u/LateDxOldLady

Seems just as bad as doing Hairspray, West Side Story, and other shows that are very specifically about certain cultures. I cannot see anything good coming from this endeavor, only bad stereotypes and lack of depth. I have seen their productions before. I guess this is a vent and an invitation to discuss inappropriate choices for shows.

ETA: NOT MY SHOW. I was searching for auditions in my area, and, personally, I take issue with this theater doing that show.

Fawning is a learned survival mechanism that doesn't actually protect you from shit. It's a child's response to dealing with shitty adults. I'm no longer a child, and they are still shitty adults. Pretending to not be disabled will further disable you. Masking (aka camouflage) is self harm. Studies continue to demonstrate that masking is deleterious to autists' health and contributes to high unemployment and suicide rates.

The ableism I have encountered within the ND community is by far one of the very worst aspects of trying to find community.

It seems to me that the issue is full grown adult humans expecting to be monitored and managed like pre-verbal infants. If you want me to turn down the AC, Doris, you're going to need to pull up your panties and specifically make the request, or put on a freaking sweater.

I've been trying to help people understand that time blindness and difficulty initiating tasks are crippling to people who deal with it, but I also understand the receiving end's perspective too. I'm trying to help people see what reasonable accommodation is. What has been your experience with this?

I often think about someone I used to know who was habitually late to everything, except for his cast calls when he was in shows. He would arrive late and then bitch that the thing started without him. Or that people didn't wait. We're talking about a man in his 40s. Does he struggle with executive dysfunction? Probably. He also suffers from main character syndrome.

He was the kind of guy who would arrive late, and you'd find yourself apologizing for his lateness. He was late to my 20th anniversary party. Said absolutely nothing to me. We apologized that the cake had already been cut.

Where's the line?

ETA - please remember that ADHD is a disability. Also, alarms and reminders don't fix task initiation issues.