u/Kirk_2002

Things I like about Savannah: I can run year-round. There's no snow. So long as I stay living in downtown, I can go out the door and run whichever direction I please. The city itself is BEAUTIFUL. Though it has gotten a little old after 6 months here. 100F+ days in the summer are PERFECT for going to the beach or pool. There's an Asian Supermarket I like going to. And ease-of-access to lots of different bars in the historic district.

Though, there really isn't much in the way of fun activities besides a trampoline park, an arcade 30min outta town, quite a few different meuseums, and outdoor running & sports (which I DO like that... I wish for more fun stuff.) I often hear Savannah being called a "small city", and GR a "mid-sized city"? What does a "mid-sized city" have that "small cities" do not?

As for job, I wanna be an electrician, starting out at 18 an hour, topping out at 40 an hour in GR, or 19 an hour, making more than GR the entire apprenticeship, but topping out at 35 an hour, vs 40 an hour in GR. 35 is more than enough to support myself on my own in Savannah, but not enough for kids. I don't know how well the apprenticeship wages and journeyman pay correlate to GR's COL.

Context: I attempted to push myself outside of my comfort zone by going to a Nightclub last night and talking to girls with the help of alchohol (slippery slope into alchoholism, I know, but I figured it's the Fourth of July. Just one night won't hurt. Who knows, might get laid, seeing as how I am in fact less anxious talking to acquaintances when drunk.... Heh, as if.) Keyword, ATTEMPTED. I failed though.

Everybody there was with a group of people, which in my experience at a run club, also attempting to push myself outside of my comfort zone, I am no good at group talk, and mostly just sit there uncomfortably cuz I don't know what to say, and everybody is somehow flowing conversation between eachother? Which I don't understand how that's done. It's like they read eachother's minds it feels like.

One-on-one however, I am more capable of doing... assuming I can somehow get the courage to do so. At run club, I have talked to a couple people, guys only, as girls cause the social anxiety to come ten-fold, one-on-one okayish. But that's the limit of my capabilities I feel, and it's only made us acquaintances.

At the Nightclub I noticed a girl alone a few times, but the anxiety is so bad, that it overrides the alchohol (I'm talking 2 mixed drinks, and 2 beers in, as a lightweight type drunk), and I still have to sit there and come up with something to say and workup the courage. Of which every. Single. Time. someone else would approach them first to talk before I do. Therefore shooting my confidence down yet again.

The night wasn't a COMPLETE waste. I had fun dancing. Alone. While drunk enough to not feel anxious about dancing, but my main goal wasn't accomplished.

If not even my "happy-go-lucky drunk af" self can't talk to girls, then what hope do I have to do so when sober? I willingly CHOOSE to not partake in drinking too often. I don't WANT to become an alcoholic, but the social anxiety is just so damn bad, and also I'm admittedly... lonely, I guess, wanting connection that I cannot have.

I've looked at so called "micro-steps" and "exposure" tips to getting over social anxiety, but what do I do when even those are too much? When money is involved, ie: stripclub (another one of my "social experiments" which I was able to do both drunk, and sober), doctor, therapist, waitress, phone call, etc, I manage perfectly fine. But throw casual, non-business conversation into the mix, and I'm stuck. What do I do?

I wanna become an Electrician in the IBEW, and am tryna decide between starting an apprenticeship here in Savannah (I already live here), or moving to Grand Rapids, MI to be closer to my best friend and have a higher pay (alongside whatever else is more beneficial about GR).

I like the beauty of Savannah, and how easy it is to go on a run here. I like that I can go to the warm beach of Hilton Head 1hr away, or Tybee closer if I wanna pay the parking fees. It's within a 4hr drive of 3 different bigger cities if I wanna go visit the big city for a weekend. But it's HOT down here.

As for electrician pay, I'd be making 19.25 starting out, topping out with 35 after 4 years in Savannah. In GR, I'd be starting out at 18, topping out at 40.

There is a third, far far riskier, but also more rewarding if successful option, of moving to Chicago to start an apprenticeship there. But if it's anywhere near as competitive to get into as I hear it is, I fear that I have a low chance of getting in, and a high chance of things going wrong and I end up homeless or stuck in some low paying job there. Or am I just being too anxious on the Chicago route?

I currently live in the South where there isn't much well paying opportunity for electricians, so I'm looking to move North. My options are to either shoot for the moon, going to Chicago and going for 134, hoping a good test score alone can get me in, no support from any family, or go to Grand Rapids, and I have family support.

275 I imagine is definitely less competitive than 134, but is it ENOUGH less competitive to get in with no experience?

Sorry for the rant, I'm feeling really really really upset by it rn cuz my current job security is extremely unsteady, and if I lose it I have to move back to my parent's house in rural town Ludowici, GA, where there is NO other job prospects besides my current job, or the military, which I am ethically against the idea of even possibly needing to kill someone cuz someone else told to, not to mention not being mentally fit for the military.

So I was RELYING on getting a job with Gulfstream to secure my financial security, and give me experience I can actually use to get another trade job, if necessary in the event of the layoffs I hear of.

I have ALL of the qualifications for the apprenticeship, minus blueprint reading which I am absolutely certain that I can easily pick up on the job, and I LIKE working with my hands. I was actually INTERESTED in it as a geniune career instead of just a job that pays the bills. So why? Why was I not accepted even though I believed myself to be the perfect canidate, and really really needed it? I wasn't given an explanation why in the email. They just said rejected. I don't understand. What did I do wrong?

Wanna go drinkin' on July 4th as I watch the fireworks on River Street, but I haven't ever ridden while drunk before. Good idea, or no? What about in general on other nights? I usually go in the middle of the day on weekends so I can catch the bus to and from, but busses shut down early I noticed (had to get an Uber once).

I was trying to apply for the Apprentice Avionics Installer position at Gulfstream, sent in my resume with ALL of the qualifications for the job, but it's still stuck in limbo? I'm in desperate need of another job, and specifically the Avionics Installer position as that would be a dream job for me.

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Does anyone know of anyone to contact to get that resume pulled, or would be willing to take a chance on a recommendation?

I've been working Dupont Schedule as a Chemical Plant opperator for over 4 years now, and have an estimated 8 months left before I can finally get out of this shit and save my, as of currently rapidly declining physical and mental health it feels like.

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Unfortunately, I still have 11k dollars of debt to pay off, and live in Southeast Georgia where other well-paying opportunities do not exist, and I have no choice other than to stick with my current job posing an active danger to my health, until I can get out.

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Is there any medication I can take to make up for my chronic sleep deprivation as required to work this job, for at least another 8-9 months? I went to the doctor, and they said my TSH is at 4.5, and that this shift isn't good for me. And I know it isn't, as I frequently have to battle suicidal thoughts, caused by the utter fatigue and drain this has been putting on me starting about 3 months ago, getting worse by the week it feels.

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I'm only stabilized by pure willpower, knowing those troubling thoughts are intuitive and NOT ME, my 7 day off period which rests me once a month, and the knowledge that I don't have a choice but to work here if I want better in life later on.

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Does anyone know of any medication I can take to manage the physical and mental fatigue in replacement of proper sleep?

I currently work a full-time rotating 12hr shift in manufacturing, plus needing to move from Southeast Georgia to Chicago, entirely on my own in order to apply for my dream job/place of being an electrician in Chicago. Unfortunately, that means doing pre-apprenticeship stuff is outta the equation unless it either doesn't take longer than a month, month and a half, or I can do it while working full-time in another job in Chicago.

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My plan is to completely pay off debt, and save up at least a couple thousand dollars so I can afford to be unemployed for a little while, but other than the IBEW apptitude testprep, what can I do to maximize my chances at getting in, without trade experience?

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Apprenticeships down South DO NOT pay well enough to live on my own, so doing that is outta the equation, since my parents live in the middle of nowhere without tradesmen jobs, hence the absolute need to move out of state for better opportunities.

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Is it possible to get into 134 on high test score and interview alone?

Tryin' to weigh up the pros vs cons of moving to Chicago or not. I currently live in Savannah, GA working a roating 12hr shift that definitely affords me ability to live downtown, but is taxing my health that I need out of.

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I've already tried applying to the only job down here that I'd be interested in making a career out of, Avionics Installer (apprenticeship) at Gulfstream. Doesn't look like that's happening since it's been 3 weeks since I sent in the application and gotten no response, despite me having ALL of the qualifications for the job, and knowing I'd be a good fit. I'm just not being given the chance to prove it.

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That said, should I keep trying to get that one dream job in Savannah, GA, or should I continue paying off the rest of my debt over the next year's time, then move to Chicago to become an Electrician instead? I've always dreamed of living in a big city ever since I visited LA in 2023 (I previously lived in the middle of nowhere rural town before moving to Savannah for the meantime, adding 50min commute on top of 12hr shift I was so sick of rural living.), but is "big city living" really worth it, or should I keep trying for Gulfstream? An apprentice electrician wage in Savannah is poverty level btw for the price of the city, and journeyman pay isn't that good either compared to up North.

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Also, I do have extended family in Michigan I can temporarily live with if need be, while I search for a job and place in Chicago.

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Savannah, GA pros:

1. BEAUTIFUL city.

2. Traffic isn't bad.

3. So long as I stay in Midtown or Downtown Historic, I can literally put on my running shoes, and start running straight out the door.

4. Run Club

5. 4 hour drive from Atlanta, Orlando, or Charlotte if I get the urge to visit the "big city".

6. The Atlantic Ocean in the South during the summer is GREAT. Warm water to swim in.

7. I already have all my daily activities here (gym, running, various places to eat, various grocery stores, Asian Grocery).

8. Bikeable downtown/midtown.

9. Almost never snows.

10. Can run year-round

11. Lots of nature integrated into the city. Lots of greenery, 3 big parks, and lots more green square parks to lounge around in.

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Savannah, GA cons:

1. Overpriced compared to the pay of majority of the jobs here. (Much as I complain about my rotating 12hr shift, I am financially fortunate to have this job. Albeit at the expense of my physical and mental health.)

2. The ONLY career I'd wanna do, is at Gulfstream Aerospace, Avionics Installer specifically.

3. I'm still relatively new to the city, and I'm already getting bored of seeing the same sights every day. Is that a thing that happens anywhere I go, or is it because Savannah is a small city?

4. Even if I do choose to want to stay here, I may have to move anyway if I can't get that job at Gulfstream.

Small City. (I don't have big city living to compare to, but maybe this is a con?)

5. Occasional hurricane or tropical storm.

6. Can run out of things to do.

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Chicago, IL pros:

1. More job opportunities

2. Higher pay electrician work.

3. Endless? things to do? (Maybe rose colored tourist glasses)

4. Don't have to drive everywhere. Can take public transit around on my off days.

5. Will satisfy that burning question in the back of my mind of wanting to find out first-hand what living in the "big city" is like.

6. Actual Japanese market (I love Japanese food.)

7. Lake Michigan beaches nearby (not sure if I'd eventually acclimatize to thise ir not).

8. There may be more I don't know of.

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Chicago, IL cons:

1. Stop and go traffic. MAJOR MAJOR downside for me. To be an electrician in Chicago, I'd need to drive to my different work sites I hear, and based off my experience driving in Atlanta, GA my ADHD does NOT fare well in stop and go traffic. Like, I uncontrollably start microsleeping behind the wheel level "not well". I do do surprisingly well in fast paced chaotic driving areas like on the freeway in Atlanta.

2. Snow. Snow is pretty much an alien substance down South, so I have no idea how to be safe driving in the snow, how to look out for black ice, how to drive when I loose traction in the ice or snow, or how to not slip while running in the snow. Pretty much any "common sense" things about it yall Northerners know, I do not.

3. The cold. Down in Savannah, it gets AT THE COLDEST to the mid 20s on occasion during the two months of "deep winter" we get. Except for that one freak artic blast we got last winter which brought it down to the low 10s.

4. I don't get to wear my exercise clothes year-round. Stupid con, I know, but I like the comfiness and breathability of exercise clothes. Can wear them pretty much year-round down South.

5. I have NO IDEA how to pick a place to live in Chicago. Especially with me uncertain on what job I'd get if I can't get my dream one, or where my dream one would have me working. In Savannah it was easy to pick a place to move to. Chicago is so big, I have no idea.

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I did all of Act 1 without doing any side quests cuz I thought I couldn't stop doing the prologue/act 1 till compeletion. After looking on Reddit, I found that I should be doing side quests during Act 2, which I'm currently at, so I started doing so. Guess that Takemura guy can wait a good looooong while, lmao.

But after running into and doing the "Ballad of Buck Rangers" quest, why are V and Johnny buddy-buddy now despite Johnny telling V to, and I quote, "Stick some iron in your mouth and pull the trigger." Am I missing something or should've gone further in the main questline? I'm at "Playing for Time" main quest right now.

I'm curious how a holy grail war would go down with that happening. Besides the obvious Archer killing Shirou.

I'm looking at trying to get an apartment in Savannah, specifically the Addie, but the apartment tour rep person couldn't give me a clear answer on what to expect for electric bill.

I currently work a rotating 12hr shift that's taking a major toll on my mental health that I need out of pretty quickly. I don't wanna become poor (the one good thing about my current job is I'm financially well off because of it. At other expenses....), so I feel like Gulfstream is the only option I have. I sent in my resume 8 days ago, and am still waiting for an update on whether it's even been seen or not. I'd like to know what's going on with that, so I have something to look forward to. Or if my only way to a better life is a no-go.

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I took my car key to the beach today in a waterproof bag that apparently wasn't good enough. In the past I've triple protected it with a plastic bags and tissues and it came out fine, but I forgot to do so today.

Can I get another key made, and/or this one fixed, at a locksmith? Would it be cheaper than the dealership?

I took my car key to the beach today in a waterproof bag that apparently wasn't good enough. In the past I've triple protected it with a plastic bags and tissues and it came out fine, but I forgot to do so today.

Electronics kinda do work/don't work. At first I wasn't able to unlock my car, so I did so manually and was able to drive home fine. Tried taking the car back out to go somewhere else later this day after attempting to dry the key off with tissues, and now the car thinks I'm an intruder (I bet it's due to some electronic key thingy in the fob that recognizes me as the owner?) and won't start. Then later on the car started beeping locked randomly, and alarm going on and off till I took the battery out, so something's gotta be doin' something in it.

Can I get another key made, and/or this one fixed, at a locksmith? Would it be cheaper than the dealership?

I asked her if she wanted to meetup and spend time together at, and after a 10k race the day before mother's day (today), for breakfast. Then day of, we could've found somewhere to eat breakfast at, either nearby, or downtown to go walk around after eating if she wants to drive an extra 20 minutes into the city (I live in Savannah, GA so it's a city where you can go for coffee, and a nice walk afterwards in the Historic Downtown area. She lives in a rural town 1hr away from the race place, then another 20min from there to downtown. Or 1hr 10min straight to downtown.)

I know it sounds like my plan, and it was, but my intent was to give an opportunity to circumvent my own social inadequacy, by giving what I felt, to be a higher quality meetup, rather than simply going to her place and just... sitting around I guess. Not much of anything to do there I feel, hence I moved out in the first place. Also, I believed that the endorphins from the race would've helped me be able to talk better than I usually do, plus it would've given a topic to talk about rather than just small talk.

I didn't like... tell her my thoughts which might be my failing, just asked her if she wanted to do so about a month ago which she responded to with a heart reaction, which I assumed to be a yes, and looked forward to it for the past month, and showing off what I can do (beat my PR by 5min 15sec). Then she got sick a couple days ago, and decided yesterday to not come due to the rain. Races are only canceled in event of SEVERE weather, not just rain, so I was doing it regardless. I feel like if she really wanted to go, she could've just taken some meds, grabbed an umbrella, and still went. That's what I would've done at least if I were in her shoes, unless I was feeling completely bedridden shitty, in which case I would've told my son so, and apologize for not being able to make it, rather than simply "I'm not making it to the race tomorrow, says strong storms for tomorrow", "Yuck, I'm already sick with a kidney infection, I don't need to get sicker" (Reddit's being dumb, won't let me unbold from here).

Thing is though, she didn't even bother waking up early to at least check the weather and how she felt, like I would before deciding to call out of work or not from sickness. Am I being selfish due to wrapping time spent together around stuff that *I* believe to be a way to spend quality time together? And would I be the asshole if I don't show up to Mother's Day due to feeling let down? It wasn't originally HER idea, it's mine, but this is the first time I've bothered asking a family member to be at a race for me, cuz I felt I would've just been asking them to go out of their way for something I wanna do. Only reason I bothered this time, was because I also planned on doing something for them, too.

Forgot to mention: Forecast morning of said no rain.

I'm talking both smaller local, and bigger event races, seperately. I just did a smaller 10k race and got second place out of 40, with a time of 50:40. When I race, I always go out wanting to COMPETE, maybe not intentionally trying for a top placement, but I always "compete" against my past self, with the goal of doing "the best I can" every race. I've somehow gotten better and better with each occasional race I do, but I consider myself an "intermediate runner", knowing that there are so many others faster than I out there.

Am I facing imposter syndrome, or do most people actually TRY to do their best like I do, and I am in fact, pretty decent? I personally do not care about how I perform against those whom don't try and compete to the best of their ability, rather, race "just for fun". I consider them a separate category. I care about my performance against those whom are "competitive" like me.

I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that doing a race just for fun is a bad thing, nor am I trying to put down those who do. I do it for fun too, but fun isn't the ONLY reason I do so. I just wanna compare myself to those whose priorities in running are similar to mine.