My husband and I had the most incredible and perfect wedding day yesterday. I am so happy and we are waiting on the video and photo footage to come through. However, friends and family have been sending us images and videos of our day.

My dress is perfect. My hair is beautiful. My makeup is stunning. My husband is glowing, the most handsome man on the planet.

And yet, my fucking hook nose is so distracting. I am quite petite, with otherwise delicate features and as a kid, I was bullied pretty severely for my "hawk nose". I used to have boys ask me out as a joke (this wasn't a one-time thing either). I inherited my father's nose, who got it from his father. It is a very prominent, masculine roman nose. For years, I've told myself I wouldn't change it because of the cost. I tried to comfort myself and say it's a family heirloom. However, this is a family heirloom no one wants, the equivalent of getting a useless, tacky antique. Except this antique is in the fucking smack middle of my face.

Everyone kept telling me how beautiful I looked but seeing those images... hurt. It has cast a pall on the memory of the day for me. My husband has always loved me as I am and has told me he'd be heartbroken if I changed my nose, because this was the face he fell in love with. However, I can't help but feel like I wish it matched my face better. It's to a point where I feel the way I look doesn't match my personality either. I look like a literal witch and it... just really makes me sad.

All in all, I wish that on the most important day of my life, where I was meant to feel the most beautiful I have ever been, that I had done it. I am now dreading the photos and videos and I am assuming my vendors wont post and secretly hoping they wont because... I dont want anyone to see me.

Recently, on this sub and on instagram, we heard about this new, superstitious trend of burying a raw sausage at your venue the night before your wedding. This is not a euphemism. I quite literally mean a sausage (it seems it can be a hotdog, bratwurst, link sausage, lorne sausage, whatever suits your fancy).

I posted about this superstition a couple days back, and you can find the original post here: my OG sausage post. We also took inspiration from this post: one success story. I think some people took it much too seriously, but many found the humor in the sheer insanity of this. To those individuals, I appreciate you helping alleviate my stress leading up to the day, and your comments filled us with lots of laughter.

Two days ago, we were gifted two free sausages from a local butcher's shop and, with the venue's blessing, buried them there the night before our big day. It was more for a laugh than anything else, and honestly, it was just a lot of fun, extremely silly nonsense. It was so ridiculous, and I say that in the best way.

Yesterday, my husband and I got married with glorious weather all day until 9 or 10 pm (at which point, it did start raining, but we didn't care by then, as our dancing arrangements were indoor). It was partly cloudy which was ideal for photos and we had the most stunning outdoor ceremony. We did make indoor arrangements with the venue just in case the weather turned for the worst (because we are silly, not stupid), but I am yet another wedding sausage "success" story! We got very lucky!

To all future brides here, I wish you all the best and I'm sending my love!

Hi all, hoping for some guidance here. So on April 9, my fiance and I had unprotected sex. On April 15, I believe I got my period (it was a very odd period because it started as an extremely light flow with dark brown blood, to the point I actually initially thought it was spotting, but then became heavy and dark red like normal). The “period” lasted from April 15 to April 19th. I have had no intercourse since and no other bleeding of any kind.

I was meant to get my period yesterday and did not. Today I still dont have it, but took a pregnancy test. There is an EXTREMELY faint line, but I checked at 15 mins rather than the recommended 3-5. I took a second test and checked at 3 mins and it was blank, then 15 mins later that also developed a faint line. Both tests were blue dye early detection tests.

I think I’m scared because I’m normally pretty regular, our wedding is in three days, and nipples feel… different. They are very sensitive and protruding and harder. My breasts don’t feel sore like they normally do before my period. Before my normal period, they’re often tender around the outer edges with zero nipple sensation.

I think between the faint lines on the tests, the fact it was unprotected, and the nipple changes, I am… really worried. Any thoughts?

So pleased! ✨🎉 We, unfortunately, were forced to go for super priority due to some extenuating work and travel circumstances.

Timeline for the interested:

Applied: May 8 2026
Biometric: May 11 2026 11:50 am
Decision email: May 12 2026 10am

Hi all. I’m getting married this Saturday and according to all the forecasts on various weather agencies, it is very likely to rain.

I’ve heard about this sausage superstition and every time I’ve heard about this, I’ve heard success stories. A lot of people have never heard of this before based on the comments here, so to elaborate there is a trending superstition that if you want good weather for your wedding, you bury a raw sausage the night before your wedding (I guess at your house or at the venue). Crazy, I know. No, this is not a euphemism for sex. I'm talking bratwursts, links, lorne, chorizo, cumberland, hotdogs, pigs in a blanket, you get the idea.

Can anyone here speak to this?

Edit: WOW this has gotten a lot of negativity. This was just a fun and silly post. I am not superstitious, I was just curious. Some of you must be very fun at parties! To those of you who have commented and were able to laugh along though, I appreciate it. ❤️ Some of you are so funny, and it's really taking an edge off my anxiety

And to the curious... 9 people here have done it and it was successful at 7!

Hi all. I’m getting married Saturday to my incredible fiancé. It feels completely surreal that we are already here now.

After checking multiple forecasting sites, it seems pretty likely to rain. Obviously, getting married is the most important and I am SO excited. However, getting married in the pissing rain is not… ideal. I really imagined getting married outside at our venue and that was the fantasy I had built up in my head. That was my dream for over a year. There was an I door option but the indoor space wasn’t my favourite by any means. We chose May specifically because it’s meant to be the driest, sunniest month in Scotland, and we’ve been crossing our fingers. My ideal scenario at this point would be for it to be overcast during our ceremony, then rain immediately after. That would be totally fine. But I don’t think we will be that fortunate.

I get that rain on your wedding is considered good luck, but that just feels like copium a bit.

How can I just accept what comes and let go of that original vision/dream?

Hi all. So our wedding is in less than a week now (holy shit) and I have a quick question. So I'm originally from the USA where you would tip your makeup artists, catering staff/bartenders, maybe your photographer and videographer, etc. Tipping is quite big back home.

What is the norm for UK weddings, specifically those in Scotland? We were planning on tipping: photographer and videographer, our florist/stylist, and I think one or two other suppliers. We were told to basically tip anyone who would be spending a significant amount of time with us throughout the day. Is this accurate?

This is a bit of a rant, and I am just miserable right now, so please bear with me. I want to start off by saying firstly that I love that the NHS is free (well... excluding the IHS charge...) and that my cystic fibrosis special care team has been absolutely incredible. Credit where credit is due. I am so thankful to have affordable healthcare and to not be buried in debt just for existing with a chronic illness. That in itself is a miracle. However...

I've had a history of problems with my GP and others while here and I am so beyond frustrated. I am one week away from my wedding. Two days ago, I began to notice an issue with one of my eyes, and it has been extremely painful and worsening. However, it's just pain, with no visible symptoms (really odd, I know). I went to a Specsavers who just told me "hot compresses". I did this religiously, didn't help. Called the NHS 24 number, who said "just go back to specsavers again, we won't help". Called specsavers. They won't see me despite worsening pain. Again, I am one week from my wedding and this is getting WORSE. No one will help me.

Another issue: reproductive care. In the past couple years, my periods have become more and more painful. I end up taking insane, very unrecommended amounts of over the counter painkillers I brought from back home to cope. In my last periods, I've been full-on screaming at 2-3 am, while my fiancé tries to convince me to go to A&E. After my most recent episode, I finally gathered the courage to go to a doctor and tell him I suspect I may have endometriosis, and I list all my symptoms which align pretty perfectly. He says "let's just put you on birth control". This is... a bandaid on the issue. They will not do any investigation whatsoever into whether I could have endo or not. The other recommendation? "Just get pregnant". I could expand on this, but I don't want to bore everyone here.

I could give a third, fourth, and fifth example, but this post is getting long. My point is only that I felt like I could advocate for myself back in the USA and you'd pay through the nose, but people would listen. I would receive prompt care, and doctors would actually listen to my concerns or my thoughts, and would also do investigative work where necessary. Here, no one really has the bandwidth to help and honestly, I think they either don't care or don't believe you. It's just apathy. Additionally, doctors in the UK are SO SO SO SO stingy with antibiotics. I get it, you don't want people developing antibiotic resistance. But sometimes, you NEED it, especially if you are immunocompromised!

I go to doctors these days and feel like I'm rushed through the appointment, not taken seriously, not listened to, and they draw their own... bizarre conclusions or don't listen. I've had staff google shit right in front of me regarding medication interactions and skincare prescriptions.

I just... I don't know what to do anymore.

Update: I tried calling NHS 24 a final time. I was on the phone for more than an hour, and never spoke to a nurse. I finally just gave up and said fuck this shit.

Hi all. I thought I'd make this post as a helpful guide for people considering a move to the UK via spouse visa. When I began this journey, I suspected that it was going to be costly. However, the actual numbers are quite impressive, and are slated to climb even higher in the future. I wanted to provide one data point so that people early in the process can understand what they may be looking at. I also plan on posting to some other subs, not as a deterrent, but again, as a data point and reference.

I also wanted to post this because I feel that a lot of the time, people that are more critical of immigration don't actually know what is involved or how these costs stack up. I feel like if more people saw that, they might have different attitudes.

I moved from the USA to the UK via a spouse visa. Here are the costs:

Marriage Visitor Visa - Total: $535 USD [398 GBP]

• 125 USD for application in 2023 (this is now 127 GBP in 2025).
• We paid an additional $410 USD in 2023 for the bronze VFS processing.

Initial Spouse Visa - Total: $6005 USD [4471 GBP]

• 700 GBP for assistance and guidance for processing from a solicitor (this is optional, but we wanted to play it extra safe)
• 2051 USD for application in 2023
• 2496 USD for IHS fees for 3 years in 2023
• 758 USD for visa processing prioritization

Spouse Visa extension after 2.5 years - Total: $6803.98 USD [4994.5 GBP]

• 2407 GBP, applying from within the UK [1,000 of this was for super priority, which I was forced to do for work]
• 2587.50 GBP for IHS

GRAND TOTAL THUS FAR: 9863.5 GBP (13,437.21 USD)

Indefinite Leave to Remain - Projection total: $4396.34 USD [3226 GBP]

• 3226 GBP

Citizenship - Projection total: $2329 USD [1709 GBP]

• 1709 GBP

Grand total projection: 14,798.5 GBP (or 20,161.25 USD as of today's exchange rate)

Hi all. I thought I'd make this post as a helpful guide for people considering a move to the UK via spouse visa. When I began this journey, I suspected that it was going to be costly. However, the actual numbers are quite impressive, and are slated to climb even higher in the future. I wanted to provide one data point so that people early in the process can understand what they may be looking at. I also plan on posting to long-distance and some other subs, not as a deterrent, but again, as a data point and reference.

I also wanted to post this because I feel that a lot of the time, people that are more critical of immigration don't actually know what is involved or how these costs stack up. I feel like if more people saw that, they might have different attitudes.

I moved from the USA to the UK via a spouse visa. Here are the costs:

Marriage Visitor Visa - Total: $535 USD [398 GBP]

• 125 USD for application in 2023 (this is now 127 GBP in 2025).
• We paid an additional $410 USD in 2023 for the bronze VFS processing.

Initial Spouse Visa - Total: $6005 USD [4471 GBP]

• 700 GBP for assistance and guidance for processing from a solicitor (this is optional, but we wanted to play it extra safe)
• 2051 USD for application in 2023
• 2496 USD for IHS fees for 3 years in 2023
• 758 USD for visa processing prioritization

Spouse Visa extension after 2.5 years - Total: $6803.98 USD [4994.5 GBP]

• 2407 GBP, applying from within the UK [1,000 of this was for super priority, which I was forced to do for work]
• 2587.50 GBP for IHS

GRAND TOTAL THUS FAR: 9863.5 GBP (13,437.21 USD)

Indefinite Leave to Remain - Projection total: $4396.34 USD [3226 GBP]

• 3226 GBP

Citizenship - Projection total: $2329 USD [1709 GBP]

• 1709 GBP

Grand total projection: 14,798.5 GBP (or 20,161.25 USD as of today's exchange rate)

Hi all! I have a pair of lovely Sarah Flint shoes for the big day and I’m quite pleased. I’ve never worn them before though so I am a bit worried my feet will be hurting by the time we start dancing, so I was considering getting shoes used by dancers. Can anyone recommend any brands available in the UK or styles? Thanks!

Hi all! I have a pair of lovely Sarah Flint shoes for the big day and I’m quite pleased. I’ve never worn them before though so I am a bit worried my feet will be hurting by the time we start dancing, so I was considering getting shoes used by dancers. I’m in the UK. Can anyone recommend any brands available in the UK or styles? Thanks!