u/Strict_Clock_6407

On and off, I've been thinking about it a lot. How am I supposed to deal with the imagination/possibility that my identity might become the reason I get disowned and my family doesn't accept me.

Being accepted and understood has a 0.01% chance, while the opposite is huge, and sometimes that just messes me up mentally and emotionally, I have no idea how to deal with it.

As it is, my emotional range is lesser than a rock or a dry log, and yet when these thoughts plague me, I feel something beyond just disassociation.

How does one even deal/live with such emotions?

As the title states, how do you "trust the process" of fitness, getting healthy and weight loss when there is barely any progress?

I feel like giving up, even though I don't want to. 🥀

Don't get me started on the meals. That is beyond my control since I stay in a PG. If I manage to overcome restrictions like that, then there is monetary restrictions when it comes to snacks, side dishes, and protein.

Genuine question!

There are two sentences I've heard from a lot of straight people whenever they find out a woman is a lesbian or sapphic:

1. Lesbians are man-haters.

2. Domestic violence and divorce rates are high among sapphic women.

Where did such things even come up from? How does loving a woman make us man-haters?

Genuine question!

There are two sentences I've heard from a lot of straight people whenever they find out a woman is a lesbian or sapphic:

1. Lesbians are man-haters.

2. Domestic violence and divorce rates are high among sapphic women.

Where did such things even come up from? How does loving a woman make us man-haters?

Hey!

So, here's the thing— I started off as a Ganpati worshipper, then became a Rama Bhakt, and then a Krishna bhakt. For the first two, I am confused between it being a choice of my heart against me liking their idols.

For Krishna Bhagwana, I did want to worship him and that came from inside me.

But for the past few months I have been feeling a pull towards Kali Ma. I want to engage in her worship but I also know I am not capable of it.

Now I am stuck between worshipping Ganpati, Rama, and Krishna, while feeling a strong pull towards Ma Kali, which has left me feeling really confused and frustrated. And the pull towards Ma is far too strong because I'm queer and I feel like only she will accept me for who I am, no one else.

Please help me figure out why this is happening to me, and what is the right course of action that I should take!

Hey!

So, here's the thing— I started off as a Ganpati worshipper, then became a Rama Bhakt, and then a Krishna bhakt. For the first two, I am confused between it being a choice of my heart against me liking their idols.

For Krishna Bhagwana, I did want to worship him and that came from inside me.

But for the past few months I have been feeling a pull towards Kali Ma. I want to engage in her worship but I also know I am not capable of it.

Now I am stuck between worshipping Ganpati, Rama, and Krishna, while feeling a strong pull towards Ma Kali, which has left me feeling really confused and frustrated. And the pull towards Ma is far too strong because I'm queer and I feel like only she will accept me for who I am, no one else.

Please help me figure out why this is happening to me, and what is the right course of action that I should take!

All I can think of is the non-existent her, of holding her hand and just walking together without any destination, of sitting by her side while drinking coffee.

All I can think of is falling asleep beside her without a care in the world.

I can trust the process but why is the process so long? I'm so tired. 🥀

Edit: yearning*

>A wedding ceremony in Uttar Pradesh's Bareilly district turned into a dramatic sequence of events after a bride allegedly eloped with her lover just before her nikah, forcing families to consider marrying the groom to her younger sister. However, that plan also collapsed when it emerged that the younger sister was reportedly in a relationship with another man, triggering chaos and a violent clash at the wedding venue.

>The bride allegedly left her home on Friday night along with jewellery and eloped with her boyfriend, family members later discovered. By the time relatives learned about her disappearance on Saturday morning, the groom's procession had already begun arriving for the ceremony.

>In an attempt to save the marriage arrangement and avoid social embarrassment, relatives and village elders reportedly held lengthy discussions and a local panchayat. During these deliberations, the bride's family proposed that the groom marry the bride's younger sister instead.

>After extensive talks, both sides reportedly agreed to the proposal and preparations began for the revised wedding arrangement.

>Just as the nikah was about to proceed, fresh controversy erupted when information allegedly emerged that the younger sister was also involved in a romantic relationship and did not wish to marry the groom.

>According to reports, a young man claiming to be her boyfriend appeared and stated that the two were in a relationship. The revelation led to heated arguments between members of both families.

>The wedding was ultimately called off, and the groom's side returned home without a bride. Police are said to be awaiting formal complaints from either side before taking further action.

And this is why we don't force marriage upon people who are already in a relationship. I'm just glad the younger sister's boyfriend stepped up.

Every time a married woman talks to her parents about the suffocating and abusive situation of her marital home, she is told to "adjust and tolerate" because that is far more honorable than her coming back to them.

And when she's dead, the same family cries over her dead body, like they had done everything to pull her out of that abusive marriage.

But the truth is that they were complicit in it. Indirectly, when they told her to "adjust and tolerate" and kept her in a dangerous environment, they painted their hands with her blood and also became the perpetrators in her death.

It is easier to cry over a dead body and beg for justice, because now your societal standing isn't harmed, rather than getting her home alive and demanding for justice.

Hi everyone! I hope you're doing well.

I have a minimum budget of 8k and a maximum of 12k, although I try not to spend after crossing 10k.

I have two investments, I am using them to save for a friends trip next year, which amounts to a total of 6.5k. I was able to manage my budget for the previous two months because my younger sibling was at home and didn't require pocket money.

This month, their college began and they need money every other week. So, either I, or our parents send the money. I can manage sending around 2k and a total of 4k in the month.

Despite all my attempts to curb spending— I even eat the boring PG food to avoid spending money in the office canteen; walking to avoid using autos— I always exceed my budget and screw up my desired balance in my bank account.

I make donations very rarely. I made two donations this month and now my budget is completely messed up.

Can I get tips to maintain it? Thank you!

Budget: 8k-12k.

Investments: 6.5k (total)

Pocket money to sibling: 4k max.

Forget the homophobic society and family, yearning will be the reason my heart stops beating first.

I don't get why people romanticise yearning so much. It's so painful and lonely!

You build castles and decorate them to your finest ability, but then you're all alone in there with your controlled scenarios. There's no other person, just you and your unfulfilled desires.

For a while, it feels good and comforting, but when reality hits and you have none around you, not even to hold your hand, it hurts so much. Like physically, when your chest caves in and your heart squeezes.

And if, by mistake, the wrong person makes their way into your life and destroys everything, it's another level of hell and trust issues.

The dating pool is already so small and hard to find. I don't even know if I'll find a girlfriend and settle down with her, or marry a man. The second option scares me so much!

I'm so tired of just yearning. 🥀

There are times when I scroll reddit without logging in, which means the content I receive is beyond my control and I see a lot of garbage stuff as well.

And that particular sub, which says it is just unfiltered and PR free for honest opinion, is so disgusting. 🥀

They are literally objectifying actresses, taking close up shots of their body (waist, navel, etc) and judging them, or straight up body shaming them.

And the comments— terrible!

Like, there's appreciating someone, and then there's them— literally typing really vulgar things about them.

I hate that I ever made it to that sub, even accidentally.

Sometimes Reddit feels like a boon and sometimes a bane. Anonymity really lets people do literally anything.

Hey!

I have a friend who is trans, dealing with body dysphoria and is suicidal and depressed.

I want to help and comfort her, but I have the emotional range of a dry log.

I tried, but I don't think I'm doing a good job. 🥀

Can I get some advice on comforting her, please?

Hey!

I have a friend who is trans, dealing with body dysphoria and is suicidal and depressed.

I want to help and comfort her, but I have the emotional range of a dry log.

I tried, but I don't think I'm doing a good job. 🥀

Can I get some advice on comforting her, please?

Hey!

So, it's been a few days since I heard these ads. If you are using Spotify free, you might be getting ads about their Platinum plan, AiDJ, and free extra accounts with each subscription.

The adverts feel rather weird and insulting to me. It's just about a saas (Mother-in-law) complaining about her bahu (daughter-in-law). I understand it if it was in a humorous manner, but saying things like, "My bahu is so low class for hosting a jaljeera and bhel puri party. So I asked Ai DJ to play songs suitable for her bhelpuri party."

And the likes.

It just felt very... humiliating. Unless they were trying to recreate Ratna Pathak's Sarabhai vs Sarabhai.

I had ordered a birthday cake for my sibling from Zomato, because FnP cancelled out last minute.

The cake did not arrive in a good condition. It was literally falling apart!

One half was cracked and the other half literally fell apart. The cake and cream just fell apart.

On top of that, the restaurant did not even follow a basic instruction of writing "Happy Birthday" on the cake. It's a literal birthday cake!!

Customer care is shit because of the bloody Ai bots! Let this company be doomed. They deserve it!

I have mailed their order and grievance IDs, but I'm so fucking pissed right now.

They literally ruined a birthday!!

Hi everyone!

It's been a year since I graduated from c011ege and started working for a company. I am still on the bench, but yeah, I get paid.

The thing is that, I've noticed my memory isn't like that of when I was in school, where I could remember loads of information. On top of that, I've gotten really addicted to my phone— reading and writing on Wattpad, scrolling on reddit and IG a few times, reading Mangas and Manhwas, and listening to songs.

I am planning for a career switch next year and that requires me to study the subject from scratch because I don't belong to that domain. The problem is that I can neither focus nor remember anything.

I've tried using grayscale on my phone, coloring the icons as the wallpaper to feel less interested, using focus mode and everything. I am out of ideas on how I can control myself and study properly.

I can neither study for the switch nor upgrade my skills at work.

If I put my phone away, my brain doesn't shut up and keeps playing some song at random.

I am really tired of this and want to get back on track. I want to be disciplined and consistent.

This is very important for me because I'm a closeted queer person and my parents/family will not accept me. I want to be financially stable enough to handle the impact of it.

As of now, I have stopped reading comics and reduced my usage of social media. But sometimes, there are urges. 🥀

Thank you.

Hi everyone!

It's been a year since I graduated from college and started working for a company. I am still on the bench, but yeah, I get paid.

The thing is that, I've noticed my memory isn't like that of when I was in school, where I could remember loads of information. On top of that, I've gotten really addicted to my phone— reading and writing on Wattpad, scrolling on reddit and IG a few times, reading Mangas and Manhwas, and listening to songs.

I am planning for a career switch next year and that requires me to study the subject from scratch because I don't belong to that domain. The problem is that I can neither focus nor remember anything.

I've tried using grayscale on my phone, coloring the icons as the wallpaper to feel less interested, using focus mode and everything. I am out of ideas on how I can control myself and study properly.

I can neither study for the switch nor upgrade my skills at work.

If I put my phone away, my brain doesn't shut up and keeps playing some song at random.

I am really tired of this and want to get back on track. I want to be disciplined and consistent.

This is very important for me because I'm a closeted queer person and my parents/family will not accept me. I want to be financially stable enough to handle the impact of it.

As of now, I have stopped reading comics and reduced my usage of social media. But sometimes, there are urges. 🥀

Thank you.

My dad was watching the news and skimming through channels for something worthwhile. For a few minutes, he stopped at Arnab's channel, where he [Arnab] said, "Yeh desh 86 ling walon ka nahi hai."

Trans. "This country doesn't belong to those who believe in 86 sexes (should be gender, but okay)."

And that got me wondering, why did he come up with such an assumption that being a part of the LGBTQIA+ community means having 86 sexes/genders?

[ Note, a person's biological sex differs from their gender. Sex is what we are born with. Gender is an expression that we use to dress, live and behave a certain way. To express ourselves. It varies from culture to culture, and sometimes people's gender expression is different from the sex assigned at birth. ]

Not only the LGBTQIA+ , but even the feminist movement is looked upon by the most in India because of how things are turning up in America.

I mean, why did everyone assume that "One size fits all"?

India differs from America in various ways. America's version of feminism and queer community is way different than India's version, even if their base ideology is the same.

I just want to break out of it.

Scream and shout and tell the whole world I'm gay/sapphic.

I'm tired of holding a part of my identity within me, hiding it because the world won't be kind and accepting towards it.

I'm tired of this loneliness and silence, of the dread that I may never find the one I could spend my lifetime with.

I'm so tired of people saying, "Don't make being gay your personality", while they can go about their day without worrying about their family disowning them because they are simply born different.

I'm so tired of hiding a part of myself.