u/3rdthrow

There is a group of people, who when you discuss Workers Rights, immediately changes the subject to, "people dont want to work".

No, no, people dont want to work *for you*.

Even during lockdown, people voluntary found "work". People dont want to give their labor to companies who are abusing them.

People are tired of being told to work 40+hrs, if they can even find work, and then being told that they dont deserve anything, because their wages are too low.

I cannot help but think that less people to do the work would force companies to raise wages.

But the idea of bringing a child into this World so they can be conditioned into a good little worker, while being forced to put up with mistreatment, and then, if they are very careful, getting to pick 1 of either, getting to retire, or getting to own their own home.

No.

Absolutely not.

You cannot deprive the population of basic diginity and then expect more babies.

What are your thoughts?

I am in a small company where I wear both the QA and RA hats.

I worry that if I try to job hop for a straight Regulatory Affairs job, the interviewers would think that it was weird that I performed both functions at the same time.

What are your thoughts?

I kept explaining away my vague symptoms, and the first one that I couldnt ignore, was suddenly struggling really hard to spell words.

I generally write about 2-3 pages a day.

And I definitely didnt break years of daily habit because I was just "a bit tired". Surely, my complete change in behavior was not influenced by my sudden inability to move my eyes along a page correctly because of "eye strain" from working too hard. Coupled with me, suddenly no longer wanting to read-even though I've read about 200 books a year since Middle School.

I'm just tired and overworked. Even though no amount of rest seems to fix my problems.

In fact, the less time I spend at Work-the worse my symptoms got.

The first thing that I couldnt ignore was suddenly not being able to spell.

What are your thoughts?

I still love your work. I still read your work. When you schedule chapters, I count down the days until you post. I have followed the work of some of you guys, for years. Yes, even to other fandoms. You, Writers of small Fandoms are my heros.

But I cannot get past the bot filter, to tell you.

Dont assume that no comment means that I didnt like it.

For context: My Female DNA Donor is a hoarder. That will be relevant to my post.

I got it into my head that if I just took care of my items well enough, that they would never decay. When I look directly at that thought, it looks nonsensical, but it snuck into my head.

I suspect that it came from there being too much stuff in the house because of the hoard, and my Female DNA Donor putting my stuff either outside, in a basement that always flooded, or in the garage, and when my Male DNA Donor threw out my things when they inevitably were damaged, she would sneer at me and say, "If you took care of your things, that wouldnt have happened."

Of course, her multiple boxes of receipts, from stores that went out of business 10 years ago, were too precious to go in the garage, *or dare I say* be thrown away.

My Male DNA Donor would also just throw my things away, because it gave him a sense of power.

My DNA Donors implied that I was "rough on things". But in my own house, I dont find that to be true.

I pride myself on being a self-reliant, highly capable person. I can do things with my hands that most people cant.

However, some of my items are becoming more "repair" than original. I am having to face that it is time to stop repairing and the time to start replacing, as come.

I have achieved CoastFIRE, and have a small house downpayment fund that I am adding to. I keep telling myself that I have the money to replace these items, but that is a new development. I still "feel" poor, even though I am not.

I had to rebuild my life after estranging, and I was poor long enough to leave a scar on my psych.

Looking back, I dont think I should have tried to make my couches last for as long as I have. I suffered from allergies because of the hoard and living in moldly places.

Now I am tempted to buy a couch that will only last for 5 years, that way, there is less time for allergens to build up.

It just feels so strange to "grow out of something" rather than having things ripped away from me.

What are your thoughts?

My immediate and extended Family never could accept that I was an Adult, without Children.

Even despite having an insane amount of people counting on me, in my Career.

I eventually estranged for other reasons, but the sheer disrespect...

Have any of you been infantized for not having children?

What are your thoughts?

In order to get to where I want to go, I have to work 60 hour weeks. I'm trying to get those sweet, sweet golden handcuffs.

I am hoping to snag a promotion in a different part of the Country in the upcoming years.

I have a Scratch Kitchen, where I do a lot of batch cooking.

I also make a second income, as an Investor.

I rent, because I want to move, to another area of the Country.

By the time I am done earning the money, defending the money, and actually structuring my life the way I want to live-there is *no time*.

I just imagine Mothers working and grabbing sleep where they can. That cant be living.

Society doesnt leave people any time, unless it leaves them with very little money, and sometimes not even then.

What are your thoughts?

I am taking New Ground, and the Devil, laid the spiritual equivalent of machine gun fire on every square inch of the battlefield.

I am about three months into this.

How long do Spiritual Attacks typically last in your experience?

What have you heard from other's experiences?

What are your thoughts?

People with functional families dont understand the severe anxiety that comes from having to do "normal" things yourself, with no one to guide you, and all your family members were too dysfunctional to do it, when you were growing up.

For example: My DNA Donors were well-to-do, so instead of repairing the house growing up, they would literally just buy another house, and move into it.

I was way too old when I learn that water heaters are supposed to have maintenance.

Though it definitely explained the funny tasting water growing up.

My family is also one codependent mess; where I was groomed to be an "Overfunctioner" to other member's "Underfunction".

That means that when my brain wasnt developed enough to do adult things, I had to figure out adult issues. Under violent threat, adult responsibilies...and none of the power.

It left me suffering from severe efficacy issues.

Self- Efficacy, if you do not know, is the ability to correctly judge one's own abilities.

I am the kind of person, who if I were a Basketball player, after making All-Star Captain of the National team, when asked how many shots I could make, out of Ten, would say, "Zero". I would then go on to make every single shot out of Ten, just like I had previously done, in other games. I explain my success away, with "other factors" that are outside of my control.

The furniture in the house is about to need to be replaced and the prospect is daunting:

What if I cant get a replacement of equal or superior quality? Should I go for superior quality for upolstery so that it will last, or should I go for something that only lasts five years to fight allergen build up? I really wanted to use that money on other things. How do I get the old furniture to the dump? My furniture makes my house feel like home-will it be distressing to have new furniture? Should I wait until times are economically better, in hopes of the stores having a better selection?

What are your thoughts?

Such is life.

What are your thoughts?

Oh, how the turn tables have turned.

I feel like, I should feel evil, for the fact, that I cannot stop laughing about this-but I dont.

I need to stop laughing so I dont look crazy person while I am at work.

You may ask, "3rdthrow, how do you know this?" Well, if my Landlord was a Chicken, he would cross the road because he thought it was a boundary.

It turns out that my Landlord has been "cannibalizing" his Rentals whenever he wants a part or appliance for his own house.

He may or may not have cannibalized the "guts" of my AC unit, which I had warned him, was so full of mold that it was too dangerous to use.

He has been installing the parts and appliances that he has been cannibalizing into his own Two Million dollar home.

To his credit, he acknowledged, rather than denied, the Mold in the Rental, upon discovery. But said that "Mold is everywhere, and it is no big deal-dont like it? Move out."

He still stands his ground, that Mold is "no big deal". Or at least he stands has much as he can-now that he is the one having trouble walking.

Because it appears that he has transferred the Mold from his Rentals into his House.

This feels like Justice to me.

If it is good enough for the Renter-it is good enough for the Landlord.

(FYI: Landlords are more powerful than the State where I live-so I have no real legal recourse.)

I am certain that my Landlord wont bother remediating anything for his "mysterious illness", because Mold is "no big deal".

What are your thoughts?

I am so incredibly thankful that the Holy Spirit spoke to me and told me that I was under a Spiritual attack.

I have been trying to take New Ground for over a year now-and I must be getting close to the breakthrough-because, literally, all Hell has just broke loose.

If the Devil cannot turn you away, cannot distract you, cannot discourage you-he will gladly try to wear you out.

I just trust that the Devil has been playing into God's hands since the beginning.

When the Devil showed up, I was like, "Why are you here? The boats are burned, the only way is forward. This is a waste of your time."

The attack has been going on since the end of April. It is now the end of July.

Of course, one of the first things he attacked was my health. Mold illness increases anxiety, depression, and makes it impossible to be patient. It makes thinking and focusing feel like an impossible task. You feel like everything is doomed.

It makes it difficult to eat, and fight off other infections. You feel sick all the time.

I had to sleep in my car while paying rent on an expensive house.

I found a new place, had to sign sight unseen, only to find that it had toxic chinese drywall in the bathrooms from being renovated.

I asked God, Why, and that was when He told me that I was under Spiritual attack.

Suddenly, everyone wanted to get in conflict with me at work, even though I had always gone out of my way to help them.

I had people combing through my work looking for an excuse to fire me. Thankfully, my Boss was livid, "That's my best worker!"

Stuff started coming up in my friends lives that blocked them from helping me.

If something could go wrong-it almost always did.

When I moved my furniture into the new house, which doesnt have mold-I brought some of the toxic mold with me *and I cannot find it*.

Please pray that God will get rid of the toxic mold, and/or reveal where it is. It is making me incredibly ill.

Please pray that I win this Spiritual battle and make it to my breakthrough on the other side.

I am in a new rental where the source of the Mold is gone.

It is cold and is somewhat dry. Where the old place was allowed to have a leaking roof and a broke AC. It was an expensive house, I cant believe the Landlord allowed it to be destroyed by refusing to fix the roof or AC. But he doesnt live there.

I was living there for about two weeks before I was able to move the large furniture in. Symptom-free.

I was able to move in, the little stuff.

When the large furniture was moved in, I began having symptoms again, after two weeks of no symptoms.

I am certain that it came over in the dust on the furniture.

I tried to wipe it off before things were moved, but the former house was so toxic, I only have 30 mins before my mental state became altered, then I had to go to fresh air for 3 hours before I could do another 30 mins.

I went out a bought a 4 stage Air Purifer to run in the new rental.

I have plans to try to scrub down the furniture.

i dont think the house needs it, but I have a dehumidfer that I plan to run.

What should I do to get the Mold dust out?

Most of what I own is heirloom furniture. It is too precious to throw out.

What should I do?

What are your thoughts?

I wasnt able to pull those numbers during the Great Financial Crisis/Great Recession. How?!

Are these people using an AI program to just spam Indeed?

Are they "pie in the sky" shooting for a six figure plus job, that they dont have the qualifications for?

I hate to sound like an, out of touch old person, but are they simply lying?

I dont understand, mathematically, how someone could apply to 1k+ jobs and not get a single yes.

What are your thoughts?

I have an event screen shot of Raf that I would like to save before an update or repair wipes it.

I have never had a revenge fantasy over someone rejecting to date me. For Men, it is an actual story trope. No one seems to point out that no well-adjusted person has revenge fantasies over someone rejecting them for a date.

It is entitlement, so profound, that exceeds the English language's ability to describe it.

What are your thoughts?

I knew, as a child, that I would grow up to despise yelling. I thought that it would be out of fear. However, it turns out that I dont like yelling because I view it as a sign of weakness.

I have the patience of Job, so I dont often get angry. I also tend to take care of things, rather than allow them to disturb my peace. I have a low tolerance for allowing my peace to be disturbed. I will rearrange things to keep my peace from being disturbed.

When I get angry, my volume, drops, rather than rises.

I view people who yell, as out-of-control, lacking a handle on the situation, and implusive.

I had a Lawyer friend tell me an old Lawyer quote, "When the Law is on your side, you pound the Law. When the Facts are on your side, you pound the Facts. When neither are on your side-you pound the table and yell like Hell."

Ironically, my friend told me this quote in response to a discussion about how my parents start yelling, if you point out that a plan that they have makes no sense, and isnt physically possible.

What are your thoughts?

Yes, they ignore that Women are in the Trades too. But these guys never seem to put their money where their mouth is, and go into the Trades.

The Trades are hard on the body. It seemed to me that the Work was feast or famine. In the looked-down upon Trades, it seemed that drug use was rampant (HVAC, Construction, Painters). Though Painters seem to also be Construction guys who currently couldnt find Construction work.

Electrician and Plumbing were viewed as the respectable Trades.

In my family, there is an argument that Garbage Men should be considered part of the Trades since they need a CDL where I live.

CDL is considered "Trade" in my family.

I remember being about 5 years old and driving around with my Uncle pointing out "his" houses. I tried to remember where all his houses were, but once we got to 8, my young brain broke. *Uncle is so rich, he has more houses to live in, than the days of the week.* My parents had to explain that my Uncle was a house framer and had built the frames for all those houses.

He gave that up to become a CDL Driver. Supposedly, because he was tired of the cycle of living on credit, when there was no work, and then having to pay down all the debt when work was available.

I have two relatives in HVAC who are stuck in that Credit/Work cycle right now.

I had another relative who was a Lineman, went back to School to become an Engineer, and gave up being a Lineman.

There is another CDL driver in the family, as well.

These guys on the internet though, never seem to actually pursue the Trades or on the rare case that they do, they flunk out because they cant stay clean and show up to work.

I cant believe that people dont call these guys out, about being all talk, and no action.

What are your thoughts?

I saw some Youtube videos of people decorating their Houses and Closets after Decades that they liked, even if they didnt live them.

I thought to myself, I could make everything "like the 90s" since I miss the 90s so much.

I went down a Rabbit hole for 90s stuff, and thought to myself, "That was so crap, I erased it from my memory, glad it is gone now, but even remembering it is awful."

Usually bad movies, music, or fashion that was all the rage, but even in the 90s, I was thinking, "What are people thinking? This isnt good."

What are your thoughts?

Society has a weird obession with, "Well, of course, you will get married" and "Of course, you will have dual income."

Growing up, no one actually prepared me, for what life on a single income, looked like.

That it simply takes longer to save up for a home, save up for retirement, and you have less disposable income.

I feel like it should be the default to tell children what they are likely to be able to do, without having a dual income.

I grieve that I wasnt able to buy a home, as fast as my friends, despite not wanting any of their marriages.

What are your thoughts?