u/contain_solitudes

I was on the waitlist for two classes this evening, and got into one class. I was going to cancel it if I got a spot in the other, but I checked early this morning and I was removed at #2??? I feel like someone else posted about this recently. Is this a thing?

The classes were at the same time FYI. This is infuriating.

Hi all, I'm seriously considering a membership. I see everywhere in NYC is $350 a month but Battery Park is $185 for the standard.

Am I missing something?

Also, is it difficult to get into classes? That is what I'd mainly join for...and the pool.

I see the Energy Dashboard for kwh use, but it's consistently showed zero even though my unit is connected.

However, that Energy Monitor bit in the device's page, the one with the temp dome at the top, is non-existent.

Anyone have any fixes for that? Have reconnected the device after deleting it, and nada. This would be very useful info for me.

This is a 2026 10k model bought from Amazon/PC Richards.

Hi all, given past questions I figured this may be a good bet to ask here!

I'm looking to do a group outing for my team and thought flight simulators would be a great idea! I am wondering if there is a place other than Squadron in NYC that does this and is high quality. I am unsure of Intrepid Museum, as it seems like it's only one simulator and it may not be realistic. We are a group of 7.

Thanks for any leads!

I was an audience member in an immersive theater show some time ago. The actors can take you into private areas for scene just between the two of you. I had one in 2024 where the actor fondled my breasts and put his hands on my lower stomach. I was stunned it was happening and only found out later from talking to fans it's not part of the show and that it shouldn't have happened.

I caught up with him in person at a closing party, where he seemed on edge to talk about what happened. I decided to chat with him online about it instead. We had a weeks-long chat where he claimed to not remember me and said he never "had the experience" I described. He asked me for photos before going further, and was flirtatious. I questioned him extensively on how he couldn't remember me and why he wanted photos, which weirded me out. He then ghosted me. I asked to chat in person as his behavior was really confusing and hurtful. He ignored it.

I was calling crisis lines multiple times a week for weeks. I was ready to burn him but decided before doing something I might regret, I showed up at some of his smaller shows and chatted with him, for us to get used to one another in person so I could broach the topic. He was still avoidant, so I sent him a message this March, saying I want to have a conversation with him about the pain and hurt his actions caused last year, and I prefer to handle it this way.

He gave me one time slot the following week, in the middle of the work day, saying he had no other availability.

We had a 3 hour conversation. He emotionlessly said he was sorry and acknowledged he caused me pain. I said I need to hear from him he's thought about what he did, why it was wrong, why he led me on to believe it meant something, and why he ghosted, stating after discovering this was not a part of the scripted show, he was either propositioning me or he was exploiting me. He said he was attracted to me but not ready for a relationship, a claim I was skeptical about. He didn't explain why he refused to answer my repeated request to talk about what happened.

He didn't mention fondling me until I brought it up. He asked if I was recording, and when I said I wasn't (which wasn't true), he admitted he did it and he remembered me from that day. He said it very quietly, I'm assuming so it wouldn't be picked up on a recording, but I made sure my phone, nearest to him than the other device, could pick it up.

He talked to me about sexually transgressive audience members at this show, as well as choreographers who made inappropriate sexual advances at their homes, and how he vomited on his way home for feeling so violated.

He insisted that day that we continue to meet up for coffee as friends, that he had availability early May, and then "maybe later"...implying we consider being more than friends. He apologized again, and so I decided to cautiously accept it and said we should continue discussing this matter the next time we meet.

Early May rolled around. He pushed it to early June. He's spent the past month pushing it back repeatedly and changing his story on his availability. When I try to nail down the time/day/place he either doesn't reply or claims he doesn't know my schedule or can't make the time he offered without explanation. It has become a repeat of his gaslighting and lying from last year.

For example, he invited me to a show on 6/26, which I took him up on. There, he suggested Tuesday at 5:30pm. This morning I asked where, and he asked for my availability this coming week as if I hadn't replied to this question the day prior and he hadn't confirmed Tuesday with me. I insisted we do Tuesday. He ignored me. I am forced to conclude that everything he told me March 31 was insincere, and because I gave him an ultimatum before I went down the route of reporting him.

I am reconsidering Plan B, to email the companies that give him work a concise version of the above, mention I have the audio recording of him admitting to it, and that I am asking them how they would like to handle someone they employ who engages in this behavior in his job, as well as the manipulation after. I will ask to be kept abreast if not be a part of the restorative resolution.

If they protect him (he's not rich or famous), I may go public.

I do not believe in carceral solutions for something like this. If he'd violently raped me, I'd likely be saying something different.

I am concerned about him self-harming. He's never said he has a history, but he once told me he loves danger and there are many sides to him, which tell me there are emotional instability issues. This weighs on my mind a lot.

I am aware of RAINN and 988, thank you.

I am not doing well right now. I can't eat and my sleep is poor. I decided to trust him and he's repeated his same manipulative behavior from last year.

Thanks for reading.

I was an audience member in an immersive theater show some time ago. The actors can take you into private areas for scene just between the two of you. I had one in 2024 where the actor fondled my breasts and put his hands on my lower stomach.

I caught up with him in person at a closing party, where he seemed on edge to talk about what happened. I decided to chat with him online about it instead. We had a weeks-long chat where he claimed to not remember me and said he never "had the experience" I described. He asked me for photos before going further, and was flirtatious. He then ghosted me. I asked to meet up as friends as his behavior was really confusing and hurtful. He ignored it.

I was calling crisis lines multiple times a week for weeks. I was ready to burn him but decided before doing something I might regret, I showed up at some of his smaller shows and chatted with him, for us to get used to one another in person so I could broach the topic. He was still avoidant, so I sent him a message this March, saying I want to have a conversation with him about the pain and hurt his actions caused last year, and I prefer to handle it this way.

He gave me one time slot the following week, in the middle of the work day, saying he had no other availability.

We had a 3 hour conversation. He emotionlessly said he was sorry and acknowledged he caused me pain. I said I need to hear from him he's thought about what he did, why it was wrong, why he led me on to believe it meant something, and why he ghosted. He said he was attracted to me but not ready for a relationship. He didn't explain why he just refused to answer my repeated request to talk about what happened.

He didn't mention fondling me until I brought it up. He asked if I was recording, and when I said I wasn't (not true), he admitted to it and he remembered me from that day. He said it very quietly, I'm assuming so it wouldn't be picked up on a recording, but I made sure my phone, nearest to him than the other device, could pick it up.

He talked to me about sexually transgressive audience members at this show, as well as choreographers who made inappropriate sexual advances at their homes, and how he vomited on his way home for feeling so violated.

He apologized again, and it sounded more sincere, and with the context of his experiences, I accepted.

He insisted that day that we continue to meet up for coffee as friends, that he had availability early May, and then "maybe later"...implying we consider being more than friends.

Early May rolled around. He pushed it to early June. He's spent the past month pushing it back repeatedly. When I try to nail down the time/day/place he either doesn't reply or says his schedule changes frequently from freelancing. He invited me to a show yesterday, which I took him up on. There, he suggested Tuesday at 5:30pm. This morning I asked where, and he asked for my availability this coming week as if we hadn't nailed down Tuesday. I insisted we do Tuesday.

I am reconsidering Plan B, to email the companies that give him work a concise version of the above, mention I have the audio recording of him admitting to it, and that I am asking them how they would like to handle someone they employ who engages in this behavior in his job, as well as the manipulation after. I will ask to be kept abreast if not be a part of the restorative resolution.

If they protect him (he's not rich or famous), I will go public.

I do not believe in carceral solutions for something like this. If he'd violently raped me, I'd likely be saying something different.

I am concerned about him self-harming. He's never said he has a history, but he once told me he loves danger and there are many sides to him, which tell me there are emotional instability issues. This weighs on my mind a lot.

Thanks for reading.

I was an audience member in an immersive theater show some time ago. The actors can take you into private areas for scene just between the two of you. I had one in 2024 where the actor fondled my breasts and put his hands on my lower stomach.

I caught up with him in person at a closing party, where he seemed on edge to talk about what happened. I decided to chat with him online about it instead. We had a weeks-long chat where he claimed to not remember me and said he never "had the experience" I described. He asked me for photos before going further, and was flirtatious. He then ghosted me. I asked to meet up as friends as his behavior was really confusing and hurtful. He ignored it.

I was calling crisis lines multiple times a week for weeks. I was ready to burn him but decided before doing something I might regret, I showed up at some of his smaller shows and chatted with him, for us to get used to one another in person so I could broach the topic. He was still avoidant, so I sent him a message this March, saying I want to have a conversation with him about the pain and hurt his actions caused last year, and I prefer to handle it this way.

He gave me one time slot the following week, in the middle of the work day, saying he had no other availability.

We had a 3 hour conversation. He emotionlessly said he was sorry and acknowledged he caused me pain. I said I need to hear from him he's thought about what he did, why it was wrong, why he led me on to believe it meant something, and why he ghosted. He said he was attracted to me but not ready for a relationship. He didn't explain why he just refused to answer my repeated request to talk about what happened.

He didn't mention fondling me until I brought it up. He asked if I was recording, and when I said I wasn't (not true), he admitted to it and he remembered me from that day. He said it very quietly, I'm assuming so it wouldn't be picked up on a recording, but I made sure my phone, nearest to him than the other device, could pick it up.

He talked to me about sexually transgressive audience members at this show, as well as choreographers who made inappropriate sexual advances at their homes, and how he vomited on his way home for feeling so violated.

He apologized again, and it sounded more sincere, and with the context of his experiences, I accepted.

He insisted that day that we continue to meet up for coffee as friends, that he had availability early May, and then "maybe later"...implying we consider being more than friends.

Early May rolled around. He pushed it to early June. He's spent the past month pushing it back repeatedly. When I try to nail down the time/day/place he either doesn't reply or says his schedule changes frequently from freelancing. He invited me to a show yesterday, which I took him up on. There, he suggested Tuesday at 5:30pm. This morning I asked where, and he asked for my availability this coming week as if we hadn't nailed down Tuesday. I insisted we do Tuesday.

I am reconsidering Plan B, to email the companies that give him work a concise version of the above, mention I have the audio recording of him admitting to it, and that I am asking them how they would like to handle someone they employ who engages in this behavior in his job, as well as the manipulation after. I will ask to be kept abreast if not be a part of the restorative resolution.

If they protect him (he's not rich or famous), I will go public.

I do not believe in carceral solutions for something like this. If he'd violently raped me, I'd likely be saying something different.

I am concerned about him self-harming. He's never said he has a history, but he once told me he loves danger and there are many sides to him, which tell me there are emotional instability issues. This weighs on my mind a lot.

Thanks for reading.

I just found out this exists, especially if having it done doesn't complicate pregnancy chances post-op the way some surgeries for fibroids might have.

I think I have one fibroid about the size of a quarter, but it is starting to make my periods miserable, so I'd like to get it done.

Anyone have recs for docs to get it done, and how much it costs with whatever insurance you have? How you felt after? Any negatives?

Thanks!

Ahhh an ice chewer community...of course Reddit would have a sub for my people lol.

I bought a nugget ice maker recently. However, it melts almost immediately, so I must constantly transfer them into bags. Where it freezes into clumps. I am currently on BPA-free silicone bags, but they're breaking when I bang them to break up the clumps.

Anyone have any better ideas that's not putting it in a towel?

I'm interested in starting pelvic floor PT, and of course my lovely obgyn gave me a rec for her favorite...who doesn't take any insurance.

Would love recs for an empathetic and patient with my anxiety pelvic floor physical therapist. Thanks!

I work on the Upper West Side and I live in Brooklyn, would prefer something in Manhattan but will travel if someone is really amazing.

I have my eye on a couple things and am wondering which holidays have sales. I remember years ago it wasn't infrequent there was a 20-30% sale, but I never see it anymore.

(And the lead times on bigger items are nuts! Really disappointing.)

I am not really sure if I'm 3 or 4. I have the skin tone that's more of a 3 than a 4, but I fit the profile (hair/eyes/tan not burn) of a 4.

These are my settings as of today, my fifth appt:

8J

38ms

8-10hz

I felt tiny pinches, which is encouraging, because the last couple times, on 6-8hz i felt nothing and there's still confusion on the other settings and machine used.

I took it at 8am, and it's now almost 3pm. I feel like I'm just starting to come down. It's amazing. It's like I am taking this med for the first time. I did not have this kind of focus on IR.

I would take 5mg at 8am and sometimes 5mg at 12-1pm, but I would usually have racing thoughts and a need to pace a lot. I did this this morning briefly, but it feels smoother and I feel I can focus much better and more naturally.

Amazing.

I feel like this is one of the few places I can vent about the subtext to this beyond these women being assholes and people will get it: when a BIPOC who picks beef with you calls you white when it's clear you're not in an attempt to provoke you, and separately when white women white knight a Black person to get approval from them. Well both these things happened at the same time lol.

I went to a Knicks viewing party Saturday night in Brooklyn. I'm a light/medium skin-toned multiracial woman. Most assume I'm Latina.

There was a space open behind a Black woman and a Latina woman. It could likely fit two thin people, it was that big. As soon as I saw it, this one woman stared intensely at me and said, "You can't stand there." 

I wasn't sure if she meant where I was eyeing or where I was standing, as I knew I couldn't stay where I was, a thoroughfare. I thought she actually worked there until I realized she didn't. So I asked a guard if I could stand where I was pointing and he said I could try. 

I said excuse me and went to stand behind these two women. As I passed them, the Black woman said, "Something in your bag stabbed me!"

I was shocked and felt bad. I was reaching into my tote bag to see what it could be, remembering I only had a towel, water bottle, ice pack, headphones, and keys. I knew my keys sat at the bottom and couldn't have touched her.

I was wondering if she was messing with me because I wanted to stand where she didn't want me to. I said nothing as I reached into my bag to discover what sharp object this was. There was nothing.

Before I can say that, she says, in a sarcastic/passive aggressive manner: "I'm telling you so you don't get stabbed too! You're WELCOME!"

I get really confused by this escalation and I'm like, "I'm just looking to see what it could possibly be before I say anything. What's with the passive aggression?"

Cue her and her friend shouting at me: "I'm not being passive aggressive!!”

“I was helping you out so you don't get stabbed too! I'm looking out for you!!"

"What's your fucking problem?" 

"We're here to celebrate so don't bring the negativity okay??"

And a bunch of other shit I can't remember.

I can tell by now they were just trying to start drama, which cemented my suspicion that nothing "stabbed" her, so I just said, "You know what? I'm not talking to you" and I never said anything more to them.

I should make clear I fit in that space and no part of my body was touching anybody. There was room. Everyone else around me was really lovely and I chatted with many of them. They were all behind me so I'd think if anyone they'd have a problem with me standing there, even though I'm average height. These two women just didn't want anyone behind them, and if they were concerned about the people behind them, they'd have surely said so.

Five, ten, fifteen minutes later, they are still loudly talking about me getting there when they'd been waiting for the game for hours, and how they're just trying to watch the game and I'm ruining it for them. I know they're trying to provoke me but I just ignore them because I truly don't care and they look ridiculous.  The woman claiming I stabbed her then began bending over every minute or so, with her head about the level of her chest, pushing her butt back to butt against me. I also ignored this.

I also notice that when the Knicks score, they don't seem to care that much and are just negative about everything in general, which made me wonder why they were there. Around this time the Knicks were more than 10 points behind IIRC.

Then maybe 20 mins out, the woman who claimed something in my bag stabbed her then shouted literally out of nowhere, with no context, and to no one: "You know what? White women are crazy!"

I am light-skinned enough that every now and then, some people mistake me as a tanned Italian or something, so I am also wondering if this is somehow meant to provoke me, by calling me a white girl knowing those are fighting words to some folks. Because there was no other understandable context for that comment to me. 

But again, even if it is, it's just drama meant to get a reaction, and I'm not going to give it to them. She then turns to the white woman standing next to her, who she doesn't know, and says, "I don't mean you!"

The white woman goes, "Oh no it's ok. I know you don't mean me, I know EXACTLY what you're talking about."

I tell myself they're just mean and hello. I'm not white and it's obvious lol. I'm darker than this woman's Latina friend. But I also want to say that there is this particular experience women like me can have, where a white woman decides to score points by taking a woman of color's side regardless of what it is, to feel like an ally. And I've seen them do this especially when women of color are bullying other women of color, especially if the one bullied is lighter.

Come halftime, they both leave for the bathroom, and the white woman immediately comes to stand in front of me, as if I was going to take this woman's place.

There's a security guard with good vibes that those women were joking with. He actually heard them shouting and insulting me at the start because he came by and said, "Everything alright here?"

So I took him aside now and just let him know, "Hey I know those two women are joking with you and being nice but they were trying to pick a fight with me."

The white woman starts saying I'm not telling the truth. I ask if she heard the conversation, she claimed she did, so I asked her what happened.

She shouts: "THOSE WOMEN WERE HERE FOR FIVE HOURS AND YOUR BAG BUMPED AGAINST THEM."

"No," I calmly say with this huge grin on my face. "It is not."

I’m so upset I fail to understand how stupid she sounds.

"YES IT IS."

And given all she's said tonight, I've had it, so I just tell her, loud for everyone to hear: "You are just a racist."'

I'm not saying this to just say this. If my hunch is correct that her attempt at shade about white women were directed at me, she is.

She says, "Yeah and those two women were Black."

Which is a hilarious defense and also...umm no both of them were not lmao. I’m not someone who likes getting into shouting matches but if I felt like going all out, I might have said, “Yeah that’s exactly what a racist would say” and “Honey where you think I got this hair texture???”

I told the man what really happened, he told me to not respond to that kinda crap, and the important thing is that I can see the game, he asked me a couple times if I can see, I said yes thank you, and we left it at that.

A few moments later I decide to take a pic of this white lady in case it escalates and I need evidence of who she is. She freaks out.

“Are you taking photos of me?” she quietly asks. She sounds scared. She looks at her friend.

“What the fuck???” her friend says.

“What, are you going to post this on social media?” she asks me.

I just ignore her. That's more than enough satisfaction for me.

When halftime is over, the lady claiming my bag stabbed her returned without her friend. She remained sour and quiet, even as the Knicks pulled ahead. The white lady moved far away from us lol. Later in the third quarter, she left because all these people came to stand on the other side of the thoroughfare, blocking our view, which I find pretty ironic lol.  

The guard made a point of telling one guy he couldn't stand where I was standing because I, pointing to me, needed to see. And that's when I felt he really had my back in case this escalated.

I’m still really upset this happened. A part of me feels like in addition to just female bullying, it was people taking out their team starting to lose on me, but then they didn’t get happier when the Knicks pulled ahead.

Anyways, thanks for reading.

Thanks to all of your help on the previous threads! It's been immensely valuable and I appreciate you.

Here's what has happened so far today:

After baking in my apt the Amazon guy finally delivered my 12/3 cord around 5pm. I waited for the compressor in the fridge to stop before I turned on the AC at 5:57pm.

I set it to low eco at 75F just to make sure the breakers don't trip. They did not.

At this time it was 88F in my living room with 53% humidity. I closed my bathroom window but kept my mini air conditioner on (the ones that require water to be put in, increasing humidity in the apt).

The humidity slowly began coming down, about 1% every 10 mins.

Around 6:10PM I put it on medium eco. 

At 6:55PM it hit 86F and humidity was 48%. Technically not that better but it FEELS much better. Maybe it's because the sun's setting.

At 7:04pm I turned off the mini air conditioner to see what effect it has.

At some point the compressor in the fridge kicked back on and nothing's happened.

I've been checking the extension cord and there's barely any warmth near either plug.

My kitchen is much cooler of course. I am trying to see how cool my apartment can get without me using fans to push the air into the rooms. (There are no doors in the doorways to my kitchen and living room, and I keep the bedroom door open, so there's free passage of air.) My apt is about 450 square feet by my estimation.

At 7:50pm I put a fan between the living room and kitchen. 

At 7:55pm living room went down to 84F. Indoor now the same as outdoors.

The temp in the kitchen is 79.5F.

Went to see the Knicks game at a street party.

Came back at 12:40AM. It's still 84F in the living room! With 36% humidity.

I'll need to try a more aggressive way to push the cool air into the other rooms. Or maybe it just takes more time. Maybe tomorrow morning I'll take it down to 73 or 74 and see if that helps. Or maybe putting a fan in the kitchen to blow air, instead of at the entrance to the kitchen, will push more air out. I'd use my .3 amp tower fan.

This morning at 7am: it's 82F. Pretty disappointing but at least it's cooler in my bedroom, the trickiest room to get cool air into from the kitchen. Is it the drop in temperature? Maybe not, as it was 88F even overnight without AC. But I also feel like it'll be 88F in my living room soon enough again.

In the past couple hours it's climbed back up to 84F.

Other observations:

There are a few open gaps below the AC so I put a towel under there. Looks awful but I'll invest in a white one if I care that much lol.

It made a rattling sound as soon as the cooling kicked in a few mins in. I was concerned until I noticed putting my hand on top or on the side stopped it. So I put some Goya beans and coconut milk on top and it's quiet again lol. I don't think I can leave them on there all day so I'll have to think of something.

Given my class count I feel like I should be transitioning into doing this, but I am still exhausted from planks on toes to do plank to pike immediately after, so I take knees.

Rinse and repeated if we get asked to do twisted pikes.

Anyone have advice on what makes these easier on toes? Other than just going for it lol, which is what I've begun but it's not gotten easier.

TIA!

I imagine other BTUs will be helpful info but I have the 10k. I already posted on my issue earlier but I'll post this separately just to crowdsource this one bit of info.

I have a 15amp circuit breaker with a fridge labelled 6 amps. It would be my only two appliances running in the kitchen at the same time. The plug on my 10k (2026 model) says 13amps, but Midea says cooling down amps are 9.97. But some people say it's even less.

For you wonks who use clamps and whatnot to see actual energy usage, what have been your observations on amp usage?

FWIW I plan to run my Midea on 75F as I'm a reptile.

Here's the brief version:

Fridge: 6 amps (stated, not actual measured draw, which I get is less)

AC: states cooling amps are 9.97 amps but plug says 13amps. Midea U 10,000 BTU model which is energy efficient and doesn't have startup surges.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0FDQLNGHZ/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?th=1

Will be only two appliances in kitchen running at same time (will unplug AC if need to use microwave, etc)

Apartment: 2 circuit breakers 15amps each, one for kitchen and lights, one for bedroom/living room/kitchen. Can provide pics

(Is it possible there's more than one circuit per breaker?)

Never had circuit trips. Runs oven/fridge or microwave/fridge at same time no problem. (microwave: 1000W/120V/ oven is maybe 20amps)

Options:

1 Run both on separate kitchen outlets with 3 ft extension cord for AC.

2 Run AC on 30 ft extension cord through living room.

3 Install in bedroom, but will require other PITA modifications because of window size/outlet/room etc.

OK?

My apt is old and I want to get this right before I plug this in. But I posted about my issue here: https://www.reddit.com/r/electrical/comments/1u3ujyz/trying_to_figure_out_how_to_best_use_the_kitchen/

Basically I need to figure out if plugging my 10k in with a 3 ft extension cord will trip my 15amp circuit breaker. My fridge runs on 6amps. I will not use my microwave oven or oven or toaster with the AC plugged in if I use it at all during the summertime.

The plug on the 10k says 13amps and 1560W but people seem to say it uses less.

My alternative is to have it installed in one of my other two windows that are 40" wide. Is there a good solution for this? It couldn't go in my bathroom window for various reasons.