u/Fantastic-Hold-3453

r/cancelpornculture

I wish I could like men. I got some new male friends but they show signs of being just like the others. All men in this generation are porn addicted, view women poorly, and never take women seriously. I think porn is absolutely disgusting the few times I've watched it I was baffled I'm like how is this what men are into? I'm seriously losing all attraction to them. I know comments are gonna be like “not all men some are good” but tell me why I haven't met a single one. I really don't want to be a man hater but its disgusting looking at men and thinking about how the majority of them view women.

I really badly want kids but I need the husband first. Highly considering just having the kids and not having a husband but I feel that is not ideal for the kids.

I know it’s a lot to listen to but any help appreciated:)

He’s like a summer day but his minds a brooding storm
Must be the lightning running through his nerves
He was made of shiny glass
With a slight grasp I made it last
Here we are
Back again
Square one
Again
Then I broke into his home
Shattered all his stained glass windows
And all the shards cut me so deep
But at least the color was pretty

Also wondering if I should adjust anything production wise

I remember being young and seeing a skull on the screen and crying and thinking about it for months 💀 I thought it was real

I swear the prettiest girls are always with the model pretty boys.

I’m gonna start hitting the gym, eating more, quitting 1 of 2 of my addictions. I can’t cold turkey both but 1 is a major step for me. Gonna get good sleep. Gonna socialize and maybe date more. Find new friends. Apply for a full time job.

Having kids is one of my biggest goals in life but I don’t like sound of marriage

I am constantly smiling. People always say you're so smiley. Which could be a good thing I guess but I don't even realize I do it. I think I over appear to be engaged and nice. I think it backfires. I think its my people pleasing habits. Also I laugh at everything. My social anxiety makes me behave over the top to be accepted

I think I am for two reasons and my social anxiety causes me to be ond

1. I'm scared ppl will leave me if I'm not easy going all the time. Tbh I am naturally pretty easy going but I feel its too much
2. I'm an empath. I feel bad for saying how it is sometimes!! I'm too scared to hurt peoples feelings

Anyone have advice on how to stop being a people pleaser?

Im 23 my mom is growing disappointed in me and keeps trying to help me find my full time corporate job after getting my degree. Truth is I have 0 motivation and think I would be seriously depressed getting a full time job. I work 20 hours now at a fulfilling job and I already get burnt out.

Thinking about working a corporate job makes me wanna cry on the spot. I am not built for that shit.

I've never had someone rlly stick around. I don't understand why bc i’m never mean. Maybe its because I'm too shy or a people pleaser. But I'm a people pleaser so that people don't leave me but maybe it's backfiring.

Just got completely ghosted by my ex of 7 months. Straight up discarded. All of my close friends I've ever had have left. In any friend group I just feel like I'm there and no one cares whether I'm there or not.

I found a new group of friends recently that share similar interests but because I've been left so much in the past it's almost making me way more anxious and not want to continue with these friends because I'm so scared the pattern will repeat. They are acting different towards me now too. Idk whats wrong with me.

I've never had someone rlly stick around. I don't understand why bc i’m never mean. Maybe its because I'm too shy or a people pleaser. But I'm a people pleaser so that people don't leave me but maybe it's backfiring.

Just got completely ghosted by my ex of 7 months. Straight up discarded. All of my close friends I've ever had have left. In any friend group I just feel like I'm there and no one cares whether I'm there or not.

I found a new group of friends recently that share similar interests but because I've been left so much in the past it's almost making me way more anxious and not want to continue with these friends because I'm so scared the pattern will repeat. They are acting different towards me now too. Idk whats wrong with me.

For example I think I am artistically smart, mathematically smart, and science smart, but I think I am socially dumb linguistically dumb and have bad situation awareness. Can solve a complex math problem but couldn’t tell you directions somewhere even if I’ve driven it 10 times lol.

I see people who always know what to say in conversation, which takes a lot of intelligence, but suck at math.

People often think that math science is what makes you smart but I always envy the intelligence of very social people. I think that people label it as just “social skills” but I think it take some real intelligence.

It’s fine if I have a glass or wine or make a lil drink for myself but the second I drink from a vodka bottle i have a problem?? Vodka by itself is probably the healthiest alcohol possible and it doesn’t give me hangovers. Also I swear 2 glasses of wine gets me more drunk than 4 shots of vodka.