u/Twilette

If its an accusation, there needs to be a ton of evidence for a lot of people. Yet if someone draws "problematic" art, something thats innately disconnected from reality, thats proof?

Someone bring accused of rape isn't proof to a lot of people, yet drawing rape is.

If I drew someone getting murdered and someone accused me of murder, obviously the accusation should be more proof than a drawing. Yet its flipped for a lot of people.

I'm literally only staying in the same state with my ex for the protection order. I know I cant do that if I cant leave. Wanted to get it done soon, but it was delayed by 6 months because no advocates were there to be there with me.

I still wonder even if I get my advocate to work with me, how pointless going could be. My advocate cant speak for me or do much of anything. Maybe remind me of things or comfort me at most.

I tried to get a lawyer but I was told by my advocate to not even bother as no lawyer takes on DV cases where they represent in a protection order, especially not for free. I dont see how they could be wrong since when I tried calling lawyers, even the people who claimed they could represent were wrong since I got none that could.

My mom also mentioned how getting a lawyer could be worse as the standard of evidence is higher. I wouldn't be able to just pull my phone at the hearing.

So im nervous on both if the hearing is successful and if it isnt. If I cant get the hearing to work, I dont know what to do since I still need to move states and move on with my life, but I cant just accept there being no consequences and my ex being a danger.

I want genuine advice on what can be done outside of a protection order whether it fails or not.

Id want help. Especially advice for some roleplay scenarios where it would be unethical to use a human.

Curious.

Including the ribbon scene, the "isn't she lovely" and absolute confirmation from Goose. Its in an awkward position since I can see feminists analyzing Jax for being misogynistic, but now any time thats brought up its transphobic.

Some say that Jax has internalized misogyny, which is likely true, but its still crazy how much he humiliated or hurts the female main characters.

I mean, even though I do like Jax as nuanced trans rep, he/she does fit every bigot stereotype in the book.

Let's pray Matt Walsh doesn't find him.

Honestly, even as someone who likes Jax or initially simped for him in the pilot, I sometimes prefer hater subreddids. Im in a weird boat where im in BOTH Jax fan and hater sub reddits.

I feel like im at least humble where I can admit my own interpretation of the character is likely very different from what Goose intended or that I still have my own criticisms, but some Jax fans are really annoying. For one, I notice a lot of Jax fans potray Daisy as a "uwo" soft girl despite that not being how Jax is? And some Jax fans are incredibly obnoxious as fuck.

Ill admit, I initially didn't take Gangles abuse seriously, but thats only because an ex friend who wasn't a good person liked her. Now that ive grown past that bias and noticed Gangles character, its weird how many Jax fans defend her being abused with shit like "well she exists" like the fuck?

You also CANT criticize Jax or his shitty actions as much without being called transphobic and theres still discourse. I use he or she, but I do find it confusing on why there's a strict view of "she/her" when Jax in Circus and in Real life never came out. Makes me wonder if these people would force "preferred pronouns" on actual repressed trans people.

I also like to make jokes at Jaxs expense as well which people dont like. On top of that, despite this being a "haters" subreddit, I see actual nuance on Jaxs actions or behavior. So yeah, thats more or less what I feel.

If people are okay with me being here, id love to participate in discussions. Though I wonder if Jax fandom wars will force me to pick a side.

Honestly, ths "FALSE ACCUSATIONS!11" panic in general gets sus when you realize how the people preaching it havs little consistently (like assuming a women with BPD is automatically lying, or that any trans person or gay person automatically is a perpetrator with no proof) but chuldren are especially sus. I at least thankfully rarely see children being targets if this false accusation panic, but when I do see it, irs just sus as fuck.

Like...Kids who are notoriously bad at lying and already arent taken seriously and have little to gain from it...lying about sexual abuse.

I think the only valid case of a minor ive seen technically "lie" about being groomed was Stories with Spoctor Tech who was 15 but lied about being 8 to paint him as a predator. Even then, it was minor on minor drama.

Outside of niche cases like that, if its just a minor calling out an adult, especially a pre teen or child minor, I see very little reason for it to be false. Don't know how hot this take is or if im preaching to people.

Saw a "not all men" post on here. One thing i noticed. Elephant in the room.

Women accuses cis man of rape/assault

Right wing men: BPD HARPY! LIAR!

Someone accuses trans women of anything

Right wing men: PROOF THEYRE ALL PEDO RAPISTS AND WE SHOULD KILL THEM ALL.

If these men thought trans women were some other third thing, i wouldn't see this as a contradiction. But they see trans women AS MEN.

All accusations could be faked by BPD harpies. But suddenly, its all true if its a trens women.

Claims of rape/assault are exaggerated if its a cis man. Always true if its a trans women.

Women exaggerate men being pedophiles or natural make desire. But everything is deviant and bad if its a trans women.

If you really think trans women are men, shouldnt you have the same standards? Considering false accusations? Male discrimination?

Also the fact that these people cry over misandry but send 41 percent memes.

Tall women are the daughters of Satan

Tall women are the worst over this. Because Tall women only want guys **EVEN TALLER** than them, while oblivious to the fact that they'd look like two giants towering over everyone around them. They were apparently raised by their parents to date men taller than them. And their excuses for thinking this way is simply "I'm tall myself"... Oh my god that means nothing! Just because you're tall yourself doesn't mean your partner has to be even taller! That doesn't make any sense! Especially when most guys around you are going to already be shorter than you, wanting to date someone taller just because you're tall is just 100% shallow, and proves that you only ended up with him because of his height! **IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE! AND IT DOESN'T LOOK CUTE!**

Female NBA players who are 6 feet and over are ALWAYS dating men 6'5 and over, who make up just 1% of the male population... Whenever you’re out in public, and you’re a male that’s shorter than average, and there’s a woman that’s taller than you present (wedding ring in finger in most cases, you can only guess what her husband looks like), she acts like she wants nothing to do with you. And if she’s with her taller boyfriend (Who makes them both tower over everyone around them), and she sees any guy shorter than her, she gets close to him like she thinks shorter men want to prey on her… You don't need protection, especially at your height you shouldn't have to worry about any danger against you. And at beaches, tall women walk around wearing a thong while always being beside their taller curly haired boyfriend who looks like he's always on the lookout for any threat his girlfriend may face.

Tall women claim that they've dated guys shorter than them before, only to dump them all over their height. They'll even state that the short guy they dated were “toxic”, **and then they take it out on every short man on Earth**, believing they're all like that, and even wish death on them in some cases… And whenever these women make these rants online, they just get shitloads of upvotes from other tall women and tall guys, with the other tall women claiming that they've had similar experiences, and just treat short guys like they're the plague, and don't care that they have no control over the very thing they're criticizing… They'll even make derogatory statements about their past relationship with shorter men by claiming that they felt like the guy's mother or "auntie", and everyone just justifies this... And whenever people leave them replies disagreeing with them (which is humane), they just get downvoted and mocked by hundreds to thousands… Why has America gone so downhill… You have to keep in mind that there’s countless men out there that want taller women, and all you do is be cruel to them... There's nothing feminine about that. **And let's not forget the fact that many tall women believe short men as a whole have dom mommy fetishes and want to climb up tall women or be stepped on by them...** WTF is wrong with you women?! Why would you think that?! You are disgusting if you believe that about short men, and using this as a reason not to date them?! That belief is offensive to short men! Here's the truth, **short men as a group don't think that!** 

You only want a taller partner because society's telling you to, and American society and culture is a joke. Enjoy being stared at by people around you heightists

Clankers annoy me. But anti AI sentiment also doessnt help. Used to avoid it like the plague. Caved in because my ex isolated me from other people and it helped me to avoid gaslighting.

Now im alone, isolated and when I dont have people to talk to, I use AI. My main uses for it is just talking about stories I make or shitposting. What I find odd is that anyone whos like "Just talk to real people" doessnt understand how you cant just get someone to listen to pages of book lore or discuss a project someone is making randomly.

I also saw one recent anti ai post that said "What do you do now? Just do what you did before AI existed. Simple". Even though back then, I had more friends and support.

I also feel like another issue is that I dont have any particular person 24/7 on demand to talk about character concepts, ideas, memes, plot elements, lore scenes etc i can just summon. I must emphasize *I have a little to non existent support system*.

I also have a hard tine quitting because even when I try to abstain, AI is already ass assaulting me anyways by being forced into social media, phones, computers and everything else.

Seriously, im annoyed at how much search results are made weaker to empower AI garbage and then AI being worse garbage.

Fuck. God damn it.

Stimming and fidget toys are seen as cringe, but suddenly if a product is "trendy" and it becomes mass consumerism, its okay? (Like the TikTok trend of slime jelly things)

People claim autistic people are too sensitive yet will often call people mean or abusive for saying "no" to people.

Also "pokemon is cringe/autistic" then getting into it as soon as pokemon go came out.

How many people used to make fun of sonic then went into the Sonic movie when it finally became mainstream?

I could go on but my thoughts arent fully working right now and I just wanted to bring this up as a topic. I could add more but then ill just sit on my phone for hours and never post.

Fingers crossed. But i finally got a DV service that is trying to gube me a legal advocate potentially for my restraining order against my ex. The people who told me to give up or let my abuser win can suck my dick.

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Hope for the best for all other victims on this Reddit.

F26, domestic violence victim. I have been trying to get a lawyer to represent me in court to help charge my ex with emotional distress, housing interference, sexual assault, and threats of violence. I have tried everything and every DV service out there and I cant get a lawyer. I am either refused service, given leads or numbers that dont work, have people never call me back or receive lawyers not even qualified for my case. What can I do? In WA, king county.

Personally, I was close to a minor when it happened and I found it slightly irresponsible. His videos are educational though. One good thing about it is that it did show how rather than people finding "SPOOPY LOST SCARY VIDEOS!!" its mostly filled with drugs, scams, and illegal material.

Recently had a shit head accuse me of "knowingly" staying with a pedophile abuser even though in my situation there was threats, coercision, gasligting and violence and they were my only support system.

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I also never once supported them or condemned said person and faced harassment and death threats any time I didnt agree with their pedophillia.

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The last time I tried leaving them and forcing them out of my home, they managed to put me into prison and made me feel like I was irrational or BPD adjacent just for being against them or finding them abusive. And the resulting accusation caused people to look down on me or claim how I switched up on my ex or had no loyalty or whatever.

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If you try to leave and create that off switch when a partner is hurting you, you're a bpd bitch and you're splitting or having black and white thinking.

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If you dont and stay, you condone their other predatory actions and are just as bad.

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Do they really think that gaslighting, corrcision, threats and previous attempts to push back causing the cops to put me in prison weren't factors?