how we have a friend who has a Jeep (he's not that into the culture but he keeps the ducks he gets) and how I debated getting a Jeep after my Ford Focus got totaled. (I hit a deer)

Anyways today I had my shift at my fast food job and it was just a 4 hour shift on drive through the entire day. I swear to god every other car was a Jeep and started to wonder if there was a jeep convention in town. Usually where I live, this place is near some fancy suburbs so I normally see porches, bmws, and then the average everyday people with their big ford pick ups, minivans, and worker trucks.

And not even like Cherokees that I usually see but every other car was a jeep wrangler or such.

I just have to rant about this. This situation happens at least once a day but this customer was really special about it and made me kind of lose it.

We were really busy so I’m handing out orders and this happens

Me: order 180!

Other customer: ummm it wasn’t 180 I’m 179 but that’s okay right?

Me: this isn’t yours then. Yours will be out soon

Other customer: -grabs the bag from my hands and looks inside- yeah I didn’t order this

Me: because it’s not yours

Other customer: well that’s weird

No it’s not weird! It’s not our fault you ordered a fuck ton of food while order 180 was just a McDouble

I can see why not everyone can do it due to work but for the lucky few who work later than everyone else, have you tried the method that humanity apparently slept with for generations and that is sleep early in the night, wake up in the middle of the night and do whatever, then sleep again?

I tried it a few times when I could and I like it a lot actually in my loner lifestyle.