u/Earhart2211

Babe, I hope you see this. I can't say all of this in chats or calls because I go blank.
The failure you faced doesn't define who you are. I look up to you. This past week has been daunting, and it has affected me so much that I've gone numb. I try my best to stay in my routine, but seeing you go all blank and depressed hurts me so much.
I try to stay strong and supportive for you, but the thought of our good times makes me miss you more than I can put into words. I'm typing this with an ache in my heart. I hope you know I understand how you feel.
Please allow me to come see you. I really want you to let me come to you.
I love you not for the things you do or the value you add to my life. I love you for who you are, especially in the bad times.

I love you.
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My friend ,she’s in Chennai has been dating her boyfriend who is in Gurgaon, for about 3 months, long distance. He’s a bit older (29) very driven, was running his own business alongside a demanding job. Last month, his business lost its funding right before a big deadline he’d been killing himself over for weeks. Since then he’s spiraled drinking heavily (multiple times a day), got aggressive and broke something in his apartment, has dented his own car repeatedly, and has cut off contact with almost everyone. He’s told her he’s ashamed and doesn’t want anyone to see him like this, and he’s refusing therapy or any kind of help. He has a history of a depressive episode in his past for which he did get help at the time.
He gives her mixed signals tells her he needs space, but also sends messages implying he doesn’t want her to give up on him. She doesn’t know his friends or family yet since the relationship is new, so she has no one else to loop in for a welfare check, and she’s considering just showing up at his place in Gurgaon unannounced since he keeps saying no when she asks.
Has anyone navigated something like this either as the partner, or been the person in crisis yourself? Is showing up uninvited a good idea or a bad one? How do you get someone help when they’re actively refusing it? Any advice appreciated.

My friend has been dating her boyfriend for about 3 months, long distance. He’s a bit older, very driven, was running his own business alongside a demanding job. Last month, his business lost its funding right before a big deadline he’d been killing himself over for weeks. Since then he’s spiraled drinking heavily (multiple times a day), got aggressive and broke something in his apartment, has dented his own car repeatedly, and has cut off contact with almost everyone. He’s told her he’s ashamed and doesn’t want anyone to see him like this, and he’s refusing therapy or any kind of help. He has a history of a depressive episode in his past for which he did get help at the time.

He gives her mixed signals tells her he needs space, but also sends messages implying he doesn’t want her to give up on him. She doesn’t know his friends or family yet since the relationship is new, so she has no one else to loop in for a welfare check, and she’s considering just showing up at his place unannounced since he keeps saying no when she asks.

Has anyone navigated something like this either as the partner, or been the person in crisis yourself? Is showing up uninvited a good idea or a bad one? How do you get someone help when they’re actively refusing it? Any advice appreciated.

Funny how this started. Lately I’ve been getting messages from people asking about my pictures, what I shoot, how I got into it, what I do. So here’s the short version :)
Aviation has been the thread through my whole life. I pursued my pathway to be a cabin crew
initially ,then chased becoming a pilot, even took my shot at the IAF. The paths didn’t land the way I planned, but the obsession never faded. If anything it got louder.
Now Plane spotting is how I stay close to the thing I love, and apparently the shots are starting to catch attention. Figured it was time to post here properly.
Expect frequent uploads 😅

Tell me what you want to see more of, specific liveries, golden hour departures, particular airports, gear talk, anything. Happy to be here.