u/ThrowRA01102023

Should I give it one more shot or cut my losses?

I recently reconnected with a guy I met on dating apps a few years ago. We are both in our mid 30s! I reached out to him via IG

He’s back in my hometown which I’m moving to in just a couple of weeks because I got a job there. When we first met for dinner, he did ask if I was single now and if I was dating anyone, etc., which made me assume he was somewhat interested in me.

Our 2nd date was about a week and a half-2 weeks later. We had movies, dinner and drinks. It seemed to have gone well. Our dates are spread apart because of me living in another city.

Then we had our 3rd date September 10th. We went out to a baseball game. At the end of the date he did ask if he will see me again soon, and I said sure. At the end of the weekend, I texted him to let me know when he will be free one of these weekends and that I’ll make some time to come up. He replied saying “for sure!” and we had some small talk about our nfl team playing. He never ended up replying to my last message.

It’s been over 2 weeks now and I haven’t heard anything. He is busy, he manages and owns a bunch of franchise restaurants but I know it only takes a few minutes out of your day to send a text or check in.

He comes off very passive and has been hard to read. Not sure if I should just brush it off and wait for him to text me, if he does; or if I should try reaching out one more time. I don’t want to come off as clingy and double text.

A month or so ago I reconnected with a guy I matched with on a dating app 5 years ago. I wasn’t sure if he was single or not, he barely uses social media so I decided to shoot my shot and reached out on IG. He asked me to dinner to catch up (our first time seeing each other since 2021). Dinner went well—we talked for a few hours, confirmed we’re both single, and he told me to let him know next time I’m in town.

I’m moving back home in a couple of months. A week or two later I texted him and we went on a second date this past Saturday (dinner + ice cream + movie). He paid for everything even when I offered, planned dinner while I handled the movie tickets, and was attentive.

He’s passive over text (mostly logistics), owns multiple restaurants so he’s busy, but makes time on weekends. After the first date he said he was glad we reconnected and that he hasn’t been in a relationship or on apps. Saturday when we were leaving, he just said “get home safe” and didn’t mention seeing me again.

I’m interested in seeing him again, but not trying to rush anything. I’m keeping my options open and am seeing and talking to other people on dating apps, but for me he’s the front runner.

Should I leave the ball in his court this time and wait for him to ask me when I’d be available next? I feel like I already did enough by reaching out initially to get in touch again and by asking him if he’d be available sometime for date #2.

Hello!

Just need $30 to help with some gas. I have about half a tank and my drive is 275 miles. Willing to send pictures and receipt of the gas. I can pay back $45 when I get my next paycheck on Wednesday 8/5.

I was just at the Publix in my city. A lady was ordering a sub in front of me. I go to my car and was eating my sandwich in the parking lot when a cops and firefighters pulled up behind me.

That lady ordering the sandwich was apparently parked next to me and I see her take her daughter out of the car who appeared to be <5 years old. The little girl was super red and sweaty almost as if she had passed out. At first I was like maybe the kids choked on something she had in the sandwich, but then it clicked that those kids were never in the store with her. She had another daughter who was also under the age of 10. I was shocked.

Ambulance arrived and moved the family to the front of the store under some shade. Because I’m nosy, I stuck around to see what was gonna happen because several more cop cars pulled up. After some time, I saw a group of people talking to the cops, and they looked shocked. Must’ve been some friends or family because they walked out of the store with the girls. And then I saw the mom get put in a cop car.

It’s hot as balls. This was around peak noon in the south where the heat index was over 100 today. I panic a little when I have to get fuel on a hot day and leave my car off for the 4 minutes to pump. Stop with the stupidity.

ETA: I made a post on my local sub and an employee reached out to me to say that the girls were in the car for atleast 30 minutes.

I was just at the Publix in Pooler. A lady was ordering a sub in front of me. I go to my car and was eating my sandwich when a bunch of EMS pulled up.

That lady was apparently parked next to me and I see her take her daughter out of the car who appeared to be <5 years old. The little girl was super red and sweaty. She had another daughter who was also under the age of 10. I was shocked.

Ambulance arrived, cops stayed for a while, some family or friends came to pick up the girls and the woman was arrested luckily.

It’s hot as balls. I panic a little when I have to get fuel on a hot day and leave my car off for the 4 minutes to pump. Stop with the stupidity.

So I recently reached out and went out to dinner with a guy I matched a few years ago. We went on a date, things amicably fizzled out, I moved on with my now ex.

I reached out to him not knowing if he was in a relationship or not. We are connected on IG but he has like 2 posts. He did reach out to me 2 years ago by replying to a story but I didn’t think much of it at the time bc I was in a relationship.

Anyway, I took my shot and reached out to him via IG and he responded pretty positively and asked if I was available in the upcoming weeks for dinner to catch up. Gave me his number, and it turns out we both still had each others contacts.

The dinner was okay, it was very loud. There was live music and I felt like I was yelling most of the time. We caught up on work and life. He did ask about my relationship status. We’re both single, and he hasn’t been in any relationships or anything serious since we first met. He was so much more handsome than I remembered, I was smitten. He remembered a few small things about me which I found cute, like the type of beer I liked and the fact that I have a younger brother.

Dinner lasted about an hour and a half to 2 hours id say. Gave me a side hug and told me to let him know when I’m available again and when I told him I’d like to actually stay in touch again he told me I know where to find him.

When I got home, I texted him first and thanked him for dinner since he did pick up the bill. He told me he was happy we reconnected. I also know he’s not on dating apps because I have been on them and I have not seen him.

Now I’d like to text him again, but I have yet to hear from him. This is exactly what happened the first time, where he wasn’t much of a texter or anything and so I kind of just let things fizzle out, but I don’t want to come off eager. I’d like to think if he wasn’t interested, he wouldn’t have asked me to dinner but just sent a few messages on IG instead.

I’d like some advice, is the ball technically in my court since he last asked me out and paid for dinner? Or does it not sound like he’s interested? Do I give it about another week before I reach out to him to do some sort of activity?

So I recently reached out and went out to dinner with a guy I matched a few years ago. We went on a date, things amicably fizzled out, I moved on with my now ex.

I reached out to him not knowing if he was in a relationship or not. We are connected on IG but he has like 2 posts. He did reach out to me 2 years ago by replying to a story but I didn’t think much of it at the time bc I was in a relationship.

Anyway, I took my shot and reached out to him via IG and he responded pretty positively and asked if I was available in the upcoming weeks for dinner to catch up. Gave me his number, and it turns out we both still had each others contacts.

The dinner was okay, it was very loud. There was live music and I felt like I was yelling most of the time. We caught up on work and life. He did ask about my relationship status. We’re both single, and he hasn’t been in any relationships or anything serious since we first met. He was so much more handsome than I remembered, I was smitten. He remembered a few small things about me which I found cute, like the type of beer I liked and the fact that I have a younger brother.

Dinner lasted about an hour and a half to 2 hours id say. Gave me a side hug and told me to let him know when I’m available again and when I told him I’d like to actually stay in touch again he told me I know where to find him.

When I got home, I texted him first and thanked him for dinner since he did pick up the bill. He told me he was happy we reconnected. I also know he’s not on dating apps because I have been on them and I have not seen him.

Now I’d like to text him again, but I have yet to hear from him. This is exactly what happened the first time, where he wasn’t much of a texter or anything and so I kind of just let things fizzle out, but I don’t want to come off eager. I’d like to think if he wasn’t interested, he wouldn’t have asked me to dinner but just sent a few messages on IG instead.

I’d like some advice, is the ball technically in my court since he last asked me out and paid for dinner? Or does it not sound like he’s interested? Do I give it about another week before I reach out to him to do some sort of activity?

I'm visiting my hometown and went on a dinner date with a guy I've liked for a while. He was the one who asked me out and picked the restaurant. We caught up for about 2 hours (loud live music made it hard to talk). He asked if I was single, what my long-term plans were for moving home, and mentioned he hasn't been in any serious relationships since we last talked.

When we got to-go boxes, he asked for a single check and paid. We hugged goodbye and he told me to let him know next time I'm in town.

I texted him afterward thanking him for dinner and admitted I was still smitten with him like the first time we met. He replied the next morning: “Absolutely, it was great to see you too! And haha no worries I’m glad we reconnected.” That was it. He’s never been much of a texter. Even before we met, he kept texting to a minimum and date specific.

I’m moving back home in ~3 months and visit my parents almost every other weekend. I don’t mind reaching out again when I’m back in 2 weeks, but I don’t want to if he was just being nice.

From a guy’s perspective: Would you agree to stay in touch/see a woman again if you weren’t interested? I’m not trying to rush anything — I’d just like to get to know him better.

Yesterday, I went out for dinner with a guy I went on 1 date with 5 years ago.

We met on Hinge in 2021, he was very new to my city and things just kind of fizzled out. I moved on and dated my now ex for 4.5 years and moved to his city. Now I plan on moving back home and this Hinge guy was always in the back of my head. So I reached out to him, and he asked if I was available to catch up for dinner.

We met for dinner yesterday, and I was just as smitten as I was the first time I met him. In person, he’s very confident and engaging. He kept asking me questions about myself, he asked how old I was now and if I was single now. Dinner lasted about 2 hours. The restaurant was busy and there was live music which made it worse because I could barely hear him.

When we left he just gave me a side hug and told me to let him know the next time I’ll be in town. I was going to offer to pay for half of the dinner but he asked for to-go boxes and a single check at the same time.

When I got home I texted him. I thanked him for dinner and told him I turned into an awkward turtle bc I was just as smitten as I was the first time and I told him I’d actually like to stay in touch this time and see him again instead of waiting 5 years.

His reply this morning was just “Absolutely, it was great to see you too! And haha no worries I’m glad we reconnected”

When I replied “awesome 😊” I was hoping he’d continue the conversation but he just reacted to it with a thumbs up.

He’s not much of a texter, but this behavior is exactly what confused me the first time around. Our first date was a lot of fun and he seemed interested but he was way too non-chalant and I took that as a sign of disinterest. He told me hasn’t been in any relationships since our first date.

I feel like texting him anymore would come off as me chasing or being too pushy and clingy? Well, it’s not even about liking him. I really just want to get to know him more. I feel like in both dates we hardly opened up and got to learn anything about one another. And I want to be for him to see my true self too like how I am with you all, my friends and family but after that last text change I probably should’ve said that instead of replying with “awesome”

Yesterday, I went out for dinner with a guy I went on 1 date with 5 years ago.

We met on Hinge in 2021, he was very new to my city and things just kind of fizzled out. I moved on and dated my now ex for 4.5 years and moved to his city. Now I plan on moving back home and this Hinge guy was always in the back of my head. So I reached out to him, and he asked if I was available to catch up for dinner.

We met for dinner yesterday, and I was just as smitten as I was the first time I met him. In person, he’s very confident and engaging. He kept asking me questions about myself, he asked how old I was now and if I was single now. Dinner lasted about 2 hours. The restaurant was busy and there was live music which made it worse because I could barely hear him.

When we left he just gave me a side hug and told me to let him know the next time I’ll be in town. I was going to offer to pay for half of the dinner but he asked for to-go boxes and a single check at the same time.

When I got home I texted him. I thanked him for dinner and told him I turned into an awkward turtle bc I was just as smitten as I was the first time and I told him I’d actually like to stay in touch this time and see him again instead of waiting 5 years.

His reply this morning was just “Absolutely, it was great to see you too! And haha no worries I’m glad we reconnected”

When I replied “awesome 😊” I was hoping he’d continue the conversation but he just reacted to it with a thumbs up.

He’s not much of a texter, but this behavior is exactly what confused me the first time around. Our first date was a lot of fun and he seemed interested but he was way too non-chalant and I took that as a sign of disinterest. He told me hasn’t been in any relationships since our first date.

I feel like texting him anymore would come off as me chasing or being too pushy and clingy? Well, it’s not even about liking him. I really just want to get to know him more. I feel like in both dates we hardly opened up and got to learn anything about one another. And I want to be for him to see my true self too like how I am with you all, my friends and family but after that last text change I probably should’ve said that instead of replying with “awesome”

So I took my shot and reached out to a guy I went on ONE date with 5 years ago. We matched on Hinge back in 2021. He was new to my city, busy starting his business and things fizzled out, but he is someone who has always been in the back of my mind. Since then, we only talked once. I went to a restaurant with my ex one day not knowing that it was his and posted a pic of the food on my IG story. He replied to it telling me to let him know the next time I go

Well, that message was 2 years ago and I never ended up going to that restaurant because I moved away and was dating my ex. Since we were connected on IG, I’m sure he knew I was in a relationship because he always looks at my IG stories. Anyway, my relationship ended and I moved back home not too long ago.

I drove past the restaurant a few days ago and thought about him. He posted something on his IG story 2 days ago, so I decided to shoot him a message saying it’s been a while since I’ve gone to the restaurant and will probably go this weekend and asked if he was available.

His reply seemed pretty positive. He said he will actually be at his new bagel shop if I’m around the area. This weekend is the grand opening and he will mostly be spending his time there and that hopefully I can stop by. I told him that I’ll try to swing by and that it would be great to catch up. He replied saying absolutely, it’ll be worth it for sure if I can make it. That was the end of the convo.

I decided I’m gonna go tomorrow morning and I’m taking my brother with me to ease the pressure. I’m SO EXCITEDD but also SUPER NERVOUS 😣 and also PROUD OF MYSELF for having the courage to reach out to someone, especially a guy after that long. This is definitely me going out of my comfort zone and is not something I usually do. I have never reached out to a man things didn’t work out with so I’m hoping we can rekindle things 💖 (I’m going in with no expectations of course)

So I took my shot and reached out to a guy I went on ONE date with 5 years ago. We matched on Hinge in 2021. He was new to my city, busy starting his business and things fizzled out, but he is someone who has always been in the back of my mind. Since then, we only talked once. I went to a restaurant with my ex one day not knowing that it was his and posted a pic of the food on my IG story. He replied to it telling me to let him know the next time I go.

Well, that message was 2 years ago and I never ended up going to that restaurant because I moved away and was dating my ex. Since we were connected on IG, I’m sure he knew I was in a relationship because he always looks at my IG stories. Anyway, my relationship ended and I moved back home not too long ago.

I drove past the restaurant a few days ago and thought about him. He posted something on his IG story 2 days ago, so I decided to shoot him a message saying it’s been a while since I’ve gone to the restaurant and will probably go this weekend and asked if he was available.

His reply seemed pretty positive. He said he will actually be at his new bagel shop if I’m around the area. This weekend is the grand opening and he will mostly be spending his time there and that hopefully I can stop by. I told him that I’ll try to swing by and that it would be great to catch up. He replied saying absolutely, it’ll be worth it for sure if I can make it. That was the end of the convo. I’ve been so out of touch with the dating world, and mens behaviors, so I’ve been thinking about if he was just being nice and inviting me for marketing purposes or actually wants to see me.

Anyway, I plan on going and I’m taking my brother with me so I’m not just awkwardly there by myself. I was really hoping to get 1 on 1 time to talk and catch up, but I know he will be super busy with the crowd since it is a very popular chain. This guy is very introverted, and shy, but was super sweet, and a gentleman from what I remember. I don’t think he’s dating anyone either as far as I can tell, hardly follows women on IG or posts on it.

I’m super anxious over how he might’ve felt, if I made things awkward, or if he was just being nice. I am super nervous to see him again after so many years, but also proud of myself for having the courage to reach out to someone, especially a guy after that long. This is definitely me going out of my comfort zone and is not something I usually do. I have never reached out to a man things didn’t work out with.

But that’s all, just wanted to get it off of my chest. I’m open to any advice or feedback. I really would like to get to know him more now that it seems like he’s more settled, as am I, but I feel like meeting him in a public/social event like that isn’t ideal. In the end, I know I have nothing to lose but atleast I’ll be content with the fact that I tried 🤷🏻‍♀️

So I took my shot and reached out to a guy I went on ONE date with 5 years ago. We matched on Hinge in 2021. He was new to my city, busy starting his business and things fizzled out, but he is someone who has always been in the back of my mind. Since then, we only talked once. I went to a restaurant with my ex one day not knowing that it was his and posted a pic of the food on my IG story. He replied to it telling me to let him know the next time I go.

Well, that message was 2 years ago and I never ended up going to that restaurant because I moved away and was dating my ex. Since we were connected on IG, I’m sure he knew I was in a relationship because he always looks at my IG stories. Anyway, my relationship ended and I moved back home not too long ago.

I drove past the restaurant a few days ago and thought about him. He posted something on his IG story 2 days ago, so I decided to shoot him a message saying it’s been a while since I’ve gone to the restaurant and will probably go this weekend and asked if he was available.

His reply seemed pretty positive. He said he will actually be at his new bagel shop if I’m around the area. This weekend is the grand opening and he will mostly be spending his time there and that hopefully I can stop by. I told him that I’ll try to swing by and that it would be great to catch up. He replied saying absolutely, it’ll be worth it for sure if I can make it. That was the end of the convo. I’ve been so out of touch with the dating world, and mens behaviors, so I’ve been thinking about if he was just being nice and inviting me for marketing purposes or actually wants to see me.

Anyway, I plan on going and I’m taking my brother with me so I’m not just awkwardly there by myself. I was really hoping to get 1 on 1 time to talk and catch up, but I know he will be super busy with the crowd since it is a very popular chain. This guy is very introverted, and shy, but was super sweet, and a gentleman from what I remember. I don’t think he’s dating anyone either as far as I can tell, hardly follows women on IG or posts on it.

I’m super anxious over how he might’ve felt, if I made things awkward, or if he was just being nice. I am super nervous to see him again after so many years, but also proud of myself for having the courage to reach out to someone, especially a guy after that long. This is definitely me going out of my comfort zone and is not something I usually do. I have never reached out to a man things didn’t work out with.

But that’s all, just wanted to get it off of my chest. I’m open to any advice or feedback. I really would like to get to know him more now that it seems like he’s more settled, as am I, but I feel like meeting him in a public/social event like that isn’t ideal. In the end, I know I have nothing to lose but atleast I’ll be content with the fact that I tried 🤷🏻‍♀️

I (32F) matched with a guy (32M?) about 5 years ago on Hinge. I was very attracted to him when I met him in person. He was quiet, introverted, shy, the complete opposite of me. We had one date which I thought went well, but things fizzled out. I didn’t think much of it at the time because he was very new to our city and was setting up his business. All in all we talked for about a week.

Anyway, I moved away from home and moved on. There were quite a few dates I had went on where things didn’t work out, but this guy was always in the back of my head. I ended up finding someone else who I dated for about the next 4 years.

2 years ago I was back home, I was eating at a new chicken sandwich place and posted about it on IG. It turned out that the guy I had gone on the date with owned it. He DM’d me and told me to let him know next time I go. I never had a chance to go back to the restaurant, but if I can use that as a reason to see him, I’d more than happy to go eat another chicken sandwich there.

Sounds pretty simple so far right? Here’s why I’m super anxious…a few months ago, I was going through my contacts, saw his name and when I clicked on it, the call went through. It was so awkward and out of panic I hung up and blocked the number, then unblocked it later so I’m not even sure if he reached out.

I’m moving back to my city in a few months and when I was cleaning up my IG DMs I came across his message about letting him know the next time I go eat at his restaurant. I am visiting my family this weekend and thought about replying to him and asking him if he’s still around and was thinking about getting some food from the restaurant. (The chicken sandwich was good and I’d go even if he wasn’t there) Idk if he’s in a relationship or not because he doesn’t post anything on social media but my gut feeling says no.

I don’t want to come off as a weirdo messaging him after all these years. We talked for about a week max so there wasn’t even any solid foundation built between us. So I’m asking guys here for advice and how you would feel if you were in his shoes and a girl you went on a date with years ago hit you up?

I’ve been texting a guy I met on a dating app for about a month now. He lives in my hometown and I’m about 3.5 hours away. Things were going well and a few weeks ago, he told me to let him know when I’ll be in town so I did tell him I was going to be in town from Wednesday-Sunday this past weekend.

Initially he told me he probably has to help a friend put up shelves on Saturday and to just text him when I come up. We were texting on my drive up Wednesday and then Thursday I followed up with him to let me know if he’s still down to meet. He said he is supposed to get dinner with a friend Saturday and that Sunday could possibly work. Saturday comes along, and I text him first since we’ve been talking everyday and he tells me he’s at the lake with his brother. Sunday I never heard from him, so i interpreted it as a lack of interest and came back.

He texted me a couple of hours ago apologizing because he was busy and told me he hopes I had a great time home. I responded that I was a bit disappointed but I just chalked it as a lack of interest and that it is what it is

I’ve been texting a guy I met on a dating app for about a month now. He lives in my hometown and I’m about 3.5 hours away. Things were going well and a few weeks ago, he told me to let him know when I’ll be in town so I did tell him I was going to be in town from Wednesday-Sunday this past weekend.

Initially he told me he probably has to help a friend put up shelves on Saturday and to just text him when I come up. We were texting on my drive up Wednesday and then Thursday I followed up with him to let me know if he’s still down to meet. He said he is supposed to get dinner with a friend Saturday and that Sunday could possibly work. Saturday comes along, and I text him first since we’ve been talking everyday and he tells me he’s at the lake with his brother. Sunday I never heard from him, so i interpreted it as a lack of interest and came back.

He texted me a couple of hours ago apologizing because he was busy and told me he hopes I had a great time home. I responded that I was a bit disappointed but I just chalked it as a lack of interest and that it is what it is

Been talking to a guy consistently for about a month. He lives in my hometown, and I live about 3.5 hours away.

A few weeks ago, he told me he’d love to meet up whenever I’m in town. I told him then that I would be in town this weekend for a few days to visit family. He said we could set something up and to just let him know when I’m here.

Fast forward to this past Wednesday, still texting and staying in touch as I’m driving home, I tell him we can maybe set up a date Saturday evening or Sunday before I leave. All of a sudden there’s a drop in communication. Barely texted me and conversations just fizzled.

Thursday evening, I texted him saying “Hellllo! Hope your work day isn’t as bad today. I know you said you have a long week, but let me know if you’re still down to meet! I’ll be free Saturday evening and Sunday during the day!”

He responded saying “Hey sorry had a crazy busy day and then grabbed drinks with the boss and his wife. I’ll let you know if that’s okay! I know i was supposed to get indian food with a friend on Saturday. Sunday could work, when do you have to head back?” I told him I don’t have a set time on when I need to head back. We texted until about 2am that night about the World Cup, etc. then I never heard from him all of Friday.

Gave him the benefit of the doubt and I reached out to him yesterday afternoon to initiate conversation. He responded immediately and told me he was out with his brother. We had some small talk and that was about it

I’m super confused because up until I actually came to my hometown, we were texting daily and it seemed like he was interested in meeting. I’m not going to text him anymore or reach out. The ball is in his court. I’m pretty sure we went straight to the ghosting phase when things started getting real for him because I have yet to hear from him

I’m a female, fairly new to dating apps after about 5 years.

I matched with a guy at the beginning of this month and we kicked it off instantly. We share a lot of similar interests and seemed to get off on the right foot. Eventually we exchanged numbers and began texting.

Communication was flowing, we talked every single day getting to know one another. He would ask about my day, we’d talk about our hobbies, what we want from relationships, etc. He lives back in my hometown, and he told me to let him know when I’ll be there this week and that we can plan to meet.

The last 48 hours have been extremely quiet and that’s kind of left me anxious/confused. My last message to him, he acknowledged by reacting to it with a heart.

I’ve double texted before to continue a conversation after not giving him much to reply to about a topic to Lee the convo going, but I don’t want to keep messaging first to engage in a conversation.

I’m going home this Wednesday, should I wait until then to see if he reaches out? Or cut my losses. I do have other guys I’m talking to and I’m not putting all of my eggs in one basket, but this guy was definitely the frontrunner of all of my matches.

I’m a female, fairly new to dating apps after about 5 years.

I matched with a guy at the beginning of this month and we kicked it off instantly. We share a lot of similar interests and seemed to get off on the right foot. Eventually we exchanged numbers and began texting.

Communication was flowing, we talked every single day getting to know one another. He would ask about my day, we’d talk about our hobbies, what we want from relationships, etc. He lives back in my hometown, and he told me to let him know when I’ll be there this week and that we can plan to meet.

The last 48 hours have been extremely quiet and that’s kind of left me anxious/confused. My last message to him, he acknowledged by reacting to it with a heart.

I’ve double texted before to continue a conversation after not giving him much to reply to about a topic to Lee the convo going, but I don’t want to keep messaging first to engage in a conversation.

I’m going home this Wednesday, should I wait until then to see if he reaches out? Or cut my losses. I do have other guys I’m talking to and I’m not putting all of my eggs in one basket, but this guy was definitely the frontrunner of all of my matches.