tw medical 16 FTM I have reproductive issues
big tw for medical stuff please don’t read if this bothers you.
hi im ash im 16 and im a trans man. ive felt this way for years and ive had a legal name change. My single father is supportive and so is my moms side. I’m unfortunately no contact with my dad’s side and my mom passed away a while ago so I won’t mention them.
so way back in November 2025 I had weird bleeding between my periods. went to planned parenthood, got 3 month depo provera shot and no explanation of why this happened.
Then, in December 2025, I had a miserable 9 day long period. It ended up landing me in the er on Christmas with a uterine cyst and bladder infection. I was screaming while on morphine and fentanyl and in the worst pain I’ve ever felt. My dad originally told me to “sleep it off” and was suprised when I vomitted 15 times and had to get told by a nurse “period cramps are normal but your child is writhing in pain and screaming.”
The whole experience was so dysphoria inducing. I was called Ash the whole time but she/her because I was too drugged up ti say “hey I’m a trans guy.” And my dad was too scared to speak up.
It sucked.
Anyways. January, February, and March I had normal periods. Around February 2026 my birth control wore off. Then, my periods disappeared.
Worried, I tried to get a blood work done.
My cis man primary care doctor dismissed me with another negative pregnancy test and more birth control in June. My cis woman psychiatrist had to email and get me a second appointment since he was refusing to give me a blood test.
It all came back normal. Normal prolactin, normal FSH and LH.
Then from July 22-27 2026 I had a 6 day long ‘period’. I’ve felt miserable. Normal cramping, but awfully dysphoric as I hate the reminder I was born female.
To top it off, one of my family members texted my dad about how I need to be taking driving lessons and started by calling me she but ended the text calling me he. I had to beg my dad to correct her, and reluctantly, he did, then said family member apologized to me. It sucks because my dad IS supportive. He got me a legal name change and is supportive to my face but he struggles to advocate for me.
I sincerely hate it. Being mentally ill is one thing. I hate physical illness more. I hate going to appointments and being asked if I’m pregnant. I hate going to appointments and getting asked if my breasts and cervix are intact. I hate that I’ve been asked to do ultrasounds or pelvic exams and I always decline them out of discomfort. I hate having to explain to my dad or CIS MAN DOCTORS that I’m not pregnant and pregnancy isn’t a chance as I’m celibate.
I’m so tired.
I wish I could have top surgery and T and Hysterectomy but I’m just stuck. I’m just stuck being sick and talked over and fighting with insurance and doctors about whatever the fuck is wrong with my body. I hate getting yelled at by my dad for “making him take me to so many hospitals”. I just can’t.
I hate it.