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I've (F21) been close friends with this girl (F21) for a year now. We get along in almost every way and we agree on almost everything. Except when we don't, it makes me kind of not want to be around her. At least for a while. She is a good friend but sometimes she just makes me genuinely mad. I think my biggest annoyance is when she points out flaws of mine and makes them seem bigger than they are.

I know she would never do anything to hurt me, she's truly not like that but it's getting under my skin. I never knew how many habits I had that other people may find annoying until I became friends with her. She points out everything I do. And she says it in a joking way but I can tell she finds it a bit annoying. She'll laugh and say something like, "oh my god I can't when you..." or “you always do that”.

And since I became friends with her, I'm hyper aware of everything I do. I know friends tease each other but it just makes me feel insecure and honestly like I don't want to hang out with her sometimes. Which is confusing because I genuinely enjoy her company until I don't. I know that she’s joking, but it feels like she’s secretly actually annoyed by these things. And it feels like I can’t make mistakes or be me without her pointing it out in a way that makes me feel like I have to say sorry.

I’ve been close friends with this girl for a year now. We get along in almost every way and we agree on almost everything. Except when we don’t, it makes me kind of not want to be around her. At least for a while. She is a good friend but sometimes she just pisses me off like no other. I think my biggest annoyance is when she points out flaws of mine and makes them seem bigger than they are. I know she would never do anything to hurt me, she’s truly not like that but it’s getting under my skin. I never knew how many habits I had that other people may find annoying until I became friends with her. She points out everything I do. And she says it in a joking way but I can tell she finds it a bit annoying. She’ll laugh and say something like, “oh my god I can’t when you…” And since I became friends with her, I’m hyper aware of everything I do. I know friends tease each other but it just makes me feel insecure and honestly like I don’t want hang out with her sometimes. Which is confusing because I genuinely enjoy her company until I don’t.

Or another thing that annoys me is that I’m a very punctual person, I like to be on time for things if not early. She’s not like that. Whenever we hang out, she’ll give me a general timeframe of when she’ll meet me somewhere instead of just saying what time she’ll be ready. She never says, “I’ll be there by 1 pm” she’ll either say “I don’t know yet” or “around 1 or 1:30. I don’t want to rush.” So I don’t know if I’ll be waiting half an hour or if she’ll already be there. Idk small things like this make me want to distance myself.

Does anyone know of any movies where the main character struggles with being an angry person? Characters who are flawed but are trying?

Just until you find a job and can start making monthly payments? For reference, I have gotten a scholarship that paid most of this semester luckily but because FAFSA regulations have changed, I owe most out of pocket now. I attend community college so it’s not terrible but I just have no job to even start payments. Right now, I owe $3k and school starts next month so I’m just afraid I won’t find a job by then.

I have a feeling people will say that I’m not ready for college and that I should drop out but that’s not at all what I want to do. This is a setback for sure but I really need my degree and I only have about 5 months left. I emailed my advisor about 2 weeks ago but since it’s summer, of course she hasn’t replied. I’m just anxious waiting for the next step.

Everytime I scroll on TikTok or Instagram or even YouTube, I see videos of rich people bragging about what they spent their money on for that day. I hate to sound like a negative person but that’s how I feel. It feels surreal sometimes. To see 16 year olds in high school driving their own Lamborghinis and buying Cartier bracelets and racking up $4k in Sephora all in the same day. Meanwhile I’m struggling to find a job to stay housed. I hate being reminded of the things I don’t have. This doesn’t feel like real life sometimes.

Does anyone else find it really hard to keep up with hygiene and all that? Lately I’ve been so exhausted physically and mentally I feel like a zombie walking through life. Everyday my mind is blank because it’s exhausting to even think. When I brush my teeth, I zone out.. when I shower, I’m not there mentally. I’m exhausted. Walking from my bed to the bathroom takes too much energy, my eyes feel too heavy despite sleeping all day. My skin is terrible, I’m sick of looking at myself everyday. My dark circles have never been worse.

And worst of all, I feel embarrassed. I’m 21, but I look like so much older because I’m so stressed. And I can barely take care of myself right now. I go days without showering or doing skincare and I know that’s disgusting. I know I’m disgusting. I just feel like everyday is happening too fast. It’s so repetitive, I’m starting to lose my mind.

Does anyone else get incredibly depressed after spending the last of your paycheck? Because now you have to wait until you get paid next to be able to do anything. I just spent my last $50 on groceries and I wasn’t even able to get many things. Now I have $3 in my bank account and I know my next paycheck, it’ll be the same thing. Most of it will go towards bills and whatever is left goes to gas and food. I’m sick of living like this.

What does it mean when you’re extremely shy and quiet but this boy who you work with is extremely talkative and super sweet and he always tries to talk to you. He’s always staring at you and trying to start a conversation despite being extremely awkward yourself. And everytime you look at him, he’s already looking at you and he looks like he wants to talk to you. And then one day he says, “I want to talk to you but I don’t know what to say.” Does he know he doesn’t have to talk to me just because we’re at work? He is very attractive but I don’t know if he’s just being kind or not.

Like they’re not a bad person at all and most of your hang outs are enjoyable, but after you go home you kind of feel weird. You kind of start to realize that you no longer click that well because you’re so different. While you’re together, you start to notice all the things they do that you don’t like. I don’t mean chewing with their mouth open, I mean the way they often disagree with what you say even if it’s small. Or the way they often correct you when you say a word wrong despite knowing what you meant (even jokingly. It’s all the time). Or the way you can’t tell if they’re annoyed with you or not.

And despite your friendship having many great qualities (like you two have good deep conversations and it seems like you get along about everything else), these little things just start to feel like deal breakers. And you know they’re not the kind of person to purposely hurt you or make you feel bad, but it’s starting to make you feel insecure about the little quirks and habits you have.

Like they’re not a bad person at all and most of your hang outs are enjoyable, but after you go home you kind of feel weird. You kind of start to realize that you no longer click that well because you’re so different. While you’re together, you start to notice all the things they do that you don’t like. I don’t mean chewing with their mouth open, I mean the way they often disagree with what you say even if it’s small. Or the way they often correct you when you say a word wrong despite knowing what you meant (even jokingly. It’s all the time). Or the way you can’t tell if they’re annoyed with you or not.

And despite your friendship having many great qualities (like you two have good deep conversations and it seems like you get along about everything else), these little things just start to feel like deal breakers. And you know they’re not the kind of person to purposely hurt you or make you feel bad, but it’s starting to make you feel insecure about the little quirks and habits you have.

I’ve had this close friend for about a year and I’ve only just now realized that whenever we hang out, she always mentions a habit of mine that I never realized I had. And I know she doesn’t mean it in a hurtful way but sometimes she points it out in a very judgmental way. For reference, I’m 98% I’m neurodivergent. I either am overly aware of social cues or I miss them completely. And today she kept mentioning things like I couldn’t read the room, that I respond to things a bit delayed, that she can’t understand me. I listen very intently when people talk but I also told her that I have a bad ear and she talks very quietly, but she swears I’m ignoring her on purpose. Idk it’s just little things.

It’s starting to make me feel like I’m a weird person. Her and I are very different, which can be good but lately I’ve been very self conscious with everything she’s pointed out about me because I’m worried it annoys her. I know I’ve always been a bit different and sometimes I can act weird. It’s really making me miss my best friend who moved away from college because we’re both weird and she gets me. It’s hard having friends who aren’t used to the way you are. It makes me feel like I have to apologize for being an inconvenience.

I do have weird habits. Sometimes I can’t read the room, sometimes I react slowly and sometimes I can’t make up my mind on where I want to eat. But I don’t like having all of these things pointed out to me like they’re a nuisance.

I’m starting a new job I got through a staffing agency because I couldn’t find anything else. It’s a full time call center job at a pretty big company. $18 an hour. I guess I’m just nervous because I’m a very low energy/introverted person and I know I’ll probably end up hating this job. But for the next few months I need to suck it up because I have to pay for school and loans. And I really need to get my credit score back up.

I guess I just need some encouragement and tips. Have any of you ever had to muscle through a bad job for a while?

Does anyone else’s parent(s) talk too much? She’s incapable of just getting to the point. I texted her if she’s off work tomorrow because I’m half asleep and I didn’t feel like getting up to ask her. Next thing I know, she’s coming into my room to rant about how the computers at her job stopped working and she kept giving me every little detail and recounting everything that happened before finally just saying “so yeah, I’m off tomorrow”… I didn’t say a single word the entire time but I was visibly annoyed because I’m ready to go to bed and she takes forever to just get to the point.

I cannot stand when people yap to me and instead of saying “yes” or “no” to a question I ask, they take me through hoops of a story. Sometimes I feel bad and I listen because I think maybe they’re lonely but I just cannot help but feel irked by it.