u/Wandering-Singer

Ever since it's been getting rainy here in where I live at, I couldn't go home from school without getting wet. Because of it, 2 out of 8 notebooks are literally getting wet by the water passing through my bag. even if I had an umbrella, its too short to cover it all without sacrificing myself to be hit by the rain, so I wanted to know if I could possibly make my bag homophobic, or if I need to buy a new bag. If anyone knows or can give advice, please do!

No offense is intended with this post. I just thought other new(ish) members would enjoy my confusion.

I'm a fairly new member. I get/understand Shon's opening of "it's your boi", but could not understand John's. From what i could find butchering the spelling in Google, Pinoy was a way to refer to Filipino/Filipino decent. I could not understand the first part. Loy? Youi?

Punny. The word was punny. Because he is a boi who makes puns. I feel like such a dunce.

Also, I thought Josh's name was Joshelle, like Michelle, and he just shortened it to Josh. That is until I caught a YouTube video and saw his first and last name spelled out. So as you can see. Not great with names.

Also, completely other tangent. Trying to build my lore knowledge on the guys/get all their names and references straight:

Josh

Sienna

Ringo

Another cat i haven't caught the name of?

Currently building his house in canadia

John

Juliet

Kevin

Currently in Europe enjoying the sights

Syawn

Nancy

Pets?

Currently preparing for baby boi

Hates peanut allergies? If someone has a link to the origin of that, im sure it is a great story 😂

Also, honorable mentions:

-Midscore- is goat

Alex Underbakke is writer?

Context: I was out in my city, and I was taking a walk around with my roommate.

While passing through the main square of the city, we both witnessed a movie-like chase where three police officers managed to corner a guy who was probably dealing nearby.

I had never seen anything like that involving law enforcement before, so I decided to tell my girlfriend about it live by sending her a WhatsApp voice message.

So I raised my phone to record the voice message, but then something happened.

On the other side of the street, exactly where they had cornered the guy, a young policeman noticed I had my phone in my hand and shouted at me: “HEY, WHAT ARE YOU DOING?”

I froze, confused. I didn’t process it. I just stood there, looking at him, thinking he couldn’t possibly be talking to me. After three seconds, I saw him running toward me, still shouting: “WHAT ARE YOU DOING?”

I got seriously scared, so I stretched my arms out toward him, without touching him, and went: “Whoa, whoa, whoa, calm down!”

From that moment on, the conversation went more or less like this. The police officer starts, I’m the second person. The dialogue alternates.

“What are you doing? Did you make a video?”

“I didn’t make any video. I was sending a voice message to my girlfriend.”

“Go to your gallery immediately and delete the video. In front of me.”

At that moment, I got embarrassed. “Why?” you may ask. Well, I remembered perfectly well that the last photo I had taken was a photo of my di*k that I had sent to my girlfriend.

I wasn’t afraid. I don’t mince words. If there’s something embarrassing to say, I say it. The damage was already done.

“Look, I’m not joking, but the last photo is a photo of my d**k.”

“I don’t care! Delete that video immediately!”

He didn’t hesitate. For him, in that gallery, there was THAT video. Except THAT video didn’t exist. A non-video.

So I humored him. I opened the Gallery. I showed him the latest media. I opened it. He saw it. He stood there for about two or three seconds, maybe to process what he was seeing. Then he closed his eyes and looked away from the phone.

“Get out of here!”

So we left.

I was crying with laughter. My roommate was too.

All in all, it was a pretty great evening.

So me (28M) and my girlfriend (28F) have been together for 3 years now and i recently brought up the marriage and kids talk. My reason is pretty simple, i want to be fit and active while my kids are growing up. Like if we have kids at 30 ill be 48 when they turn 18 which still feels decent enough to actually be involved and active in their lives. So i wanted to start planning ahead.

She said she also wants to get married and have kids but she had one condition. She wants to get married around the same time as her best friend. Not the same event necessarily just the same season or timeframe. Honestly i found it cute at first.

Here's where it gets complicated. I actually know her best friend personally and she is genuinely terrible at relationships, never lasted more than 6 months with anyone and is currently single. But the bigger issue is her best friend doesn't even want to get married. So my girlfriend's whole plan is to first convince her that she wants marriage, then find her a guy, then hope that guy proposes, then coordinate weddings.

I told her i don't mind waiting but i'm not comfortable with our future basically being in someone else's hands. She got upset saying i don't respect the friendship. So i said fine, 2 years, if things fall into place great but i can't wait forever with no end in sight. That got her even more riled up.

AITA for putting a timeframe on this?

EDIT: so after reading through all the comments i decided to reach out to her best friend and told her everything. and honestly her friend found the whole thing just as ridiculous as you guys did and immediately went and talked to my girlfriend trying to knock some sense into her. now my girlfriend is mad at both of us lmaooo. but hey at least her friend and i are on the same page. will update if anything changes.

EDIT 2: Did not expect this to blow up like this so here is a quick update. GF is currently giving me the silent treatment. But the wildest part? Her best friend texted me again apologizing for the collateral damage. She said she explicitly told my GF to drop the ridiculous condition. Instead of listening, my GF lost it on her and accused her of “betraying their friendship”, "not supporting her dream" and “choosing a guy over our friendship.” So now the two of them are fighting. After reading all your comments about codependency and projecting the red flags are glaring. Im taking a few days of space to seriously re evaluate this relationship. I dont think this is just about a wedding anymore. Will update if anything changes.

EDIT 3: Its been a few hours since the last update. I had a long talk with my GF earlier. She is still very upset and keeps saying that I don’t understand how important her friendship is and that I’m forcing her to choose. The best friend also messaged me again saying she is done trying to explain and is taking a step back from my GF for now. Honestly after everything that’s happened in the last 2 days I think I need more than just a few days of space. This whole situation has made me question a lot of things about our future. I will give one final update in a day or two after I clear my head.

EDIT 4: The situation is finally over. this post was getting way too long to keep updating with all the edits, so i posted the final conclusion in a new thread. you can read it here: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/nsD5Fi3Ap9

I (34,M) and my gf (29,F) have been dating for 6months and have been planning to attend my cousin’s wedding in June. We will be flying from Detroit to D.C. I booked the itinerary in April.
Earlier today (May), she discovered that she has warrants from over the past few years (says she doesn’t remember the charges). I expressed concern that she wouldn’t be able to board the flight with those warrants in place.
She expressed that she would get the warrants taken care of before the trip in a month. She then asked if I would continue to board the flight if she were to be arrested at the airport.
I responded that I would continue to board the flight as it is her responsibility as an adult to have things in place & and we are not a married couple.
Am I wrong?

Bit of a weird situation. My friend invited me out to dinner with her boyfriend and a friend of theirs from his work. Im a professional photographer, nearly six years in, mostly commercial and editorial work, and I do alright for myself.

The guy is in his late twenties and apparently got really into photography about six months ago. He bought himself a fancy mirrorless camera, took a couple of weekend workshops, and has not stopped talking about it since.

Genuinely no shade to people getting into new hobbies, that part is great, the issue was what came next.

From the moment we sat down he was telling me about his camera, his settings, his "vision," the weekend trips hed been doing to shoot. At one point he was showing me photos on his phone and added "I wont bore you with the technical stuff," which he said in some form at least three more times across the evening.

He never once asked me what I do for a living, and I had so many chances to mention it but honestly I just didnt. Partly because I was thrown off by how confident he was, partly because by the time he was forty minutes deep into explaining the rule of thirds to me using a wine glass as a prop, I was just quietly enjoying the absurdity of it.

When the bill came he made a whole thing of insisting on paying for me, said his photography work had been going well lately and he wanted to treat. I told him a few times that he didnt have to and that I was happy to split, but he kept doubling down so I let him.

We were saying goodbyes outside when he asked to add me on instagram, and the only account I have on there is my professional one with my bio listed. He saw it, his face dropped, and he asked me if I was actually a working photographer. I told him yes, I had been for six years.

He was furious and said I had made a fool of him all night, that I had let him pay even though I clearly earn more than him, and that I had sat there letting him explain things to me that he didnt need to explain. I offered to venmo him my half of the bill but pointed out that he had never once asked me what I did for work and I didnt feel I needed to interrupt his monologue just to volunteer it.

My friend and her boyfriend are now on his side, saying it would have cost me nothing to mention it once in three hours and I only kept quiet because I found it funny, which to be fair I did. Am I wrong here?

tldr: friends boyfriend brought along a friend of his who recently got into photography. He spent the whole dinner telling me about his camera, his "vision," and warning me he wouldnt bore me with the technical stuff. Never once asked what I do. Im a professional photographer of six years. He insisted on paying for me all night. He found out at the end when he tried to add me on instagram. Now hes furious and our mutual friends are siding with him. Am I wrong

it is 24x36 its big

We downgraded our house, there is no place to put it that I wont see it everyday.

We have one bathroom, two bedrooms (one that is my office), the living room, and kitchen. The basement is my husband's workshop and he doesn't like it either.

I seriously dislike how she does portions. I don't like that the waists are tiny and the buts and boobs are huge. Not my type of artwork

I don;t like it, I don't wish to decorate my home with art I don't like and have to see everyday

If i gave her artwork I wouldn't expect her to hang it up in her house if she didn;t like it. Even if I spent months on it, becuase it is not my home

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My DIL has been married to my son for  a few years and she has a side gig of making art. She has a habit of giving paintings to friends and family as gifts.

I think most people like them but for me I am not a huge fan of her art style. I am much more a nature person than someone that wants scenes with people. Also when she paints people they are stylized. 

My husband and I bought a house and we have fully moved in. My DIL gave me a painting of someone sitting at the beach because she knows we like the beach. I don’t like it, the women in the painting looks off, her legs are too long and she is too curvy. I know it is her style of painting but I just don’t like it. 

At the time I got the gift I thanked her for and I thought that would be the end of it. I put the painting in the garage and kinda forgot about it. 

I bought an ocean painting for the living room. My DIL visited the other day because she wanted to pick up some of our old Fourth of July decorations. Our house is smaller now so we are purging decorations.

We were in the garage and she saw her painting there. She was surprised and asked why it wasn’t in the house. I  told her I didn’t have a spot to put it. She kept pressing and mentioned I got a new painting for her living room. 

I told her again that I don’t have a spot for it. She then picked up the painting and said she could help find a spot. I told her no. She asked why not and I decided to be honest. I told her I am not a fan of the artwork. 

She got quiet after that and I gave her the decoration. I got a call form my son and he was mad. He told me I need to apologize and hang up her painting. That his wife has been crying and it took her hours to make.

I told him I’m not hanging it up and that resulted in an argument. 

I need some opinions. I feel like it’s my house I can decorate it how I want.

**Edit: Just to remind everyone, I am *not* the OOP. I did not write this. Please show me some respect, though you don't have to show the OOP any respect.**

I (24m) have been dating my girlfriend (24f) for the past two years now, although we’ve been best friends before we officially hooked up. My girlfriend has a little sister named Rio (13f). Rio really looks up to me, and I get along very well with her.

One day last month, I was visiting my girlfriend’s parent’s house. Rio wanted to take me out on a walk, because there is an abandoned treehouse in the woods nearby that she wanted to show me. So I said “sure, why not?” While I was walking with her, it was quite windy outside, and she was wearing a crop top and skirt, so it was difficult not to notice that the wind was blowing her crop top and skirt open (well, of course, I couldn’t see up her skirt, but the wind was blowing enough that her thighs were very exposed). It was so uncomfortable for me, but Rio didn’t seem to notice that so much of her body was showing. Eventually I just stopped dead in my tracks and I bluntly asked her if she was trying to hit on me, because the way she was dressed, together with her request to walk with me alone, just felt so inappropriate. She looked so weirded out and repulsed, and she said the equivalent of “ew, no”. I told her that I just wanted to check, and so I resumed walking, when I noticed that Rio was not following me. I turned around, and she was running back home.

This entire incident has damaged my relationship, not just with my girlfriend’s sister, but with my girlfriend and her parents. Her parents were so angry when Rio told them what happened during the walk, and I was kicked out of their house. My girlfriend refuses to communicate with me or see me now, and the last time I talked with her, she was crying and she told me to stay away from her little sister. I am eager to get back on the family’s good graces, and I’d like to sit down with Rio eventually and have a one-to-one discussion with her about what happened that day.

How do I get back together with my girlfriend? How do I repair my relationship with her family?

**Edit: Just to remind everyone, I am not the OOP. I did not write this. Please show me some respect, though you don't have to show the OOP any respect.**

Also, It seems a mod at the original subreddit nuked it. The text is captured here and the automod scraped the original post.

This happened a few months ago, and I still think about it sometimes.

I (24M) was traveling by train late at night. It was one of those long journeys where most people are just trying to sleep. Around midnight, the train stopped at a small station for a few minutes. Nothing unusual.

An older man got in and sat across from me. He looked tired, but calm. We did not talk at first. After some time, he asked me what I do, just normal conversation. Somehow we started talking about life, work, stress, all random things.

Then he told me something that stayed with me.

He said when he was younger, he lost everything in a business failure. Money, reputation, even some relationships. He said for a while he felt like his life was finished. But instead of trying to rebuild everything the same way, he just started doing small things differently every day.

He said something like, “Life does not collapse in one day, and it also does not rebuild in one day.”

We talked for maybe an hour, and honestly it felt strange how open the conversation was with someone I had just met.

When his station came, he got up, smiled, and just said, “Whatever you are worried about, give it time. Most things solve slower than we expect, but they do solve.”

And then he left.

I never saw him again, do not even know his name, but that one conversation somehow changed how I look at problems. I used to panic about everything, now I try to slow down and think long term.

It is weird how sometimes a random stranger can leave a bigger impact than people you know for years.