u/Imaginary-Advance233

I am a small business, my SMS application keeps getting denied and I KEEP having to pay the $19 after I try to fix the issue EACH TIME!!!! Ring central tells me how to fix and I do as they say and still DENIED. I refuse to pay another $19 I am almost at $100 being spent. I am going to start to market my business so there is still time for me just to SWITCH to another cloud based phone any other options that make getting SMS easier??

My kids begged me for a puppy when they were younger. My son is 24 now, and years later we have two dogs, ages 8 and 9, that we’ve had since they were 6 weeks old.

I have been obsessed with them their whole lives. They are honestly treated like humans in our house. They have their own room, several dog beds, an actual queen size bed in their room, tons of toys, a huge fenced backyard, and they are loved like crazy. I have always taken really good care of them.

Here’s where I’m struggling. I recently got married and moved out of the country. Sadly, where I moved, dogs are not treated the same way, and I know deep down they would have a much better life staying at home in the U.S. with my son, in the house they know, with their routine, their yard, and everything familiar to them.

I am still paying all the bills in the U.S., about $4,000 a month, mainly so my dogs can have stability and stay in their home with my son. My family has told me I should just give them away or take them to a shelter, but I absolutely refuse. I could never do that to them.

But I am completely heartbroken. I cry every day wondering if they are waiting by the door for me, if they are sad, if they think I abandoned them, or if they will forgive me. I feel like I betrayed them even though I really made this choice because I thought it was better for them.

Am I a bad dog owner for leaving them at home with my son who ALSO treats them with love and affection and takes care of them VERY WELL Will they forgive me?

I have two adult children, ages 23 and 28, and they both still live at home. They always have.

My 23-year-old has never had a job, plays video games all day, and won’t even get a driver’s license. My 28-year-old does work and pays for her own food, but that’s it.

The problem is that I pay for absolutely everything else in the household by myself. My bills are close to $4,000 a month, and I am exhausted. I work multiple jobs and sometimes work 14-hour days just to keep everything afloat.

I recently asked my 28-year-old if she could please help contribute financially, and she told me “absolutely not” because, according to her, it’s my responsibility as a parent to provide no matter how old they are. What hurts even more is that my mother and other family members agree with her. They told me I should be ashamed for even asking my adult children for help, and now some of them have stopped talking to me completely.

I honestly feel mentally drained. I can’t sleep at night because all I think about is: what happens if I get laid off someday? What if I get sick and physically can’t keep working like this? Then what happens? sure I can go get an apartment but what about them?

I feel like I’m drowning trying to carry everything alone.

Am I wrong for wanting my adult children to help financially or eventually live on their own? And how do I even start setting boundaries without it turning into screaming, guilt, or being cursed out? my daughter has blocked me and wont talk to me now either said I am a loser for asking for help.

*** In addition I have to mow the lawn and take out the trash daily they said they will not help ***

I asked the 23 year old to please get a job and to clean his mess, there are currently 18 pizza boxes on top of the fridge and he slammed his door in my face.