u/Effective_Section_68

Hello, life coach here!
To start off I’ll say that this is just a short paragraph about how dating the wrong person can change you.

I was in a really toxic relationship that truly changed me as a person, dis regulated my nervous system, I went from being happy, energetic, excited, passionate - to constant low mood, depression, anxiety, agoraphobia.
Now - Did he beat me ? No. People need to realise that a “toxic” relationship isn’t always cheating, beating or being physically abusive. It can be mental, it can be manipulative where you don’t even realise you’re in a “toxic” relationship.

The reason you don’t realise is because you’re blinded by the “love” ( if you can even call it that ). If you are somebody who’s had a rough childhood for example, didn’t receive love as a child, you will definitely be more attracted to these kinds of men who will manipulate and control you because you feel that this is what “love” is. A good man who won’t control you and won’t be chaos, won’t be interesting to you, because you aren’t used to “calm” or “healthy”.

Now I know that may be a silly question but I’m just curious on other peoples experiences. Can dating the wrong person really change you ?

I thought I’d never get out of this “obsession” & “addiction” to you but… no. I am getting over you.
You thought I’d always stick around and keep begging you but no. Enjoy your life. I won’t message you on your birthday & I won’t be messaging you anymore in general !

This goes to everyone… I feel like I only truly know what I feel with a significant other or towards an ex when I go through all phases with that person. Hard times, fun times, stressful times. I realised with the last person I was with he was horrible to me during the miscarriage I was going through.

Remember people, they might be there for you during the good times but when times get tough.. they leave

Tell us something, spooky story ?

Loneliness
PTSD
Stress
Depression
DPDR
Anxiety !

Any advice would be appreciated, even stories, or just experiences. It would make me feel less alone in this and not make me feel like I am crazy !
And to anyone reading the comments it could also help you if you’re struggling with the same issues.

Loneliness
PTSD
Stress
Depression
DPDR
Anxiety !

Any advice would be appreciated, even stories, or just experiences. It would make me feel less alone in this and not make me feel like I am crazy !
And to anyone reading the comments it could also help you if you’re struggling with the same issues.

This is something for everybody to read if they need even just some advice or help from people and not the internet. I feel that everybody has their own experiences with mental health issues and it would be helpful to make people feel less lonely ! 🫶

This is something for everybody to read if they need even just some advice or help from people and not the internet. I feel that everybody has their own experiences with mental health issues and it would be helpful to make people feel less lonely ! 🫶

Funny story ? Picks in exs ?

I’m 18, and I’m really stuck on what I wanna do with my life, I don’t know what I wanna do for work, goals. I just don’t know.

My mother at 17 got sent to a university, got her rent paid, got pocket money, from her father. So it was a different situation for her.

That didn’t happen to me, she didn’t even send me to college & now I’m stuck and don’t know what to do.
My parents give me money but I don’t think I wanna live like this anymore.

Hello, I’m 18, female. It’s just come to my attention how it’s so hard in this generation to find a pure friend let alone to find a boyfriend, mainly everyone cheats, only wants sex, isn’t good with communicating, hiding things / lying.

Now look, I’m not looking for a 10/10 perfect guy who’s the ideal man. No, not at all. I just have standards that, even the bare minimum can’t be reached.
I don’t want a liar, I don’t want a cheater, I don’t want somebody who I can’t communicate with. That’s the main things that matter to me. Above all loyalty & respect !

I know I am young and I have time but if this is how love is looking like & relationships, I don’t want it at all.
I know there will probably be somebody out there for me but, I fear love, I see how men treat women & how women treat men. It’s not good. I’m not only blaming the men in this by the way! This goes both ways

Hello, I’m 18, female. It’s just come to my attention how it’s so hard in this generation to find a pure friend let alone to find a boyfriend, mainly everyone cheats, only wants sex, isn’t good with communicating, hiding things / lying.

Now look, I’m not looking for a 10/10 perfect guy who’s the ideal man. No, not at all. I just have standards that, even the bare minimum can’t be reached.
I don’t want a liar, I don’t want a cheater, I don’t want somebody who I can’t communicate with. That’s the main things that matter to me. Above all loyalty & respect !

I know I am young and I have time but if this is how love is looking like & relationships, I don’t want it at all.
I know there will probably be somebody out there for me but, I fear love, I see how men treat women & how women treat men. It’s not good. I’m not only blaming the men in this by the way! This goes both ways

Any girls want to be friends ?

I am losing the will to live
I miss the old me
I miss the happy me
I miss the times I’d just jump up and down like a crazy person and just do what I want
I miss the times I was always laughing ( even when nothing was funny )
I miss the times I just felt like a human
I miss the times I felt loved
I miss the times I loved.
I miss the times I had true friends ( so I thought )
I miss the times I was always occupied and didn’t feel like a waste of space.

I just wish I could be that girl again