u/Mewlover23

I used to work for safeway from 2017-2022. My mother now works there because she wants to get out of the house and around people. There is a woman that has worked at the store since I was like a baby. Like over 20 years. And got a promotion several years ago to store director and was moved. She ended up coming back to this location and demoted back to bookkeeper.

Unfortunately, and I don't know what happened, she started to target my mother. She has had a lot of health issues and has had a few injuries and a surgery. From what I have heard, this woman has accused my mother twice now of faking doctors notes, accused her of theft while she was a customer as she needed some items, yelled at mom that she doesn't put thieves on the checkstand, accusing mom of wanting her job, and generally being an ass to my mother. I've taken my mom to the doctor's and I have seen her in severe pain to where she breaks down crying. To accuse her of faking fucking doctor's notes twice now has me furious.

Calling local 400 is not going to do jack squat as it was just basically brushed under the rug the first time. And the store director was changed just yesterday. For the like 10th time in several months. But I am about ready to raise hell with this woman myself. She used to be so nice and kind. She was nice to my mom until this woman went back to bookkeeping. I might not have the best relationship with my mother at this time, but I'm not going to let someone like this woman treat my mother like this.

How the heck can this be resolved before I end up getting myself banned from that ghetto store after raising hell with this lady?

Why in the hell does she not care? Literally trying to tell her how I should not have known half of the things she told me since I was little. Things that no 7-17 year old should know or be involved in. Trying to tell me that my step father shouldn't dump everything on me. I turn around and tell her she did the exact same thing to me since i was 7. Her response? "So?" That she had to because I had to know things? What the fuck? And trying to go on about how she is trying to get away from my step dad, how we won't help her, and completely ignoring and trying to change the topic of what she just outright admitted.

How the hell do you just tell your adult daughter "so" when telling her she did the same thing to me? How do you just ignore the fact that your 29 year old daughter, who moved back in a foolish attempt to help you, that she has wanted to kill herself since the age of 7 and part of that deep depression was her dumping every issue onto kid me? Told her I am trying to address this topic and this issue and she wants to go on and put all the blame on my step dad and repeats how she is trying to get away from him, how we won't help her and blah, blah, blah. Why am I not shocked but wanting to cry at the same time?

This might sound stupid to complain about, and it did at first to me as well, but this is every single time. Before I shower (we only have 1 bathroom), I make it verbally clear that I am going to get in the shower. So that whoever has to use the toilet or brush their teeth can do so. My step father doesn't really care and says he's fine. My mother on the other hand will purposely wait until I am getting my towels to decide she has to brush her teeth and sit on the toilet for several minutes. Every single fucking time! The few times I've said something, she tells me to stop complaining because she will be out soon.

I've had it and just went off on how she does this every time and how I feel disrespected because I give warning and how it feels like she is giving me a big "fuck you. I will do what I want" type reply. And will anyone guess what she did after she got mad that I got mad? Fucking smiled and laughed about how "grumpy" I am. Still brushing off any actual feelings and what I voiced. Heck, if I did not move back to help her and my step dad, I would have a bathroom to myself! Not worry if some 69 year old decided that the moment i bring my bath stuff into the bathroom that she suddenly has to go. Is this some sort of control type shit she is trying to pull? Because she's done similar before. Or is she actually this much of a general ass regardless of how small and such this issue is?

Wow, fighting over a fucking toilet bowl scrubber that she claimed was for the tub. Screaming at the top of her lungs because my step father used the god damn TOILET BRUSH to clean the TOILET. one of those things with the replaceable scrubbing thing. And she fucking went nuts. Screaming about how she bought that for the tub, how she specifically told me (I legit damn near had mental breakdowns for the last several days at work and have the current memory of a goldfish and did not even remember). She did not tell him and she literally had it by the toilet. Screaming at him about how he should have known better, how he shouldn't have used her things to clean the toilet (DESPITE US NOT HAVING ANYTHING TO SCRUB THE TOILET OTHERWISE), how she wont be controlled and how she is going to get her disgusting pig of a homeless brother here to help her. The same brother of hers who talked about my nieces big chest in a very inappropriate manner and forced himself into the bathroom on me twice and my mother and step father once each. Asking what she should destroy of his since he supposedly destroyed her toilet brush.

What. The. Fuck.

At least 11k on debt. Maybe 12k. 5k in fucking affirm that started out with just needing some help with a litter box for my mother and step father as their cats were going to the bathroom in the living room. Tried a regular litter box and they wouldn't clean the poop and pee. Got a litter robot 4 for them for the living room. And stupidly went into different Amazon purchases that were either for the house, the car, or the pets. And some random othet bullshit that was absolutely not needed like more work clothing. Then 6k in credit card debt. I'd get 3 or 4 of the cards paid off and then build it all back up.

I fucking promised that I would never get myself into a similar situation like my older sister did. That I would never do such a thing. I only had a kohls card that I paid off montly and used only a little bit of. Then I ended up with 3 capital one cards and a chase card. As well a stupid credit one card that I wish was never opened. I'm not even sure on how to tell anyone. It's stressing me out so fucking bad and I can't blame anyone but myself.

Locked all of the cards, paid one of the smaller balances off, and hope to pay the rest off the cards and just close all but the chase card and 1 of the capital one cards. Cut the rest up and trash them. Part of me had debated getting a personal loan to try to pay the cards off and just have one payment, but I also know that would make things worse for me more than likely. What else can I do to fix this? Before this, I was so good at saving money and not doing stuff that would put me in credit card debt. I don't know what happened.

So....my mom basically disowned me over something stupid. Over a joke. Something got on the windshield of my car and I joked that she accidently did that. Because she had a hot dog and I joked to please not make a mess in my brand new car. I washed my car an hour or two after that and saw something on my windshield. Looked like mustard and I cleaned it off. Tried to joke with my mom about how she might have accidently gotten it on the car. And she flipped out. Screaming that she didn't do it and how she wouldn't be accused. Screamed that she wants nothing to do with me, how i need my own car insurance (she insisted on us being on the same plan), how i need to do this or that. I can't do this anymore with her.

For my own mother to scream she wants nothing to do with me over a joke....knowing I moved back here to help her and to try to have a better relationship with her....hurts to the core. I wish i never even opened my mouth because I should have known I am not with a normal mom who I can joke with. Part of me wishes that I was not here and was with my dad and oldest sister, who are no longer here, if there even is an afterlife. Anywhere but with my mother.

My mother is 69 years old. I moved back in summer 2024 for a few reasons. One of which was to help/try to help her. A lot of me is regretting that decision on a lot of reasons. This being a big one as it's caused many fights and her going as far as ripping the thermostat off of the wall for hours. Around the time I moved back, she started to complain more and more about being cold. Putting the thermostat to 73 and saying 72 was too cold. Then to 74. Then 74 with just about every single vent in the house shut and her wearing a coat. Flips out if she sees a vent open (step father opens the 2 living room vents as he's up all night) when she wakes up.

This woman stood 10 toes down adamant that she was freezing cold during several periods where my area had extreme heat warnings, and feels like temps being over 110. Shut all vents and was wearing a coat. Even wanted to put it on heat for some inane reason. Unfortunately, this has caused many fights between all of us. Especially her and my step father as he has really bad asthma and the temp sometimes triggers an attack. During one of the times my mother ripped the thermostat off of the wall, he was mid attack. Coughing and having issues breathing. She didn't care. Kept it on her person for hours.

I've been adamant that she sees a doctor. That this isn't normal as who the heck has a coat on in extreme heat warnings and wants heat on during that? That something could be going on with her. Something serious given this, issues with her memory, and literally claiming to not sleep much at all every night. She fights and says that my step dad won't control her and that I, her 29 year old daughter, especially will not control her. That she will not be controlled and made to go to a doctor. I've gotten mad. I've begged. I've offered to pay any medical test or visit needed. Tried to barter with her. Nothing. She claims it is only from the AC, now the mold that some person claimed we had in the attic, and another reason I can't remember right now.

I can't do it anymore. I can't deal with the constant fights over the temps, especially between her and my step father. I can't deal with her constant coughing that has gone on darn near without much break, since she got covid in 2022. Nor with her resisting care for herself and claiming anyone trying to get her to a doctor is controlling. How do you deal with older parents like this? Do I just say screw it and leave her to my much older sisters? They had lives and kids. They think all this is some exaggeration and they need to see how she really is right now. I just want her to get the heck get body needs.

It showed up to the dealership yesterday. Had pending sale on it for weeks. Am I stupid to worry that it could be sold to someone else? I feel stupid for even worrying, but I put 500 on it to reserve the vehicle. I've been excited about the thing and now i am somewhat nervous if it makes sense?

I know this is going to sound stupid, but I currently am working on a psychology degree. For the last while, I have been thinking of changing to communications due to having wanted to work with news stations or radio stations since I was young. I am about half way done with the degree and feel stupid about wanting to switch now. I mostly just have my upper lv psych classes left and some other higher lv classes. Would it be stupid or even possible?

I know this is a dumb question but my diabetic cat keeps trying to sneak the food of the other cats. I've seen this cat food online and was wondering if anyone else has been good with their diabetic cats eating that. What dry food can I get that he can eat with the others? He's only been diabetic since the beginning of the year.

I know this is a little weird and probably my own fault. Back in late 2019 or early 2020, I was working at a grocery store starbucks. I had several regulars. One of which is a woman who quickly grew attached to me. Looking back...i should have noticed more as she was saying she wished she was my MIL even though her son had a girlfriend. I figured it was a joke with my shelrerd self. Was still really ignorant at 22 and 23. There was a lot going on in my life and my own mother has never really been a good mother. Or one that I could really talk to without her flipping it on me, or refusing to listen. I stupidly started to look at this woman as almost like a second mother.

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Move to Feb 2022 and I moved out of state. She was not really happy but we kept in contact. Stayed where i was until July of 2024 and moved back to try to rebuild something with my mother, help her, and partly because i couldn't really afford everything despite 2 jobs and being very frugal outside of several dental issues. My mother works in the same grocery store that I was in and told my regulars that I was coming back. As they were growing unhappy with how the current manager is running the kiosk in that store...they came to my location. Her included. But since moving back...she has grown odd. Demanding only me and a few others make her drink. Getting weird about when I work. Mad that my schedule has changed since getting a promotion. It has gotten to the point my manager has had like 2 talks with her and it has not changed much.

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She also, like a few weeks back, found my mother, while AT WORK, and started to basically yell about how unhappy she was that I wasn't working, did she know when I was working/wanting my schedule, and being generally just kinda insane. Let's just say my mother was not happy at all with her and was slightly not happy with me for some reason over it. I admit that it was insane to hear. Because why are you screaming at my mom about me not working the hours I used to? People at work are starting to speculate that I was groomed by this woman. Which I am unsure about given i was in my 20s the entire time I've known this woman and am 29 now. But I am getting rather freaked out at this point and do not know what to do anymore.

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I had closed. I stupidly did the safe count AFTER finalizing the deposit. Don't know why I did, but I did. So I was somewhat scared to take any money out of the deposit bag. Am I able to fix this tomororw as I am midshift and will probably be counting the tills for midday? Am I going to be in trouble? I counted the safe 4 times and it resulted in the same number.

As stupid as this sounds for a 29 year old woman to say....I've had issues for years. I think it started when I was 12 and had some severe trauma happen that resulted in me stopping the act of showering or brushing my teeth. It also happened that my mother got rid of my dental insurance and quit taking me to the dentist. Had no cavities or any issues brushing my teeth prior. Would always do it in the morning and before bed. Then all that happened and I would not brush for months. Would get scared as my mouth would hurt and my gums would bleed a lot when I tried to brush.

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I've paid for it from the age of 19 until now. Several crowns, fillings, 2 teeth are just gone because a temp broke while eating a carrot, and a redo of another root canal ended up with finding a hidden nerve that had a root fracture and couldn't be fixed outside of pulling said tooth. With all this....I feel like I should be hyper obsessed with brushing to avoid more dental issues. Specifically the sister before me having lost all her teeth my like 30 due to not caring for her own teeth. But I still have many days where I just don't brush my teeth before work. Only at night. And even then I still have thoughts of "i dont need to/want to" and it just makes me feel like some lazy bum. I've managed to brush my teeth every morning for the past 4 days, but fear I may grow inconsistent.

There's a reason my oldest sister went NC with mom for 6 years. And I damn well am going to best that time. We've always had issues. Mostly after my father died and she just threw toys and pets at me as if that would help anything and doing things like restraining me for god knows how long because I would act up in grief. I was 5. The years of abuse she did to me caused me to still hate touch at the age of 29. The years of abuse she allowed to have happen to me have had so many negative results.

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I finally got out in 2022 and lived on my own until mid 2024. I wanted some sort of connection after losing my oldest sister and my 2 childhood dogs. I've tried so fucking hard to fix things she broke and to help her. Even though I feel like nothing more than a free Uber and dog walker and other shit. Making me watch her dog suffer for months because she refused to put that poor dog down over my step father and I saying she needed to be put down...claiming she wouldn't be controlled....that really fucked me up. She ignored the shit out of that dying dog and me and my step dad had to feed her and give her water. That poor dog was blind, deaf, terrified if touched, couldn't eat or drink without aid, couldn't really walk, clearly had dementia, and had a constant ear infection that was never fully fixed other than when my step dad took her to the vet when mom allowed it. I was the one that had to hold that dog the night she died. Mom just gave her body to the shelter for cremation and said she didnt want anything back. Then demanded to go to the shelter and get a puppy a week later. A dog she has also neglected nor trained and I am the one fully caring for her.

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If that didnt make it clear to me that i will not be in her life and need to GTFO ASAP, her blaming me for being groomed from the age of 19 and eventually raped by a man 18 years older and was with a group of people who made life hell..that did. But i shouldn't have been shocked as she said i lied about being molested by an ex friend and had me crying in the corner while her and the parents of the boy screamed at an 11 year old me.

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Something that just happened over this last hour just keeps making it more clear of a decision. There was a huge fight over her car and about fluids leaking. She refused to check and my step father wouldn't leave it alone for days. Big explosion happens between them, somehow we end up checking the car and she had very little transmission fluid. This was several days ago. He asked again if she checked it to make sure it wasn't leaking. This woman has obsessed over it for the last hour, tried to say that I was being bothered by him, and made a note to him and involved my name. Told her to not put my name in it, we argue as she says it isnt my place to be involved (despite her putting my name in this note???). I asked her to keep me out of the note as I do not want to be the 3rd person in fights all the time.

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What did this lovely mother do? Literally threaten to get involved in any relationship i have and fuck it up. Get involved and side with the other party no matter what happened. That she would force her way into it since I somehow want to force myself into their issues. The fuck? Fuck that. She wants to be all alone? She will have it the moment i walk the hell away from her worthless ass.

A trash can. A FUCKING TRASH CAN. My god! My step father, who hardly does jack squat in this house, wanted to clean the outside trash can. She is flipping shit over the fact that she couldn't dump her half bowl of cereal and milk directly into it. Said it is on purpose to inconvenience her. Then somehow started bitching at ME for saying that we can easily just dump it into the sink and take the cereal from the strainer. Her answer? She doesn't want trash in the house to keep gnats out. THEN WHAT IS THE POINT OF THE INDOOR TRASH CANS!? WHY DO WE HAVE THESE CANS IN THE HOUSE!?

She needs to shove her OCD and controlling issues up her ass. Everyone was having a good few days and she can't stand it. And it is ALWAYS ON MY DAYS OFF.

I haven't done inventory in a while. But I didn't check the computer on IMS to check everything. I had sent everything and approved it on the iPad at the end of the night. But my SM called me not too long ago asking if I sent in the inventory. She said that the system might just be loading it slowly? Did I screw up? I was about to go to bed and now I am paranoid that I missed something and will end up in trouble.

Classes for summer began on the 18th of May. It is now June 2nd and nothing has been seen about a summer refund despite having seen i was to get one. The aid department claimed refunds for us wouldn't get out until this week. This has never happened before and I've seen me and fellow SCAP Co workers get our refunds on time. Was told to call back on June 12th if it wasn't given out by then. But how many others are going through this issue? I was hoping to get that money in order to buy a physical copy of the textbook for my current course and my upcoming math course as I wanted to practice before session b. It has become frustrating that the school doesn't want to say anything else other than that claim and how we had some sort of special hold.

For the love of God, it is 70 degrees outside. Ac unit shut off, windows open to air out the house. And you fucking say you're cold all the way in your bedroom, IN THE BACK OF THE HOUSE!? That you are utterly freezing like it is winter in your room? 2 years of this. 2. Every single day it's "the temp needs to be 73 (now she is trying 74 and 75 and claiming to be cold on 73) because I'm cold", putting the HEAT on with it hot as heck outside. Wearing a coat most of the time in the house. It isn't like she doesn't have insurance because she does. "I don't have time to go to a doctor" the hell you don't? You sit at home almost all damn day and hardly work. Quit trying to rip the thermostat off of the wall, wearing coats, complaining all the damn time if you are going to refuse to get your iron levels checked.

This was not a problem until I moved back in to help you, and all of a sudden you have an issue with the temp EVERY SINGLE DAY!? Forcing almost every single vent in the house (outside of 3 of the 4 bedrooms) shut and now refusing to even let us have windows open? All 3 living room vents and the kitchen vent are shut tight and you are still wearing a coat? It should have been a sign to get to the damn doctor when you were wearing a COAT with a heat warning! You're so damned obsessed with the temps that you get off the couch every 5 minutes to see if anyone touched the thermostat. Get to a fucking doctor, mom. I didn't move back to sit here and be subjected to this bullshit and watching you become more ill mannered, ill tempered, more vindictive and much more. Coughing your ass off but you refuse to get someone here to clean the vents, even with me saying I will help pay, and refusing to let windows be open despite the fact that you stop coughing when the windows are open and you breathe in fresh air. Almost like you want the fucking attention of your youngest adult daughter on you 24/7. Get to the damn doctor and get your cough and issues with being cold taken care of because I can't take this shit anymore. And yes, I have told her all this and she does not give a damn.