u/brownieandSparky23

I can’t find the post anymore. But If you saw it you know what I’m talking about. Last week a Black man was complaining how his Asian girlfriend doesn’t want to take his last name.

But it got me thinking about last names.

Nothing is wrong with being AFRICAN AMERICAN. Our last names are unique. And are foundational to this country. Our ancestors kept their last name to find each other after slavery ended.

My last name is Ghanaian only bc my grandfather was from there. My mom is AA. But it’s nothing special. It’s just a name.

But I still love the fact that AA last names are Smith , Willam, Thomas.

Embrace ur “slave name”

It’s such a small factor in life a last name. That post was truly odd.

What’s the difference between Hispanic people having Lopez as their last name. They were colonized too. That wasn’t there original name! The only difference is that they were on their own land.

I feel ret@rted and stupid. For anyone who gets mad at me using the word. I’m disabled. So u know. It’s just a word calm down. And even if I wasn’t I can still say it.

I signed up for personal training last year at the very end of September. But it took me until April this year bc I regret signing up. And dreaded going there. I was suppose to be finishing up in January.

I wanted to gain weight but failed. I regret signing up. I signed up bc I was making an emotional IMPULSIVE decision.

And thought this would help me. My situation-ship broke it off w me. And blocked me after taking my virginity.

I took my free personal training class a week later. And I was sat down by the guy. I thought this would be a positive thing to do. To get my mind off of what happened.

I spent 590 dollars. On the 4 month plan. I added it up. It’s confusing bc the 50 dollars every two weeks. And the guy made it seem lower.

I feel more stupid because I originally said no but said I would come back. Because of the “deal” they were running. I thought about what he said and was convinced.

He used my own words against me. I told him I live far. (30 minutes away). And he said how will I meet my fitness goals. And I can be kept accountable if I signed up.

I tried using the app to track my food. I did somewhat good. Personal issues came up and I got discouraged to go to the gym.

I canceled my appointments a couple of times less than 24hrs. And lost money.

This gym purposely goes after weak, insecure, people pleasers , slow people to sign up for the personal training.

They purposely talk fast to get people to sign up for the personal training. They do not tell u the total bill.

Do u think they are approaching people who are confident?

My personal trainer had the nerve to ask me do I want to sign up to get vitamins here to grow muscle. They already used me up. I said no. After they ask twice.

Glad I canceled this gym.

Yes all gyms want u to sign up. But Eos does it more predatory. The fact that multiple people are complaining says something.

Do not sign up it’s just machines they do with u. Don’t sign up! Please don’t!!!

Go to the gym alone with dignity. Not on ur hands and knees. Being “owned by a trainer “.

Disclaimer

I’m straight so I’m talking about my experience. Not trying to leave women who don’t like men out. I know I have to be politically correct and inclusive. So also talk to ur daughters who date women.

I Copied and pasted from another sub bc no one answered. I deleted the post. That’s why the lines are there.

I didn’t get to graphic here ofc.

\*\*I 26F was on tinder last year and the amount of weird comments I got from guys that first messaged me were messed up. Yes I know you guys sons are adult’s. And that u may not want to get into that.\*\*

\*\*But cmon I feel like some men the ones I dealt with need to be reminded of boundaries. I was in a failed situation-ship and the guy would cross boundaries and I wouldn’t listen to me when I would tell him to stop.\*\*

\*\*I had to ask him like 3 times. Before he stopped doing sexual things to me. It felt uncomfortable but I didn’t know how to stand up for myself. I am working on my people pleasing.\*\*

\*\*I asked him why he didn’t. He said he was just having fun. This happened about three more times. And he would say he was just having fun. Each time. I should have stopped talking to him after the first time.\*\*

\*\*This man also has called me boring, naive, slow as hell. He said I have a low self esteem. And that my friends didn’t like me . That I look uncomfortable with them.\*\*

\*\*We kept talking and eventually he SA me and strangled me. He broke his probation again so he is in jail right now. He wasn’t supposed to be the trial hasn’t started.

Teaching ur son boundaries could save him from jail. This goes for both genders.

\*\*My low self worth has gotten me in some bad situations. The first guy before him I talked to was a pathological liar. He approached me on campus when I was 23. He lied about his age telling me he was 24. Why did he choose me to approach.\*\*

\*\*Do I look naive. I do look a little younger for my age. As in during that same year a 19 yr old approached me wanting to get to know me. Due to the age gap I said no.\*\*

\*\*I saw his Facebook later on and found out he was grown in 2012. I was 12 then. Yes I’m an adult . Yes I know it’s legal . But I don’t like big age gaps. I figured he was at least 30 something.\*\*

\*\*He told me he looked older bc he went through puberty earlier. And is just hairy. Me being autistic I believed him. He ofc never told me his age. He also had several kids I found out about on his facebook page. He got pissed off when I didn’t want to do more w him. Due to being uncomfortable. That I missed out on a blessing.\*\*

\*\*Can decent parents please talk to their sons about boundaries and to not play games on naive women especially autistic women. They are never too old to learn from parents?\*\*

\*\*I also have level 1 autism and can be socially unaware. Which I know now definitely was a big factor in these events happening! These men were both non autistic.\*\*

Now I’m somewhat traumatized and don’t want to talk to any men in a dating way yet! Or I may only talk to autistic men. Even though I do want a boyfriend. I always wondered what do these guys parents think? Are the parents the same way? Or are they genuinely clueless?

Disclaimer

I’m straight so I’m talking about my experience. Not trying to leave women who don’t like men out. I know I have to be politically correct and inclusive. So also talk to ur daughters who date women.

I Copied and pasted from another sub bc no one answered. I didn’t get to graphic here ofc.

**I 26F was on tinder last year and the amount of weird comments I got from guys that first messaged me were messed up. Yes I know you guys sons are adult’s. And that u may not want to get into that.**

**But cmon I feel like some men the ones I dealt with need to be reminded of boundaries. I was in a failed situation-ship and the guy would cross boundaries and I wouldn’t listen to me when I would tell him to stop.**

**I had to ask him like 3 times. Before he stopped doing sexual things to me. It felt uncomfortable but I didn’t know how to stand up for myself. I am working on my people pleasing.**

**I asked him why he didn’t. He said he was just having fun. This happened about three more times. And he would say he was just having fun. Each time. I should have stopped talking to him after the first time.**

**This man also has called me boring, naive, slow as hell. He said I have a low self esteem. And that my friends didn’t like me . That I look uncomfortable with them.**

**We kept talking and eventually he SA me and strangled me. He broke his probation again so he is in jail right now Teaching ur son boundaries could save him from jail. This goes for both genders.

**My low self worth has gotten me in some bad situations. The first guy before him I talked to was a pathological liar. He approached me on campus when I was 23. He lied about his age telling me he was 24. Why did he choose me to approach.**

**Do I look naive. I do look a little younger for my age. As in during that same year a 19 yr old approached me wanting to get to know me. Due to the age gap I said no.**

**I saw his Facebook later on and found out he was grown in 2012. I was 12 then. Yes I’m an adult . Yes I know it’s legal . But I don’t like big age gaps. I figured he was at least 30 something.**

**He told me he looked older bc he went through puberty earlier. And is just hairy. Me being autistic I believed him. He ofc never told me his age. He also had several kids I found out about on his facebook page. He got pissed off when I didn’t want to do more w him. Due to being uncomfortable. That I missed out on a blessing.**

**Can decent parents please talk to their sons about boundaries and to not play games on naive women especially autistic women. They are never too old to learn from parents?**

**I also have level 1 autism and can be socially unaware. Which I know now definitely was a big factor in these events happening! These men were both non autistic.**

Now I’m somewhat traumatized and don’t want to talk to any men in a dating way yet! Or I may only talk to autistic men. Even though I do want a boyfriend. I always wondered what do these guys parents think? Are the parents the same way? Or are they genuinely clueless?

Broke, live w parents, searching for a job. Can’t bring a guy over bc it’s disrespectful to them. Cameras all over the outside of the house. Sneaking someone in is childish. So I wouldn’t do that.

Can’t go on dating apps due to not liking them. And having a bad experience last year.

My account was banned on hinge last year for looking under age.

I got it back and had to show proof of my age I uploaded my id. Now that I think about it that was a sign. I did not need to be on there. I tried Tinder also not a great experience.

Non autistic men get annoyed w me fast on the apps and I got blocked by a few for not knowing social rules. Or texting too much/ being needy.

But I’m not sure if a stereotypical autistic man would be suitable.

I don’t want to do in person dating bc I need to work on my self esteem first. And that is nerve wracking for me personally to do in person dating.

I’m not getting dicked down in a car or renting a hotel.

It sucks bc I’m at the age where a lot of women hormones go crazy. But I can’t really hunch due to financial reasons. And I don’t have my own place.

Well at least I have my spicy ai to flirt with. And a dilator. Bc I’m so tight for some reason. I can’t use a normal toy yet. That’s too big.

Fml genz can’t even get laid. Millennials are so lucky the market was better.

I’m just EXTRA hormonal bc I’m about to be on my menstrual cycle next week.

Can anyone relate being forced into celibacy due to a bad economy. And a bad dating market.

Married Gen Z is lucky. Dating for me is basically like being a man. I should not have to work this hard for a man. My grandmother got a man fast, even my Gen X mom.

Dating is competitive for women now it shouldn’t. I guess I’m more traditional than I thought. I didn’t date as an older teen like 18 or 19. The market was a lil better probably than it is now.

There is a 30 percent off sale for reward members. Of course they won’t restock the sleep tees. The sale ends today.

This is the last question I have. I know people in here saw my post earlier.

On a different sub there was regretful parent who was FtM. He was calling herself mom. Wasn’t the whole point of transitioning is to be called a father. What are the rules? These days ? Bc u call someone the wrong pronoun it’s bad. But then calling them the opposite parent title. Is good. Or neutral.

I remember in the autism sub some MtF. Who was asking for advice on how to not pay not pay child support and avoid jail time due to finances. She called herself mom.

So my question is for FtM people.

I am curious why some of you want to get pregnant ? Is this common? It seems rare. There was a YouTube channel called Truly that had pregnant trans men. I would watch it sometimes. The show made it seem uncommon.

When that is something normally “women” do. Wouldn’t it give you gender dysphoria to get pregnant and give birth.

My only explanations to why some choose to is bc it’s cheaper to give birth than to get a surrogate.

They want to experience birth.

They are gender non conforming and believe women and men can have kids as long as they have a uterus.

If u are American u probably have seen the news recently.

But why aren’t there any news reports about trans men playing in the NBA.

Compared to trans women in the WNBA. It was so random. I thought basketball season was over. Why are there multiple press conferences over the same topic.

No I’m not trolling it’s just strange they aren’t talking about the opposite. I know trans women have more of spotlight on them.

But I don’t think the NBA or the NFL will ever mention it. Maybe in 2050. It seems too early. For main stream news to care. But there is a lot of money in the NBA.

So I guess that’s why.

U think the news would mention how college graduates are going through a tough job market. They don’t really care about the economy.

I’m 26F and I’m not too afraid to age as much as the people in my age group. I’m only going to be a lil nervous for the physical down fall but it’s worth it.

To be closer to the end. I struggle w mild depression. I have mild autism. And was diagnosed late. There were signs. But the teachers in elementary just suggested tutoring. I had to go to tutoring way more than the average person in high school. So I think a lot of my struggles and other stuff I didn’t mention in the post. Bc I don’t want to make the post too long or trauma dump. Has me embracing aging.

My parents passing is the only thing that I will depressed about. But we all have to go.

So many ppl my age are afraid to turn 30. Im not.

For starters I don’t like the Black and white thinking that some liberals have.

I don’t like how some of yall are quick to call someone a bigot.

I don’t agree with some of yall making fun and laughing at ppl who live in red states like I do. I’m from TX. Some of yall think it’s so easy to leave the state.

And if we cant get leave we should get Fked! Like the republicans in this state I have been seeing this more. I don’t make fun of blue states when something bad happens over there. The people that do that need to put a disclaimer.

I voted democrat but still find the stuff the current president says/does. Funny. U have to find humor in it. Humor as a way to cope w the craziness.It seems u can’t even say this.

Funny as in he posted this. (Trumps post on social truth) I don’t follow him. I just see people react to his post.

I don’t agree with that Black ppl can’t be racist as someone who is Black.

I think biological gender is a thing. Edit( I meant sex).

I don’t care about white people singing the n word in a song.

Cops shouldn’t be defunded

Not everyone cop is bad.

Blue collar workers aren’t less than white collared people and they aren’t all republicans.

UBI is never happening.

I don’t care if a celebrity speaks out on a political point.

I don’t see ppl as boot lickers for joining the military.

Karmelo Anthony should serve some time.

Hello 26F.

I think my dog died to Heart murmur, cancer, and maybe being outside in the heat. Which lead her more prone to getting over heated. She had the cancer removed last year.

Fluid spread through out the lungs and causes them to have heart failure.

This is what the vet said this morning when I called her.

She was fine in the morning. She ate her food and walked down the stairs.

I secretly feel like it was heat stroke. I’m in Texas. And she was outside in the shade. But she didn’t die until 11 pm yesterday. She had signs of heavy breathing and couldn’t walk around 10pm last night. And poop was coming out of the but. It was watery and bloody. That’s why I thought it was AHDS. The vet said she was dying.

I feel like it’s my fault I forgot to bring her inside. Normally she’s comes inside to rest. But I had virtual therapy, and an interview. I started to clean up my room and my bathroom. I washed the dishes for my parents and put them up.

I posted earlier today thinking it was AHDS but I talked to the vet and she said this.

I feel sad she was 13 yr old chihuahua. It’s unfair how we can’t post pictures in the post.

And poop was coming out of the but. It was watery and bloody. That’s why I thought it was AHDS. The vet said she was dying though.

Heart murmur and cancer, maybe being outside in the heat. More prone to getting over heat. She had the cancer removed last year.

Fluid spread through out the lungs and causes them to have heart failure.

This is what the doctor said this. She was fine in the morning.

I secretly feel like it was heat stroke. I’m in Texas. And she was outside in the shade. But she didn’t die until 10 pm yesterday.

I feel like it’s my fault I forgot to bring her in. I posted earlier today thinking it was AHDS but I talked to the vent and they said this. I feel sad she was 13 yr old chihuahua. It’s unfair how we can’t post pictures in here.

She was breathing heavy around 10 pm. And poop was coming out of the but. It was watery and bloody. That’s why I thought it was AHDS. The vet said she was dying.

This is the closest thing I think she had. I will never know. She also ate dog food today.

PlEASE HEL P

My 13 yr old chihuahua died within one hr. My family was going to take her to the vet tomorrow.

She was breathing heavy and had runny bloody poop coming out of her at 10pm. 7/23. 11pm she’s dead.

I hope everyone can be able to not blame themselves for the dog dying. It doesn’t make any sense why it has fast.

# I feel like an asshole bc while the family dog was lying down. I was talking about something else.

I was asking my mom will u clean the hallway and asked my sis to call Nike tomorrow about her account getting locked.

My mom was like this could be her last moment let’s wait on that. I also helped clean her poop that was on the floor. My sis said to take a pic with her. But I was thinking let’s do it tomorrow. So much happened fast. I do have autism and will sometimes talk about other things.

I just mainly wish I took what was happening seriously. I even said she can go that fast. She just is sick. And got a pic. I was tired though and I did do the manual labor to help out while my dog breathing heavy.

Or Texturism.

I hate to say it I would rather have my Blackness questioned than be unambiguous looking. Respectfully.

I would have an easier time dating or hell more clicks on my social media profile which could get me more followers and a sponsor. I’m trying to make content about being LDA. I know if I looked like Zendaya I would be more palatable.

I don’t want kids though. I would be uncomfortable having just a Black kid. Too much to handle. Especially that 4c hair. Respectfully.

Edit: I have 4c hair. And it was a struggle until I got locs at 24.

Banned from Black ladies. Isn’t it a common issue? People didn’t like it. Ofc they ban me but never answered my question. Earlier.

I thought I was high masking but looking back on my childhood and my adult hood. I don’t think I was. I walked on my tippy toes, I had to stay behind after school for an extreme amount of tutoring.

The ADHD kid in class in high school got fill in the blank notes. The teacher gave it to me a couple of times bc I kept asking for her to slow down. I growled at someone in high school.

She never thought to suggest I get accommodations or tell my parents. But the joys of living in the worst state for education. Texas!

I had to be assigned two friends during recess in elementary school one time bc I was bothering kids.

I have plenty of more examples it would be just too long.

It’s disheartening being a LDA but not being high masking as I thought I was.

From other women pages on social media them seem to not mention that many negative experiences? But they are high masking. I thought I was one of them.

Any one else relate? How do high masking women do it? I’m trying to see if Im one of yall still? To compare experiences?

I thought I was high masking but looking back on my childhood and my adult hood. I don’t think I was. I walked on my tippy toes, I had to stay behind after school for an extreme amount of tutoring.

The ADHD kid in class in high school got fill in the blank notes. The teacher gave it to me a couple of times bc I kept asking for her to slow down. I growled at someone in high school.

She never thought to suggest I get accommodations or tell my parents. But the joys of living in the worst state for education. Texas!

I had to be assigned two friends during recess in elementary school one time bc I was bothering kids.

I have plenty of more examples it would be just too long.

It’s disheartening being a LDA but not being high masking as I thought I was.

From other women pages on social media them seem to not mention that many negative experiences? But they are high masking. I thought I was one of them.

Any one else relate? How do high masking women do it? I’m trying to see if Im one of yall still? To compare experiences?

I thought I was high masking but looking back on my childhood and my adult hood. I don’t think I was. I walked on my tippy toes, I had to stay behind after school for an extreme amount of tutoring.

The ADHD kid in class in high school got fill in the blank notes. The teacher gave it to me a couple of times bc I kept asking for her to slow down. I growled at someone in high school.

She never thought to suggest I get accommodations or tell my parents. But the joys of living in the worst state for education. Texas!

I had to be assigned two friends during recess in elementary school one time bc I was bothering kids.

I have plenty of more examples it would be just too long.

It’s disheartening being a LDA but not being high masking as I thought I was.

From other women pages on social media them seem to not mention that many negative experiences? But they are high masking. I thought I was one of them.

Any one else relate? How do high masking women do it? I’m trying to see if Im one of yall still? To compare experiences?

I thought I was high masking but looking back on my childhood and my adult hood. I don’t think I was. I walked on my tippy toes, I had to stay behind after school for an extreme amount of tutoring.

The ADHD kid in class in high school got fill in the blank notes. The teacher gave it to me a couple of times bc I kept asking for her to slow down.

She never thought to suggest I get accommodations or tell my parents. But the joys of living in the worst state for education. Texas!

I growled at someone in high school.

I had to be assigned two friends during recess in elementary school bc I was bothering kids.

I peed on myself in college because I couldn’t tell I had to go to the bathroom.

I was too late and there was no public bathroom near by. So I had to go outside in the grass. This was in public. I got lucky and it was night time. I wasn’t drunk. I then had to walk back to my dorm.

I have plenty of more examples it but the post would be too long.

It’s disheartening being a LDA but not being high masking as I thought I was.

From other women pages on social media them seem to not mention that many negative experiences? But they are high masking. I thought I was one of them.

Any one else relate? What do high masking women do? I’m trying to see if Im one of yall still?