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If so, which one?

Every time I come back to India (for vacation), it feels lesser and lesser like the country I left ten years ago. I am curious how reintegration has been for you.

Every time I come back to India (for vacation), it feels lesser and lesser like the country I left ten years ago. I am curious how reintegration has been for you.

I recently discovered the joy of Stand up Paddle, and have been trying to explore new lakes with this hobby. A friend of mine told me that SUPs can act as a vector for invasive species to go from lake to lake and that they should be cleaned thoroughly to avoid such.
I am looking for advice on how to be responsible here: if you SUP, what is the protocol you follow? Are there any specific cleaning agents or tips you suggest?

Thanks for the advice!

I find that I drink more during summer - I reach for a white claw at the end of the day (4%, 330 cl). I sometimes drink two, usually no more. Some days of the week I intentionally stick to water, but in my mind I know I’d like that hard seltzer instead. Usually tapers off going into fall and winter but I wanted to know if this is something I should be more mindful of as a habit.

A friend of mine biased me a few years ago that the water of Greifensee is not the greatest because it acts as an outlet of the local sewage treatment. Since then, I have always felt like the water quality is questionable. I also frequently see more floating algae as compared to other lakes. I want to know if this is just in my head or if there is some truth to it?
I still go there a lot because it is somewhat close to me, but I stay out of the water if I can manage it

I’m 30F and have been with my partner (33M) for 10 years. He has a complicated family situation. He has a younger “brother,” R (26M), who is actually the biological son of my husband’s deceased uncle. R lived with my husband’s family for a few years growing up, but was eventually sent to boarding school because my in-laws weren’t able to take on the responsibility of raising him.
As a result, R has quite a lot of abandonment issues and is emotionally unstable. Despite this, he and my husband are extremely close. R idolizes my husband, loves him enormously, and even has a tattoo of my husband’s name.

R is also extremely ambitious and very focused on money/status. He has changed jobs around six times in the past five years, usually chasing a higher salary. He loves flashy things, especially luxury watches, and is generally quite a big spender.
Recently, R bought a house that is still being constructed. At the time he bought it, he didn’t have enough for the down payment, so my husband and I lent him around $5,000. He has borrowed smaller amounts from us since then as well, all of which he keeps track of in a dedicated group chat. He hasn’t paid any of it back yet.
At one point he also asked us to buy him a \~$400 watch, which we did.
We are financially comfortable and genuinely don’t need the money back urgently. I have never pressured him about repayment and have been completely fine with giving him time.
Recently, though, R shared a list of his financial goals and how he plans to manage his money going forward. I was honestly quite shocked by it.
Repaying us was on the list, but he plans to do it **3-4 years from now**. Before that, his priorities include saving his own money and buying more luxury watches.
And this is the part that bothers me.
I don’t actually care that much about waiting several years for the money. What bothers me is the *priority*. If I owed someone $5,000+ while simultaneously planning to spend money on luxury watches and build up my own savings, I would feel extremely uncomfortable with that. I would want to repay them before spending on non-essential things.
Initially, I had privately told my husband that if R ever did start paying us back, I would actually put the money into a separate account for R and eventually give it back to him. He’s terrible at saving, and I thought it would be a good way of helping him develop better financial habits without actually taking anything away from him.
So from my perspective, this isn’t even about getting the money back. It’s about feeling like R sees us as an interest-free source of money that can sit at the bottom of his priority list while he spends on things he wants.
My husband and I try to be kind and understanding of R because of everything he’s been through. I also genuinely love R and don’t want to punish him financially or make him feel abandoned.
But I can’t shake the feeling that we’re being taken for granted.
Am I overreacting? Is it unreasonable to expect someone to prioritize repaying a debt before luxury spending, even when the lender is financially comfortable and hasn’t demanded repayment? Or does the fact that he intends to repay us eventually mean I should just let it go?

I live in a relatively small apartment complex with 12 units, and i am confident that the perpetrator does not live in any of them. However, someone keeps throwing random trash bags in our apartment’s Abfall bin. We have already been fined twice this year for this. What can we do here? Also, what kind of person would do this, rather than just pay CHF 2 for a municipal sacke?

I live in a relatively small apartment complex with 12 units, and i am confident that the perpetrator does not live in any of them. However, someone keeps throwing random trash bags in our apartment’s Abfall bin. We have already been fined twice this year for this.
What can we do here? Also, what kind of person would do this, rather than just pay CHF 2 for a municipal sacke?

My little one is addicted to drinking water. She drinks straight out of the tap, every time we have to use one. Frequently, and several times a day, she will even draw us out to the taps by pushing things into the sink and meowing loudly. However, she also throws up frequently.
Some times clear, some times with her food (she eats super fast, so her food pellets are almost intact).
I have asked about this behavior to my vet, and she challed it up to a personality difference between cats (“Some cats deink more water than others). Yet, I have also read about excessive water being bad for cats - and I never know how much to indulge her. She’s also a petulant one, and will start creating a ruckus if we do not give her water sometimes.

Honestly, I feel like nothing will ever be enough for her. Building their own Four BHK villa instead enough, she wants to build another room. Having their own home isn’t enough, she wants to buy the plot behind theirs too. No amount of gold is enough. No amount of sarees and fancy things are enough. She is EXHAUSTING. Not only is she greedy, she is manipulative, deceitful and extremely cunning towards a son who loves her. She takes him, and his guilt for living far away from them for granted. Truly, this woman is vile. Sorry for the rant.

We always started near the Sihlquai - but I see signs here now saying that it is Verboten. Plenty of people still seem to be doing it though - is this strictly illegal?
If not, where would one start? There is no parking near Wipkingerpark, so that doesn’t work for me.
Thank you for your suggestions!

I started out enjoying this podcast but as time wore on, I really couldn’t stand Jen Welch anymore. I hate some of her commentary which really comes off as latent homophobia - like her constantly blaming Republicans for being closeted gay.
This is a tired trope that ultimately places the blame on the queer community for their own hardships.
I hate some of her language like “DL Demon Queens”? She calls Trump a Queen which is unbelievably offensive to the queer community. She constantly throws the queer community under the bus to make a political point. I also feel a significant amount of condescension towards her co-host Angie Pumps. I hope I am not the only one - does anyone else feel this way?