Image 1 — Struggling with hair… cut?
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Struggling with hair… cut?

I feel like I’ve been struggling with my hair for 2 to 3 years now.

Three years ago, I cut it into a bob. It started growing out nicely, but then I cut it again, and again. For the last almost year, I’ve been trying to grow it out and I’m struggling. I got a trim back in April, a blunt cut because obviously my hair needs a blunt cut. I have tried to baby trim it here and there. I touch up my roots with professional wella demi -dye every 4 to 6 weeks. I use good shampoo and conditioner, leave in conditioner, and heat protectant. I use scalp treatment a few times a week and well as kerastase leave in on the ends at night. I use a protein treatment once a month. I use K 18 every once in a while. And I just can’t get my hair to grow and or look good.

I have no deficiencies, health issues, and I’ve never been pregnant. Take vitamins + supplements. I’m 35. I feel like I never had these issues til I cut my hair short 3 years ago.

At this point, I find myself using clip in extensions when I have to do my hair (2/3x a week) because I hate how short and fine it constantly looks. It only looks good for a few hours after I wash and style it. I have to use mousse, thickening spray, and texture spray.

I’m trying like hell to just leave it alone, let it grow past the awkward phase, but as you can see I clearly need some kind of shaping. Wanting to go in a Friday to get a trim and also maybe add some cool brown/taupe highlights to add some dimension. (See last pic) Also want to get my front framing pieces trimmed so I could wear my hair up or half up sometimes and leave those out.

Any tips? I feel ugly without extensions at this point. I would really like to get to stop hating my hair (and the way I look) while trying to grow it out.

u/lovealwayskota — 2 days ago

What Kirkland dupes are worth buying?

I love a good deal and don’t mind buying store brand as long as it’s super comparable to the regular brand. Just got a Costco membership for the first time… what are your fav Kirkland products?

UPDATE: thanks everyone for all your replies!!!! V excited to go tomorrow :)

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u/lovealwayskota — 5 days ago

Costco membership worth it for a single person?

I live across the street from one. (Wharton)

I've heard that the gas is cheaper, tires, food... random deals, car insurance, etc. But some of the posts I read are from people in other states so just wondering if it's worth it in NJ and what those perks might be. I typically go between the sales at Shoprite/Walmart/Target for everything. I'm just in a one bedroom apt so I don't have tons of storage room or anything. TIA!

*EDIT* Forgot to ask- is the credit card worth getting?

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u/lovealwayskota — 6 days ago
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Has anyone tired the Shark Ion curl?

I tried the flex last year but could not get my fine hair to hold the blowout look no matter what products I used or how many tutorials I watched.

The ion curl has come out and is supposedly even better. Anyone try it? Specifically maybe someone with fine hair that struggles to hold a curl?

TIA

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u/lovealwayskota — 6 days ago

Dry Texture Spray recs

Hey hey,

Looking for recommendations for try texture spray.

Tresemme A-List Texture spray - works the best in my opinion, but I absolutely cannot stand the smell

SGX NYC 3-in-1 do it all - I kinda like this but it makes my hair brittle, if I run my fingers through my hair after applying it causes breakage

Kristin Ess texture spray - I keep going back to this one because it's decent, no strong smell, and I can brush through my hair with zero issues. Unfortunately it kinda falls flat after a while.

I've also tried the Elnett hairspray and I like that I can still brush or run my fingers through my hair but it also falls flat rather quickly. I'm wanting something for both volume + thickness, that isn't heavy or sticky. The ones in the running are:

- Kenra Dry texture spray 6

- Amika un-done texture spray

- Bb Thickening dry spun texture spray

- Paul Mitchell texturing spray

Has anyone used any of these and loved them? I have fine, flat hair without any product. Thank you!

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u/lovealwayskota — 8 days ago

Enrolled in aesthetician school, but should I reconsider?

I’ll try to keep it short.

I’ve been pretty obsessed with skin care and anti-aging, overall wellness for a long time, even creating plans for a lot of my friends and family. My best friend tried to convince me for years to become an aesthetician because she thought I would be so great at it, I ignored her for a long time and then eventually just went and did two tours of local schools and decided to enroll. (NJ)

I am a full-time musician, I’ve been for six years. I make good money, but I am certainly burnt out and would like to do something else with my life just to break the schedule up, and be able to do music a little bit less.

Although I am about 90% excited about aesthetician school, there’s 10% of me that has a little bit of doubt, of course. Especially because I will have to take out about $7k and student loans, and right now I am pretty much debt-free except for my car. My schedule will also be very busy for the six months that I am in school, waking up at 6 AM. And if I have gigs, not getting home until 10 or 11 PM.

My boyfriend is very supportive of me… I could make paper flowers and sell them on Etsy for all he cares, as long as I’m happy… but he is also made a point to say that if I have any doubts at all, that I shouldn’t go through with it. Because I’m going to be spending a lot of my time and money, when I could literally just go get a part-time job doing anything I want and make money now instead of having to wait six months to finish school and hopefully find a job I like. And have debt to pay.

I do think I’ll be great at it, I’d like to work at a medspa ultimately, but sometimes thinking about the schooling and debt definitely weighs on my mind. guess I’m just looking for some opinions. I know there’s a good mix of people who say not to bother with the field and then people who say it’s wonderful and to go for it.

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u/lovealwayskota — 8 days ago
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GPC 13E… electronic issues

Hi friends,

I’ve had this guitar for about 4 years now. I am a working musician so use it anywhere from 3-5x a week, every week. Always got regular setups, etc.

In the last year, I’ve had weird electrical issues that no techs can seem to figure out. Sometimes she won’t play, even with a new battery. But when I bring her to a tech they saying nothing is wrong. Latest, the tuner goes out… even with a new battery: Sometimes won’t play, and the 2nd or 3rd new battery gets her going. I’ve tried two different techs and they said they can’t figure out or see anything wrong. Oddly enough… this thing hates a Duracell or Energizer battery. But a ShopRite brand 9V? Zero issues. My bf has had the same issues with Martins in the past.

I do a lot of professional, wedding, + high paying gigs… I love her but considering trading her in for something new bc I can’t chance her going out during a professional gig. Anyone else dealt with anything like this?

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u/lovealwayskota — 11 days ago
▲ 2 r/Esthetics+1 crossposts

Scholarships/tuition help?

Hi,

I was between two esthetician school, and ultimately chose to go with one due to it being the best in the area as well as offering a part-time schedule — which I need due to my work schedule, and a way easier make-up schedule if I ever need it.

I am getting $4500 from the Pell Grant, which is great. The school that I’m unable to attend due to the schedule offered me an additional $3k in scholarships. But the school I decided to enroll in does not offer any additional scholarships, so I am taking out a school loan for the additionally $6.5k.

I have tried to find and apply to some scholarships online, but no luck. There aren’t many geared towards esthetics school, and a lot of the other ones have huge amounts of people applying. Just wondering if there is any other help out there I might be missing.

TIA

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u/lovealwayskota — 19 days ago

Clips-ins… wind 🥲

Hi friends. Are there any tips and tricks for when you’re gonna wear your clip-in extensions outside and it might be windy?

I’m a musician and sometimes I have outdoor gigs. I’ve been resorting to just wearing my natural short hair when I play outside, but I feel so ugly lol

I use hairspray and texturizing spray to help give it volume and make sure my (seamless) clip ins aren’t visible, but I don’t trust that an outdoor gig and the wind won’t make it obvious. Am I just SOL?

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u/lovealwayskota — 21 days ago

Books/extra education?

Hi friends,

Starting esthetician school in September. I know that school teaches you the basics and minimum, enough to pass your boards.

I’m interested in skincare, facials, microneedling, anti-aging etc. and plan to specialize in that after school. Are there any books I could find to learn more in depth than what they will teach in school, so I’m ahead of the game? Or should I wait til after school to do any extra learning?

TIA

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u/lovealwayskota — 1 month ago

Aftercare

I've seen so much conflicting info on aftercare.

First time I got it done professionally (1.5-2mm): One hour no touching. PDRN mask the esthetician gave me after an hour. Told me to apply thin layer of Aquafor or fragrance free moisturizer. Next day wash and aquafor or fragrance free moisturizer. Day 3 was fine to go back to my regular wash + moisturizer. Obv no actives for a few days.

I am DIY today, but only 0.5mm because my schedule doesn't allow for the downtime. I'm seeing mixed reviews about the aquafor thing, but I didn't have any issue with it last time? I also have RLT so planning on doing that right after. Should I wait an hour and then apply aquafor? Stick to moisturizer? None of the above? TIA

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u/lovealwayskota — 1 month ago

After-care do's and don'ts... I'm confused. :)

When I got microneedling done professionally (1.5-2mm) last year, the esthetician gave me a PDRN mask to use once I got home, (she said leave my face alone for an hour or two) and then told me to put light layers of A&D ointment for the rest of the night. Rinse with water in the morning. A&D ointment again or fragrance free moisturizer. I believe I waited 48 hours to resume my regular wash and moisturizer and 72 hours before makeup, etc.

I will be using the Derminator2 for the first time today, but only plan to go 0.5mm and do that every 3-4 weeks, because I need quicker recovery time and I'm unable to stay home 3 days at a time with my schedule.

I've seen so much conflicting information about the aftercare. I bought Dr. Althea PDRN cream, I've seen people use that after. Do I wait an hour and then use that? or wait and hour and use the A&D ointment to be safe, save the Dr. Althea PDRN for tomorrow?

TIA.

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u/lovealwayskota — 1 month ago

Tretinoin/microneedling

I’ve seen mixed reviews about stopping tret a few days before (and after of course) microneedling, but I’ve also seen people say they have used tret the night before with no issues. I don’t remember if I stopped before I got it done professionally 6 months ago… I don’t think the esthetician had mentioned anything and at that time I had gotten 1.5-2mm.

I am currently worked up to using tret 0.025 almost every night for 4 months or so now. No redness, dryness, issues etc.

I will be using my derminator 2 for the first time either tonight or tomorrow. Only 0.5mm for the first go. Is it okay I used tret last night or should I wait until tomorrow to be safe? TIA.

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u/lovealwayskota — 1 month ago

Serums… sterile?

I’m seeing a lot of people who are DIY, adding sterile HA into non-sterile serum/exosomes and then retracting it into a syringe and using that as glide… (gruun, etc)

Am I misinformed? Isn’t this a no-no? Or are all serums in those little containers sterile? Or is the risk just so low as long as you use alcohol swabs and sterile HA?

Ty

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u/lovealwayskota — 1 month ago

Affordable boosters/glide?

Hi,

About to purchase the Derminator2 and gathering all my supplies. I have picked out my numbing cream, aftercare, etc. but I'm stuck on finding a glide on Amazon. I follow an influencer who linked one, but it's out of stock. I know you can just use HA as a glide, but I'm looking for more of a booster version that helps with quick healing as I don't really have 2-3 days to stay home. Any suggestions? Even if it's just HA I will take those suggestions too.

Thank you!

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u/lovealwayskota — 2 months ago

Derminator 2 - starter product questions

Hi,

Just about to pull the plug on buying the Derminator 2. Been watching videos and trying to do my research but I still have a few questions.

  1. Should I purchase the HA gliding serum from the derminator website as well, or is there a better place to order some? I want to get a booster because I heard it helps healing time which is one of my main concerns as I don't have the time to stay home. Are there some boosters/gliding serums I can purchase online? Do you just apply them to the face and then microneedle? I saw some videos where people just go straight in with no gliding serum... why would you do that?

  2. Do I need the infadolan? Can I just use A&D ointment? I believe when I got it done professionally, she had me use my moisturizer + A&D ointment for a few days. I'm also confused about the sterilizing agent... is that necessary? I can't see myself making a gallon of it... is there something else I can buy?

  3. I see people buying an extra magnet, I'm going to get one just because it's cheap, but the website says it can fly out... what? LOL.

  4. I saw some videos where people just go straight in with no gliding serum... why would you do that? I also saw some people not using numbing cream... which seems crazy to me. I plan to start at 0.5mm and maybe work my way up to 1.0mm, but the plan is to do it once a month or so and have less downtime. Any other pointers?

TIA!

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u/lovealwayskota — 2 months ago

Starter device + tips

Hi friends,

I’m looking into getting a microneedling pen for myself at home. I’ve gotten it done once professionally, and I am actually starting esthetician school in Sept as well.

I’ve been looking at the Dr. Pen M9 and M8S. I’m a complete amateur so please give me all of your beginner tips and tricks. Best lidocaine cream? Best cartridges to start with? Is nano even worth it? Etc.

My main issue for myself was the 3 days downtime, so I’m also wondering if there are ways around that like doing a less invasive depth. I have some research to do but figured I would start here. TIA!

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u/lovealwayskota — 2 months ago

Replacing clips for clip ins

Is there any way at all to replace the clips on clip-in hair extensions besides sewing them? I’ve tried and cannot figure out how to sew the replacement clip on. The hair extensions themselves still have life in them, yet I wind up having to buy a new set every few months because one or two of the clips will go out on me. Should I just try to super glue the clip on and get a little longer with them?

TIA

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u/lovealwayskota — 2 months ago

Are there fillers that actually wear off/dissolve?

I’ve always been against fillers in general because I know they never fully dissolve, and I also don’t want to look like a different person. But I’m also seeing so many new treatments come out, like certain HA fillers, etc.

Are there any fillers that would give me very subtle volume/smoothing (under eyes, smile lines, etc) in a few areas that do actually eventually wear off?

I figure doing microneedling to keep my collagen stimulated would be the next best course of action if not fillers.

TIA

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u/lovealwayskota — 2 months ago