(Existential dread) How do I stop freaking out over complicated stuff?
Hi. I've been having those episodes lately: for some reason I'm trying to "look at myself from an observer's perspective", when suddenly fear rushes in. I'm trying to piece together whether there's anything out there outside of me, and whether anything would exist when I'm gone. This in turn brings those vain thoughts of "what if there was a technology/black magic to become immortal", yet when I ask myself why would I want this I can't answer beyond "just because/I'm afraid of the void that comes after cessation of biological activity".
I am slightly spiritual (not saying this to brag only to point out that I'm 100% "only science is true" or 100% agnostic), I know the theories about "we are but God playing hide and seek with themselves" (see Alan Watts for instance) and afaik people like Dr K advocate for looking for meaning in simpler places and in what aligns with one wishes and values/what feels good to a given human.
But at the end of the day I'm just supremely confused and/or scared, and this leads to unhealthy coping mechanisms (such as binge gaming) which doesn't help in finding meaning/values at all. In some sense, I'm so afraid of those passing existential thoughts I'd rather numb most of my brain, and also undersleep. I know the only healthy way is to sit with those emotions, but I am afraid of the person that will come out of the other side of the tunnel and that won't be me. Cause in some sense, to change is to die early (to me).
I feel stun-locked in life.
I wonder what would be you people's thoughts and what kind of insight you might be able to share. Thank you for your guidance!