u/webbfox88

Hi everyone,

I have been trying to manifest my SP/ex back for a few months without success, and I have to be honest: I am still in a strong attachment phase.

So I am starting to think that the best thing I can do right now is stop obsessing over the SP for a moment and focus seriously on self-concept.

I have a love-hate relationship with the term “self-concept.”

Let’s be honest: sometimes it feels like coaches use it as a convenient explanation for why someone didn’t manifest their SP.

“You didn’t get them back? Your self-concept wasn’t good enough.”

At the same time, we also see success stories from people who were insecure, attached, anxious, desperate, and did not exactly have a perfect self-concept either.

So I am not trying to turn self-concept into another excuse or another impossible standard.

But I do think there is something important here.

If I am honest with myself, my current state is not great. I do not feel deeply loved. I do not feel wanted. I do not feel magnetic. I do not feel chosen. I feel more rejected than anything else.

And trying to manifest an SP from that state can become exhausting, because the SP becomes the proof that I am lovable, wanted, chosen, and enough.

So I want to use this post to collect practical methods for improving self-concept in a real way.

Not just “do affirmations.”

Affirmations can help, but let’s be honest again: if you genuinely feel like you are at level 0, repeating a few sentences like “I am loved” or “I am magnetic” may not immediately take you to God-tier confidence (level 100).

Sometimes it feels like the brain and nervous system need something deeper and more consistent.

So my question is:

What are the best techniques, practices, routines, or exercises that actually helped you improve your self-concept?

How do we build the version of ourselves who does not need to chase, beg, obsess, or wait for someone else to validate us?

Hi everyone,

I have been trying to manifest my SP/ex back for a few months without success, and I have to be honest: I am still in a strong attachment phase.

So I am starting to think that the best thing I can do right now is stop obsessing over the SP for a moment and focus seriously on self-concept.

I have a love-hate relationship with the term “self-concept.”

Let’s be honest: sometimes it feels like coaches use it as a convenient explanation for why someone didn’t manifest their SP.

“You didn’t get them back? Your self-concept wasn’t good enough.”

At the same time, we also see success stories from people who were insecure, attached, anxious, desperate, and did not exactly have a perfect self-concept either.

So I am not trying to turn self-concept into another excuse or another impossible standard.

But I do think there is something important here.

If I am honest with myself, my current state is not great. I do not feel deeply loved. I do not feel wanted. I do not feel magnetic. I do not feel chosen. I feel more rejected than anything else.

And trying to manifest an SP from that state can become exhausting, because the SP becomes the proof that I am lovable, wanted, chosen, and enough.

So I want to use this post to collect practical methods for improving self-concept in a real way.

Not just “do affirmations.”

Affirmations can help, but let’s be honest again: if you genuinely feel like you are at level 0, repeating a few sentences like “I am loved” or “I am magnetic” may not immediately take you to God-tier confidence (level 100).

Sometimes it feels like the brain and nervous system need something deeper and more consistent.

So my question is:

What are the best techniques, practices, routines, or exercises that actually helped you improve your self-concept?

How do we build the version of ourselves who does not need to chase, beg, obsess, or wait for someone else to validate us?

Hi everyone,

​

I wanted to open a discussion about something I feel is often talked about in a very confusing way, but not really addressed in a practical way.

​

Many of us come into manifestation because we are trying to recover from a breakup and manifest an ex/SP back. In many cases, it feels like the last chance, so we put a huge amount of hope into manifestation.

​

That is also my situation.

​

The problem is that, after a breakup, the nervous system is often completely dysregulated. So even if you understand the theory — living in the end, SATS, affirmations, self-concept, not checking the 3D — applying it becomes much harder in practice.

​

For me, even though almost three months have passed, my state still comes in waves.

​

For example:

​

- One day I wake up feeling relatively okay — not great, but stable enough — and I can assume the wish fulfilled more naturally.

- Later that same day, a random trigger or painful thought can appear, even without checking the 3D, and suddenly anxiety comes back. In that moment I start doubting everything and my faith drops.

- Some days I wake up already negative, even if I did SATS and affirmations the night before, and I feel like I have lost the state completely.

- Other days I feel very secure in the assumption, almost naturally convinced that it is done, but then I wonder if it is really the state of the wish fulfilled or just my brain still being attached and refusing to detach from the person.

​

So the issue is not that I don’t understand the concept intellectually.

​

The issue is the practical management of the waves after a painful breakup.

​

My question is mainly for people who successfully manifested an SP/ex back after a breakup, especially after a period of anxiety, grief, or emotional instability:

​

How did you handle the waves?

​

Did you just keep returning to the state every time you fell out of it?

​

Did you focus first on self-concept before the SP?

​

Did you keep doing SATS even on days when it felt fake?

​

Did you stop trying to feel certainty and just persisted gently?

​

At what point did the state start becoming natural instead of something you had to fight for?

​

I am not asking for generic advice like “move on” or “detach and forget about them.” I am asking specifically from the perspective of manifestation practice: how do you actually stabilize the state when the breakup wound is still active and your nervous system keeps pulling you back into fear?

​

Any real experiences or practical insights would be appreciated.

Hi everyone,

​

I wanted to open a discussion about something I feel is often talked about in a very confusing way, but not really addressed in a practical way.

​

Many of us come into manifestation because we are trying to recover from a breakup and manifest an ex/SP back. In many cases, it feels like the last chance, so we put a huge amount of hope into manifestation.

​

That is also my situation.

​

The problem is that, after a breakup, the nervous system is often completely dysregulated. So even if you understand the theory — living in the end, SATS, affirmations, self-concept, not checking the 3D — applying it becomes much harder in practice.

​

For me, even though almost three months have passed, my state still comes in waves.

​

For example:

​

One day I wake up feeling relatively okay — not great, but stable enough — and I can assume the wish fulfilled more naturally.

​

Later that same day, a random trigger or painful thought can appear, even without checking the 3D, and suddenly anxiety comes back. In that moment I start doubting everything and my faith drops.

​

Some days I wake up already negative, even if I did SATS and affirmations the night before, and I feel like I have lost the state completely.

​

Other days I feel very secure in the assumption, almost naturally convinced that it is done, but then I wonder if it is really the state of the wish fulfilled or just my brain still being attached and refusing to detach from the person.

​

So the issue is not that I don’t understand the concept intellectually.

​

The issue is the practical management of the waves after a painful breakup.

​

My question is mainly for people who successfully manifested an SP/ex back after a breakup, especially after a period of anxiety, grief, or emotional instability:

​

How did you handle the waves?

​

Did you just keep returning to the state every time you fell out of it?

​

Did you focus first on self-concept before the SP?

​

Did you keep doing SATS even on days when it felt fake?

​

Did you stop trying to feel certainty and just persisted gently?

​

At what point did the state start becoming natural instead of something you had to fight for?

​

I am not asking for generic advice like “move on” or “detach and forget about them.” I am asking specifically from the perspective of manifestation practice: how do you actually stabilize the state when the breakup wound is still active and your nervous system keeps pulling you back into fear?

​

Any real experiences or practical insights would be appreciated.

​

​

Hi everyone,

​

I wanted to open a discussion about something I feel is often talked about in a very confusing way, but not really addressed in a practical way.

​

Many of us come into manifestation because we are trying to recover from a breakup and manifest an ex/SP back. In many cases, it feels like the last chance, so we put a huge amount of hope into manifestation.

​

That is also my situation.

​

The problem is that, after a breakup, the nervous system is often completely dysregulated. So even if you understand the theory — living in the end, SATS, affirmations, self-concept, not checking the 3D — applying it becomes much harder in practice.

​

For me, even though almost three months have passed, my state still comes in waves.

​

For example:

​

- One day I wake up feeling relatively okay — not great, but stable enough — and I can assume the wish fulfilled more naturally.

- Later that same day, a random trigger or painful thought can appear, even without checking the 3D, and suddenly anxiety comes back. In that moment I start doubting everything and my faith drops.

- Some days I wake up already negative, even if I did SATS and affirmations the night before, and I feel like I have lost the state completely.

- Other days I feel very secure in the assumption, almost naturally convinced that it is done, but then I wonder if it is really the state of the wish fulfilled or just my brain still being attached and refusing to detach from the person.

​

So the issue is not that I don’t understand the concept intellectually.

​

The issue is the practical management of the waves after a painful breakup.

​

My question is mainly for people who successfully manifested an SP/ex back after a breakup, especially after a period of anxiety, grief, or emotional instability:

​

How did you handle the waves?

​

Did you just keep returning to the state every time you fell out of it?

​

Did you focus first on self-concept before the SP?

​

Did you keep doing SATS even on days when it felt fake?

​

Did you stop trying to feel certainty and just persisted gently?

​

At what point did the state start becoming natural instead of something you had to fight for?

​

I am not asking for generic advice like “move on” or “detach and forget about them.” I am asking specifically from the perspective of manifestation practice: how do you actually stabilize the state when the breakup wound is still active and your nervous system keeps pulling you back into fear?

​

Any real experiences or practical insights would be appreciated.

Hi everyone,

​

I think this is an important question because the situation does not feel as straightforward as simply “persist and stop checking the 3D.”

​

The assumption itself seems to be working well for me. For several days, I have been assuming that my SP — my ex — is already with me.

​

I would say that, for around 50% of my day, I genuinely think and feel that my SP is with me.

​

I have reached the point where I do not necessarily feel strong emotions, except when I visualize my scene. Even then, sometimes it simply feels natural rather than emotionally intense.

​

Over time, I have learned to control the old story. When a negative thought begins, I do not give it too much attention, and it eventually stops.

​

I do not check the 3D. I do not look at her social media. I do not know whether there is a third party, and I honestly do not care. I do not ask people about her, and I do not search for information.

​

Regarding my self-concept:

​

I have very good self-esteem.

​

I feel very little magnetism.

​

I do not feel particularly chosen by others, although I feel very chosen by myself.

​

I feel loved by myself.

​

In general, my life feels flat.

​

I believe in manifestation in general, but I go through periods in which I believe I can manifest a specific person ( SPECIFIC non general), as in my case, and other periods in which I do not. Even within this community, people seem to have conflicting opinions about whether manifesting a specific person is actually possible.

​

This almost feels like the stage people reach after a relationship ends and enough time has passed: you are no longer strongly attached, but perhaps you are simply allowing the other person to disappear from your life.

​

So I feel as though something is missing.

​

I am not asking this because I am impatient for the result. The issue is that I do not feel magnetic, and I do not feel much emotion.

​

Is naturalness and emotional neutrality actually the state of having the desire, or am I simply becoming detached from my SP and allowing the relationship to fade away?

​

What could be missing from my state?

​

​

Hi everyone,

​

I think this is an important question because the situation does not feel as straightforward as simply “persist and stop checking the 3D.”

​

The assumption itself seems to be working well for me. For several days, I have been assuming that my SP — my ex — is already with me.

​

I would say that, for around 50% of my day, I genuinely think and feel that my SP is with me.

​

I have reached the point where I do not necessarily feel strong emotions, except when I visualize my scene. Even then, sometimes it simply feels natural rather than emotionally intense.

​

Over time, I have learned to control the old story. When a negative thought begins, I do not give it too much attention, and it eventually stops.

​

I do not check the 3D. I do not look at her social media. I do not know whether there is a third party, and I honestly do not care. I do not ask people about her, and I do not search for information.

​

Regarding my self-concept:

​

I have very good self-esteem.

​

I feel very little magnetism.

​

I do not feel particularly chosen by others, although I feel very chosen by myself.

​

I feel loved by myself.

​

In general, my life feels flat.

​

I believe in manifestation in general, but I go through periods in which I believe I can manifest a specific person ( SPECIFIC non general), as in my case, and other periods in which I do not. Even within this community, people seem to have conflicting opinions about whether manifesting a specific person is actually possible.

​

This almost feels like the stage people reach after a relationship ends and enough time has passed: you are no longer strongly attached, but perhaps you are simply allowing the other person to disappear from your life.

​

So I feel as though something is missing.

​

I am not asking this because I am impatient for the result. The issue is that I do not feel magnetic, and I do not feel much emotion.

​

Is naturalness and emotional neutrality actually the state of having the desire, or am I simply becoming detached from my SP and allowing the relationship to fade away?

​

What could be missing from my state?

​

​

Hi everyone,

​

I think this is an important question because the situation does not feel as straightforward as simply “persist and stop checking the 3D.”

​

The assumption itself seems to be working well for me. For several days, I have been assuming that my SP — my ex — is already with me.

​

I would say that, for around 50% of my day, I genuinely think and feel that my SP is with me.

​

I have reached the point where I do not necessarily feel strong emotions, except when I visualize my scene. Even then, sometimes it simply feels natural rather than emotionally intense.

​

Over time, I have learned to control the old story. When a negative thought begins, I do not give it too much attention, and it eventually stops.

​

I do not check the 3D. I do not look at her social media. I do not know whether there is a third party, and I honestly do not care. I do not ask people about her, and I do not search for information.

​

Regarding my self-concept:

​

I have very good self-esteem.

​

I feel very little magnetism.

​

I do not feel particularly chosen by others, although I feel very chosen by myself.

​

I feel loved by myself.

​

In general, my life feels flat.

​

I believe in manifestation in general, but I go through periods in which I believe I can manifest a specific person ( SPECIFIC non general), as in my case, and other periods in which I do not. Even within this community, people seem to have conflicting opinions about whether manifesting a specific person is actually possible.

​

This almost feels like the stage people reach after a relationship ends and enough time has passed: you are no longer strongly attached, but perhaps you are simply allowing the other person to disappear from your life.

​

So I feel as though something is missing.

​

I am not asking this because I am impatient for the result. The issue is that I do not feel magnetic, and I do not feel much emotion.

​

Is naturalness and emotional neutrality actually the state of having the desire, or am I simply becoming detached from my SP and allowing the relationship to fade away?

​

What could be missing from my state?

​

​

Hi everyone,

This will honestly be the last post I make about this topic, because I do not want to keep obsessively searching for answers. I just want to understand whether there is something practical I am still missing.

First of all, I am not checking the 3D. I do not follow her social media, look for signs, or monitor what she is doing.

Every morning and evening I do robotic affirmations. I also try to do SATS, although I find it difficult because I fall asleep almost immediately, so I am never sure whether I am doing it correctly. I am also going to start scripting.

The main problem is that the pain is still very strong. She left me around 70 days ago, and the rumination is still almost constant.

I try to maintain a mental diet, but my life feels very flat. Apart from work, I do not have much to do. Spending time with friends often bores me, and it also makes me compare those experiences with the life I had with my SP. To be honest, even when I was still in the relationship, I often felt this way about social activities.

So I am not sure whether the problem is my manifestation practice, my self-concept, the fact that my life already felt emotionally empty in some areas, or simply the grief from the breakup.

Is there anything practical you would recommend?

Should I reduce the techniques and focus more on rebuilding my life, or should I continue persisting exactly as I am?

Hi everyone,

This will honestly be the last post I make about this topic, because I do not want to keep obsessively searching for answers. I just want to understand whether there is something practical I am still missing.

First of all, I am not checking the 3D. I do not follow her social media, look for signs, or monitor what she is doing.

Every morning and evening I do robotic affirmations. I also try to do SATS, although I find it difficult because I fall asleep almost immediately, so I am never sure whether I am doing it correctly. I am also going to start scripting.

The main problem is that the pain is still very strong. She left me around 70 days ago, and the rumination is still almost constant.

I try to maintain a mental diet, but my life feels very flat. Apart from work, I do not have much to do. Spending time with friends often bores me, and it also makes me compare those experiences with the life I had with my SP. To be honest, even when I was still in the relationship, I often felt this way about social activities.

So I am not sure whether the problem is my manifestation practice, my self-concept, the fact that my life already felt emotionally empty in some areas, or simply the grief from the breakup.

Is there anything practical you would recommend?

Should I reduce the techniques and focus more on rebuilding my life, or should I continue persisting exactly as I am?

Hi everyone,

This will honestly be the last post I make about this topic, because I do not want to keep obsessively searching for answers. I just want to understand whether there is something practical I am still missing.

First of all, I am not checking the 3D. I do not follow her social media, look for signs, or monitor what she is doing.

Every morning and evening I do robotic affirmations. I also try to do SATS, although I find it difficult because I fall asleep almost immediately (tell me if I am wrong), so I am never sure whether I am doing it correctly. I am also going to start journaling.

The main problem is that the pain is still very strong. She left me around 70 days ago, and the rumination is still almost constant.

I try to maintain a mental diet, but my life feels very flat. Apart from work, I do not have much to do. Spending time with friends often bores me, and it also makes me compare those experiences with the life I had with my SP. To be honest, even when I was still in the relationship, I often felt this way about social activities.

So I am not sure whether the problem is my manifestation practice, my self-concept, the fact that my life already felt emotionally empty in some areas, or simply the grief from the breakup.

Is there anything practical you would recommend?

Hi everyone,

I am doing robotic affirmations everyday I’m listening to works well for me and I actually like it. It helps me feel calmer and more focused.

However, one thought suddenly came up.

What if my Sp (Ex) cheated on me, or became emotionally involved or infatuated with someone else toward the end of the relationship, and that was part of the reason she left?

I have no proof of this, and she never gave me a clear explanation for the breakup. But if that were the real reason, I honestly would not want her back.

So now I’m wondering: am I wasting my time manifesting a reconciliation without knowing the full truth?

Does manifestation also bring the truth to the surface?

For example, if I manifest a healthy and loving relationship with her, would the process naturally reveal anything I need to know before we reconcile? Or could I end up manifesting her back while ignoring something important that would completely change how I feel about her?

Ciao e grazie in anticipo.

Circa 60 giorni fa la mia ex ragazza (io 38M lei 29F) senza aver dato un minimo segnale in precedenza e senza aver dato la minima motivazione sensata ha deciso di lasciarmi e letteralmente sparire dopo 5 anni di relazione.

Le poche volte che l'ho contattata si è sempre negata un dialogo.

Dopo 5 anni tutto il mio mondo girava attorno a lei.

Dopo cinque anni, gran parte della mia vita, delle mie abitudini e dei miei progetti ruotava intorno a lei. Proprio la mancanza di una spiegazione chiara mi ha impedito di accettare davvero quello che è successo: continuo a cercare motivazioni, a costruire ipotesi e poi a smontarle. Da 60 giorni sono in un loop continuo.

Adesso vivo un vero e proprio blocco. Faccio fatica a lavorare, concentrarmi e svolgere anche le attività più semplici. Molte cose che prima facevo normalmente ora mi provocano ansia e paura. È come se il mio corpo rifiutasse la possibilità di questa nuova vita e percepisse qualsiasi passo avanti come qualcosa di minaccioso.

Anche il sonno e l’energia ne stanno risentendo e mi sento spesso in uno stato di allarme, smarrimento e ruminazione continua. Ho persone vicine, ma nonostante questo mi sento molto isolato dentro questa esperienza.

Ho provato anche 3 terapie diverse:

- una era basata sull'azione ovvero buttarsi a fare le cose, ma non ci sono riuscito anzi l'ansia e la paura aumentavano

- una terapia psicosomatica con dei vari esercizi ma che non sono riuscito ad approcciare con costanza

- una terapia basata su ipnosi dove sto vedendo pochissimi frutti

Purtroppo la situazione non accenna a migliorare, anzi ogni giorno mi sento sempre più perso e non so più che fare.

Cosa posso fare?

I have a genuine question.

Can manifesting an SP make you feel as though you are living in a parallel reality, especially when the 3D continues to show the opposite?

For example, right now I am trying to remain certain that SP and I will be together again (I AM). In my imagination and assumptions, our relationship is restored.

But what if that never actually happens in 3D?

What if I spend months or even years believing that we are already together in consciousness, while in physical reality she continues living her life without me?

At what point does “living in the end” risk becoming a form of maladaptive daydreaming, denial, or avoidance of reality?

I understand the idea that you should not constantly react to the 3D, and that you should persist in the state you desire. But there seems to be a difficult line between:

• using imagination to change your internal state;
• and emotionally living inside a future that may never materialize.

How do you distinguish genuine assumption from escapism?

How do you continue manifesting without putting your real life, healing, decisions, and future on hold?

I am not asking this to criticize manifestation. I am asking because I genuinely want to understand how someone can maintain faith in a desired outcome while also remaining psychologically grounded in the present.

If years pass without movement, should a person continue to persist, or should they accept that manifesting that specific person may be keeping them emotionally trapped?

I have a genuine question.

Can manifesting an SP make you feel as though you are living in a parallel reality, especially when the 3D continues to show the opposite?

For example, right now I am trying to remain certain that SP and I will be together again (I AM). In my imagination and assumptions, our relationship is restored.

But what if that never actually happens in 3D?

What if I spend months or even years believing that we are already together in consciousness, while in physical reality she continues living her life without me?

At what point does “living in the end” risk becoming a form of maladaptive daydreaming, denial, or avoidance of reality?

I understand the idea that you should not constantly react to the 3D, and that you should persist in the state you desire. But there seems to be a difficult line between:

• using imagination to change your internal state;
• and emotionally living inside a future that may never materialize.

How do you distinguish genuine assumption from escapism?

How do you continue manifesting without putting your real life, healing, decisions, and future on hold?

I am not asking this to criticize manifestation. I am asking because I genuinely want to understand how someone can maintain faith in a desired outcome while also remaining psychologically grounded in the present.

If years pass without movement, should a person continue to persist, or should they accept that manifesting that specific person may be keeping them emotionally trapped?

I have a genuine question.

Can manifesting an SP make you feel as though you are living in a parallel reality, especially when the 3D continues to show the opposite?

For example, right now I am trying to remain certain that SP and I will be together again (I AM). In my imagination and assumptions, our relationship is restored.

But what if that never actually happens in 3D?

What if I spend months or even years believing that we are already together in consciousness, while in physical reality she continues living her life without me?

At what point does “living in the end” risk becoming a form of maladaptive daydreaming, denial, or avoidance of reality?

I understand the idea that you should not constantly react to the 3D, and that you should persist in the state you desire. But there seems to be a difficult line between:

• using imagination to change your internal state;
• and emotionally living inside a future that may never materialize.

How do you distinguish genuine assumption from escapism?

How do you continue manifesting without putting your real life, healing, decisions, and future on hold?

I am not asking this to criticize manifestation. I am asking because I genuinely want to understand how someone can maintain faith in a desired outcome while also remaining psychologically grounded in the present.

If years pass without movement, should a person continue to persist, or should they accept that manifesting that specific person may be keeping them emotionally trapped?

Hi everyone,

I have been manifesting my SP for a couple of months now, and after doing a lot of research on Reddit, I have noticed some recurring patterns in SP-related topics and discussions.

Case 1 — Success stories

I do find many people who successfully manifested their SP back, the classic success stories. In my opinion, they probably represent maybe 2-5% of the people who post or comment about this topic.

Of course, congratulations to them. I am happy for them, and their stories can definitely give hope and confidence to others. Thank you

Case 2 — People who started manifesting and then disappeared

There are also people who started manifesting their SP 6-7 months ago, or at least several months ago, and then simply disappeared from Reddit.

In these cases, we do not know what happened. Maybe they had their success story and just never came back to update us. Or maybe they got tired of manifesting and, in practice, “lost” months trying to manifest their SP without getting the result.

Case 3 — People who manifest for a while and then lose interest

Then there are several people who manifest their SP for a certain amount of time, but after a while they lose interest and let it go.

In this case, we can probably assume that some people did spend time manifesting their SP, but did not actually get them back.

Maybe their self-concept improved. Maybe their nervous system improved. Maybe this happened because of manifesting, or maybe simply because of normal healing during no contact and with time passing.

But the point remains: in these cases, some people may have spent months manifesting their SP and still did not get the specific result they wanted.

So, overall, the results seem very mixed.

Some people could say that the reason is a wrong self-concept, lack, wavering, wrong assumptions, etc. But someone else could also say that they have a better self-concept than some users who posted success stories.

So my question is: at this point, is it really worth focusing on techniques such as robotic affirmations, SATS, mental diet, etc.? Spending time on SP?

Especially knowing that, statistically, one day you might wake up and realize that it did not help you, or that you no longer want your SP, or that you found a new SP, or that you simply did not succeed.

P.S. I know people will probably mention lack, lack of faith, not being in the state, wrong self-concept, and so on. But for the purpose of this discussion, I am asking beyond the usual explanations.

P.S. I am excluding coaches which ofc they have success stories (need to sell products).

Hi everyone,

I have been manifesting my SP for a couple of months now, and after doing a lot of research on Reddit, I have noticed some recurring patterns in SP-related topics and discussions.

Case 1 — Success stories

I do find many people who successfully manifested their SP back, the classic success stories. In my opinion, they probably represent maybe 2-5% of the people who post or comment about this topic.

Of course, congratulations to them. I am happy for them, and their stories can definitely give hope and confidence to others. Thank you

Case 2 — People who started manifesting and then disappeared

There are also people who started manifesting their SP 6-7 months ago, or at least several months ago, and then simply disappeared from Reddit.

In these cases, we do not know what happened. Maybe they had their success story and just never came back to update us. Or maybe they got tired of manifesting and, in practice, “lost” months trying to manifest their SP without getting the result.

Case 3 — People who manifest for a while and then lose interest

Then there are several people who manifest their SP for a certain amount of time, but after a while they lose interest and let it go.

In this case, we can probably assume that some people did spend time manifesting their SP, but did not actually get them back.

Maybe their self-concept improved. Maybe their nervous system improved. Maybe this happened because of manifesting, or maybe simply because of normal healing during no contact and with time passing.

But the point remains: in these cases, some people may have spent months manifesting their SP and still did not get the specific result they wanted.

So, overall, the results seem very mixed.

Some people could say that the reason is a wrong self-concept, lack, wavering, wrong assumptions, etc. But someone else could also say that they have a better self-concept than some users who posted success stories.

So my question is: at this point, is it really worth focusing on techniques such as robotic affirmations, SATS, mental diet, etc.? Spending time on SP?

Especially knowing that, statistically, one day you might wake up and realize that it did not help you, or that you no longer want your SP, or that you found a new SP, or that you simply did not succeed.

P.S. I know people will probably mention lack, lack of faith, not being in the state, wrong self-concept, and so on. But for the purpose of this discussion, I am asking beyond the usual explanations.

P.S. I am excluding coaches which ofc they have success stories (need to sell products).

Hi everyone,

I have been manifesting my SP for a couple of months now, and after doing a lot of research on Reddit, I have noticed some recurring patterns in SP-related topics and discussions.

Case 1 — Success stories

I do find many people who successfully manifested their SP back, the classic success stories. In my opinion, they probably represent maybe 2-5% of the people who post or comment about this topic.

Of course, congratulations to them. I am happy for them, and their stories can definitely give hope and confidence to others. Thank you

Case 2 — People who started manifesting and then disappeared

There are also people who started manifesting their SP 6-7 months ago, or at least several months ago, and then simply disappeared from Reddit.

In these cases, we do not know what happened. Maybe they had their success story and just never came back to update us. Or maybe they got tired of manifesting and, in practice, “lost” months trying to manifest their SP without getting the result.

Case 3 — People who manifest for a while and then lose interest

Then there are several people who manifest their SP for a certain amount of time, but after a while they lose interest and let it go.

In this case, we can probably assume that some people did spend time manifesting their SP, but did not actually get them back.

Maybe their self-concept improved. Maybe their nervous system improved. Maybe this happened because of manifesting, or maybe simply because of normal healing during no contact and with time passing.

But the point remains: in these cases, some people may have spent months manifesting their SP and still did not get the specific result they wanted.

So, overall, the results seem very mixed.

Some people could say that the reason is a wrong self-concept, lack, wavering, wrong assumptions, etc. But someone else could also say that they have a better self-concept than some users who posted success stories.

So my question is: at this point, is it really worth focusing on techniques such as robotic affirmations, SATS, mental diet, etc.? Spending time on SP?

Especially knowing that, statistically, one day you might wake up and realize that it did not help you, or that you no longer want your SP, or that you found a new SP, or that you simply did not succeed.

P.S. I know people will probably mention lack, lack of faith, not being in the state, wrong self-concept, and so on. But for the purpose of this discussion, I am asking beyond the usual explanations.

P.S. I am excluding coaches which ofc they have success stories (need to sell products).

Hi everyone,

For the past few weeks I’ve been manifesting my SP/ex, but I can now see that a lot of it was coming from lack.

Of course, after a breakup it’s very easy to fall into that state: fear, attachment, needing reassurance, trying to feel connected, trying to force the 3D to change.

At the same time, there were moments where I genuinely felt certain that she was with me already. It felt like “it’s done.” I could emotionally feel her presence, because when you’re still very connected to someone, you can almost feel them inside you.

Now the strange thing is that I feel like the lack phase is ending, or at least fading.

But because of that, I don’t feel her the same way anymore.

Sometimes I even feel moments of indifference, emotional distance, or even a kind of repulsion. Not because I hate her, but because I don’t feel the same desperate need anymore.

So now I’m confused.

Before, I could say “she is mine” because I felt emotionally attached and connected to her.

Now that I’m less needy, I don’t always feel that connection anymore.

How do you affirm or embody “she is with me / she is mine” when you no longer feel the person the same way you did during the lack phase?

Is this actually detachment? Is it normal to feel less connected when the neediness starts fading?

How do you stay in the state of “it’s done” without confusing emotional intensity, longing, or attachment with the feeling of having your desire?