u/Major_Worldliness556

I’m 17, a middle child, and I come from an ethnic household. When I was younger things were somewhat nicer because I had been the youngest. My parents argued and my dad would yell and occasionally slap my siblings and I. We didn’t have much money but we managed to move up to middle class because of my dad.
My dad has always provided and my mom would buy things here and there, but she’d let my dad do most of the money spending when it came to family.

Fast forward a few years, i graduated grade school early and im attending college now. If im not at school, im stuck cleaning and babysitting literally all the time. On monday, my dad got frustrated with the youngest and brought her inside after they went on a walk. He screamed at me to take her to her bedroom and he went to go sit down.

(The screaming isn’t anything new. My family has always thought that he was bipolar (undiagnosed) and so on.)

While he was sitting in the kitchen, I was making lunch/dinner for everybody else. My grandma came over like she usually does but I was a little annoyed with her because she was upset earlier about something small (she’s bipolar- has been diagnose as well. NOT from dad’s side of the family.)

Ok so, im making food, my grandma comes in and im just quiet. She starts speaking in Spanish asking me why im mad and im like “im not mad.” And then she starts saying my dads name (i was kinda annoyed because the screaming was unnecessary) and then that leads to my dad screaming, my mom coming inside, and me standing in the kitchen, in the middle of all of this. My dad screams at me to go to my room, he doesn’t wanna see me anymore, to get the fuck out of the house and get a job (I’ve tried but it’s super hard when nobody wants to hire a teen with no experience) and just a bunch of rude things. He yelled at my mom and grandma as well (my mom takes it because he’s basically her wallet) and my grandma yells back. (He started yelling at me because I started to cry when I was just STANDING there and doing nothing- what else was I supposed to do?)

I go to my room and the next day I don’t talk to my dad. The day after that he makes me go to his religious class that he’s always msde me go to( I don’t really like it) and I go because I have no choice or else he’s gonna yell. Later that night he tries to make it up by hugging me but I tell my mom to tell him to leave me alone and I leave to my room. I don’t know what she else she had told him but she basically told him he was being an ass hole to me.

He also told my older siblings not to bug me, he called me self centered, and that I think the world/house is gonna fall apart without me, not to clean anymore and that if im watching the baby, im doing my mom a favor. (Nobody else cooks or cleans, I take care of the baby because I have to)

Yesterday was his birthday, that was fine, I said happy birthday and didn’t talk to him or anything I was just regular.

Today, I had to clean up after my mom and dads birds (they have lots of birds because they bought them all as a hobby 😐 grandma used to clean them up because she got paid to do it, but she’s not visiting anymore after that). Nobody else is helping. My brother helps a bit and that was it. My mom comes home and starts complaining saying that cleaning isn’t my strongest skill and whatever but I put up with it. She also tells me I need to stop with that attitude and I tell her “there is no attitude. I’m trying to finish up because you told me to hurry up…”

Throughout the years, I’ve always felt more like a maid/babysitter rather than a daughter. Yes, they provided for me and I’m grateful for that, I also feel bad because of this. I want to leave. I wanna study abroad and do something with my life. I haven’t told them about that because I know they’ll say no.

Even my grandma said that I’m stuck at home always stressed because of them and she wasn’t wrong. I don’t have friends really and I can’t drive.

AITAH for wanting to leave this house? For wanting more with my life?

any tips for me as well pls?

Edit; forgot to mention that on the day dad got mad at me, he said it well over 7 times that he wanted nothing to do with me and that he didn’t wanna see my face. every time ever since I was a little girl, I would cry when he yelled at me. It’s kind of like a bad habit I guess.

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