u/throwawayzzzz1777

I wrote here a while back. I've been relearning how to do this because it's been a long time. At first I started on zetrablades but they were making my calves burn. Someone in the comments recommended swapping them for a hardboot style which I did. I got K2 Surge 80s now my calves don't burn when I try them out.

But now I notice my toes scrunch up when I'm on the pavement making my arches hurt. Is this a thing that beginners do that I just will eventually relax out of? Appreciate any more pointers and no falls today!

I've been trying to recover and stuff in and out of therapy for the past few years. I've made a lot of progress since then. A big part of this has been giving myself permission as a 30 something to do activities I wasn't allowed to do as a child.

These can look cringey a bit but they definitely make me feel some joy. Lately it's been a lot of learning outdoorsy things and doing some real physical challenges. My latest challenges have been relearning to rollerblade and doing various types of rolls. I've been again doing this. And with proper preparation, I've been getting better a little at a time.

It feels good to know that I am capable and learning. I feel myself getting stronger. But lots of time when I bring these things up people make jokes about how 30 somethings have no business doing very physical things anymore. This is especially popular to say on the millennial subreddit. I know I'm not a kid anymore but I'm still alive and moving. But for someone who didn't take care of themselves in their 20s, I feel like I have more energy again.

I also hear my old team lead at work in my head saying that all this stuff is a waste of time. I've been extremely secretive about a lot of these activities out of fear that people will tell me I shouldn't be doing risky things at my age or wasting my money. I do work and pay my bills btw. I manage to feel extreme shame about doing weird things to feel joy and heal.

When I tell my therapist this he says to stop caring what people think. But how do I do this? I guess I did step 1 on doing these activities in private in the first place but how do I continue?

I recently tried to get back into rollerblading in my 30s. I bought Zetrablades because they looked legit. But after a ride with them, my calves were in pain trying to stay balanced. I did some more research and now I'm finding that hard boot blades might be a better option. I remember as a kid when I was learning to ice skate, I struggled badly with figure skates but with a hard ice hockey skate, I had no problems going around the rink.

I will return the zetrablades soon. But what is a good hard boot brand thats more affordable but good for beginners. I'd like one with a heel brake. I saw that RB80s look good. Are these a good type for what I'm looking for? Any other recommendations?

I hate this saying so much. I'd love to be able to have kids. Currently trying a few things but no idea if it'll happen. In the meantime, am I supposed to just not do anything? I stopped drinking a few years ago and started getting fit.

When I started therapy or really during the pandemic, I finally gave myself permission to do activities I missed out on in childhood. Things I wanted to learn. I've had many first time experiences as a 30 something and it feels great. It makes me feel younger in a way. Tonight I did a forward roll for the first time in many many years.

And these aren't crazy big travel things with super expensive gear. It's not like I'm made of money. They're affordable and I find little windows of opportunity in my crazy work schedule.

It does get lonely. I can't seem to find other 30 somethings that want to do new curious active things. And parents are quick to shoot it down with that saying. But I've seen good parents do curious active things for themselves too.

This infertility thing really sucks and there are times when it makes me feel subhuman. It also sucks feeling like I have to hide all the things that have brought me actual bits of joy in these recent years.

Does anyone else relate?

I really want to get along with my mom. I will have what looks like a normal conversation in person or on the phone and later I will be called up and lectured for doing basic human things wrong. I'm 38 and I've been moved out since I was 22. I've managed to pay my bills since and been married for most of that time. I know I'm not where I want to be in life but i get treated like I'm a small child mentally.

Ive been accused of dragging out covid and k*lling their neighbor because my husband and I needed to work and go grocery shopping. We live on opposite sides of the country. When I visited my mom for the first time in years she spent most of the time yelling at me making an animal skull sculpt. Saying I needed to put it away or I would get fired. I work in a creative field and that type of stuff is impressive.

One time I made the mistake of emailing a cute picture of my cat and I was emailed all weekend long about how I was abusive for having a bell on his collar.

And the other day, I was emailed after a normal phone call. I was yelled at for putting up with bad cat behaviors (begging for cat food by meowing loudly) and needing to train him better. I hide any type of illness as that's been treated like a moral failure since I became an adult.

I try and grey rock but that gets hard and lonely. My body goes into extreme freeze response around my parents these days. Does anyone else's parent treat them like a small child?

I made a post the other day about getting back into rollerblading. I'm a millennial that hasn't done this in many years. I went to the park this morning and spent like 15-20 min skating down a paved walking path. Just a few mild scrapes but mostly was getting around. I noticed right away my calves were burning. I'd roll onto the grass to give them a rest every so often. When I got back to the car, my calves were burning and I was covered in sweat.

Is this normal for a beginner. What can I do to help this? I was trying to bend my legs and lean forward.

No one in real life wants to talk books with me. I just started reading The Lone Ranger and Tonto Fistfight in Heaven.

Just this. In my 30s, I quit drinking and started moving around more. I gave myself permission to do things I wished I could've done when I was younger and had many first time experiences. Honestly feel younger than I was in my 20s. I'm tired of people telling me that drinking, gambling, and gaming are the only ways to have fun in your 30s. I'm tired of people telling me I can't be playful at this age.

Late 30s. I was big into the Animorphs series as a kid and built the whole set. I hung onto that series thankfully. Some of those later books are really expensive to get nowadays. But it has me thinking of the other millennial series I missed out on that wished I could read

This has been very slow collecting but off and on with thrifting, I have been adding books to these collections. Goosebumps (I wasn't allowed to read these as a kid), Babysitters Club, Sweet Valley High, American Girl (those six book series about the original historical dolls), Arthur, Franklin, Clifford, Berenstain Bears, and Dear America. I felt weird nostalgia about the reading books I used in elementary school in the 90s. I figured out all the names of these and got a few of these online for next to nothing.

I still have a few beanie babies and want to get a lava lamp for my space.

Do any of you guys have any millennial-themed collections?

Im trying to see if I can get this fixed but I can't help this feeling. I don't want to tell people how old I am. I take on the extra stuff at work. I get very secretive about things I like to do for fun. I don't need more people to come after me saying I can only rest or do those things because I don't have kids. I stopped reaching out to my family both sides because I feel like I've brought shame on the family and haven't really grown up.

I am in therapy and he's been great but how can he possibly understand this?