I want to drop to 5ppd at 12 weeks pp. I’m currently 11wpp and I’m at 6ppd, pumping every 4 hours. Been doing this since week 7. I do have an oversupply. My goal is to pump at 7a, 11a, 3p, 7p, 12a. That would leave me a 7 hour stretch. Is this schedule feasible and how do I do this and not clog up??? I’ve gotten mastitis 3 times so far so I’m worried
My PPA is really going to show here. My baby is 3 months. She was contact napping on me and I was on my phone. I looked down and noticed she had her nose buried in her arm and she was like that for who knows how long. I moved her head and then 5 mins later she woke up crying hysterically for no reason and went back to sleep. Would she have moved if she really couldn’t breathe? I hope I didn’t deprive her of oxygen and that’s why she cried.
Our parents live within 30 minutes of us and in the 11 weeks our baby has been alive, they’ve seen her like 5 times. Every time someone comes over, I feel like it’s just us handing the baby over and having to waste energy trying to entertain people. For Fourth of July, our parents were calling us asking what we’re doing like we’re supposed to come up with the plans when we have a baby.
Oh and me and my husband got no Father’s Day or Mother’s Day gifts. We got them stuff.
My baby has laryngomalacia. She’s always been a difficult feeder. Maybe this is one of the reasons why. She has bad reflux and chokes on her milk and I feel like she doesn’t have a good suck swallow breathe. She’s 10 weeks now. She recently started doing this thing very occasionally where I’ll be feeding her and then she pulls away and has her squeaky breathing but it’s like she struggles to breathe for like 2-3 seconds and maybe coughs a bit. Then it’s over. No color changes. She does fine after. I’m just wondering, is this a severe symptom? Or can we just continue doing our own thing at home? We have a feeding therapy referral pending. I’m just worried cause I never really talked about her laryngomalacia with her pediatrician. The one who diagnosed her was a doc we just saw one time. He heard her do her squeaky breathing and just said we’d have a noisy breather and not to worry about it.
My baby is 10 weeks and 4 days. This week she has been pretty sleepy but she would have moments where she’d be awake and fussy. But today, literally knocked out the whole day. She’s arousable. She slept 6 hours at night and woke up herself, and since then, I’ve been waking her every 3 hours to eat and then she will just go right back to sleep after eating. I’ve been obsessively taking her temp and it’s fine. But I have a crappy thermometer. What the heck is going on? Growth spurt I’m hoping??????
Are there any studies showing long term effects of children who were breastfed whose moms were on Zoloft?
I want to start it but I’m worried about that teeny tiny bit of medication in my breastmilk changing her brain and making her depressed when she’s older or something
I feel like at least 3 times a day, I’m always worried that something I did hurt my baby. If she coughed while eating, I worried I didn’t angle the bottle right and gave her aspiration pneumonia. If she cries extra hard when I put her down for tummy time, I worry that I accidentally set her on the floor way too hard. Things like that. It’s literally consuming me. I know I have PPA and I’m getting help for that. But I’m wondering if other moms at least experienced this same thing. And does it get better when LO gets older?
I have to warm my milk because I need to thicken it with gel mix. I want to be able to go out but I don’t know how if all the portable bottle warmers need to be cleaned between each use. What if I’m hiking or something? This is actually frustrating the shit out of me.
How can I prepare this in advance because I’m getting conflicting advice.
I read that I can warm my breastmilk, mix gelmix, then put in the fridge to use within 24 hours. I usually serve this cold.
But then I read that warmed breastmilk needs to be used within two hours and you can’t put it back in the fridge.
So what do I do? Frankly, my baby is a 0-100 baby and will absolutely scream her head off if she has to wait 10 minutes for her bottle.
Baby will sleep about 6 hours, eat, go to sleep for about another 3, eat again, sleep. After that we’re in this eat, change, sleep phase about every 1.5-2 hours. We’re lucky to get some tummy time in.
I have mastitis for the third time. I never tried antibiotics because I heard if your symptoms go away in 48 hours, you don’t need them and that’s always happened. Well it’s like anytime I get a clog, I will have mastitis later that day. My body doesn’t give me a chance to get rid of clog. Should I just do antibiotics now? Will it give my baby GI upset because she is an absolute nightmare colic baby right now and I cannot add to that. My fever broke after about half a day. But I took ibuprofen so I won’t speak too soon.
Hello. Baby has really bad reflux. Pediatrician recommended thickening with infant oats or gelmix. I would like to do gelmix, but has anyone thickened their milk while cold with gelmix?? Has anyone thickened with oats? Why is there such controversy with that?
I had a very difficult high risk pregnancy. My baby is also a very difficult baby with health issues. She was in the NICU because she couldn’t transfer milk and was dehydrated. She’s anemic. She has reflux. And now she’s eating very poorly again at 9 weeks old. I’m incredibly anxious about it. I’m having nightmares of her not eating. I’ve developed postpartum anxiety because of her health issues and I have taken her to the ER twice and pediatrician multiple times for health scares out of abundance of caution. My husband is visibly upset with me when I have these health scares, but I don’t care. I just care about my daughter. Her NICU stay, I always regret not taking her to the ER one day sooner and I never want to make that mistake again.
My husband says my mental health is severe because of my anxiety and he says I’m not taking care of myself by not brushing my twice a day, not taking my blood pressure, and just not taking care of myself in general. Idk, I feel like im not a total outlier among postpartum moms. I’m just in survival mode still with my newborn and it’s hard to keep up with my own needs.
Me and my husband used to walk our dog together everyday and it was something we wanted to do with our daughter. Well now if I want to go on a walk with him and the dog, he gets in a terrible mood. He says he wants to walk by himself to get away from me to recharge because of my mental health. He goes on extra long almost two hour long walks now. I expressed how this was upsetting and I realize he wants his alone time but he was now being excessive and it just feels like he hates me at this point. He responds by taking a shower at 1am which again feels like he just wants to be away from me. It makes me feel incredibly lonely and unloved.
I don’t have family that I’m close to or friends. I want to spend time with my little family that I made, but my husband doesn’t want to. This obviously makes me depressed. And I just feel so lonely and cornered and I have nowhere to go and I have said things like that I wish I was dead. I have no desire to kill myself but I just feel so worthless and like I’d be better off dead. My husband thinks the best way to deal with me feeling this way is to distance himself more and go on his work computer instead of coming to the bed to comfort me. Which frustrates me and puts me in a literal screaming crying session. I just don’t know what else to do. I’m so depressed. I’m so anxious. I’m constantly in fight or flight mode and my husband responds with zero compassion.
I’m doing my best to fix my mental health. I’m in therapy. But ultimately, I just need time. I need my daughter to get better at eating. I need to get through these doctors appointments. And I need my family.
And I just want to note, my husband is a great physical help. He works from home and helps me still. He takes night feeds. He cooks and cleans. He’s great with that. It’s just emotionally that he’s very bad at.
FTM and my baby is difficult. Was in the NICU for dehydration and not transferring milk. Has been a bad feeder her whole life and now her intake is low again. I’ve been extremely stressed and anxious and having nightmares every night. How does my husband handle this? He says he needs to go on walks with the dog for 2 hours and take showers in the middle of the night because he needs to get away from me to recharge because of my mental health. Thank god he’s taking care of his mental health at the sake of mine. I feel so unloved and lonely and unwanted. I love going on walks with him and he now gets pissed if I insist me and the baby join. God I want to kill myself forreal. I hate my life. I’ve always been lonely my whole life. If it wasn’t for my baby, I’d off myself. She’s the only reason I’m still alive. He thinks I’m crazy and anxious but omfg. My baby was in the NICU. She doesn’t eat good! Of course I’m fucking anxious and worried about her health! And now my husband avoids me! Of course I’m fucking depressed!!! What the fuck do you expect!?!?
My baby has always been a terrible feeder and would choke and take in lots of air and dribble everywhere. But she was eating enough. I got her tongue tie clipped hoping it would help at 8 weeks. Now she’s even worse at feeding and she’s not getting enough. She was getting 800ml/day before and is now getting around 600 and sometimes 500/day. It has been 11 days now.
I tried so many bottles. We do best on pigeon bottles. We were doing pigeon SS flow and I would have to let her take a few sucks, tilt the milk away, let her breathe, then let her eat again. But she was only eating a max of like 2 oz. Sometimes 1.5 oz. Maybe because her tongue is not strong anymore? So I tried to go to the S flow, but she chokes a lot on that flow but she will take 3-3.5oz with that. I just tried a comotomo slow flow nipple and she was doing great, but then after 2 oz, she would take one suck and then choke and cry and fuss. Then the icing on the cake is a few minutes after that, she spit up basically the entire feed.
It’s 4pm and she’s only had 300ml of milk. And now she won’t take any bottle. She just cries and fusses and pushes the bottle out but is still hungry. I’m worried. I’m having nightmares every night of my baby not eating. People say not to wake her up to eat at night but I am because her intake is low and now she’s probably not sleeping like she should.
What should I do??? Just let her eat less? She was making diapers at least… she seems to be gaining weight based on the few times I weighed her at home. Does anyone have experience with this? Does it really get better even though it’s almost been 2 weeks? I wish I never got this tongue tie release. She was a bad eater before but at least she would eat. I’m scared ruined my baby forever.
Does anyone else get this? I want to stay here with my daughter. I want to have one more baby so my daughter doesn’t have to feel the loneliness I feel. But there’s times where I feel so trapped and don’t know what to do that I have intrusive thoughts of harming myself. Like I just want to knock myself out with my hydroflask or something. I’m just so frustrated. My husband wants to get away from me because my mental health is exhausting to him and I literally have no one else. He was supposed to be my village. I have no one else. I just feel like there’s no where for me to turn to and it sucks. I’m just cornered by loneliness.
My baby has always been a NIGHTMARE to feed. She was born at 37 weeks but ended up in the NICU cause she wasn’t transferring milk from my breast and was dehydrated. She had a severe tongue tie. We got the tongue tie clipped at 8 weeks because we thought it might help some of her bottle feeding issues which was that she was always choking and gulping tons of air. Well now we’re 9 days since procedure and she’s even worse at feeding. We’re waiting for a referral for speech therapy, occupational therapy, and feeding therapy. But in the meantime, I noticed she gets super fussy and chokes during a feed mostly because her suck swallow breathe is not coordinated. And I’m wondering if maybe she would take in less air if she was coordinated. How can I train this at home while I wait for therapy? Cause it might be a while and my baby and our whole household is absolutely suffering.
Hello everyone. I’m incredibly stressed out here and I’m hoping someone can help me. My baby had a tongue, lip, and cheek tie release at 8 weeks old. We did it because she clicked, choked, and would grunt/scream during feeds. I felt she took in a lot of air during feeds. She would take about 3oz bottles at that time though. It is now day 9 after the frenectomy and I’m wondering if I’m dealing with oral aversions? There will be times where I stick the bottle in her mouth when she’s due for a feed and she just pushes it out with her tongue and cries. She will be inconsolable some days. Some days she latches but makes a distressing sound while doing it and then will unlatch. Most days, she will just be constantly latching and unlatching on the bottle until we hopefully get her to eat enough. Her intake has been very low this whole week. She’s definitely taking in even more air during feeds than before and having reflux. I just don’t know what to do. I’m so scared. I’m waiting on a referral for a feeding therapist. But I’m anxious and barely sleeping right now. I feel so alone. I just wanna know if there’s anyone out there with advice or a similar experience?
My baby had such a rough start. NICU for one week for dehydration after she wasn’t transferring breast milk. Then around week 4, she became super gassy and colicky. She was always uncomfortable and unhappy. I chalked it up to her tongue tie making her take in too much air during feeds. During all her feeds she’s grunting and crying. It’s terrible. I thought that I did the right thing by doing a tongue tie release on her at 8 weeks but now all her suffering is worse and still bad at 9 weeks. She’s constantly crying and inconsolable and eats worse than ever. She’s spitting up more and she’s just suffering. I’m worried I broke her and I’m going to cause developmental delays in her. She rarely smiles. She only coos when she’s uncomfortable. She’s barely awake still. She’s still a huge potato. I can barely do things with her during wake windows like tummy time because of her sleepiness and reflux. I can’t take her outside because it’s over 100 degrees every day. I’m just so worried for my baby. I just want her to be happy. She’s literally never happy.
I had my babies tongue, lip, and cheek tie lasered. She was horrible at eating from her bottle prior. Would choke, click, take in a bunch of air. We got her ties cut 8 days ago at 8 weeks old and it has been a nightmare. The dentist recommended infant feeding therapy that we have to wait for a referral for. But she basically has no suction now. She’s inconsolable most days and idk why she’s crying. Her intake is low and I’m extremely worried. She’s still having good diapers though. She’s choking a lot. I’ve been trying every single bottle on the market to see if any can help get her intake up and reduce the choking. Sometimes she has these episodes where maybe she’s having a bottle aversion. She’s hungry but won’t accept the bottle. I’m seriously at my wits end. Is this normal? Or did I ruin my baby? I’m so scared. Please help. I at least want to know there’s a light at the end of the tunnel.