u/TATSAT2008

So... I'm currently questioning whether I'm trans.

I'm bi and have a preference for women, occasionally, I'd imagine myself in a romantic relationship

If I'd ever fantasize about myself being in a relationship with a man, then I'd imagine myself with a woman. And if feels nice imagining myself being a woman cuddling with a guy...

But whenever I fantasize myself with a woman, my brain automatically reverts me back to a man...

So basically, if I'd imagine myself with a woman, I'd automatically imagine myself as a guy...

Which happens way too often...

Now you could say that it's just heteronormativity.

But, it's kinda wierd considering that when I was 9-10 I used to fantasize about me being a fictional female character(take black cat as an example) and intensely making out with another female character(take poison ivy as an example). They were sexualized female characters however there was mild nudity, but, there were no genitals involved(I did not know what they looked like back then)

In other words, I used to imagine myself as a woman with another woman back when I was 9...

Tbh, I used to imagine myself as a man with a woman back when I was 12-13. And I had no desire to become a girl back then...

Then I turned 14-15, I used to imagine myself(in a parallel universe) as a woman with a man...

So basically, I used to imagine myself as a woman with another woman with no problem whatsoever, but whenever I imagine myself with a woman now, my brain automatically reverts back to male...

So, I'm really gonna need some help on this one...

Thank you.

I'm bi and have a preference for women, occasionally, I'd imagine myself in a romantic relationship

If I'd ever fantasize about myself being in a relationship with a man, then I'd imagine myself with a woman. And if feels nice imagining myself being a woman cuddling with a guy...

But whenever I fantasize myself with a woman, my brain automatically reverts me back to a man...

So basically, if I'd imagine myself with a woman, I'd automatically imagine myself as a guy...

Which happens way too often...

Now you could say that it's just heteronormativity.

But, it's kinda wierd considering that when I was 9-10 I used to fantasize about me being a fictional female character(take black cat as an example) and intensely making out with another female character(take poison ivy as an example). They were sexualized female characters however there was mild nudity, but, there were no genitals involved(I did not know what they looked like back then)

In other words, I used to imagine myself as a woman with another woman back when I was 9...

Tbh, I used to imagine myself as a man with a woman back when I was 12-13. And I had no desire to become a girl back then...

Then I turned 14-15, I used to imagine myself(in a parallel universe) as a woman with a man...

So basically, I used to imagine myself as a woman with another woman with no problem whatsoever, but whenever I imagine myself with a woman now, my brain automatically reverts back to male...

So, I'm really gonna need some help on this one...

Thank you.