I have just one the size of a fingernail. I'm curious if you had a fibroid of a similar size removed, I'd be curious how long it took for you to feel well enough to do solidcore again. :)
My colleague is one grade above me and not an EA. It's been going on for a while, typically small tasks like drafting emails, removing access to former staff to our google drive, accounting information for team members (the first two were just in this past week), and some other stuff I've since forgotten. She never asks permission. She has also asked me to send her my email drafts for the boss for her to review, which I've politely declined. I'm a writer, my boss lauds this and constantly praises my work, and I'm a very high level EA; it's weird to have a colleague reviewing my drafts when I've never had to do this before.
She also does similarly in social conversations, which I do not intend to bring up, but it is also indicative to me that this is not some accident or coincidence. It's unclear to me whether this is a personal insecurity, or whether she's trying to show she can do my job in case there are layoffs.
I feel like I have 3 or 4 options:
-say nothing to the boss, but continue to ask her why she did this in the moment, which so far has not produced any change.
-have a chat with the boss during our weekly check-in, which I prefer not to, especially since I'm also going to ask to have more duties so I can work towards a promotion
-the next time it happens, a quick email saying "I understand you've said you misunderstood tasks our boss assigned to me were meant for you. Feel free to ask for clarity next time so we can avoid duplication in work." (I am being gracious; our boss is very clear every time she's asking me and me alone to do these things.) And then talk to the boss to let her know I had a word with her about it.
-same as option 3, but don't say anything to the boss until she does it again after I've told her to ask for clarity.
Anyways, I'd love to know your thoughts. Thank you!
It's been going on for a while , typically small tasks like drafting emails, removing access to former staff to our google drive, accounting information for team members (the first two were just in this past week), and some other stuff I've since forgotten. She never asks permission. She has also asked me to send her my email drafts for the boss for her to review, which I've politely declined. I'm a writer, my boss lauds this and constantly praises my work, and I'm a very high level EA; it's weird to have a colleague reviewing my drafts.
She also does similarly in social conversations, which I do not intend to bring up, but it is also indicative to me that this is not some accident or coincidence. It's unclear to me whether this is a personal insecurity, or whether she's trying to show she can do my job in case there are layoffs.
I feel like I have 3 or 4 options:
-say nothing to the boss, but continue to ask her why she did this in the moment, which so far has not produced any change.
-have a chat with the boss during our weekly check-in, which I prefer not to, especially since I'm also going to ask to have more duties so I can work towards a promotion
-the next time it happens, a quick email saying "I understand you've said you misunderstood tasks our boss assigned to me were meant for you. Feel free to ask for clarity next time so we can avoid duplication in work." (I am being gracious; our boss is very clear every time she's asking me and me alone to do these things.) And then talk to the boss to let her know I had a word with her about it.
-same as option 3, but don't say anything to the boss until she does it again after I've told her to ask for clarity.
Anyways, I'd love to know your thoughts. Thank you!
We had a block party yesterday and Shazam couldn't pick this one up lol. It sounds like a lot of other 80s R&B. Think Alexander O'Neal etc. But Google turns up nothing. Male singer, and IIRC the chorus was sung by a woman/women.
If anyone who is a partner of an avoidant person whose partner explained to you what they thought before coming back, I'd also like to hear from you too.
I'm curious if it's relief then a feeling of loss, or if there's a period of anger/resentment/hatred too before you realize you may have gotten it wrong.
TLDR: We met a year and a half ago, were briefly intimate, and reconciled after he shut down and stopped talking to me. He, a very avoidant person, said he was attracted to me and may want to explore being more than friends, then a few weeks ago said he didn't remember saying that and just wanted to be friends. I said I don't want to be friends with him, and he's now feeling like he's the heartbroken one (playing nothing but heartbreak music, which he hadn't done at all before this conversation). I am torn between swallowing my pride and reaching out to see if he's had time to process his feelings and maybe feels differently, or wait for him; I don't want to be in a situation where we both wait for the other to reach out, and both regret it. I am figuring out what I would say.
We met a year and a half ago, were briefly intimate, and reconciled after he shut down and stopped talking to me. He said he wanted to continue to see me as friends and maybe more later, that he was attracted to me but hadn't been in a place to start anything (he is not in a great place financially).
He is seriously avoidant. Examples: he freaks out when strangers mistake his female friends as his girlfriend, and he got angry and shut down a few weeks ago when I told him I couldn't tell if he really didn't like me, or if he has feelings, and he's scared, so he self-sabotages. I understand now this may have been a case of "deactivation". He represses his emotions deeply and pours it into his work.
A week later, he sent a cold chatg*t-written message saying he just wants a casual friendship, sorry it's not the answer you wanted, hope you've been well. I told him I don't want to be his friend, that I won't contact him anymore and won't go see his work. I unfollowed him. He said sorry for the pain, he genuinely wishes me well. I said sorry isn't enough. That if it was a money/career issue for him, or being in a relationship, or if he needed time to decide, he could have communicated that, but he didn't so we never found out if it could have worked. That he never said what changed or if it was because I was forcing the issue to the fore.
Shortly after he sent his chatg*t message, he immediately began posting songs about missing someone and wanting them back, and songs about wanting a second chance with a lost love to do something over again, that something was missed and he has regrets.
As of today, he's still following me even though he's easily unfollowed me in the past at random times that bewildered me and that he couldn't explain when I asked him about it.
I have reason to believe he may regret what he said and is turning things over in his mind. He is playing nothing but heartbreak music, and it started immediately after our last messages to one another. It's been going on for weeks. Since we both kinda rejected each other, I don't want to be in a place where we both sit in silence, waiting for the other reach out. Especially since his avoidant traits are strong.
Have you ever been in a similar situation where you reached out despite being spurned? What did you say? How did it turn out?
A rough draft of what I'd send to him: "Hey, I am unsure if you are considering my last words, and assessing our situation in general, or whether this matter is forever closed to you. But I thought I would check in before marking this as a lost cause. Given our history, I can't be friends with you. I would be angry if I saw you with someone else, and our friendship felt one-sided as it was. But if you're willing to work through our misunderstandings and see if we can build a life together, I am too."
I'm interested in hearing from men who decided to not date someone or not continue dating them, then came back *seriously* to date a woman (not just for validation/access). I'm curious what made you decide to reach out and when you did. I'm especially interested if you did or do lean avoidant and have some kind of phobia/trauma around feelings/relationships. How did the relationship originally end? How did you restart it?
A very long story short: we met in real life through sheer chance and weird circumstances, not through apps. We were briefly intimate over a year ago and had a complicated friendship after. He insisted on wanting to continue meeting up for coffee. He is seriously avoidant. Examples: he freaks out when strangers mistake his female friends as his girlfriend, and he freaked out a few weeks ago when I told him I couldn't tell if he really didn't like me, or if he has feelings, and he's scared, so he self-sabotages. He got angry, ended the conversation shortly after.
Last week I asked how he was feeling, and that he could send me a song if he didn't want to say it. He sidestepped that, said he was busy. I said I need to know when I can expect to hear from him because I can't wait indefinitely. (He tends to say he's busy as a way to not face his feelings.) He sent a cold chatgpt-written message saying he just wants a casual friendship, sorry it's not the answer you wanted, hope you've been well.
I told him I don't want to be his friend, that I won't contact him anymore and won't go see his work. That he told me he was attracted to me, and he wanted to continue meeting up as friends and maybe it becomes something more later, but never said what changed or if it was because I was forcing the issue to the fore. I unfollowed him.
He said sorry for the pain, he genuinely wishes me well. I said sorry isn't enough. That if it was a money/career issue for him, or being in a relationship, or if he needed time to decide, he could have communicated that, but he didn't so we never found out if it could have worked. And that it was so hurtful how he reacted. I have my doubts he realized any of that.
Shortly after he sent his chatgpt message, he immediately began posting songs about missing someone and wanting them back, and songs about wanting a second chance with a lost love to do something over again, that something was missed and he has regrets.
Shockingly, as of today, he's still following me. By comparison: a month ago he invited me to an event, and a few hours later unfollowed me. The next day he was talking about catching up next week, and when I asked if anything had changed about us having coffee, and he was super apologetic, saying his schedule is crazy (which it is). I asked him twice about the unfollow and he could never give me an explanation for why he unfollowed other than "it was a long time ago". He refollowed when we caught up in person after I insisted it wasn't. I still don't get this quite, frankly.
Anyways, I will not contact him again...unless he reaches out first.
I'm interested in hearing from men who decided to not date someone or not continue dating them, then came back *seriously* to date a woman (not just for validation/access). I'm curious what made you decide to reach out and when you did. I'm especially interested if you did or do lean avoidant and have some kind of phobia/trauma around feelings/relationships. How did the relationship originally end? How did you restart it?
A very long story short: we met in real life through sheer chance and weird circumstances, not through apps. We were briefly intimate over a year ago and had a complicated friendship after. He insisted on wanting to continue meeting up for coffee. He is seriously avoidant. Examples: he freaks out when strangers mistake his female friends as his girlfriend, and he freaked out a few weeks ago when I told him I couldn't tell if he really didn't like me, or if he has feelings, and he's scared, so he self-sabotages. He got angry, ended the conversation shortly after.
Last week I asked how he was feeling, and that he could send me a song if he didn't want to say it. He sidestepped that, said he was busy. I said I need to know when I can expect to hear from him because I can't wait indefinitely. (He tends to say he's busy as a way to not face his feelings.) He sent a cold chatgpt-written message saying he just wants a casual friendship, sorry it's not the answer you wanted, hope you've been well.
I told him I don't want to be his friend, that I won't contact him anymore and won't go see his work. That he told me he was attracted to me, and he wanted to continue meeting up as friends and maybe it becomes something more later, but never said what changed or if it was because I was forcing the issue to the fore. I unfollowed him.
He said sorry for the pain, he genuinely wishes me well. I said sorry isn't enough. That if it was a money/career issue for him, or being in a relationship, or if he needed time to decide, he could have communicated that, but he didn't so we never found out if it could have worked. And that it was so hurtful how he reacted. I have my doubts he realized any of that.
Shortly after he sent his chatgpt message, he immediately began posting songs about missing someone and wanting them back, and songs about wanting a second chance with a lost love to do something over again, that something was missed and he has regrets.
Shockingly, as of today, he's still following me. By comparison: a month ago he invited me to an event, and a few hours later unfollowed me. The next day he was talking about catching up next week, and when I asked if anything had changed about us having coffee, and he was super apologetic, saying his schedule is crazy (which it is). I asked him twice about the unfollow and he could never give me an explanation for why he unfollowed other than "it was a long time ago". He refollowed when we caught up in person after I insisted it wasn't. I still don't get this quite, frankly.
Anyways, I will not contact him again...unless he reaches out first.
I'm interested in hearing from men who decided to not date someone or not continue dating them, then came back *seriously* to date a woman (not just for validation/access). I'm curious what made you decide to reach out and when you did. I'm especially interested if you did or do lean avoidant and have some kind of phobia/trauma around feelings/relationships. How did the relationship originally end? How did you restart it?
A very long story short: we met in real life through sheer chance and weird circumstances, not through apps. We were briefly intimate over a year ago and had a complicated friendship after. He insisted on wanting to continue meeting up for coffee. He is seriously avoidant. Examples: he freaks out when strangers mistake his female friends as his girlfriend, and he freaked out a few weeks ago when I told him I couldn't tell if he really didn't like me, or if he has feelings, and he's scared, so he self-sabotages. He got angry, ended the conversation shortly after.
Last week I asked how he was feeling, and that he could send me a song if he didn't want to say it. He sidestepped that, said he was busy. I said I need to know when I can expect to hear from him because I can't wait indefinitely. (He tends to say he's busy as a way to not face his feelings.) He sent a cold chatgpt-written message saying he just wants a casual friendship, sorry it's not the answer you wanted, hope you've been well.
I told him I don't want to be his friend, that I won't contact him anymore and won't go see his work. That he told me he was attracted to me, and he wanted to continue meeting up as friends and maybe it becomes something more later, but never said what changed or if it was because I was forcing the issue to the fore. I unfollowed him.
He said sorry for the pain, he genuinely wishes me well. I said sorry isn't enough. That if it was a money/career issue for him, or being in a relationship, or if he needed time to decide, he could have communicated that, but he didn't so we never found out if it could have worked. And that it was so hurtful how he reacted. I have my doubts he realized any of that.
Shortly after he sent his chatgpt message, he immediately began posting songs about missing someone and wanting them back, and songs about wanting a second chance with a lost love to do something over again, that something was missed and he has regrets.
Shockingly, as of today, he's still following me. By comparison: a month ago he invited me to an event, and a few hours later unfollowed me. The next day he was talking about catching up next week, and when I asked if anything had changed about us having coffee, and he was super apologetic, saying his schedule is crazy (which it is). I asked him twice about the unfollow and he could never give me an explanation for why he unfollowed other than "it was a long time ago". He refollowed when we caught up in person after I insisted it wasn't. I still don't get this quite, frankly.
Anyways, I will not contact him again...unless he reaches out first.
I have one submucosal fibroid less than an inch wide. I asked for tranexamic acid after reading the wonders it does for people on this sub.
She said she thinks high dose advil is more appropriate. I said I was worried about ulcers.
She did not explain why. I was unfortunately really out of it the day I saw her or I would have insisted for an explanation why I couldn't get the pill I wanted.
Anyone have any insight into this?
I saw a website that made a list of usernames who do this...does anybody have that link? Can't find it. Thanks!
I bought this used off Amazon.
It was working fine Friday when I received it. But now when I turn it on, it starts three times then stops before it gives two white blinking lights.
I've looked at the fan, and I've used an air gun on the filters, as that appears to be what causes the blinking lights.
There's nothing as far as I can see, and I know I didn't drop anything down the vents in the two days I had it.
Any advice or is it just faulty?
Would meet you there and Zelle you the money.
Don't bother contacting me if you're a scammer because I'm not dumb.
Bought a Levoit 400S the other day to replace my Honeywell HPA100.
I am congested at night again, and am surprised. I am wondering if the lack of a charcoal filter is to blame? Anyone else have a similar experience? If so, what did you decide upon?
I'm interested in buying something online that's not available here in the US. I was wondering if anyone has a recommendation for a reputable and reliable forwarding service. Basically, they allow me to use a CR address and they forward the package to me here.
I prefer recs from folks who've used it!
Thanks!
I love this laptop. But the magnetic thing it comes with to prop it up sucks and I don't use it as a tablet.
I am on the market for a case that also functions to prop it up at an angle that works for my Zoom calls and for writing. I have had difficult finding one (that doesn't break as soon as I use it).
Anyone have any pointers?
I posted yesterday on World Poetry Collective's fake poet "Wilson", an alleged 84 year old from Oklahoma. The book they published of his, "Wilson's Revenge", is clearly AI and they gave him a fishy backstory as to why he wants to remain anonymous.
I didn't realize they weren't his first supposed discovered poet. There's also Mary Kilroy. This one even has a photo on their website! She's young and hot, of course. They made a bit more effort with her, it seems. They gave her an instagram account, which is of course private, with 14 followers.
Anyways, I ran Wilson's poetry, as well as Mary's photo and poetry through an AI detector. It's all AI.
I posted yesterday on World Poetry Collective's fake poet "Wilson", an alleged 84 year old from Oklahoma. The book they published of his, "Wilson's Revenge", is clearly AI and they gave him a fishy backstory as to why he wants to remain anonymous.
I didn't realize they weren't his first supposed discovered poet. There's also Mary Kilroy. This one even has a photo on their website! She's young and hot, of course. They made a bit more effort with her, it seems. They gave her an instagram account, which is of course private, with 14 followers.
Anyways, I ran Wilson's poetry, as well as Mary's photo and poetry through an AI detector. It's all AI.
I wanted to ask for your takes on something they've had going for the past week.
They've published a book by a supposed 84 year-old named "Wilson", called "Wilson's Revenge", who wants to remain anonymous. I saw a couple discrepancies in how they're hustling this: they said he was 84 and then they clarified he IS 84 now. Some posts say he spent a lifetime writing these poems; other posts say he only began writing recently after living a full life. I asked for a clarification on that second one and received crickets.
I really do not want to wrongly accuse some octogenarian out there, but the weirdness surrounding the backstory and the actual poems has to make ask:
Does anyone else think it's possible WPC used AI and created this mysterious story to sell some books?
All the poems have the same tone, feeling, and line of thought. There is no variation whatsoever, which I would expect there to be regardless of whether he really began writing recently or over a lifetime. But if the latter I would definitely expect there to be some differences in writing style. There is also a detachment from the world that you only get from AI. I don't want to get into the other specific giveaways so that they can perfect their game, but I'd love everyone's thoughts.
Update: I asked them on their latest post to provide proof this person exists and wrote these poems. They deleted the comment within minutes!
I am guessing this isn't illegal, but this should really be publicized.
I know this instagram account has been mentioned before on this sub, and as a scam.
I wanted to ask for your takes on something they've had going for the past week.
They've published a book by a supposed 84 year-old named "Wilson", called "Wilson's Revenge", who wants to remain anonymous. I saw a couple discrepancies in how they're hustling this: they said he was 84 and then they clarified he IS 84 now. Some posts say he spent a lifetime writing these poems; other posts say he only began writing recently after living a full life. I asked for a clarification on that second one and received crickets.
I really do not want to wrongly accuse some octogenarian out there, but the weirdness surrounding the backstory and the actual poems has to make ask:
Does anyone else think it's possible WPC used AI and created this mysterious story to sell some books?
All the poems have the same tone, feeling, and line of thought. There is no variation whatsoever, which I would expect there to be regardless of whether he really began writing recently or over a lifetime. But if the latter I would definitely expect there to be some differences in writing style. There is also a detachment from the world that you only get from AI. I don't want to get into the other specific giveaways so that they can perfect their game, but I'd love everyone's thoughts.
