title says it all
is this related to my will maybe ?I do know I have a weak will and for some reason my unconscious mind has the fear that things don’t go well unless they go so bad first for a big shift
I wanna change that subconscious set
is it like you never feel like you want to do anything for yourself or interest or entertainment etc ?
or is it that you can but you don’t feel what people describe as warm inside ?
the reason I’m asking this is that I just learned that the lack of empathy is not even a requirement to get diagnosed with NPD so doesn’t this mean the main two requirements left are the grandiose and the lack of self feeling?
so what I’m saying is mostly my personal experience but I would find it great if others can relate to it or see themselves in it ,I think most us agree NPD is a reaction for a messed up childhood I would take this more further to saying that a narcissist is still in that childhood actually ,the need for admiration comes from the lacking of it as a kid
the need to lie comes of the need to be protected as a mid
the victimhood mentality is because the narcissist was indeed a victim as a kid for years
the fear of abandonment comes mostly from the fear of rejection by the care giver which mostly led to harming the narcissist as a kid
the masking is real in the sense that as a kid the narcissist at home was barely anything other than an object while outside was a member of society ,a kid with two lives and two characters already .
so everything that lead a narc to be this way is the lack of a genuine parent figure with genuine connection to it
so my theory is what if a narc finds a parent figure ,someone already very high in whatever you are interested in (so you don’t devalue them later they should be someone you know you probably can’t reach them like for example let’s say you are interested in philosophy the figure would be already an old professor in it etc )
and that figure for whatever reason will be ready to have a genuine connection and care towards you that you love and respect therefor you imitate them and take traits like empathy etc from them (same dynamic when a kid imitates a healthy parent )
does this make sense as a logical conclusion?is there already a therapy using such method ?