people keep saying " you wouldnt want to waste time running to the window" but wouldnt you run to the window so you could see what happened first, then you could call 911 from there, by the time you got outside 911 would be there. he said 911 came within 5 mins of him calling. it wouldnt be faster to go run outside and see what happened than it would be to run to the window, which IMO is what any person would think to do first.

ive thought that if he did do this,

possibly tried to strangle her then hang her so it looked like she did it (there were marks around her neck, and maybe her wrist from pinning her down or tying her hands together. in the 911 call he said what happened to ur neck first to try to act clueless so it wouldnt look like he was hiding something) and then he left her in that bedroom, locked the door. maybe she somehow realized, and was able to escape,. the door was locked and thats why it was red because she couldnt open it, so she just jumped out the window-maybe she was drugged so she fell badly. then he found her there and at that point if he killed her further it could have showed evidence for a homicide for whatever he would have to do to kill her, so he called the police waiting for them to show up so it would be recorded on a call, and he thought she would die in the hospital (she almost did because she coded 2x) or that she would be so drugged and unable to talk that she wouldnt be able to remember or defend herself.

maybe the blood from the cuts around her neck and wrists were because he tied something there like ropes or whatever to cut off her circulation, and ones around her wrists so she could move. and maybe she used the knife to get them off her, thats why there was cuts around her writs/neck, and but also deep things that looked like being strangled. she couldnt leave the room so she jumped out the window

we needed a notarized letter for school for my second child starting kindergarden even tho my daughter alrdy attends this School..

anyway it took him almost a month to finally get the paper and drop it off. school starts in 2 weeks. I am now registering him tomorrow, and realizing he wrote my address with unit 2. we live in a duplex so unit 2 is upstairs, but he does own both units. I just wrote over the 2 with a 1 with my pen, bc I dont have time to wait for him to get a new paper. is this going to be a problem with the school? they know we live here and my daughter goes there and my neighbors upstairs are also students at this school, nothing im saying is lying but he just wrote the wrong unit number on original paper :( pls help. thanks.

im pretty sure I have AVP. I am 34 now. I currently have no friends or anyone I talk to outside my 7&5 year old. ive had periods where I felt better with interacting with people but I still have the problem. I avoid dates. I avoid getting to know anyone. the only social things I go to are for my kids so they dont grow up to be like me, I take them to birthday parties, and things almost everyday, even tho im awkward and uncomdortable the entire time.

I even dont go to th e same coffee shop etc once I feel they start recognizing me or wanting to be more friendly with me. I hate that I am like this bc its stopped me from fully living my life. I lost potential friendships and having great pppl in my life bc of it,, and now at my age and having more perspective its rlly painful to look back on and realize.

last night I watched this movie that I remember watching a long time ago and liked it then too but I cant say how much I relate to, the avoiding any work stuff, ppl, dating, etc.ialmost scary how much I relate to the main character (outside of the fact that I dont have a fake doll but everything else lmao) just like staying completely alone and avoiding ppl, and having abandonment issues. I guess the truth is I never fully confronted them.

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hey guys, so I have one of the worst housing authorities there is. to put it briefly, they are in a building in the city with no parking, there are no walk ins anymore, and appts are scheduled one month out.

no one answers emails, and phones calls are only a couple hours a day, and you sit on hold even if you call right when they open, for hours, and sometimes never speaking to someone; if you do speak to someone they often either lie or make stuff up, or you wait so long that they are then closed. talking to someone is impossible. I lost my chance to move to a new unit because they never responded and gave me. a new packet for months, so the new place had to move on. im baiscally stuck in my current unit till I get off section 8 cuz they wont do paperwork.

anyway, apparently I had an inspection in may, which I never got a letter for. one day I randomly decided to login into rent cafe portal, which is new for us, we didn't have a online portal up until a year or so ago. I went through everything and saw that it said I no-showed this inspection. I then spent like actually 1-2 weeks just harassing them everyday to talk to someone, it was stressful and took up a lot of time that I dont have, and finally got them to reschedule it and give me a date.

they failed my inspection bc the inspector couldn't tell whether the smoker/carbon monoxide alarms were *10 year guarantee* and my landlord said they were but got new ones. ok cool. they schedule a new inspection and I waited for 8 hours for him to show up never did. I emailed them, no response as always. I check my portal everyday and it just says there was a scheduled inspection but doesnt say it was inspected. I asked them for a new date, no answer.

ive only been on this program for 3 years now, so some of this is still new for me, and I realized I moved in June 2023, and that my last recertification was cleared last June. I was just thinking about it and how I never got paperwork for it. I checked my rent cafe portal and there's nothing no letters sent for a recertification or nothing pending or showing up under recertification. are they waiting to finish the inspection? I emailed a caseworker who sometimes responds, so ill she what she says. but idk if I should be worried. im really sick of this HA and trying to finish my degree and get off section 8 ASAP because I find this all frustrating, and causes me a lot of stress and anxiety, knowing I could lose my voucher at someone else's fault. has anyone dealt with this before? also something really weird to me is my upstairs neighbor also on section 8 living there for over 3 years now and never got inspected outside of her original one, yet ive been inspected every year.

I am 34,with two young kids retuned back spring 2025

Here’s the thing: I come from a very dysfunctional and unsupportive family. Ever since I left high school, all I really wanted was to go to college. But we had no money, and my home life was pretty abusive. During my sophomore through senior years of high school, I became severely depressed and my grades suffered. I also had absolutely no perspective at the time, and my mom didn’t want me to go to college. It honestly felt like she wanted me to struggle the way she had.

After high school, I spent a year at home working maybe 15 hours a week. During that time, my mom had breast cancer, but she told nobody. I was 18 years old, watching my mom be sick and having absolutely no support myself. Meanwhile, everyone else I knew from high school seemed to be living their lives, going out, meeting people, partying, figuring themselves out, etc. I remember staying up until 6 AM watching movies and crying because I felt so alone.

The following year, I secretly applied to my local community college. Because my mom had two jobs, even though we were barely surviving financially, I didn't qualify for grants and could only get loans through FAFSA. I basically said, "I don't care, I'm going anyway," and I actually did well.

A year later, a friend who lived in the city needed a roommate, so I moved in with her and transferred to a community college there. Unfortunately, it didn't work out. I had trouble living with her and her friends because I had basically forgotten how to socialize. I had no support system, had to pay rent, and was trying to go to school at the same time. This was in 2012. I couldn't handle everything, felt like an outsider, I was underweight from having no money for food, and eventually moved back in with my mom after a year.

I will probably always regret that decision.

I went back to my original community college and eventually got into a relationship that ended up causing a lot of problems in my life. I did eventually transfer to a four-year college and got my own apartment again, but I ended up dropping out after getting pregnant. I had an abortion because I didn't see how the situation could work, and I struggled emotionally afterward and dropped out of school again. Eventually I moved back in with my mom.

A year later, I became pregnant again. I dropped out of school again, had my first child, and then became pregnant again only eight months later, even though I wasn't in a relationship with their father anymore. There was a LOT that happened during those years including DV that I'm not going to get into because this post is already ridiculously long.

Basically, my GPA became terrible because of all the times I withdrew or received Fs. It took me many years of raising two kids on my own, getting stable housing near a school, and paying back money I owed before I was finally in a position to return.

I went back to college in spring 2025 at 32. Initially, I decided I wanted to go into nursing. Because of my old GPA and all the Fs on my transcript, I spent a long time just getting my GPA back up to a 3.0, which is the grade you. need to even APPLY for tthe nursing program, and its very competitive. Unfortunately, by the time Ive done that, I feel like its jus going to take long, and I might not get in, because I was not guided correctly by my advisor, who didnt put me in the pre-reqs for nursing, bc she didnt think id be able to do it, in a nut shell. so I have very little nursing pre-reqs completed, it would take a long time to finish a degree in nursing, I may not be interested in it as im getting older. I feel like so much of my life was just, struggling.

Now I'm 34, and I'm starting to wonder if going back to school is even a good idea.

I don't think anyone on campus knows my age. I've always looked younger, so I'm guessing most people probably assume I'm in my mid-20s or something. But I know I'm 34, and I feel extremely uncomfortable about it. I have a hard time making friends with other students, and being on campus can feel incredibly lonely.

I'm also lost about what I should major in now that nursing isn't really an option. I'm open to something science-related, education, accounting, or other fields. I've been meeting with an advisor and trying to figure it out.

Financially, there's another layer to this. In my state, there are grants that are supposed to make tuition essentially free if you attend full-time at my age/income level. But apparently I used up all of my federal student loans last year, since when I was attending college as an under 25 year old adult and need to include my parents income, I was not eligible for any grants, but they didnt help me with nothing, and I always had to hide that I even was in college age all. my mom doesnt even know now, I just tell her im working, but I receive got help. anyway, I received mail saying I had borrowed too much loans, even though I literally just accepted what was offered to me, and I've had to deal with that whole mess. I'm still waiting for my financial aid/grant package now, and I'm worried it will be too late to figure everything out.

So part of me is wondering if I should just quit school and go back to work.

The problem is that the highest I've ever made at any of my jobs was around $23/hour, and I didn't particularly like any of those jobs. I'm worried that without a degree, my options for making significantly more money are pretty limited. I'm also worried that if I don't finish school, I'll be stuck relying on government programs to help me afford things.

And yet... I LOVE being in school. I genuinely love learning. Since returning, I've gotten mostly As and a couple of Bs. I'm a good student now in a way that I wasn't capable of being when I was younger.

That's what makes this so hard.

I feel shame, embarrassment, and isolation because I'm older than everyone around me, but I also don't want to give up something that I actually enjoy and that could potentially give me better opportunities in the future.

Sometimes I feel like I'm living a double life at school. Nobody there knows I'm a 34-year-old single mom with two kids or everything I've been through to get back to college. And honestly, part of me likes that. For a few hours, I can just feel like a regular college student instead of thinking aboutthe parts of my life that carry so much shame. But then I leave campus and go back to my real life, where I often feel judged. no one knows my full story, and sometimes that hurts. I wanted this life when I was 18. it just took me a lot longer, and a much harder path, to get here, and now with 2 kids who depend on me and still no support from anyone.

I'm honestly just looking for perspective from people who have been through something similar. I feel really lost right now and kind of depressed.i have a 5 and 7 year old who I raise entirely by myself ,their dad now lives 11 hours away and has not paid support in 2 years. I feel like my whole life has been an entire nightmare.

I am 34,with two young kids retuned back spring 2025

Here’s the thing: I come from a very dysfunctional and unsupportive family. Ever since I left high school, all I really wanted was to go to college. But we had no money, and my home life was pretty abusive. During my sophomore through senior years of high school, I became severely depressed and my grades suffered. I also had absolutely no perspective at the time, and my mom didn’t want me to go to college. It honestly felt like she wanted me to struggle the way she had.

After high school, I spent a year at home working maybe 15 hours a week. During that time, my mom had breast cancer, but she told nobody. I was 18 years old, watching my mom be sick and having absolutely no support myself. Meanwhile, everyone else I knew from high school seemed to be living their lives, going out, meeting people, partying, figuring themselves out, etc. I remember staying up until 6 AM watching movies and crying because I felt so alone.

The following year, I secretly applied to my local community college. Because my mom had two jobs, even though we were barely surviving financially, I didn't qualify for grants and could only get loans through FAFSA. I basically said, "I don't care, I'm going anyway," and I actually did well.

A year later, a friend who lived in the city needed a roommate, so I moved in with her and transferred to a community college there. Unfortunately, it didn't work out. I had trouble living with her and her friends because I had basically forgotten how to socialize. I had no support system, had to pay rent, and was trying to go to school at the same time. This was in 2012. I couldn't handle everything, felt like an outsider, I was underweight from having no money for food, and eventually moved back in with my mom after a year.

I will probably always regret that decision.

I went back to my original community college and eventually got into a relationship that ended up causing a lot of problems in my life. I did eventually transfer to a four-year college and got my own apartment again, but I ended up dropping out after getting pregnant. I had an abortion because I didn't see how the situation could work, and I struggled emotionally afterward and dropped out of school again. Eventually I moved back in with my mom.

A year later, I became pregnant again. I dropped out of school again, had my first child, and then became pregnant again only eight months later, even though I wasn't in a relationship with their father anymore. There was a LOT that happened during those years including DV that I'm not going to get into because this post is already ridiculously long.

Basically, my GPA became terrible because of all the times I withdrew or received Fs. It took me many years of raising two kids on my own, getting stable housing near a school, and paying back money I owed before I was finally in a position to return.

I went back to college in spring 2025 at 32. Initially, I decided I wanted to go into nursing. Because of my old GPA and all the Fs on my transcript, I spent a long time just getting my GPA back up to a 3.0, which is the grade you. need to even APPLY for tthe nursing program, and its very competitive. Unfortunately, by the time Ive done that, I feel like its jus going to take long, and I might not get in, because I was not guided correctly by my advisor, who didnt put me in the pre-reqs for nursing, bc she didnt think id be able to do it, in a nut shell. so I have very little nursing pre-reqs completed, it would take a long time to finish a degree in nursing, I may not be interested in it as im getting older. I feel like so much of my life was just, struggling.

Now I'm 34, and I'm starting to wonder if going back to school is even a good idea.

I don't think anyone on campus knows my age. I've always looked younger, so I'm guessing most people probably assume I'm in my mid-20s or something. But I know I'm 34, and I feel extremely uncomfortable about it. I have a hard time making friends with other students, and being on campus can feel incredibly lonely.

I'm also lost about what I should major in now that nursing isn't really an option. I'm open to something science-related, education, accounting, or other fields. I've been meeting with an advisor and trying to figure it out.

Financially, there's another layer to this. In my state, there are grants that are supposed to make tuition essentially free if you attend full-time at my age/income level. But apparently I used up all of my federal student loans last year, since when I was attending college as an under 25 year old adult and need to include my parents income, I was not eligible for any grants, but they didnt help me with nothing, and I always had to hide that I even was in college age all. my mom doesnt even know now, I just tell her im working, but I receive got help. anyway, I received mail saying I had borrowed too much loans, even though I literally just accepted what was offered to me, and I've had to deal with that whole mess. I'm still waiting for my financial aid/grant package now, and I'm worried it will be too late to figure everything out.

So part of me is wondering if I should just quit school and go back to work.

The problem is that the highest I've ever made at any of my jobs was around $23/hour, and I didn't particularly like any of those jobs. I'm worried that without a degree, my options for making significantly more money are pretty limited. I'm also worried that if I don't finish school, I'll be stuck relying on government programs to help me afford things.

And yet... I LOVE being in school. I genuinely love learning. Since returning, I've gotten mostly As and a couple of Bs. I'm a good student now in a way that I wasn't capable of being when I was younger.

That's what makes this so hard.

I feel shame, embarrassment, and isolation because I'm older than everyone around me, but I also don't want to give up something that I actually enjoy and that could potentially give me better opportunities in the future.

Sometimes I feel like I'm living a double life at school. Nobody there knows I'm a 34-year-old single mom with two kids or everything I've been through to get back to college. And honestly, part of me likes that. For a few hours, I can just feel like a regular college student instead of thinking aboutthe parts of my life that carry so much shame. But then I leave campus and go back to my real life, where I often feel judged. no one knows my full story, and sometimes that hurts. I wanted this life when I was 18. it just took me a lot longer, and a much harder path, to get here, and now with 2 kids who depend on me and still no support from anyone.

I'm honestly just looking for perspective from people who have been through something similar. I feel really lost right now and kind of depressed.i have a 5 and 7 year old who I raise entirely by myself ,their dad now lives 11 hours away and has not paid support in 2 years. I feel like my whole life has been an entire nightmare.

I live in a first-floor unit of a two-unit duplex. My upstairs neighbor’s unit is directly above mine, and our mailboxes are mounted outside the front of the house where her entrance is. Her mailbox is the higher one and mine is the lower one.

I’ve started receiving a LOT of mail for people who do not live in my unit. When I first moved in, I would occasionally get the next-door neighbor’s mail since he used to live here, which I understand.. I only knew because my upstairs neighbor told me and sometimes his mail I left in my mailbox would disappear so I figured she went in and took it to give to him. I didn’t care much at the time right

But now I’m regularly getting mail for my upstairs neighbor’s baby daddy. I remember one was from a bank and then other ones from I have no idea what. I got uncomfortable from it because the last time I had two mail in my mailbox for him that was under two different last names. My neighbor said he has two different last names. ? Because we have different units, He didn’t write a unit number, and because I’m the first floor, I think it automatically gets assumed that it’s for me. He does not live with her and he didn’t ever live with her so I’m really confused why he was using his address in the first place and whether or not he purposefully left the unit number out to maybe perhaps try to do some sort of fraud without making it unit one making it look like it was a mistake.

Anyway, when we were both out there, and I asked her, if both of those last names were his, and she said yes , She also asked me if I knew there were postcards in my mailbox, which made me uncomfortable because it made me realize she has apparently gone into my mailbox before. Now I’m wondering if they use my mailbox and take stuff out of it or check if his mail is in there.

I decided to ask my landlord when I have more money if I can install a locked mailbox with a slot so that nobody can get into my mailbox. And then I wrote unit one residence only on the outside and then I lifted up the top and put a note in here with our names on it and I wrote, please don’t mail anything else here & please shut the top securely. I don’t want people to just be looking in my mailbox or rummaging through it as if it’s a for all mailbox or something.

the babydaddy father does NOT live in my unit. He lives with his mother. His mother, my upstairs neighbor and me all have section 8 because of the last name thing and getting mail here it’s just starting to make me suspicious why he isn’t getting mail delivered to his own address, or even writing unit two instead of just leaving it blank so that it sent to mine.

I’m concerned because I don’t know why someone who doesn’t live here would be using my address for their mail. I don’t know if there’s anything improper going on, and I’m not accusing anyone of fraud, but given the circumstances I don’t want my address associated with something I have nothing to do with. They are all really sketchy people, which is why I don’t feel comfortable with anyone even looking in my mailbox anymore. I’m going to get a secure locked mailbox as soon as possible after I talk to my landlord. Because I have section 8, I don’t want it to somehow create problems with my housing or make it look like additional people are living in my unit. Which makes me wonder if they’re doing some sort of fraud.Again, I’m not accusing anyone but honestly, nobody else’s mail should be sent to my mailbox andI’m tired of getting the next-door neighbor Neighbors mail his in my mailbox all the time. It shouldn’t be my responsibility. I feel like a Karen, but it’s also an liability issue..if someone has my address listed as their residence or if I’m constantly getting & responsible for their mail.

I’ve also realized that I’ve probably been too casual about misdelivered mail in the past. Sometimes I’ll grab my mail and bring it inside without looking carefully at every name, and I don’t want to accidentally open someone else’s mail. From now on, I’m planning to return anything that isn’t addressed to me or another resident of my unit.

1. Should I continue leaving incorrectly delivered mail in my mailbox marked “Return to Sender — Wrong Address,” or should I take it directly to the post office?
2. Should I contact USPS and tell them that people who don’t live in my unit are repeatedly receiving mail at my address?
3. Is putting a “Unit 1 Residents Only” note inside my mailbox reasonable, or is that unnecessary?
4. Would a locking mailbox be a reasonable solution?
5. Is there anything else I should do to protect myself from someone using my address without my permission?

I’m not trying to start drama with my neighbor. I just don’t want to be involved in whatever this person may be doing, and I want to make sure there isn’t a situation later where I have to prove that these people don’t live here.I already have enough in my life and I don’t need unnecessary things happening from other people

Am I overreacting, or would you take this seriously too?

* EDIT*** I just googled it and when you Google his name, his address comes up as my address and it looks like he opened up a business two months ago!! I think he’s using my address for his fucking business address and I’m on section 8…

I know this might sound ungrateful to some people, but I'm honestly just looking to see if anyone else has been in this situation.

I've been on food stamps, TAFDC, Section 8, and a childcare voucher for about 3 years. I have two kids (one going into 2nd grade and one who just finished Pre-K), and these programs have helped keep a roof over our heads and food on the table. I'm grateful they exist because without them, I honestly don't know where we'd be.

At the same time... I'm so tired of depending on them.

People sometimes assume you're just getting free money, but what they don't see is the constant paperwork, recertifications, reporting every little change, and feeling like you have so little control over your own life.

For example, I wanted to do a few Instacart orders just to make $20-$30 when money was tight, and then I had anxiety over having to report it to multiple agencies. Something that should have been simple became stressful.

I also feel stuck where I live. My apartment would rent for about $2,700 a month (which, unfortunately, isn't unusual here in Massachusetts). It's nothing fancy—just a small, older two-bedroom duplex on a busy road. I've wanted to move, but trying to move with Section 8 has been incredibly difficult. I actually found a great place, but the housing authority took so long processing paperwork that the landlord couldn't wait months with no rent coming in, so I lost it. After that experience, I kind of gave up trying until I'm off the program.

Last year I wasn't working because I went back to college full-time. Before that, I worked full-time, but I was making barely over $2,000 a month—which wouldn't even cover rent where I live. That's exactly why I decided to finish the degree I had already started years ago before I had kids. My hope is that finishing school will lead to a career where I can support my family without relying on so many government programs.

The plan now is to go to school full-time and hopefully work three days a week. It'll be exhausting between school, work, and being a full-time mom, but I have a goal.

Their dad isn't involved much anymore. He moved about 10 hours away, hasn't paid child support in two years, and owes around $20,000. My family isn't really in a position to help either, so it's pretty much all on me.

I have my TAFDC and SNAP recertification coming up in a couple of weeks, and part of me just wants to say, "Forget it. I'll figure it out." I know that's probably not the smartest decision financially, but I'm just mentally exhausted from depending on these programs.

I'm thankful they've helped me get through a hard season. I really am. But I don't want this to be my life forever. I want the freedom to earn extra money without worrying about reporting every little thing. I want to choose where I live. I want to build a career and support my kids on my own.

Has anyone else gone through this? How did you transition off benefits? Did you wait until you had a higher-paying job, or did you slowly phase off them? I'd really appreciate hearing from people who've been there.

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I currently have no money for nine days and I just need money for gas and food. I didn’t make an Amazon wish list but the post got removed. I was seeing if anyone can help I could probably make deal with like $35. thank you !! I’m a single parent and I have two young kids and their dad hasn’t supported them for two years and I’ve been trying to do it all by myself and it’s been super hard. Please no judging comments. I’m doing my best.

I have a neighbor who’s constantly copying everything I do. To copying my Snapchat stories to suddenly wanting to garden plants, to the way she dresses, etc. And then she acts like they were all her ideas first and it’s really gross and weird and it makes me uncomfortable.

On top of this, she’s taken advantage of me and used me for free childcare and for household items and food for way too long

Is there a way I can get her to stop copying me and leave me alone ?? I feel like I can’t even post anything on social media anymore because she’s just going to steal my ideas and copy me, and honestly makes me feel ill. she also has a teenage daughter who’s always around with her boyfriend, her friend smoking weed and just playing music loud and having zero respect for me and I’m honestly just so sick of them in general.

oh, and she recently got back with a boyfriend who is posting all over social media, domestic violence, awareness, and bruises that he did and now she’s back together with him and posting how they’re so in love and blah blah blah blah blah and it’s really fucking weird. And then she just tries to copy my personality and what I post and what I do in my hobbies and interest in it so uncomfortable.

example: I post that I got a knit kit and want to start knitting

next day: she buys a knitted figure puts it in her car and talks about knitting

anorher example:

I bought a bunch of flower pots and started planting some flowers and I posted it on Snapchat with a filter in music

next day: she suddenly wants to plant flowers. Does the same thing posted with the same exact filter on Snapchat

another example: whatever shoes I buy in the winter sheet the next day has the same exact shoes/ boots (insane)

another example : she’s always had really small sedan cars and I posted how I wanted a black SUV and I was saving my money for it in before I could get mine. She went ahead and got a big black SUV right before I could afford to get one so it looks like I’m copying her

another example: I posted tattoos that I wanted, and she literally went and got a shit ton of tattoos in one of them was the fucking exact one that I wanted to get so now I’m not getting it

oh something else : anytime I die or change up my hair she literally runs to the beauty salon or the hairdresser and gets her hair done. It’s so fucking weird weirdo and she’s also copied my haircut🫠

I stopped sharing stuff like that on social media, but I feel like I have no privacy and she also lives upstairs and it really makes me angry that I can’t even post how I used to cause she’s just gonna copy me and I just feel like trapped in like annoyed 24 seven like I can’t be myself

my son is entering kindergarten next year. I also have a seven-year-old daughter in the Neighbors kids who live upstairs are five and eight. The eight-year-old is a boy who is very violent and has a lot of behavior problems when I see him getting off the bus he’s hitting kids etc. and he does the same thing at school. He’s very violent and I also suspect that he injured one of my guinea pigs on purpose and they aren’t allowed at my house anymore. The younger daughter who is five this past year would constantly ask my daughter for a play date every single day on the bus and me and then she would harass us all night for a play date because her mom’s off doing I don’t know what and she wants a parent to watch her instead of the teenage daughter that usually watches her, but I can’t do it anymore and I want nothing to do with this family. I know one things were close and all of this since they live upstairs the bus driver even thought they were our cousins and such, but I want nothing to do with them and because the older boy who is eight, my son won’t be going into kindergarten next year and he likes playing with the older boy and I don’t want his really bad behavior to rub off on my son. monkey see monkey do etc. Would it be too much to email them and ask for the kids not to be sitting next to each other? Because I don’t want the girl harassing us for play date dates again I actually don’t want them in my apartment ever again and I don’t want my son to start acting like the violent boy.. I don’t wanna be problematic or dramatic or anything, but I am trying to protect my kids

heloo. I’m a single parent of 2 young kids their dad hasn’t helped for 2 years. i’ve pretty much pay my bills and then I’m broke again for two weeks and then pay my bills and then I’m broke.

I really need help with laundry (laundry mat( and detergent ($25)and gas for a few days ($10) thank you!

I’ve been having ongoing issues with my upstairs neighbors and I’m honestly at my limit.

The teenage girl is constantly blasting music, and it carries through my entire apartment. She skipped school and plays music all the day by the way her mom is home this entire time and her mom just lets her do whatever the fuck she wants. I can hear it in every room of my house. At first, I tried to be understanding because people are allowed to listen to music and I didn’t want to be difficult about it.

But it’s gotten to the point where it’s really disrupting my daily life. I can’t study, clean, or just relax in peace. Every day she stays home from school, which is multiple times a week. It’s just constantly playing loud throughout my entire house and I have to listen to bad music. . I end up having to play my own music louder just to try to drown it out, which just creates even more noise and overstimulation. There’s basically no quiet time in my own home.

It feels constant and exhausting, and it’s really affecting my ability to have any sense of calm in my space.

I’m not even sure what the best next step is at this point, but I needed to get it out somewhere and ask if anyone has dealt with something similar and what actually worked.

My ex is supposed to have parenting time with our two kids (ages 5 and 7) on Saturdays for about 8 hours. He moved about 10 hours away around five months ago with his dad bc his mom couldn’t pay rent anymore , and since then he’s only actually seen them about once every couple of months and has been largely inconsistent with the parenting plan. He also hasn’t paid child support in about two years.

Recently, he had the kids during his visit today he only came baxk to see them for Father’s Day after not seeing them for two months . Him and his mom are weird. they came back to the state over as his mom is doing pet sitting for her job. She apparently was staying in a house. To pet sit (really using the house bc she’s homeless) , which is a house I don’t know and have never met the owners of. I already wasn’t comfortable with that, but I later found out he told my kids they could sleep over there next week.! I don’t even know if the owners know that the kids were going there today and I’m not comfortable with her bringing my kids there to her house she supposed to pet sit at to use for her son’s parenting time it just sounds weird .

This was never discussed with me at all. There is nothing in our parenting plan about sleepovers, (they may had for a sleepovers total when he was living at his mom’s, but that was over six months ago, and it was random times. It wasn’t consistent. ) and I was never asked or given any details about whose house it is, whether the homeowners even know children would be staying there, or any safety considerations.He also hasn’t paid child support for two years and I doubt he even has money to feed them etc.

I ended up having to tell my daughter she couldn’t sleep over, and now she’s upset with me and saying I’m “mean,” because she was already told she could go.

I’m frustrated because:

• He’s making plans involving overnights without any discussion or agreement
• The location is a completely unfamiliar third-party home, and I’m concerned with safety
• I’m being put in the position of being the “bad guy” after the fact
• And there’s already a pattern of inconsistent parenting time and non-support

I’m not trying to block normal parenting time, but I don’t feel it’s reasonable or safe to just arrange overnight stays at a stranger’s house without consent or even basic information.

Has anyone dealt with something similar? How do you set boundaries around this without constant conflict?

also, this house was a mansion according to my kids that had a pool and a movie theater and all of this so they think I mean and that their dad owns this house and stuff when he’s actually has nowhere to live and just jumps around from his parents homes. He owes me $18,000.

I feel like they just try to put up this idea in my head that him and his mom are so cool and have all this money and that I’m the mean parent.On top of the fact that they don’t know how to swim in apparently there’s a pool there. That’s so totally unsafe.

hello, I’m a single parent. I just need $20 to get some laundry done and I currently have nothing clean. :( I don’t have money for a week but right now my needs are laundry

thank you!

My ex hasn’t paid child support in almost two years and currently owes around $18,000. During that time I’ve been raising our kids essentially by myself. I went back to college to finish my degree, so right now I’m on assistance programs while I work toward getting a career that will actually support my family long-term. I’m not proud of needing help, but I’m doing what I can to improve our future.i’m pretty sure all of that money is owed to the state so I won’t even see it one and if he’s ever able to even pay that much back I believe he hasn’t paid a dollar for two years and he must think it’s going to be erased or something. kids are only 5 and 7.

The court order says he’s supposed to see the kids once a week for 8 hours, which was a schedule that was made two years ago. In reality, the courts didn’t listen to me about how he was lying about his job and this and that and they did what he wanted even though I tried telling them, so I don’t have a lot of faith in the courts since then him and his mom went homeless, which is no surprise because neither of them worked, and he had to move with his dad even further away than his mom. 10 hours away and now since maybe four or five months ago and he seen them one time and now he wants to visit again on Father’s Day, which I think is disgusting. How can you celebrate yourself as a father. Him and his mom rented an Airbnb or something and they want to take my kids for the weekend and they are so delusional. I said he can take them for the day on Sunday. I guess, even though I’m not happy with it, but if I don’t, he’s gonna clean then I’m alienating him and not letting him see the kids, even though he hasn’t even seen them for two months. He does nothing for them. I’ve told that him and his mom that my kids need clothes and shoes can you help out and they do nothing they only help when it benefits them. They see my kids every few months and drop them off with bags of toys yet they don’t pay child support or provide food or clothes or nothing.

Usually he just pops up and says he’s coming to visit and expects everyone to rearrange their schedules.Because we still have this original once a week for eight hours visitation schedule I’m not sure what I’m supposed to do so I allow it.

The frustrating part is that schools and other people see a custody order and assume he’s actively involved, when the reality is that I’m handling the day-to-day parenting, school, appointments, activities, birthdays, and everything else by myself. They always loop him in with emails and stuff and I don’t even think he deserves any of that because he does nothing for my kids. And it also just makes people think that something’s wrong with me even though I’m doing the work of two adults all by myself with no help.

I’ve avoided going back to court because the last time we were there he made false CPS allegations against me, and the entire process was stressful, time-consuming, and emotionally draining. But at this point I’m wondering if the current order no longer reflects reality.

If you were in my position, would you file to modify the parenting plan and address the child support situation, or would you leave things alone?

in reality, I won’t be able to use some of the state government programs producing and I will need child support to help me raise my kids.Also, when I finish college, I plan on going back to work full-time and I will be losing a lot of my government program help and I will definitely need the child support. I’m just so sick of everything. I’m just so sick of doing everything while he just shows up when it benefits him and acts like he’s the dad of the year award. It’s just so disgusting.

He doesn’t has a license or car, he lost his license over a year ago from not paying child support and did nothing to try to get it back. Him and his mom are doing some unhealthy thing where she enables him to do nothing and not work and she has control over every interaction. Both of them are raging narcissist

— i’d also like to add that I don’t trust his dad. He has two dads that are gay and I definitely do not trust my kids sleeping over there so I don’t want any future custody plan of them staying in Maine for weeks cause I really think that they are not safe to be alone with the kids.—-