let me know what you all agree/disagree with, or if you would like clarifications 😄

!! !! !! If you're not very interested and/or just want a quick fix, just skim through to the bolded parts !! !! !!

• You are responsible for your problems, nothing is coming to save you.
• Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to be, be the change you wish to see. -James Clear edited
• We must all suffer from discipline or regret. Discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons. -Jim Rohn
• You may never feel ready, motivation is fleeting, do it unmotivated, all you really need is to get your foot in the door, act first or nothing will change.
• It's never wrong or too late to change your mind, you are under no obligation to stay the same.
• Your mindset won't change until you do; decide to want to not want, that which you want, which disturbs you.
• Stop trying to not have flaws.
• The fears we don't face become our limits -Robin Sharma
• Courage is not the absence of fear, but the realization that something else is more important than fear. -Unknown
• Your time is limited, & it absolutely does not come back.
• There will always be more to do**,** be and enjoy**, forgetting all that you’ve accomplished already.**
• You’ve had your entire life to try to find lasting contentment, & still have not found it anywhere.
• Emotions are just automatic, confused, & unstable drugs which always come down.
• You may never have the privilege of knowing that you are about to die, death will come on an ordinary day, in the middle of unfinished plans, and the world will forget you.
• Obsession is NO real way to escape stress and dissatisfaction.
• There will be numerous insurmountable injustices about & around you.
• You will be certain and still be wrong.
• You will have irrational fears.
• You will have moments of bias, comparison, ego, and ignorance.
• You will be misunderstood.
• You won’t always be rewarded.
• We all are selfishly driven.
• You will lose everything.
• You will never understand everything you wish to.
• You may never get closure.
• There is nothing wrong with you.
• No matter how much you worry or crave, eventually you will become completely disinterested whether willingly or not.
• You are not the only meaningful me, you're one me in an astronomical & ancient existence of animals who each have richly suffered the same as you or even more.
• In expecting no lack of satisfaction, you are consciously planning to suffer tenfold.
• If you think you just need a bit more, very little is stopping you from needing another just a bit more.
• You do things habitually because it takes less effort than breaking the cycle even if it means something more important.
• Boredom feels as though it demands satisfaction, but any stimulation resolves it just the same.
• We forfeit three-fourths of ourselves in order to be like other people & identities, living for somebody else. -Arthur Schopenhauer edited
• Anytime you rely on another's approval, you are training the mind to care about a bipolar, limited, and deluded external.
• Anytime you're someplace you don't want to be, you create a prison for yourself -Ajahn Brahm
• You are attached to the feeling of will, you don't want contentment, you want it to be found dependent on your endless goals.
• The more you fight the mind, the more the mind fights you, you only split it in two and start a war, permit discomfort.
• Putting happiness/contentment/relief in a romanticized goal or wish outside of yourself, rather than just in enough, you will cling, then misunderstand, perpetually placing it out of reach.
• What you see is all there is, we use the information we have as if it is the only information. -Daniel Kahneman
• Anything you lose by being real is fake. -Unknown
• Thinking won’t solve the problems accumulated by thinking.
• Let go of the illusion that it could have been any different. -Unknown
• No amount of anxiety makes any difference to anything that is going to happen. -Alan Watts
• You can always cope with the now, but you can never cope with the future, or rewrite the past. -Eckhart Tolle edited
• What can be asserted without evidence can also be dismissed without evidence. -Christopher Hitchens
• In failing to examine why an expectation exists, you fight a presumed inconvenience, which may not exist.
• When the future is the new now, it's still now, & you're still waiting for the unpromised future.
• It isn't the phenomenon which disturbs you, it is you which disturbs the phenomenon -Ajahn Chah edited
• The present moment is the only time over which we have dominion -Thich Nhat Hanh
• If we weren't uncomfortable, we would never move, a smooth sea never made a skilled sailor. -Proverb edited
• If you resist change, you resist life. -Sadhguru
• Do not believe, justify, obey, attempt to satiate, or condemn any emotions, you would just be conceptualizing unstable sensations and guide them into a totally confused self-perpetuation.
• Fear of embarrassment is the only thing that makes it embarrassing.
• Never make permanent conclusions, or decisions based on temporary feelings. -Unknown
• When you fear, you create the conditions which weren’t ever there, manifesting the feared.
• Fear of being branded something negative or positive, even by oneself, for doing anything agreeable, is no reason to not continue, you only live your life once.
• You avoid looking inward when it is most crucial, but you will not understand with avoidance.
• It is easy to be righteous when you plaster yourself as the victim, placing your own self upon a pedestal & stripping your own offenses.
• It is impossible for one to learn what they think they already know. -Epictetus
• Be content to be thought foolish, they were ignorant of my other faults, else they wouldn't have mentioned these alone. -Epictetus
• We judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their behavior. -Stephen Covey
• It will always be easier to focus on the faults of others rather than seeing your own.
• Mind your intentions, recognize the groundless & habitual defensiveness.
• Is this person even able to comprehend alternative perspectives?
• Let them have a distorted perception of you, & your thoughts.
• They have to live with themselves everyday.
• Instead of fighting the person, fight your narrow mindedness, give them the benefit of the doubt.
• Strive for mutual agreement, & unbiased truths, ignore ‘being right’ or proving them wrong.
• Destructive people wish to spread, but they are just reminders, not invitations.
• Engaging with an ignorant intending on destruction, you search for satisfaction in a predetermined fallacy, ignoring the insignificance.
• Any person capable of angering you is your master. -Epictetus
• The moment you feel like you need to prove yourself, is the moment you need to be silent and walk away. -Rachel Wolchin.
• Many discords rely on one or both sides holding false assumptions about the other person's intentions.
• When one assesses you accurately, don’t reject it all because of the ignorance that came with it, you can take the truth filtered from the hatred.
• Everybody is a child consistently projecting our own insecurities into our interactions & anywhere else we can interpret them.
• You can't expect another to do much more than just what is right by them. -Captain Jack Sparrow edited
• If you wish to convince another, it is generally just a plea to appease your own empty insecurity.
• Don’t accept the verdict of one who has no actual grounds to assume to know you, nor one who never live a single moment of your life, nor anyone you wouldn’t trust to advise you.
• What you tolerate shows people how to treat you. -Unknown
• You inspire me to be nothing like you. -Unknown
• If you hate anybody in the world, that's narrow-mindedness, don't just justify your views, find something lovable and worth forgiving. -Ajahn Brahm
• Love has no meaning without understanding. -Thich Nhat Hanh
• Everyone is brothers and sisters in dumbassery, siblings of the earth, not one is above their inherent flaws, & nature.
• Words will never penetrate as precisely as planned, & sometimes won’t at all.
• Everyone has defensive excuses, and nobody wants or needs to hear them. -Proverb edited
• Many of us just want to talk to ourselves at other people.
• If you cant let go, then give it away, let them have it. -Ajahn Brahm edited
• Your feeling of inferiority/inadequacy, or of the superiority of another; belongs only to you, is your responsibility & is not the fault or problem of those you project it onto.
• Contentment is knowing what you are and are not capable of. -Unknown
• Existence is just a cosmic joke, do not pretend otherwise.
• You are allowed to be okay without conditions.
• You are enough.
• You have enough.
• This is good enough.
• You have time.
• You don't need to know anything.
• Your perspective is not the only one.
• You don't need to earn existence.
• You don't owe anyone anything.
• This too shall pass, it will soon be otherwise.
• You are already home.
• Remember who you would be if you weren't who you are. -Tommy Shelby edited
• Don't put off until tomorrow the loving you can say & show today. -Bo Jackson edited
• To be alive in the here & the now is already an entire miracle. -Thich Nhat Hanh edited
• Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck. -Dalai Lama
• The only rules that really matter are these; what one can do, and what one can't do. -Captain Jack Sparrow
• You already are dead; living this unsustainable, fragile, provisional life salvaged, & lent by earth, irrefutably predesignated to a complete & necessary indeterminate undoing.
• Each person is just another center of an entire detached universe in which all that is known can only be us interpreting from our own limited impressions.
• Dopamine is released in anticipation of a reward. -Susan Weinschenk
• Who are we to judge when we see what we want to see?
• Is the part of you searching for more only an empty feeling without justification?
• Do you really enjoy what you idealize or just the expectation beforehand and the story afterwards?
• Do i actually want this, or am i just… doing it?
• Why am i letting myself suffer over this, is it worth it?
• If you can't handle the now, now, then how can you handle it in the future?
• What misperceptions are present?
• Are you sure you’re not projecting?
• Yes this is true,.. and so what?
• How long will that satisfaction actually last?
• Why don’t you want to feel something else, something better?
• Do you really want this or just think you should?

*i would like to sincerely apologize for the absolutist title- it was my best attempt at provoking actual readers, & interactions; additions, constructive criticisms, clarifications, etc. This is fairly opinionated and i would like to clarify that i'm not trying to pass every single thing here as a complete fact, even though i do find most of them to be facts or at least mostly true. it is ENTIRELY possible that i worded some of these in a way which only i can understand, so please take no offense if it seems like bullcrap, i truly hope you found information which was useful to you, and disregarded the rest which didn't ring true to you.

let me know what you all agree/disagree with, or if you would like clarifications 😄

!! !! !! If you're not very interested and/or just want a quick fix, just skim through to the bolded parts !! !! !!

• You are responsible for your problems, nothing is coming to save you.
• Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to be, be the change you wish to see. -James Clear edited
• We must all suffer from discipline or regret. Discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons. -Jim Rohn
• You may never feel ready, motivation is fleeting, do it unmotivated, all you really need is to get your foot in the door, act first or nothing will change.
• It's never wrong or too late to change your mind, you are under no obligation to stay the same.
• Your mindset won't change until you do; decide to want to not want, that which you want, which disturbs you.
• Stop trying to not have flaws.
• The fears we don't face become our limits -Robin Sharma
• Courage is not the absence of fear, but the realization that something else is more important than fear. -Unknown
• Your time is limited, & it absolutely does not come back.
• There will always be more to do**,** be and enjoy**, forgetting all that you’ve accomplished already.**
• You’ve had your entire life to try to find lasting contentment, & still have not found it anywhere.
• Emotions are just automatic, confused, & unstable drugs which always come down.
• You may never have the privilege of knowing that you are about to die, death will come on an ordinary day, in the middle of unfinished plans, and the world will forget you.
• Obsession is NO real way to escape stress and dissatisfaction.
• There will be numerous insurmountable injustices about & around you.
• You will be certain and still be wrong.
• You will have irrational fears.
• You will have moments of bias, comparison, ego, and ignorance.
• You will be misunderstood.
• You won’t always be rewarded.
• We all are selfishly driven.
• You will lose everything.
• You will never understand everything you wish to.
• You may never get closure.
• There is nothing wrong with you.
• No matter how much you worry or crave, eventually you will become completely disinterested whether willingly or not.
• You are not the only meaningful me, you're one me in an astronomical & ancient existence of animals who each have richly suffered the same as you or even more.
• In expecting no lack of satisfaction, you are consciously planning to suffer tenfold.
• If you think you just need a bit more, very little is stopping you from needing another just a bit more.
• You do things habitually because it takes less effort than breaking the cycle even if it means something more important.
• Boredom feels as though it demands satisfaction, but any stimulation resolves it just the same.
• We forfeit three-fourths of ourselves in order to be like other people & identities, living for somebody else. -Arthur Schopenhauer edited
• Anytime you rely on another's approval, you are training the mind to care about a bipolar, limited, and deluded external.
• Anytime you're someplace you don't want to be, you create a prison for yourself -Ajahn Brahm
• You are attached to the feeling of will, you don't want contentment, you want it to be found dependent on your endless goals.
• The more you fight the mind, the more the mind fights you, you only split it in two and start a war, permit discomfort.
• Putting happiness/contentment/relief in a romanticized goal or wish outside of yourself, rather than just in enough, you will cling, then misunderstand, perpetually placing it out of reach.
• What you see is all there is, we use the information we have as if it is the only information. -Daniel Kahneman
• Anything you lose by being real is fake. -Unknown
• Thinking won’t solve the problems accumulated by thinking.
• Let go of the illusion that it could have been any different. -Unknown
• No amount of anxiety makes any difference to anything that is going to happen. -Alan Watts
• You can always cope with the now, but you can never cope with the future, or rewrite the past. -Eckhart Tolle edited
• What can be asserted without evidence can also be dismissed without evidence. -Christopher Hitchens
• In failing to examine why an expectation exists, you fight a presumed inconvenience, which may not exist.
• When the future is the new now, it's still now, & you're still waiting for the unpromised future.
• It isn't the phenomenon which disturbs you, it is you which disturbs the phenomenon -Ajahn Chah edited
• The present moment is the only time over which we have dominion -Thich Nhat Hanh
• If we weren't uncomfortable, we would never move, a smooth sea never made a skilled sailor. -Proverb edited
• If you resist change, you resist life. -Sadhguru
• Do not believe, justify, obey, attempt to satiate, or condemn any emotions, you would just be conceptualizing unstable sensations and guide them into a totally confused self-perpetuation.
• Fear of embarrassment is the only thing that makes it embarrassing.
• Never make permanent conclusions, or decisions based on temporary feelings. -Unknown
• When you fear, you create the conditions which weren’t ever there, manifesting the feared.
• Fear of being branded something negative or positive, even by oneself, for doing anything agreeable, is no reason to not continue, you only live your life once.
• You avoid looking inward when it is most crucial, but you will not understand with avoidance.
• It is easy to be righteous when you plaster yourself as the victim, placing your own self upon a pedestal & stripping your own offenses.
• It is impossible for one to learn what they think they already know. -Epictetus
• Be content to be thought foolish, they were ignorant of my other faults, else they wouldn't have mentioned these alone. -Epictetus
• We judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their behavior. -Stephen Covey
• It will always be easier to focus on the faults of others rather than seeing your own.
• Mind your intentions, recognize the groundless & habitual defensiveness.
• Is this person even able to comprehend alternative perspectives?
• Let them have a distorted perception of you, & your thoughts.
• They have to live with themselves everyday.
• Instead of fighting the person, fight your narrow mindedness, give them the benefit of the doubt.
• Strive for mutual agreement, & unbiased truths, ignore ‘being right’ or proving them wrong.
• Destructive people wish to spread, but they are just reminders, not invitations.
• Engaging with an ignorant intending on destruction, you search for satisfaction in a predetermined fallacy, ignoring the insignificance.
• Any person capable of angering you is your master. -Epictetus
• The moment you feel like you need to prove yourself, is the moment you need to be silent and walk away. -Rachel Wolchin.
• Many discords rely on one or both sides holding false assumptions about the other person's intentions.
• When one assesses you accurately, don’t reject it all because of the ignorance that came with it, you can take the truth filtered from the hatred.
• Everybody is a child consistently projecting our own insecurities into our interactions & anywhere else we can interpret them.
• You can't expect another to do much more than just what is right by them. -Captain Jack Sparrow edited
• If you wish to convince another, it is generally just a plea to appease your own empty insecurity.
• Don’t accept the verdict of one who has no actual grounds to assume to know you, nor one who never live a single moment of your life, nor anyone you wouldn’t trust to advise you.
• What you tolerate shows people how to treat you. -Unknown
• You inspire me to be nothing like you. -Unknown
• If you hate anybody in the world, that's narrow-mindedness, don't just justify your views, find something lovable and worth forgiving. -Ajahn Brahm
• Love has no meaning without understanding. -Thich Nhat Hanh
• Everyone is brothers and sisters in dumbassery, siblings of the earth, not one is above their inherent flaws, & nature.
• Words will never penetrate as precisely as planned, & sometimes won’t at all.
• Everyone has defensive excuses, and nobody wants or needs to hear them. -Proverb edited
• Many of us just want to talk to ourselves at other people.
• If you cant let go, then give it away, let them have it. -Ajahn Brahm edited
• Your feeling of inferiority/inadequacy, or of the superiority of another; belongs only to you, is your responsibility & is not the fault or problem of those you project it onto.
• Contentment is knowing what you are and are not capable of. -Unknown
• Existence is just a cosmic joke, do not pretend otherwise.
• You are allowed to be okay without conditions.
• You are enough.
• You have enough.
• This is good enough.
• You have time.
• You don't need to know anything.
• Your perspective is not the only one.
• You don't need to earn existence.
• You don't owe anyone anything.
• This too shall pass, it will soon be otherwise.
• You are already home.
• Remember who you would be if you weren't who you are. -Tommy Shelby edited
• Don't put off until tomorrow the loving you can say & show today. -Bo Jackson edited
• To be alive in the here & the now is already an entire miracle. -Thich Nhat Hanh edited
• Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck. -Dalai Lama
• The only rules that really matter are these; what one can do, and what one can't do. -Captain Jack Sparrow
• You already are dead; living this unsustainable, fragile, provisional life salvaged, & lent by earth, irrefutably predesignated to a complete & necessary indeterminate undoing.
• Each person is just another center of an entire detached universe in which all that is known can only be us interpreting from our own limited impressions.
• Dopamine is released in anticipation of a reward. -Susan Weinschenk
• Who are we to judge when we see what we want to see?
• Is the part of you searching for more only an empty feeling without justification?
• Do you really enjoy what you idealize or just the expectation beforehand and the story afterwards?
• Do i actually want this, or am i just… doing it?
• Why am i letting myself suffer over this, is it worth it?
• If you can't handle the now, now, then how can you handle it in the future?
• What misperceptions are present?
• Are you sure you’re not projecting?
• Yes this is true,.. and so what?
• How long will that satisfaction actually last?
• Why don’t you want to feel something else, something better?
• Do you really want this or just think you should?

*i would like to sincerely apologize for the absolutist title- it was my best attempt at provoking actual readers, & interactions; additions, constructive criticisms, clarifications, etc. This is fairly opinionated and i would like to clarify that i'm not trying to pass every single thing here as a complete fact, even though i do find most of them to be facts or at least mostly true. it is ENTIRELY possible that i worded some of these in a way which only i can understand, so please take no offense if it seems like bullcrap, i truly hope you found information which was useful to you, and disregarded the rest which didn't ring true to you.

!! !! !! If you're not very interested and/or just want a quick fix, just skim through to the bolded parts !! !! !!

• You are responsible for your problems, nothing is coming to save you.
• Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to be, be the change you wish to see. -James Clear edited
• We must all suffer from discipline or regret. Discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons. -Jim Rohn
• You may never feel ready, motivation is fleeting, do it unmotivated, all you really need is to get your foot in the door, act first or nothing will change.
• It's never wrong or too late to change your mind, you are under no obligation to stay the same.
• Your mindset won't change until you do; decide to want to not want, that which you want, which disturbs you.
• Stop trying to not have flaws.
• The fears we don't face become our limits -Robin Sharma
• Courage is not the absence of fear, but the realization that something else is more important than fear. -Unknown
• Your time is limited, & it absolutely does not come back.
• There will always be more to do**,** be and enjoy**, forgetting all that you’ve accomplished already.**
• You’ve had your entire life to try to find lasting contentment, & still have not found it anywhere.
• Emotions are just automatic, confused, & unstable drugs which always come down.
• You may never have the privilege of knowing that you are about to die, death will come on an ordinary day, in the middle of unfinished plans, and the world will forget you.
• Obsession is NO real way to escape stress and dissatisfaction.
• There will be numerous insurmountable injustices about & around you.
• You will be certain and still be wrong.
• You will have irrational fears.
• You will have moments of bias, comparison, ego, and ignorance.
• You will be misunderstood.
• You won’t always be rewarded.
• We all are selfishly driven.
• You will lose everything.
• You will never understand everything you wish to.
• You may never get closure.
• There is nothing wrong with you.
• No matter how much you worry or crave, eventually you will become completely disinterested whether willingly or not.
• You are not the only meaningful me, you're one me in an astronomical & ancient existence of animals who each have richly suffered the same as you or even more.
• In expecting no lack of satisfaction, you are consciously planning to suffer tenfold.
• If you think you just need a bit more, very little is stopping you from needing another just a bit more.
• You do things habitually because it takes less effort than breaking the cycle even if it means something more important.
• Boredom feels as though it demands satisfaction, but any stimulation resolves it just the same.
• We forfeit three-fourths of ourselves in order to be like other people & identities, living for somebody else. -Arthur Schopenhauer edited
• Anytime you rely on another's approval, you are training the mind to care about a bipolar, limited, and deluded external.
• Anytime you're someplace you don't want to be, you create a prison for yourself -Ajahn Brahm
• You are attached to the feeling of will, you don't want contentment, you want it to be found dependent on your endless goals.
• The more you fight the mind, the more the mind fights you, you only split it in two and start a war, permit discomfort.
• Putting happiness/contentment/relief in a romanticized goal or wish outside of yourself, rather than just in enough, you will cling, then misunderstand, perpetually placing it out of reach.
• What you see is all there is, we use the information we have as if it is the only information. -Daniel Kahneman
• Anything you lose by being real is fake. -Unknown
• Thinking won’t solve the problems accumulated by thinking.
• Let go of the illusion that it could have been any different. -Unknown
• No amount of anxiety makes any difference to anything that is going to happen. -Alan Watts
• You can always cope with the now, but you can never cope with the future, or rewrite the past. -Eckhart Tolle edited
• What can be asserted without evidence can also be dismissed without evidence. -Christopher Hitchens
• In failing to examine why an expectation exists, you fight a presumed inconvenience, which may not exist.
• When the future is the new now, it's still now, & you're still waiting for the unpromised future.
• It isn't the phenomenon which disturbs you, it is you which disturbs the phenomenon -Ajahn Chah edited
• The present moment is the only time over which we have dominion -Thich Nhat Hanh
• If we weren't uncomfortable, we would never move, a smooth sea never made a skilled sailor. -Proverb edited
• If you resist change, you resist life. -Sadhguru
• Do not believe, justify, obey, attempt to satiate, or condemn any emotions, you would just be conceptualizing unstable sensations and guide them into a totally confused self-perpetuation.
• Fear of embarrassment is the only thing that makes it embarrassing.
• Never make permanent conclusions, or decisions based on temporary feelings. -Unknown
• When you fear, you create the conditions which weren’t ever there, manifesting the feared.
• Fear of being branded something negative or positive, even by oneself, for doing anything agreeable, is no reason to not continue, you only live your life once.
• You avoid looking inward when it is most crucial, but you will not understand with avoidance.
• It is easy to be righteous when you plaster yourself as the victim, placing your own self upon a pedestal & stripping your own offenses.
• It is impossible for one to learn what they think they already know. -Epictetus
• Be content to be thought foolish, they were ignorant of my other faults, else they wouldn't have mentioned these alone. -Epictetus
• We judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their behavior. -Stephen Covey
• It will always be easier to focus on the faults of others rather than seeing your own.
• Mind your intentions, recognize the groundless & habitual defensiveness.
• Is this person even able to comprehend alternative perspectives?
• Let them have a distorted perception of you, & your thoughts.
• They have to live with themselves everyday.
• Instead of fighting the person, fight your narrow mindedness, give them the benefit of the doubt.
• Strive for mutual agreement, & unbiased truths, ignore ‘being right’ or proving them wrong.
• Destructive people wish to spread, but they are just reminders, not invitations.
• Engaging with an ignorant intending on destruction, you search for satisfaction in a predetermined fallacy, ignoring the insignificance.
• Any person capable of angering you is your master. -Epictetus
• The moment you feel like you need to prove yourself, is the moment you need to be silent and walk away. -Rachel Wolchin.
• Many discords rely on one or both sides holding false assumptions about the other person's intentions.
• When one assesses you accurately, don’t reject it all because of the ignorance that came with it, you can take the truth filtered from the hatred.
• Everybody is a child consistently projecting our own insecurities into our interactions & anywhere else we can interpret them.
• You can't expect another to do much more than just what is right by them. -Captain Jack Sparrow edited
• If you wish to convince another, it is generally just a plea to appease your own empty insecurity.
• Don’t accept the verdict of one who has no actual grounds to assume to know you, nor one who never live a single moment of your life, nor anyone you wouldn’t trust to advise you.
• What you tolerate shows people how to treat you. -Unknown
• You inspire me to be nothing like you. -Unknown
• If you hate anybody in the world, that's narrow-mindedness, don't just justify your views, find something lovable and worth forgiving. -Ajahn Brahm
• Love has no meaning without understanding. -Thich Nhat Hanh
• Everyone is brothers and sisters in dumbassery, siblings of the earth, not one is above their inherent flaws, & nature.
• Words will never penetrate as precisely as planned, & sometimes won’t at all.
• Everyone has defensive excuses, and nobody wants or needs to hear them. -Proverb edited
• Many of us just want to talk to ourselves at other people.
• If you cant let go, then give it away, let them have it. -Ajahn Brahm edited
• Your feeling of inferiority/inadequacy, or of the superiority of another; belongs only to you, is your responsibility & is not the fault or problem of those you project it onto.
• Contentment is knowing what you are and are not capable of. -Unknown
• Existence is just a cosmic joke, do not pretend otherwise.
• You are allowed to be okay without conditions.
• You are enough.
• You have enough.
• This is good enough.
• You have time.
• You don't need to know anything.
• Your perspective is not the only one.
• You don't need to earn existence.
• You don't owe anyone anything.
• This too shall pass, it will soon be otherwise.
• You are already home.
• Remember who you would be if you weren't who you are. -Tommy Shelby edited
• Don't put off until tomorrow the loving you can say & show today. -Bo Jackson edited
• To be alive in the here & the now is already an entire miracle. -Thich Nhat Hanh edited
• Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck. -Dalai Lama
• The only rules that really matter are these; what one can do, and what one can't do. -Captain Jack Sparrow
• You already are dead; living this unsustainable, fragile, provisional life salvaged, & lent by earth, irrefutably predesignated to a complete & necessary indeterminate undoing.
• Each person is just another center of an entire detached universe in which all that is known can only be us interpreting from our own limited impressions.
• Dopamine is released in anticipation of a reward. -Susan Weinschenk
• Who are we to judge when we see what we want to see?
• Is the part of you searching for more only an empty feeling without justification?
• Do you really enjoy what you idealize or just the expectation beforehand and the story afterwards?
• Do i actually want this, or am i just… doing it?
• Why am i letting myself suffer over this, is it worth it?
• If you can't handle the now, now, then how can you handle it in the future?
• What misperceptions are present?
• Are you sure you’re not projecting?
• Yes this is true,.. and so what?
• How long will that satisfaction actually last?
• Why don’t you want to feel something else, something better?
• Do you really want this or just think you should?

*i would like to sincerely apologize for the absolutist title- it was my best attempt at provoking actual readers, & interactions; additions, constructive criticisms, clarifications, etc. This is fairly opinionated and i would like to clarify that i'm not trying to pass every single thing here as a complete fact, even though i do find most of them to be facts or at least mostly true. it is ENTIRELY possible that i worded some of these in a way which only i can understand, so please take no offense if it seems like bullcrap, i truly hope you found information which was useful to you, and disregarded the rest which didn't ring true to you.

Apologies that it's not completely 'professional' or anything, they are just my notes which i proof-read, refined, and restructured a bit.

If i made any mistakes here please DO correct me.

I do not intend to disrespect any non-secular Buddhists, so if you are not secular, i highly encourage you not to read this if you suspect you will become upset. this is from a mostly Theravada perspective.

• Buddha claims people lived for 80,000 years, & it rises and falls based off morality.
• Texts are at least slightly distorted.
• Many gods 100% came over from Hinduism/Brahmanism roots mostly, and possibly even entirely.
• The idea of rebirth, samsara, and escaping it was all prevalent at the time, and still practiced in hinduism which still remains separated from buddhism after 2,400ish years of practicing and meditation, yet the buddha is the only one to have attained full enlightenment through his own knowledge.
• Gotami sutta claims Buddhism will only last for 500 years.
• Contradicts evolution via human origins being coming from self-luminous beings who ate mass and gained form.
• Meditation can actually cause hallucinations, and minds will be inclined to manifest that which is already believed.
• Disagreements over the most fundamental or even basic things even such as arahants crying, proper jhana, even though many claim there are modern day arahants (which would make the teaching actually much more solid and not spread apart so much)
• No single perfect interpretation of the teaching, many interpretations, misinterpretations, sects, disagreements even in the same sect, which would be squashed by the objective ultimate truth assuming there was one.
• Every religion claims to have proof of their existence.
• Jhana is supposed to lead to liberation, and yet one can only achieve liberation when there is dhamma in the world (except for buddhas), even though it is highly likely that other religions have achieved jhana, unless the jhana which buddha prescribes is different, however he doesn’t say there is a wrong jhana, although many monks today do claim there is.
• Buddha claims the earth used to be a single mass of water.
• Buddha claims the first beings were non-physical and became solid by eating coarse food male and female did not exist until rice was eaten.
• Buddha claims gods make rain and some other phenomena.
• Buddha claims the earth is on water which is on air which is on space, wind blowing stirs the air and then the earth causing earthquakes.
• Buddha claims the sun, moon, stars, night/day, months. years, seasons appeared when beings ate the earths substance and lost their inner light.
• Warns against conceit, yet still praises Buddha for becoming *'*fully' enlightened of his own knowledge which no one else can do without aeons of practice, and also places unnecessary & unexplained inferiority on bhikkhunis (clearly conforming to cultural beliefs), and never actually explains why they can’t become a full buddha as a woman or any top god-king roles.
• Buddha claims that the buddha can at will recollect any past lives, see sentient beings being reborn, appear and vanish at will, pass through walls and mountains, diving into the earth as though it's water, flying, touching the sun, mind reading.
• It takes an inconceivable number of rebirths to become a buddha, and no one can become an arahant without a buddha’s teaching. kind of elitist, suspicious, and a common theme in all religions (to idealize, set doctrines, & praise as another 'ultimate truth') via our human nature, even though objective truth should be above human habit IMO.
• Gods bowing to him are borrowed from older Indian religion and ranked beneath him.
• The claim he could live an aeon makes his death look optional, contradicting his rule that every body must die.
• Elitist, & praises buddha and his dhamma as inherently superior.
• Two destinations for those with wrong view; hell or animal realm, yet nobody can actually believe in it without being convinced by the faith, and they are not likely to ever be able to experience it for themselves with direct knowledge without extreme dedication, also kamma is intention, and not view (this is kind of like, 'if you don't believe in jesus you are going to hell no matter how good a person you are, or the purity of your intentions'.
• Requires full time dedication which must be solely faith based, or at least someone finding benefits in the present in the extreme practice, in order to actually prove it true to themselves, and risk indoctrinating themselves in the process.
• No beginning of rebirth/kamma is pointed to or explained.
• Kamma is intention, yet if someone kills an arahant, mother, father, they automatically go to hell.
• Buddha refused to answer some questions not helpful to liberation, even though some of them may be, and he still included some material which is not helpful to liberation, this is kind of the equivalent of ‘god works in mysterious ways’, and could be convenient to disregard things he may not want to talk about.
• There can’t be two buddhas at a time, one needs to hear a buddhas teaching to become an arahant. it requires an unthinkable number of past lives on the path in order to actually become a buddha and buddhas are extremely rare and also need to make a vow to another buddha to become a buddha before they do become a buddha. therefore, there is either no first buddha or time is infinite, or something else ambiguous.
• Many of even the most diligent practitioners will still have very unwholesome qualities & major disagreements & lack of humility after a lifetime of practice.

Opinions VVV

• if it was real, its likely there would not be this much disagreement, unless achieving enlightenment truly is that difficult in which case its probably not worth the sacrifice anyway.
• The denying of most natural wants is too torturous for a maybe without any proof beyond blind faith for decades with the promise of eventual direct knowledge.
• If Bodhisattva’s were real, and they truly wanted to liberate everybody, they’d likely reveal themselves or their powers to people to prove their existence, & dhamma, regardless of whether or not it’s not allowed by the Nikaya (convenient excuse to not show proof IMO), especially if they were truly above conceit, it wouldn’t matter if people thought they were showing off, so long as they were actually helping them to begin the path of liberation. same goes with modern day arahants.
• If it was real it wouldn't be crazy to think it would be provable, and it wouldn't be crazy to think that the buddha would allow demonstrations of powers to non-believers for the sake of proving that he’s not lying about some supernatural things, in order to encourage more beings to follow his dhamma.
• With modern science it is not insane to think of life being able to start from biology, dna, electricity, rather than being created or conditioned from a previous mind moment. biggest real issue here is consciousness (which obviously who knows, i think its probably just fundamental and unmeasurable [panpsychism maybe]). in this way you could kind of say rebirth is real in a sense that we are reborn from our parents.
• Lying is wrong even to save a life, which is completely and utterly ridiculous.
• Euthanasia is wrong (modern interpretation) even though intention is kamma, and it’s an act of caring in the right circumstances.
• Called the middle way, yet still extremely ascetic, even if not completely directly torturous.
• Sexist black snake sutta.
• Possible the buddha was simply a regular teacher not interested in supernatural, then his students adopted and altered the already present beliefs, and the people studying the distortions are probably looking too hard for evidence of non-distortion to provide real unbiased results.
• It is likely that many animals suffer less than humans, not more, because they have less to lose, and they can’t advance doctrines onto one another like humans do. i think they’re less likely to be attached, and can often have an easier existence, though still filled with obvious hardships.
• There are plenty of wise people who still have some ignorance and conceit, the Buddha could have been extremely wise & still want to be a spiritual teacher for some sense of importance like many modern people.
• Maybe he was enlightened (had no dissatisfaction/stress) but still was deluded in regards to non suffering aspects, and he thought because he was enlightened that what he believed to be correct was in fact the truth such as rebirth.
• Claims to know a somewhat objective goodness/badness which is truly disgusting.

• You’ve had your entire life to try to find lasting contentment, & still haven’t found it anywhere.

• Emotions are automatic, impersonal, & unstable drugs which always come down.

• There is always another perspective.

• There are many possibilities in life, but not a single possibility is without pain -Fernando Pessoa edited

• Obsession is NO way to escape stress and dissatisfaction.

• Nobody will ever see you in the way which you see yourself & vice versa.

• Nothing belongs to you, nothing is yours.

• Nothing is coming to save you. -Unknown

• Life will test you past your limits, and you haven’t got a scrap of power over it.

• Each unbearable suffering has been borne before countless times.

• Your time is limited, & it doesn’t come back

• There will be numerous insurmountable injustices about & around you.

• You will be certain and still be wrong.

• You will have moments of bias, conceit, and ignorance.

• You will be misunderstood.

• You will be forgotten.

• You won’t always be rewarded.

• We are all selfishly driven.

• You will lose everything.

• You will never understand everything you wish to.

• You may never get closure.

• Whatever happens is rarely as bad as the fear conditioning it.

• You are enough.

• You have enough.

• This is good enough.

• You have time.

• You are allowed to trust yourself.

• You don't need to know anything.

• Your perspective is not the only one.

• You don't need to earn existence.

• You can never handle the future, & you're not obligated to.

• You don't owe anyone anything.

• Mistakes are just lessons.

• This too shall pass, it will soon be otherwise.

• You can change.

• You are already home.

Disclaimer: These are values to glance at, not answers to resolve doubt. For OCD, anything becomes a compulsion if you use it to calm anxiety — repeating it, hunting for the "right" one, or needing it before you can move on. The point isn't to kill the fear; it's to keep living while it's there.

*Let me know if you think of any cool additions, or if you have your own you want to share with me/us

I’m a perfectionist and sometimes flamboyant with my actions especially when im alone (quickly & fancily opening/closing doors, grabbing things, setting, them down, walking etc.). i dont totally care all that much about my cringey actions so much, but every once in a while i knock something over or bump into something, immediately afterwards i impulsively imagine something embarrassing in relation to the contexts (For example i knocked a measuring tape off of a platform on my desk when trying to whip my hand up into the air and fancily press a button on my laptop to start a movie, immediately i imagined the laptop was someone else’s, the laptop was expensive, they were busy using it and had important info saved on it, and the measuring tape was a tall glass of water, and that i knocked it onto the laptop). And then i cringe really hard and sigh and give up hope being around people contentedly for a second, afterwards im mostly fine, its just an irritating and perpetual automatic habit of mine.

Whats funny though is that i know that fears are always worse than what do happen, i constantly project my mothers behaviors onto others, and when i AM around other people and more hazardous situations, i don‘t ever act flamboyant or odd, nor do i imagine the embarrassment when i do knock something or other over, im pretty sure its just when i am by myself mostly, sometimes i still will around other people, but i think most of the exaggeration when im alone later on, especially happens if it happened around someone new in my life.

i am not 100% how much of this behavior is related to OCD (technically undiagnosed but i have many other behaviors too obvious to consider otherwise)

What i hope to get out of this is hopefully some insight as to whether this is common or not, if it is common if there is a name for this specific behavior, and most importantly if anyone uses any exercises or tricks which actually help to reduce this habit or more particularly prevent it from happening.

Is kamma more like;

1. A person slaps somebody and because of that, they are more likely to be slapped or something similar at some point in the future of their existence?

or

2. A person slaps somebody, and because of that, that same person will be more inclined to slap more people in the future, and have less of a resistance on their actions of slapping people?

or

3. something else? if so, please elaborate

They accused me of AI, i proved them wrong, they made up a new rule validifying the removal of my post anyway (saying that the post didn't warrant discussion, even though it literally said 'i hope this gets interactions so we can discuss and expand'), to which i responded that if they're going to make up rules and die on a hill of ignorance, that's their problem and ended it there.

Immediate permanent ban lmfaoo

I'm just glad i dug out the ignorance of the sub and got away from it.

!! !! !! If you're not very interested and/or just want a quick fix, just skim through to the bolded parts !! !! !!

- Nothing is enough for the man to whom enough is too little -Epicurus

- If you think you just need one last thing, very little is stopping you from needing another one last thing.

- It is difficult to find happiness within oneself, but it is impossible to find it elsewhere -Schopenhauer

- Putting happiness in a goal or wish outside of yourself, you will cling, therefor form bias and therefor some confusion, & remain unsatisfied.

- Contentment placed in earning it consistently, or in the future, it will be forever out of reach.

- In expecting to not be dissatisfied, we suffer exponentially when it comes.

- You forget the positive in favor of fixing the negative, sometimes obsessing.

- Any person capable of angering you is your master -Epictetus

- Courage is not the absence of fear, but the realization that something else is more important than fear -Unknown.

- The fears we don't face become our limits -Robin Sharma

- Fear of embarrassment is the only thing that makes it embarrassing.

- Self hatred is a distorted form of self love, we must love ourselves to wish to protect us from the things we hate about ourselves.

- Never make a permanent decision based on temporary feelings -Unknown

- A man who fears suffering is already suffering from what he fears -Michel de Montaigne

- You may never feel ready, motivation is fleeting, do it unmotivated. -Unknown

- Fear of thinking of oneself as vain for doing something good, is no reason to not do that good thing.

- The obsession on the over & done with must be left behind in the moment which it occurred to pave way for growth.

- You avoid looking inward when it is most crucial

- Never argue with an idiot. They will drag you down with them and beat you with experience -Mark Twain

- You cannot reason a person out of a position they did not reason themselves into in the first place -Jonathan Swift

- One big problem of many arguments is our assumptions about the other party's intention -Unknown

- When one assesses you accurately, don’t reject it all because of the ignorance that came with it, you can take the truth filtered from the hate.

- You can't expect another to do more than what is right by them -Captain Jack Sparrow edited

- You inspire me to be nothing like you -Unknown

- Don’t accept the opinion or advice of one who hasn’t & won’t live a single moment of your life, someone who you know next to nothing about.

- Plan for mutual agreement, not for being right.

- You shouldn't take criticism from someone you wouldn't go to for advice -Unknown

- Most of us think of ourselves most, so don't suffer over someone who is only thinking about themselves.

- If you wish to convince another, it is generally a plea to appease your own insecurity.

- If one wishes to cause harm, they are clearly not worth engaging.

- Destructive people wish to spread, but they are just lessons, not invitations.

- They have to live with themselves everyday.

- Instead of fighting the person, fight your narrow mindedness.

- People lie because they're afraid of telling the truth.

- Those who grasp at views go about butting their heads in the world -Buddha

- Do not hate the person, if you must hate, hate the action, hate the motivations and conditions.

- Mind your intentions, recognize baseless habitual defensiveness, allow the ignorant to keep distorted views of you.

- You are under no obligation to be the same person you were five minutes ago -Unknown

- Everybody is a child projecting insecurities wherever we can interpret them.

- What you tolerate is showing people how to treat you -Unknown

- Hatred is only a projection of the workings of one's own mind.

- No matter how much you obsess, eventually you *will* become disinterested one way or another, choose to skip over the suffering.

- When you expect nothing lasting, you own nothing, you know nothing, & you lose nothing.

- We come into humanity without a single possession or identity, & leave bringing nothing with.

- You are not the only significant me, you're one of the recent me's in an astronomical & ancient existence.

- One day you will be somebody else.

- One day you will likely miss something which you have now.

- Seeing everything as uncertain, & ending, their solidity is disillusioned, & every minute with it is precious -Ajahn Chah edited

- There are many possibilities in life, but not a single possibility is without pain -Fernando Pessoa edited.

- Every being is fundamentally driven by the same goal of satisfaction, contentment, and love.

- Emotions are automatic, impersonal, & unstable drugs which always come down.

- Humanity and its products are easily reduced to fundamentally being apparent nature itself.

- There is nothing which is unnatural, inconstancy is more permanent than anything in existence.

- Discomfort is *supposed* to exist.

- Your ‘enemy’ or ‘friend’ would easily treat you different under other circumstances or first impressions.

- The only rules that really matter are these; what one can do, and what one can't do -Captain Jack Sparrow

- We are already dead; living an unsustainable, fragile, & provisional life salvaged, & lent by mother nature, irrefutably predesignated to a necessary undoing.

- Life will test you, perhaps past your limits, and you have no power over it.

- There will always be more to do.

- Nothing belongs to you.

- Life is designed not to go the way you want or expect it to.

- No person's opinion is inherently superior.

- We are each the center of 1 limited universe out of 8 billion separate universes in which all that is known can only be interpreted from our personal *impressions* of the external. Rarely truly interacting with one another.

- Dopamine is released in *anticipation* of a reward - Susan Weinschenk

- It's never too late to change your mind.

- Nothing is coming to save you. -Unknown

- If thoughts or will were truly your own, you would need something beforehand to confirm it before having it.

- We are an emergent phenomenon; a symphony, without any conductor.

- One can do what they will, but they cannot will what they will -Schopenhauer

- You do things habitually because it takes less effort than breaking the cycle even if it means something more important.

- Boredom feels as though it demands satisfaction, but any stimulation resolves it just the same.

- You have been conditioned to feel shame over your basic humanity due to society's dehumanization, & fear of insignificance.

- Familiarity is not easily distinguished from truth -Daniel Kahneman

- When overwhelmed, structure is more efficient than panic, even though it’s less attractive.

- Comparison is the thief of joy -Theodore Roosevelt

- Liberation is in not comparing yourself to anything.

- Never is hatred laid to rest by hate, its laid to rest by love -Buddha

- If you hate anybody in the world, that's narrow-mindedness -Ajahn Brahm

- When you are angry at anybody, don't just justify your views, find something lovable and worth forgiving -Ajahn Brahm

- Love has no meaning without understanding -Thich Nhat Hanh

- Not much is evil, but most things are hungry, & hunger looks like evil from the wrong end of the cutlery -The Doctor edited

- Hate is too strong of an emotion to waste on anybody that you do not like -Clara Oswald

- Many of us just want to talk to ourselves at other people.

- Every statement is an opinion, knowing is fundamentally confident thinking.

- Words will never penetrate as precisely as planned, & maybe not at all.

- "Excuses are like ass holes, everyone's got one, and they all stink" -Proverb

- Learning to listen is the essence of intelligent living -Sadhguru

- If you don't have something productive to say, don't say anything at all.

- If you cant let go, then give it away, let them have it -Ajahn Brahm edited

- Your feeling of inferiority/inadequacy belongs only to you, & is not the fault of those you project it onto.

- Treat yourself like someone you love -Glennon Melton

- Everything is an astronomical joke, don't pretend otherwise.

- You are allowed to be okay without conditions.

- Don't deprive yourself of what you need to be content, very little is more important, decide to let the issue dissipate for today.

- Don't look for permission, your life is yours, and existence belongs to none -Unknown

- An upset mind will not be willed or understood away, you don't need an excuse to feel what you feel.

- Your mindset won't change until you *want to want* what you don't want.

- Emotions are usually not calls to action, but calls for reflection -Adam Grant

- In wanting what isn't and despising what is, the mind fixates, & amplifies it, feeding back to the wanting and despising.

- Anytime you're someplace you don't want to be, you create a prison for yourself -Ajahn Brahm

- You are attached to the feeling of will, you don't want contentment, you want it found dependent on your goals.

- You don't react to what you don't care about -Unknown

- The more you fight the mind, the more the mind fights you, you only split it in two and start a war, permit discomfort.

- In idealization, one cherry-picks a factor and imagines it to be the tree.

- So long as there is romanticism, there is clinging, there is bias, & misunderstanding.

- "What you see is all there is -we use the information we have as if it is the only information." -Daniel Kahneman

- Anything you lose by being real is fake -Unknown

- It is easy to be righteous when you plaster yourself as the victim.

- If you don't appraise others, you will be less inclined to appraise yourself.

- When you victimize yourself, you place yourself on a pedestal and strip away your contribution.

- It is impossible for one to learn what they think they already know -Epictetus

- Be content to be thought foolish, they were ignorant of my other faults, else they wouldn't have mentioned these alone. -Epictetus

- Knowing how quickly people forget the dead, you shouldn't hope to impress people -Christopher Walken edited

- We see mostly what we want to see, or what we ‘dont’ want to see.

- We judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their behavior -Stephen Covey

- Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less -C.S. Lewis

- Remember who you would be if you weren't who you are -Tommy Shelby edited

- Don't put off until tomorrow the loving words you can say today. -Bo Jackson

- To be alive in the here & the now is already a miracle.

- Your problems are only your own -Albert Ellis edited

- Let go of the illusion that it could have been any different -Unknown

- No amount of anxiety makes any difference to anything that is going to happen -Alan Watts

- What problem have you right now? You can always cope with the now, but you can never cope with the future -Eckhart Tolle

- In failing to examine why an expectation exists, you fight a presumed inconvenience, which may not exist.

- All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone -Blaise Pascal

- When the future is the new now, it's still now, & you're still waiting for the future.

- It isn't the phenomenon which disturbs you, it is you which disturbs the phenomenon -Ajahn Chah edited

- Heaven is a mindset away -Nothing But Thieves

- You worry too much for someone who always figures it out -Unknown

- The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. -Lao Tzu

- You will not understand in avoiding.

- Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it -Eckhart Tolle

- If you resist change, you resist life -Sadhguru

- If we weren't uncomfortable, we would never move -Unknown

- Your life is all which is known to be under your control

- Would i rather be at peace and detach from views, or strengthen my biased clinging?

- Who are we to judge when we see what we want to see?

- Am i imagining this dissonance?

- Is the part of you searching for more only a feeling with no true prior justification or goal?

- Do you really enjoy what you idealize or just the expectation beforehand and the story afterwards?

- Do i actually want this, or am i just doing it?

- Why am i letting myself suffer over *this*?

- If i don't let myself suffer over a failure to achieve my ends, does that *actually* mean that i must not have wanted it?

- If you can't handle the now, now, then how can you handle it in the future?

*i would like to sincerely apologize for the absolutist title- it was my best attempt at provoking actual readers, & interactions; additions, constructive criticisms, clarifications, etc. This is fairly opinionated and i would like to clarify that i'm not trying to pass every single thing here as a complete fact, even though i do find most of them to be facts or at least mostly true. it is ENTIRELY possible that i worded some of these in a way which only i can understand, so please take no offense if it seems like bullcrap, i truly hope you found information which was useful to you, and disregarded the rest which didn't ring true to you.

!! !! !! If you're not very interested and/or just want a quick fix, just skim through to the bolded parts !! !! !!

- Nothing is enough for the man to whom enough is too little -Epicurus

- If you think you just need one last thing, very little is stopping you from needing another one last thing.

- It is difficult to find happiness within oneself, but it is impossible to find it elsewhere -Schopenhauer

- Putting happiness in a goal or wish outside of yourself, you will cling, therefor form bias and therefor some confusion, & remain unsatisfied.

- Contentment placed in earning it consistently, or in the future, it will be forever out of reach.

- In expecting to not be dissatisfied, we suffer exponentially when it comes.

- You forget the positive in favor of fixing the negative, sometimes obsessing.

- Any person capable of angering you is your master -Epictetus

- Courage is not the absence of fear, but the realization that something else is more important than fear -Unknown.

- The fears we don't face become our limits -Robin Sharma

- Fear of embarrassment is the only thing that makes it embarrassing.

- Self hatred is a distorted form of self love, we must love ourselves to wish to protect us from the things we hate about ourselves.

- Never make a permanent decision based on temporary feelings -Unknown

- A man who fears suffering is already suffering from what he fears -Michel de Montaigne

- You may never feel ready, motivation is fleeting, do it unmotivated. -Unknown

- Fear of thinking of oneself as vain for doing something good, is no reason to not do that good thing.

- The obsession on the over & done with must be left behind in the moment which it occurred to pave way for growth.

- You avoid looking inward when it is most crucial

- Never argue with an idiot. They will drag you down with them and beat you with experience -Mark Twain

- You cannot reason a person out of a position they did not reason themselves into in the first place -Jonathan Swift

- One big problem of many arguments is our assumptions about the other party's intention -Unknown

- When one assesses you accurately, don’t reject it all because of the ignorance that came with it, you can take the truth filtered from the hate.

- You can't expect another to do more than what is right by them -Captain Jack Sparrow edited

- You inspire me to be nothing like you -Unknown

- Don’t accept the opinion or advice of one who hasn’t & won’t live a single moment of your life, someone who you know next to nothing about.

- Plan for mutual agreement, not for being right.

- You shouldn't take criticism from someone you wouldn't go to for advice -Unknown

- Most of us think of ourselves most, so don't suffer over someone who is only thinking about themselves.

- If you wish to convince another, it is generally a plea to appease your own insecurity.

- If one wishes to cause harm, they are clearly not worth engaging.

- Destructive people wish to spread, but they are just lessons, not invitations.

- They have to live with themselves everyday.

- Instead of fighting the person, fight your narrow mindedness.

- People lie because they're afraid of telling the truth.

- Those who grasp at views go about butting their heads in the world -Buddha

- Do not hate the person, if you must hate, hate the action, hate the motivations and conditions.

- Mind your intentions, recognize baseless habitual defensiveness, allow the ignorant to keep distorted views of you.

- You are under no obligation to be the same person you were five minutes ago -Unknown

- Everybody is a child projecting insecurities wherever we can interpret them.

- What you tolerate is showing people how to treat you -Unknown

- Hatred is only a projection of the workings of one's own mind.

- No matter how much you obsess, eventually you *will* become disinterested one way or another, choose to skip over the suffering.

- When you expect nothing lasting, you own nothing, you know nothing, & you lose nothing.

- We come into humanity without a single possession or identity, & leave bringing nothing with.

- You are not the only significant me, you're one of the recent me's in an astronomical & ancient existence.

- One day you will be somebody else.

- One day you will likely miss something which you have now.

- Seeing everything as uncertain, & ending, their solidity is disillusioned, & every minute with it is precious -Ajahn Chah edited

- There are many possibilities in life, but not a single possibility is without pain -Fernando Pessoa edited.

- Every being is fundamentally driven by the same goal of satisfaction, contentment, and love.

- Emotions are automatic, impersonal, & unstable drugs which always come down.

- Humanity and its products are easily reduced to fundamentally being apparent nature itself.

- There is nothing which is unnatural, inconstancy is more permanent than anything in existence.

- Discomfort is *supposed* to exist.

- Your ‘enemy’ or ‘friend’ would easily treat you different under other circumstances or first impressions.

- The only rules that really matter are these; what one can do, and what one can't do -Captain Jack Sparrow

- We are already 'undone'; living an unsustainable, fragile, & provisional life salvaged, & lent by mother nature, irrefutably predesignated to a necessary undoing.

- Life will test you, perhaps past your limits, and you have no power over it.

- There will always be more to do.

- Nothing belongs to you.

- Life is designed not to go the way you want or expect it to.

- No person's opinion is inherently superior.

- We are each the center of 1 limited universe out of 8 billion separate universes in which all that is known can only be interpreted from our personal *impressions* of the external. Rarely truly interacting with one another.

- Dopamine is released in *anticipation* of a reward - Susan Weinschenk

- It's never too late to change your mind.

- Nothing is coming to save you. -Unknown

- If thoughts or will were truly your own, you would need something beforehand to confirm it before having it.

- We are an emergent phenomenon; a symphony, without any conductor.

- One can do what they will, but they cannot will what they will -Schopenhauer

- You do things habitually because it takes less effort than breaking the cycle even if it means something more important.

- Boredom feels as though it demands satisfaction, but any stimulation resolves it just the same.

- You have been conditioned to feel shame over your basic humanity due to society's dehumanization, & fear of insignificance.

- Familiarity is not easily distinguished from truth -Daniel Kahneman

- When overwhelmed, structure is more efficient than panic, even though it’s less attractive.

- Comparison is the thief of joy -Theodore Roosevelt

- Liberation is in not comparing yourself to anything.

- Never is hatred laid to rest by hate, its laid to rest by love -Buddha

- If you hate anybody in the world, that's narrow-mindedness -Ajahn Brahm

- When you are angry at anybody, don't just justify your views, find something lovable and worth forgiving -Ajahn Brahm

- Love has no meaning without understanding -Thich Nhat Hanh

- Not much is evil, but most things are hungry, & hunger looks like evil from the wrong end of the cutlery -The Doctor edited

- Hate is too strong of an emotion to waste on anybody that you do not like -Clara Oswald

- Many of us just want to talk to ourselves at other people.

- Every statement is an opinion, knowing is fundamentally confident thinking.

- Words will never penetrate as precisely as planned, & maybe not at all.

- "Excuses are like ass holes, everyone's got one, and they all stink" -Proverb

- Learning to listen is the essence of intelligent living -Sadhguru

- If you don't have something productive to say, don't say anything at all.

- If you cant let go, then give it away, let them have it -Ajahn Brahm edited

- Your feeling of inferiority/inadequacy belongs only to you, & is not the fault of those you project it onto.

- Treat yourself like someone you love -Glennon Melton

- Everything is an astronomical joke, don't pretend otherwise.

- You are allowed to be okay without conditions.

- Don't deprive yourself of what you need to be content, very little is more important, decide to let the issue dissipate for today.

- Don't look for permission, your life is yours, and existence belongs to none -Unknown

- An upset mind will not be willed or understood away, you don't need an excuse to feel what you feel.

- Your mindset won't change until you *want to want* what you don't want.

- Emotions are usually not calls to action, but calls for reflection -Adam Grant

- In wanting what isn't and despising what is, the mind fixates, & amplifies it, feeding back to the wanting and despising.

- Anytime you're someplace you don't want to be, you create a prison for yourself -Ajahn Brahm

- You are attached to the feeling of will, you don't want contentment, you want it found dependent on your goals.

- You don't react to what you don't care about -Unknown

- The more you fight the mind, the more the mind fights you, you only split it in two and start a war, permit discomfort.

- In idealization, one cherry-picks a factor and imagines it to be the tree.

- So long as there is romanticism, there is clinging, there is bias, & misunderstanding.

- "What you see is all there is -we use the information we have as if it is the only information." -Daniel Kahneman

- Anything you lose by being real is fake -Unknown

- It is easy to be righteous when you plaster yourself as the victim.

- If you don't appraise others, you will be less inclined to appraise yourself.

- When you victimize yourself, you place yourself on a pedestal and strip away your contribution.

- It is impossible for one to learn what they think they already know -Epictetus

- Be content to be thought foolish, they were ignorant of my other faults, else they wouldn't have mentioned these alone. -Epictetus

- Knowing how quickly people forget the deceased, you shouldn't hope to impress people -Christopher Walken edited

- We see mostly what we want to see, or what we ‘dont’ want to see.

- We judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their behavior -Stephen Covey

- Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less -C.S. Lewis

- Remember who you would be if you weren't who you are -Tommy Shelby edited

- Don't put off until tomorrow the loving words you can say today. -Bo Jackson

- To be alive in the here & the now is already a miracle.

- Your problems are only your own -Albert Ellis edited

- Let go of the illusion that it could have been any different -Unknown

- No amount of anxiety makes any difference to anything that is going to happen -Alan Watts

- What problem have you right now? You can always cope with the now, but you can never cope with the future -Eckhart Tolle

- In failing to examine why an expectation exists, you fight a presumed inconvenience, which may not exist.

- All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone -Blaise Pascal

- When the future is the new now, it's still now, & you're still waiting for the future.

- It isn't the phenomenon which disturbs you, it is you which disturbs the phenomenon -Ajahn Chah edited

- Heaven is a mindset away -Nothing But Thieves

- You worry too much for someone who always figures it out -Unknown

- The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. -Lao Tzu

- You will not understand in avoiding.

- Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it -Eckhart Tolle

- If you resist change, you resist life -Sadhguru

- If we weren't uncomfortable, we would never move -Unknown

- Your life is all which is known to be under your control

- Would i rather be at peace and detach from views, or strengthen my biased clinging?

- Who are we to judge when we see what we want to see?

- Am i imagining this dissonance?

- Is the part of you searching for more only a feeling with no true prior justification or goal?

- Do you really enjoy what you idealize or just the expectation beforehand and the story afterwards?

- Do i actually want this, or am i just doing it?

- Why am i letting myself suffer over *this*?

- If i don't let myself suffer over a failure to achieve my ends, does that *actually* mean that i must not have wanted it?

- If you can't handle the now, now, then how can you handle it in the future?

*i would like to sincerely apologize for the absolutist title- it was my best attempt at provoking actual readers, & interactions; additions, constructive criticisms, clarifications, etc. This is fairly opinionated and i would like to clarify that i'm not trying to pass every single thing here as a complete fact, even though i do find most of them to be facts or at least mostly true. it is ENTIRELY possible that i worded some of these in a way which only i can understand, so please take no offense if it seems like bullcrap, i truly hope you found information which was useful to you, and disregarded the rest which didn't ring true to you.

mostly but not entirely in order of most to least important to me

Principles

Be

• Compassionate
• Self-Compassionate
• Accountable
• Contented
• Grateful
• Forgiving
• Respectful
• Humble
• Unindoctrinated
• Skeptical
• Impartially Inquisitive
• Courageous
• Minimalist
• Fully honest
• Patient

Do not be

• Resentful
• Manipulative
• Self-hating
• Obsessive
• Entitled
• Hypocritical
• Projective
• Conceited
• Suppressing speech
• Generalizing/Labeling/De-valuing
• Partisan (strongly biased toward one side)
• Credulous (too willing to believe, easily deceived)
• Gossipy
• Timorous (fearful, timid, lacking courage)
• Presumptuous
• Performative
• Superficial
• Defensive
• Procrastinatory
• Impulsive
• Greedy
• Numbed (too often)