u/JustMine999

been trying to find a free carfax before going to check out a car and honestly every site feels the same. they show a tiny bit of info, then suddenly you hit a paywall or they ask for your email

tried a couple different ones and it all just seems like basic surface-level stuff. starting to feel like "free carfax" isn't really a thing and it's just marketing to get you in

is there actually a legit way to get the full report for free or does everyone just end up paying at some point?

Until now, I'm still unemployed due to my profession's lesser opportunities, and I am going to study for my medschool next year. So, I spent my time doomscrolling to social media platforms since I don't have many things to do. But it changed when I was diagnosed with ADHD and have to take meds. I also suspected myself that I have GAD due to being worrisome, and I have extreme negative thoughts.

So what I did is that I deactivated my other social media accounts to have a social media detox. I did exercises, made homemade yogurt, and others. Currently, I went to a keycap workshop, and molding an air dry clay was awesome. This is when I discovered that I love doing art and I was just burned out after college. I also tried to watch movies every day and did film reviews afterward.

To most people who are already tired and burned out, don't give up on the things you love the most. Lessen doomscrolling and rest to avoid burnout❤️

I just wanna vent this here. What I notice in my circadian rhythm is that although I do sleep hacks like taking magnesium glycinate, chamomile tea, and so fort, I always stay awake until 1 am. 1 am is my average sleeping sched, although I already went to bed at 10 am and earlier. Even though I wake up, whether it is 5 am, 7 am, or later, it never stopped me to sleep at 1 am AHAHHAHAHA. I have already tried exercising to improve my sleeping habits, but I still stay awake. I tried not to doomscroll a lot, but when I tried to close my eyes for an hour, nothing happened. How do y'all solve this problem? Do y'all have the same experience as me?

i used to think bad restaurant data was mostly a scraping problem.

then a few weeks ago I was checking a restaurant menu and noticed one dish looked off.

their PDF said $16.

Google had a menu photo showing $14.

Instagram had a newer photo where it was $18.

then I found another page on their own site where basically the same dish was still listed for $15.

same restaurant. four answers.

at first I figured one of the sources was just wrong, so I started tracing where everything came from.

the PDF was still public but apparently hadn't been touched in months. the Google photo came from a customer. the old page wasn't even linked from the site anymore, but Google could still find it.

Instagram seemed newest.

except apparently the dish had changed again since that photo was posted.

somewhere in the middle of this I ended up trying menuforma to keep the menu stuff in one place, mostly because I was tired of comparing random PDFs, photos and old pages just to figure out what was actually current.

and that's when it clicked that "what's the current menu?" is a much weirder question than I thought.

even if you get everything correct today, a month later the price changes.

one modifier disappears.

something becomes seasonal.

the printed menu gets updated but an old PDF survives online forever.

and customers can still find all of it.

I always assumed the restaurant's own website should be the source of truth, but clearly even that gets messy when old pages never really disappear.

then there's Google photos, Instagram, delivery apps, random menu sites, screenshots people posted two years ago...

at some point there are basically several versions of the same restaurant existing online at once.

I started out thinking the hard part was finding enough menu data.

now I think the harder part is figuring out when any of it is actually trustworthy.

for anyone who's dealt with restaurant listings or other constantly changing local business info, how do you decide what's current?

and how old does something have to be before you stop trusting it?

Next year, I'm gonna start studying at medschool. I heard that there are many recitations and small group discussions that we will encounter aside from quizzes, revalida, and long exams. The worst part is that some doctors/professors want their students to become fluent in English, which I struggled with aside from public speaking. I'm from a country wherein English subjects are very relevant, although in some schools, English is not practiced enough. I know how to write and type in English, but I struggle a lot in English speaking. How did you gain confidence regarding that? How did y'all practice? Thank you

I learned this the expensive way while putting together a clearance flat-pack storage cube.

The first two screws went in fine. The third started getting tight and the bit slipped, but I gave it another turn anyway. I stripped that screw, then managed to do the same thing to two more before admitting I had a problem.

I couldn’t find matching replacements locally, so I ended up ordering the manufacturer’s whole hardware pack. There went the money I thought I was saving.

My neighbor took one look and spotted the problem: the bit I was using was close, but it wasn’t actually the right size. He swapped in the correct one and finished the remaining screws with his HOTO driver set to low torque. Nothing else stripped.

The useful part was the sequence I ignored:

1. Make sure the bit sits fully in the screw head.

2. If it starts slipping, stop instead of pushing harder.

3. Keep the torque low on flat-pack hardware.

4. Once the screw head starts deforming, don’t keep testing your luck.

A cheap shelf stopped being cheap because I tried to force the wrong bit through the job.

Trying to get more fresh air into an 1800 sq ft house. CO2 meter is prerry regularly showing over 1,000.

Two adults, two small dogs.

so far I've been doing three things.

I open windows whenever I can, but can't leave them open 24/7 because of security and heating/cooling.

I run the furnace fanfor a few hours when things start feeling stale. Don't really want to tun that constantly though, both for electricity and because it feels dumb using the whole system just to move air around.

Bathroom exhaust fans run throughout the day when needed too.

None of this really feels like an actual ventilation setup though 😅

I've started looking at fresh air system options and everything seems to jump from basic fans straight into ERV/HRV territory.

then I found cozeware freshflow while looking at smaller window mounted setups. It's still pre launch, but the general idea of bringing filtered outside air directly into one room without reworking the whole HVAC system feels closer to what I'm actually trying to do.

For a house this size, would a dedicated intake in the main living area even make a meaningful difference, or am I already at the point where I should just be looking at an ERV?

swapped a model recently and almost called it an upgrade.

old version:

user: schedule a call with Rahul next week

agent:

Sure. Which Rahul, and what day/time works for you?

new version:

user: schedule a call with Rahul next week

agent:

Absolutely, I'll schedule it with Rahul Sharma for Tuesday at 2 PM.

both responses were fluent.

new one honestly looked “better” in a side-by-side.

except there were 3 Rahuls in the CRM and the user never gave a day.

the regression wasn't the wording.

the regression was:

v1 clarified. v2 guessed.

this is why exact-output snapshots feel almost useless once agents get non-deterministic.

I don't care whether:

“Which Rahul did you mean?”

becomes:

“I found multiple contacts named Rahul. Which one?”

I care that clarification still happened.

same with other decisions:

missing identity -> don't act

refund > limit -> escalate

destructive action -> confirm first

wrong permission -> refuse

tool fails -> don't claim success

multiple valid tools -> stay inside allowed class

final backend state -> actually correct

so our regression model is becoming more like:

freeze scenarios, not sentences

run each one multiple times.

hard-assert the invariants that can be checked deterministically.

use evaluators for the fuzzy stuff like relevance, tone, completeness, conversation quality.

then compare versions.

TestMu Agent Testing is one implementation of this approach I find interesting because it can generate/run scenario sets against the actual agent endpoint and score the conversations with multiple evaluators.

but TestMu can't tell you whether “always clarify below 0.8 confidence” is still the product behavior you want.

that's the annoying bit nobody can automate away.

sometimes behaviour changes because the model regressed.

sometimes behaviour changed because product intentionally changed the policy.

if the expected behaviour isn't versioned somewhere, your regression suite eventually becomes an archaeological site.

“why do we require escalation here?”

“idk test has been green since February.”

So I'm starting to think agent teams need to version expected decisions almost like API contracts.

what decision-level invariants do you keep frozen across model upgrades?

My husband and I have been separated for four months now, and I don't know if our marriage can continue.

Five months ago, I discovered he was becoming increasingly intimate with a female colleague. They started by talking about work and daily life, but later they began discussing more ambiguous topics. He told me it was the first time he'd done this and he genuinely didn't intend for it to develop into anything more, but I still felt hurt.

What hurt me most wasn't the conversations, but the fact that I always thought our marriage was stable, only to discover he was giving me the affection and attention that should be mine to someone else. So I suggested a separation for a while to see if I could trust him again.

Since the separation, my child has primarily lived with me. Besides work, I'm responsible for everything related to my child, including school, homework, daily arrangements, and emotional care. Sometimes my life is very chaotic; I worry about missing important events for my child, and I even use accio work to organize my schedule and remind myself of events related to my child. I'm so exhausted.

My husband visits my child every week, and they have a good relationship. My son has always hoped that his parents could get back together. Last week, my husband came to see me and said he had been reflecting on his actions and realized his mistakes. He said he couldn't bear to leave me and our son, didn't want to lose this family, and hoped I could give him another chance so our child could have a more complete family.

I know he regrets it, and I've seen his change, but I don't know if I can still trust him. I don't want to ignore the hurt I've suffered just because my child needs his father. Should I give him another chance?

I'm new here in this subreddit, and I don't know about piercing. I just got my right earlobe pierced again since my old piercing hole since birth shrinked, and my earring is not able to enter that hole anymore. Due to this, after piercing, my mother advised me to avoid removing my earrings from now on. But 2 weeks later, the piercing hole of my right earlobe started to become irritated. I don't know if it is a pimple or a cyst, but it bled after I moved it a little. When I removed my right earrings, it became more irritated (like it became a pimple). We waited for days again for it to heal, and we tried to put it again. But it keeps on getting pimples. That's why I just let it heal again. We tried to put the earring slowly again, but now the hole is starting to close. There are no issues on the piercing hole of my left earlobe, but why is my right earlobe always getting this issue.

What should I do for now? Thank you

Next year, I will study in medschool to become a doctor. But what's scary to me is burnout. Burnout to the point that I will no longer enjoy my creative and recreational activities, interests, or hobbies. I suffered burnout when I did my premed program, but yk I wanna be a doctor someday to help my people here. Do y'all have any advice when dealing with burnout as INFP medstudents? How do I avoid burnout? Thank you

My econ lectures moved to a 400 seat hall and I stopped trusting my phone recorder within two weeks. Our professor uses the lectern mic, but from the back rows my phone still turned everything into mush.

I wanted a dedicated AI recording device for mic'd lectures so I wasn't showing up fifteen minutes early, waiting for the previous class to leave, and sprinting for a front row seat every time. A classmate mentioned the Plaud Note Pro Enhance mode when I complained about the hall, and I started comparing hardware instead of another transcription app.

I moved to the upper middle section and put the Plaud Note Pro on my desk in Enhance mode. The lecture comes through the room speakers, and the 16.4 ft pickup range handled that better than my phone ever did. I stay on Enhance for the pickup even though it tops out around 30 hours on battery instead of 50 in Endurance, which shortens the range anyway. Searchable transcript after class, nothing open during the lecture.

Anyone else recording in huge lecture halls where the prof is on a mic? How far back were you sitting?

I'm a regular at the same bar, and for the past couple of months I've noticed a guy who always sits by himself in the corner. At first I was just drawn to his cloth style, but now I'm genuinely curious about him. I even used acciowork for fun to check our compatibility, which inly made me want to talk to him more.

The thing is, I don't want to interrupt his quiet time or make things awkward. I'm almost 30, and while I've dated men before, I'm not very experienced with making the first move.

What's a subtle, respectful way to show interest without bothering someone?

Most sites lose appeal quickly. How does this one hold up?

Hello po. Currently on a gap year. Ask ko lang po if okay naman mga top 3 medschool choices ko and okay naman judgement ko sa kanila. Thank youuu. Btw before that, here's my credentials

Medtech graduate in FEU-Main

Average or above average student (never naging dean's lister)

NMAT: 52 (First take noong October 2025), ?? (Second take sa January 2027)

GWA/QPA: 2.8 (4.0 ang pinakamataas) (walang bagsak)

First gen doctor sa family at barangay namin (Legit to btw) HAHAHAH

And here's my medschool choices

1. St. Lukes

- isang sakay lang ng jeep (unfamiliar pa ako dahil hindi pa ako nakakasakay sa jeep papuntang St. Lukes)

- mataas board passing rate

- quality ang education

-may hospital na

- pipiliin ko to if pasado naman ako sa kanila and mataas ang NMAT PR ko (sana nga manifesting)

- unsure pa sa system nila

2. FEU-NRMF

- isang sakay ng jeep pero 1 hour yata biyahe (might consider na magdorm)

- goods sila sa hands-on

- alumni ako sa FEU-Main and I have former classmates na nagaaral na dito

- okay naman board passing rate

- friendly ang environment pero hindi daw student-friendly (ito deal breaker ko sa FEU kasi ganun din noong time namin sa main)

-might consider this kapag mababa ulit second take ko kasi no choice sa nagpapaaral sa akin

- may hospital na din

3. San Beda

- isang sakay lang ng jeep pero mahaba ang lalakarin (pero di na ako magdodorm)

- goods sila sa hands-on

- may kilala akong nagaaral dito older than me and may nakikita akong events nila

- OA daw hirap nung yl1 sabi nung iba

- may affiliated hospitals sila

- board passing rate is meh

- might choose this kung sakto lang NMAT PR ko😭

Honorable mention: UERM (top 1 ko to before and want ko sana dito pero marami silang issue nowadays)

I am a clumsy person, so whenever I make a mistake, I always feel guilty. Although my loved ones always say that it's okay, I still overthink these mistakes. I keep replaying what happened and thinking that I should have done better. There are times like I need to punish myself for it. I know making mistakes makes you a human, but I struggle with actually forgiving myself, which leads me to choose not to ask for forgiveness sometimes, not take accountability, and feel defensive.

How do you learn to let go of the guilt and accept that you made a mistake without constantly beating yourself up over it?

I agreed to a free water test because I genuinely thought they would just take a sample, run some tests, and email me the results. The water in my building has tasted super metallic for the last month.

Instead, this guy shows up to my 700 sq ft apartment and sets up what looks like a high school chemistry project on my kitchen counter. Every time i asked how much the filter cost, he deflected.

at the end he finally drops a $4k quote for a whole-house system. I told you twice that I rent this place.

After sitting through that, I swore off any company that needs to send someone to your kitchen. Been looking into countertop ROs on my own, stuff like aigerri or aquatru.

Main thing I learned: if they will not give you a price over the phone, it is not a test, it is a sales pitch.