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I've only been in 4 relationships my whole life. 3 from 6th-8th grade, and one my senior year.

The last two I had I'm pretty sure both had an anxious attachment style (8hr-20hr phone calls each day, guilt tripping over alone/resting time or wanting off call even if we weren't talking).

I am thinking of trying out dating again one day in the future, but the idea of having no alone time ever freaks me out.

I know my past two relationships weren't normal, but I really have no idea how much time is spent together in a "normal" relationship.

I do want to find someone to spend the rest of my life with! I just want a few hours alone to read or draw or catch up on a show every now and then y'know?

Thank you so much!!

Note: due to the fact my last two relationships were anxious attachment people may get the impression it's a avoidant-anxious trap, but my counselor has repeatedly assured me I am not avoidant, thankfully. Just wanted to clarify!)

I work retail, rely on a mobility aid for anything more than 30-60mins outside of the house.

I love being positive and polite and friendly NOT because it is my job, but because I do enjoy helping people and talking with others.

It's gotten hard recently. People glare at me like crazy. Had a women walk by the self checkout twice and each time I'd ask how things were going she'd look shocked, grossed out, and then pretend she was getting a phone call. BOTH TIMES.

I have a lot of people touch my back or shoulder or neck without permission and leave it there. Usually either old men infantilizing/talking down to me or evangelical women/men trying to convert or heal me.

I will go up to someone at checkout with an alert, be 2 feet in front of them, ask them if they need help, and they will STILL smile at me like I'm too dumb to figure it out, not say a word or acknowledge me, then turn to flag down my coworker 5 self checkout aisles down, as I repeatedly tell them I can help solve the issue.

Was going to greet a tween boy on a mobility scooter with his two older adult brothers when he yelled "Oh great! Now the cripple is looking at us 🙄!" And instead of the adults telling him to apologize or do literally ANYTHING to tell him that's wrong/bad, they just dipped into an aisle away from me to avoid me.

The people who just do their business in the accessable stall are always so kind and I feel bad because they're always apologetic when they don't need to be.

But the people who are in there for 10mins vaping/on a phone call/playing a mobile game ALWAYS come out and look at me disgusted and frustrated like I just popped out of existence to make them look bad and they never apologize :(

I've been being glared at and ignored more frequently when greeting people, more than usual, and I can't do it anymore.

It's getting harder and harder to do my job because people are just getting meaner and look at me like I'm sub-human or have no brain!!!

I don't know... How do you stay positive when people are like this?

Thank you

After struggling with EPS for months before my med manager realized it was a med I'd been on for many years, I am severely de-conditioned. I am also struggling with dull throbbing pain in my whole body. I will wake up in the morning feeling sore and weak and in pain as if I had a full body workout the day before. I don't know why.

I've been trying to look into physical therapy, but I do not know if they can help me get re-conditioned or help with pain without knowing the root cause.

Usually OTC pain medicine works, but after seeing a neurologist he said I should not take too many every week. I do not want to ask for pain medicine I am scared they will think I am drug seeking. I am already on so many medications (5 for other health issues, 4 for mental issues, 9 total).

Is this something physical therapists can help with?

Thank you <3

Hello! I am 19 and have a younger sister (technically step siblings but we're very close) who comes around only a few weeks out of the year, mostly holidays.

Unfortunately their bedroom is quite empty and so I try to keep my eye out for things she might like in her bedroom so she feels more at home and actually wants to come visit!!

The thing is I'm awful at it (◜▽◝;⁠)ゞ I figured since I used to be a young tween/teen with the same geeky interests like anime, comic books, and fashion I would know what she likes, but I was sorely mistaken.

Don't get the wrong idea, I still ask her first what decor she specifically wants in her bedroom and check with her before I buy anything!!! I just cannot for the life of me figure out where to shop to look for "cool" stuff!!! I'm always getting it wrong haha!!!

I also have nooo idea what is trendy right now!! We're not far in age but I think it's because we're technically different generations I guess? I'm Gen Z and she's Gen Alpha?

I don't know man I'm trying my best and I keep sending her pictures of things I think she might like, that she doesn't like/want and then I get super embarrassed haha (◜▽◝;⁠)ゞ

I know her interests are going to change every year and that okay!! I want her to feel like it's her room every time shes here and if that means swapping some styles of things out every now and the so be it!!

What are your younger geeky teens currently interested in when it comes to room decor? Anything super "trendy" or "cool" that I may not know about??

Thank you so much have a great day!!! (˶◜ᵕ◝˶)

I don't mean random thoughts either (though I do get those as well), I mean sim-ish levels of gibberish (◜▽◝;⁠)ゞ maybe even muppets levels of wacky. It does not go away and it keeps me up.

My current screentime averages around 85-95hrs a week (though about 20 of those hours are having YouTube pink noise/soft speaking on while trying to sleep) so more likely about 65-75hrs.

I can't keep doing this. I want to be outside. I want to see people more. Being online is easy because I do not have to overexert myself to do others bare minimum.

But fuck it hurts to see the news, watch people have fun on the opening day of your favorite water park you used to be able to stay at for 2-3 hours on good days.

It hurts to see people online doing the hobbies you used to be able to do for hours until the pain got too bad to make it worth it and now you haven't done them in months.

It hurts to see people give to charities, and look into ways to help your local charities, then being told by someone professionally that you need to look into signing up to receive help from that exact same charity you'd been looking into to finding ways to help.

I don't know what else to do. If I'm not constantly distracted then my body just wants to sleep, become overly aware of pain, or if I've missed my meds for a few days then something even worse.

I feel this need to keep myself constantly distracted from my life and I feel like it's causing me to lose it. I'm not quite sure what to do anymore.

What are the best things you all do offline? Thank you, have a great day <3

TW // Suicide Allegory , Suicide & Self Harm Topics . Please Be Cautious Going Forward .

Just saw a post with 200 upvotes saying "Jax abstracting was an allegory for suicide, and in the end everyone was happy, ERGO suicide = you should do it because everyone will be happy. The creator should be put in a mental hospital" 🫩

As someone who has attempted, lost friends to suicide, and has struggled with suicidal & sh ideations for over a decade (two years clean currently) how did you get that takeaway...?

The characters experienced a very natural reaction and the same stages of grief everyone has gone through.

Denial - they aren't sure how to feel about it, prosses it, or handle it. I have been through this before, many have, and it's a very human way for people to first react to a death.

After a friend passed it took two weeks until the day of the funeral itself for me to realize they're not coming back and I completely broke down.

Depression - The characters break down, Ragatha has conflicting feelings like it should've been her instead of Jax which is a very common feeling for people to have and DOES show she cares.

Even people who didn't like Jax struggled, both Zooble and Ragetha curled up and had an extremely hard time coping with it, to the point they couldn't leave their spot form where they were crying.

Not once did they suggest "this is so much better now that the guy I don't like is gone!!".

And to those who may point out Gangle, that is a very normal response to someone who dying who has physically hurt and bullied you. I've had those feelings, its conflicting because even though the person did do bad things, you still mourn them.

Bargaining - Pomni literally goes out and searches for Jax in hopes of reversing the abstraction (my personal interpretation of "I can help fix you" when she first entered) and she wants to help him get closure that they wished they would've known sooner because they do care for him and wanted to help him, they wished he would've told him.

Many people do not see these sides of their loved ones, let alone people they have hurt post suicide,

and it is actually one of the things that has helped PREVENT me and inspired me to get help. Whenever I think of the reality of people's grief post death its distressing and helps a lot for me personally. (though it may not for everyone)

I do not believe anything about it signals "this is the right choice and everyone is happy!!! Yay!!!".

I think where people get confused is typically one of the final stages of greif (though the stages greif are often not linear and can happen in any order).

Acceptance - Jax's friends build a space for him (in the real world I would equate this to a shrine, memorial, or grave for the person to rest and be remembered). They are shown taking great care of it and maybe even visit and speak to Jax if possible.

They still clearly miss Jax, but they've come to terms like most when death occurs. It doesn't make them "happy" because that is not what made them happy.

Learning about their lives in the real world, Caine having a redemption and being able to have control over the circus and not be forced on adventures is what made them happy.

The movie still makes it incredibly clear that they miss Jax and if Jax had come to them

(NOT victim blaming, meant to show the audience why they should reach out because by the time you may realize people care it could already be too late 😞 someone made a great comparison to "the view from halfway down")

they could've helped him and been there for him like he had wanted.

It's just such an odd take to me.

Also, there is nothing wrong with being triggered (not talking about it as a "joke", I mean psychologicaly due to trauma or PTSD, I hate how the Internet has changed the term).

It happens to all of us. I frequently have to check the website "doesthedogdie" due to being diagnosed with PTSD myself.

It's okay to reach out for help afterwards, there is nothing wrong with that <3

But when people harass the creator/s of a show for things like this it signals to others they shouldn't write about their experience with suicidal ideation/losing someone to suicide/suicide/self harm because any meantion or allegory of it is "defending, endorsing, enabling, or romanticizing it".

I love when writers bring these topics up because when I was a kid experiencing it but not having any idea what it was, I had been playing a video game about a person attempting suicide. I saw one path where the person had gone through with it and another path where they had been successfully talked down.

I was 10, it was the first time I had realized not only WHAT I was feeling, that OTHER PEOPLE felt it ASWELL, but WHY I needed to reach out for help. I let my mom know, she contacted my doctor, my doctor ended up diagnosing me with depression which I didn't even know was a thing as a kid, and I've been in therapy for a decade and to this day I thank that representation for WHY I am still here today. I could not have survived all those years without receiving treatment.

Stories like this are important not only for people to share their life experiences, but for others to realize what they are feeling and WHY they need to get help.

PLEASE reach out for help if you need to, I have seen the impact suicide has had on a community and there are so, SO many more people than you think that care about you. It never feels like it in the moment but I've seen it many times firsthand. More than I can count.

I beg you please find someone that is safe for you to talk to and who you can trust. It is never too late.

Sorry for ranting the post I saw just had me very frustrated 😞topics like these in media are so important to me as someone who's had a near lifelong struggle with it and it hurts when any meantion of it in media is put down.

Thank you for reading <3

"Oh! Have I not told you? Well this beautiful antique couch was once owned by our current United States Vice President!!" He explains to my horror as I realized why the couch cushions were so moist

You're already shaking when you notice your reflection in the vanity looks quite like your mother, and the man's bride in the faded wedding photo resting beneath looks just like you.