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Me (20f) partner (20m) have been together 4 years and lived together 3 years. I have no issues with him beside the cleaning. This has always been an issue with us living together he does not clean unless he’s told , it’s insane that somebody has to be told what to clean and how to clean. If you see a pile of clothes on the floor, you pick them up if you see dirt on the counter, you wipe it. I feel like you shouldn’t have to be told these sort of stuff at this age.
99% of the time when I mentioned cleaning to him, it’s like a fuss. And when he does clean, it’s never a proper clean.

Cleaning our bedroom should only be a 20-30 minute job but when doing it with him it takes hours here’s exactly how it would go: he spends 10 minutes cleaning. He then goes down the stairs to make food 30 minutes later he comes back upstairs and cleans for another two minutes. He then goes down the stairs cause he has to talk to his dad then he comes back upstairs 20 minutes later and he cleans for another 10 minutes then he has to go down the stairs to do something else and then before you know it it takes three hours to clean something that should’ve only took 20 minutes just like he’s avoiding it hoping that it will all be done when he comes back upstairs.

We both work full-time jobs, so obviously we don’t have that much time every day but with him, every time he has a day off and I ask him, can you clean today since you’re off work he always has 100 excuses. Oh, I have to do this today. Oh, I have to go there oh, I don’t have time .every evening when he’s done work, I would ask him. Can you clean? It’s the same thing. He’s always busy and when he’s not doing anything he’s too tired to clean and he just wants to relax so I’m sitting here like when can you clean cleaning something that always needs to be done. Like sometimes it just feels like he does stuff just to avoid cleaning.

How to know if a man is a mammys boy

Me (20) bf (20) still live with his parents. I been living with him ariund 2 years. I love his dad however I cannot deal with his mom anymore. Unfortunately we don't hav the money yet to move out. I'm tired of little snarky comment like "she's so lazy" "she sleeps all day" ( this is not true btw) just comments all the time about me. When I first moved in she was lovely she spend time with me and just always had nice things to say about me. I notice within the past year that has completely changed. Everything seems to be. Competition If I buy something she automatically has the "more expensive" or "better one" . If my bf buys me something she's mad because he didn't buy her it. She doesn't like him spoiling me. She hates us going out or doing activities everything is always a "waste of money and time" she want us to be at home 24/7.

When I first move in I was working part time so I had a lot of free time so I did a lot of helping around the house with chores. After a while I noticed his mom barely even cleans so I stopped doing all the chores and only cleaned after myself this caused a massive up roar in the house because I was refusing to clean around 20 bowls and plates after her every day. I clean after my self only now. She throws tantrums like a child,and it do cringey. Just always crying over small stuff especially when things dont go her way.

My bf got his driving licence a few months ago and since that he is his moms slave( she doesn't drive) every minute it's "drive me here" "bring me there" "pick me up" "do this""do that" and although he didn't mind at first now its just in the way of OUR LIVES. We would have something planned for the day BUT OH WAIT we either got to cancel it or postpone our plans so he can go and driver her around and do 1 million things for her. And if he says no or that he is not gonna be able to do it straight away she will throw a tantrum. EVERY DAY IS LIKE THIS. Im still only learning how to drive so my bf tends to pick me up from work ( it is his discion) but she hate that she always says " why are you picking her up let her go home herself" an I'm sick of our live being interfered with her because she incapable of doing anything her self. She won't even go to the shop she wants everyone to do it for her

Me (20) bf (20) still live with his parents. I been living with him ariund 2 years. I love his dad however I cannot deal with his mom anymore. Unfortunately we don't hav the money yet to move out. I'm tired of little snarky comment like "she's so lazy" "she sleeps all day" ( this is not true btw) just comments all the time about me. When I first moved in she was lovely she spend time with me and just always had nice things to say about me. I notice within the past year that has completely changed. Everything seems to be. Competition If I buy something she automatically has the "more expensive" or "better one" . If my bf buys me something she's mad because he didn't buy her it. She doesn't like him spoiling me. She hates us going out or doing activities everything is always a "waste of money and time" she want us to be at home 24/7.

When I first move in I was working part time so I had a lot of free time so I did a lot of helping around the house with chores. After a while I noticed his mom barely even cleans so I stopped doing all the chores and only cleaned after myself this caused a massive up roar in the house because I was refusing to clean around 20 bowls and plates after her every day. I clean after my self only now. She throws tantrums like a child,and it do cringey. Just always crying over small stuff especially when things dont go her way.

My bf got his driving licence a few months ago and since that he is his moms slave( she doesn't drive) every minute it's "drive me here" "bring me there" "pick me up" "do this""do that" and although he didn't mind at first now its just in the way of OUR LIVES. We would have something planned for the day BUT OH WAIT we either got to cancel it or postpone our plans so he can go and driver her around and do 1 million things for her. And if he says no or that he is not gonna be able to do it straight away she will throw a tantrum. EVERY DAY IS LIKE THIS. Im still only learning how to drive so my bf tends to pick me up from work ( it is his discion) but she hate that she always says " why are you picking her up let her go home herself" an I'm sick of our live being interfered with her because she incapable of doing anything her self. She won't even go to the shop she wants everyone to do it for her

So past two months I was informed that I was getting moved up to manager which I agreed too. I was told roughly when my training would start., expect most of the staff in my work seem to have more training than me. At first i was like "whatever it doesn't matter" but now I'm like how come half the staff are trained in things I'm not even trained in yet but I'm the one moving up? I don't understand? Not just this but I always have at least one member of staff in charge over me, which is bizarre because I'm th on who's moving up. Obviously Im not manger yet which I understand but why are other staff being trained in things I need to b trained in and why are they the one in charge of me.

How will I ever be manager when sales assistants are tellin me what do(bossing me around) and they have more management training than me. I was told my training would start this week but I've had zero training yet and I'm still dealing with everyone else in charge of me?

Bf takes too long to build up to sex. So we would make out and touch but he does it for like 30-40 mins straight before we actually get to anywhere. By that time I sort of lose my mood because it’s just taking far too long and sometimes he will do all of that just to lead to nothing.
What to do?

Me and this friend hav been friends since we were kids ( over 17 years) we were always on and off as sometimes she can be a handful., but we always find our way back because ours moms are best friends so it's hard to distance. There's alot of issue with her that I can't handle:

・we hav to snap/ talk 24/7 if I leave her on open / delivered for 2 hours she will txt me saying "I'm ignoring her" "why aren't I talkin to her" but sometimes I'm busy and I Dont feel the need to snap/ talk 24/7 to be considered friends
・ jealousy, I can sense she's jealous of me in lots of ways money, clothes, lifestyle etc. If I dress nice she always has to say "why are you so dressed up" in a snarky way with a look up and down and a face on her.
・ MONEY ISSUES. She thinks me and My bf are her bank. Every time we go somewhere she either has no money or she needs to borrow, I don't mind spending money on my friends and I would never expect it back but to a point. She has previously paid me back but a lot of the time you have to repeatedly ask for it back. She tends to “forget”. And there has been times I’ve asked for money back but haven’t got it.
•she thinks we are taxi drivers . 24/7 wants to be drove somewhere and doesn’t matter what time/ day/ or what we’re doing.
• thinks my time is also her time. I can’t reject a hang out without her begging me to/ ignoring me for a while or getting mad.
•constant always drama with everyone with her. Everyone is being mean , bullying her , fighting with her but deep down I know it’s her.
•she barely ever likes/ comments under my social media posts but I see her commenting under everyone else’s even my freinds but not me.

And there’s so much other things I just can’t remember. I do think of her as my best friend but I just can’t handle of this stuff , she feels like a chore sometimes rather than a freind . She always has to sulk about something with me. I don’t wanna fully stop being friends as she is my childhood friend but how do I pull apart from her. I know she will only start arguments .

I’m 20 don’t plan on having kids for at least 8-9 years from now. I’m in a long term healthy relationship with my partner. Been living with him for years. One thing is that I’ve never had an interest in climbing the carer ladder or having a carer path. Never interested me. I prefer having freedom doing my own things. I like the thought of taking care of kids , cleaning and cooking and having a garden. It’s something that’s always applied to me.

So I have long hair down past my hips and it’s a very thick. I’ve recently noticed my hair is pretty damaged. I don’t use any dye my hair is all natural. But I use heat quite often and the reason for this is my hair is very bushy and frizzy, If I don’t straighten or curl it. putting oil or moose in my hair to help the frizziness doesn’t work because my hair goes wavy only certain parts and in other parts are straight and it just looks a complete mess every day unless I use heat.

So me an my partner hav been together for nearly 5 years. And live with each other for two years. One issue that I have with him is the dinner situation. At first livin together we would cook meals together and have dinner with each other every day. But overtime, he stopped having dinner with me unless it was eating out in a restaurant. So I would ask him would you like maybe "...." for dinner and it always no I don’t want this. No I don’t want that. and I always try to come up with options that we both would like to eat, but no, it’s always what he wants. So it always leads up to two dinners being cooked, which results in food being wasted, and a lot more dishes being used than there should be.we should just be able to eat and cook the same meal no separate meals every day. of course, some days there might be dinners, I would want more than what he would want, but we should just be able to settle on something together.

this result in me not eating dinners because I don’t eat large portions of food and it’s very hard to make small dinners without a lot of food Going to waste for myself and this is why I’d rather cook for more than one person. and most of the time he doesn’t even eat dinners it’s always just him snacking on a sandwich or snacking on something when I want to make good homemade meals.

Not to mention, the grocery shop situation is horrendous with him. Every time we go into a store, I ask him. What dinners do you want for the week and it’s always" I don’t know" And it’s always me who’s adding in food for the dinners for the week while he adds in only like bread and maybe one pack of ham and when he does add food to the trolley it’s always stuff that’s super expensive meaning our grocery shopping comes out really expensive and I just can’t afford. He’s on a higher salary than I am. But we always go half and half on the bill yet it's expensive because of him and he makes more money.

he never even cooks dinners for me. Today I was at home in pain with my period and I had zero effort to cook and I see he starts cooking. I ask him if he’s making anything for me. He turns around and tells me."well you’ve been at home all day." but the thing is sometimes I cook for him without him even asking I sometimes make his lunch ready meals for him meals for when he just gets home from work and I never get this the most like it is a bowl of cereal which he makes a big deal out of.

I just recently had a friend post herself to one of the soundtracks from berserk. This friend does not like anime or manga any sort of thing like that. I swiped up from her story saying "oh you know the sound is from berserk hav you watched it?" she was like "no" I said "oh you should watch it before posting yourself to the sound so you can really understand the song and the background of the song" this bothered me simply because this friend hates anime and all that sort of stuff, but yet when the sound is trending on TikTok, all of a sudden she loves it if this was not on TikTok, she would hate it.

not even only this, I also had another friend before who used to make fun of the games I used to play only to now play the exact same games because they’re trending. The same friend used to talk about how my room was very childish as I had a lot of plushy’s hello Kitty and just a lot of my anime figures and stuff that really interest me but now the same girl likes the exact same stuff as me.It just bothers me so much when people only like something because it’s trending and if it wasn’t trending, they would make fun of it or they would hate it. Don’t get me wrong. I’ve often been influenced by trends before too, and there is certain stuff that I’ve only liked because It was trending. but I wouldn’t make fun of someone for something only to end up liking it like a few months later.

I suffer very bad with my periods . Intense cramping , back pain, swollen ankles, nausea, hot flushes, painful muscles in my thighs and more. It’s impossible for me to work while on my Peiord ( I work a physical job) I feel so weak working on my period. The only thing that helps my cramps is resting in bed . Strong painkillers don’t help and heat patches don’t help.

My work place isn’t very strict with calling off work but when ever i do with my periods they don’t see very happy with it . I’ve been to doctors and I’ve told the doctors that my periods are affecting my work but they don’t do anything.

So my boyfriend has passed his driving test a few months ago( I don’t drive yet) and since that my best friend has not stopped asking him to drive her around. Every day it’s can he drive me here ?can he drop me off? Can he bring me here? Can he bring me there? Can he pick me up? . at first my boyfriend didn’t mind because he was new to driving and enjoyed having a reason to drive around after awhile he started to get fed up because the prices of driving around start to rack up quickly. So we started putting a stop to driving her around so often. But she still proceeded to ask all the time. i’ve had conversations about this with her a few times about her expecting him to drive her everywhere and yeah, she still hasn’t changed.

At the end of the day, this is MY BOYFRIEND and not my FRIENDS BOYFRIEND so I’m fed up of her expecting him to drive her around all the time if she wants someone to drive her around all the time then she needs to find her own boyfriend. THIS IS NOT HER BOYFRIEND. It doesn’t matter what day of the week or time it is it could be 12 am and she will be asking him to pick her up. It could be 11 pm at night and she’ll be asking him to drive to a different town. She expected him to pick her up from a night out around 4 -6am in the morning. The next day she asks if he could pick her up from the hairdressers, she lives 10 minutes from the Hairdresser she could walk. He never gets anything in return for driving her around. She never offers to pay for even a bottle of water for him just to say thank you.

My last period was the 11th of last month its currently 20th today and still no sign. That's around 9 days late. I when even got my cramps or back pain to indicte my period is going to start. I don't hav unprotected sex. Always use a condom. ( me an my partner take extra precautions)but I took a test two days to make sure and the test was negative.

I love my boyfriend. He is very caring and good to me but one thing that is driving me insane recently is I feel like he’s becoming dumb he is a very smart man and always has been. But something that I’ve been noticing is that when I say something to him, I have to repeat it multiple times,all the time. for instance "can you pass me the water bottle?" he will reply saying something like "I don’t wanna go to the beach" and I would look at him and be confused, like I never said anything about the beach I was talking about a water bottle. He would then ask me to repeat it again "can you pass me the water bottle?" he would then say something like "you want to go to the shop to get a water?" and then eventually I just give up in the conversation because I have to repeat myself multiple times for him to even understand what I’m saying.

He tells me his hearing is not great anymore, but his hearing is fine it just takes for ever for something to go through in his head . I would ask him to pass me my phone on my desk. He would then turn around and ask me. Where is my phone? I would then repeat myself. It’s on the desk. He than would turn around and be like what is it that you want me to get? this just always happens. I would give him clear instructions that my phone is on my desk and yet he’s still asking. Where is my phone? What is it that I want etc it’s like it takes multiple times for it to go through to him in his head. He blames it on the way that I talk but yet nobody ever has an issue with the way I talk and nobody ever makes me repeat myself 10 times on one sentence like he does. a lot of people are probably gonna reply to this thinking he just has bad hearing, but it’s not even to do about his hearing. He just never understands anything even if he hears me. Please tell me someone understands what I'm saying?

So I work with this girl who is pretty annoying and loud all the time. People find it hard to stick her. Besides this she thinks every man wants her ( even if he glances at her for a second) and she thinks she’s better looking than every girl she meets. For instance a girl could walk by she would say stuff like “I’m better looking than her” “she’s ugly” “I’m better than her” and just stuff like this all the time. A guy and his gf could walk by and she would say “your bf is looking at me because I’m better looking than you” “she’s just mad her bf looked at me cuz I’m better looking” just stuff like this. Even if the guy glances at her for a second she would say “I know he wants to fuck me” “I know he wants me” and it’s so annoying because not every guy WANTS YOU ! .

She always has to put people down coworkers, friends even random people . She has said stuff to me like “oh you look really good in your recent posts is it filters ?” “You look good in this photo but u have no ass” like she never says anything nice without putting someone down. It’s so draining , she is a pretty girl but not model pretty and this isn’t me putting her down but she’s not someone who would stop people in their tracks to look at. If you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all . I’m fed up of this persona where she thinks she’s better looking than everyone

How do you deal with this type of person?

So I’ve been working in this retail store for maybe over two years now as a sales assistant. Recently the management team had a meeting with me asking me if I’d like to move up to a manager role they told me I had a couple of days to think about this and if I decided not to take on this role that they were going to hire someone else I thought about this for a couple of days and decided I wanted to do it so I told them, yep, I will take this on. I didn’t tell any of the staff about this for like two weeks and then one day I was like wait why am I keeping this from the staff? So I spoke to 2 of the other managers and I asked them “is this supposed to be a secret?” to which they both reply to “no this is not a secret you can tell the staff if you want. We just kept it as a secret because we thought u didn’t want anyone knowing .It’s probably better to start telling the staff now because you don’t want to be seemed like a snake from keeping it from the rest of the staff”. (Btw I’m not meant to start this role for like month)

I then told two of the staff members about this which they were cool with it. I then come into work to another staff member running up to me and saying how they heard that I was gonna be manager I said “oh yeah, who told you?”
They told me the head manager told them. The next day the head manager comes up to me and asks who told the staff about me becoming manager I told her I only told two people and everyone else must’ve just found out on their own. She wasn’t happy with everybody finding out (even though she was also telling certain people) the other manager said that there’s no point keeping as a secret because the staff are going to eventually find out anyways. To which the head manager replies “ she hasn’t actually quite got the job yet”

So now I’m confused because I didn’t actually ask for this job. I was quite content with just being a sales assistant. They all came to me asking me if I’d like to be part of management , I wouldn’t say begged me but on the lines of begging me to take this role. Which I said yes to so how does it make sense to offer me a job and when I say yes you turn around and say how I haven’t quite actually got the job. It’s not like I applied for this job and I’m waiting to see if I got accepted, they offered it and I already accepted it. So if I haven’t got this job quite yet then why is my manager is every single day telling me about stuff that I’m going to be doing as a manager? Why are they already training me on stuff for a manager?

So I work full time in retail and I’m considered one of good workers( our staff isn’t great) I always work very hard in every job I’ve had. Recently I got rostered for night shifts ( I don’t usually do night shifts apart from stock take) I complained about it first as it was out of my normal schedule with my sleep and routine plus I don’t drive and don’t want to be wondering home on my own early in the morning and I also don’t want to be begging people for lifts.But I was told apparently it was mandatory for me and two other staff to do this. Which I don’t under stand why it’s mandatory for only 3 staff but not the other staff. Anyway I sucked it up and dealt with it. The first night shift was fine but the second night shift was where it all went bad.

Our tasks on the night shifts are to pack out all of the pallets but this is very difficult as there’s barely any room in the store for our stock. We were severely under pressure to a point I wanted to cry as our mangers were not happy with the work we’re doing even tho we’re trying our best. It’s unfair how the lazy staff aren’t expected to this but the hard working staff are pushed to the max. If we don’t get everything the managers want done than we will be written up even tho we’re doing our best and physically can’t do much more. Only two of my nights are done and I feel like I physically can’t do anymore. We’re over workerd for our wage plus all the other staff get to come in do there normal work and go home while we have to deal with all this stress.

I’m very drained and tired from the two night shifts soo far and I honestly don’t want to do anymore. Keep in mind I don’t get paid any extra for night shifts I still get minimum wage,I’m already out of my sleep schedule and I can barely stay awake past 12pm. I’ve no way gettting home ( don’t drive) and I don’t wanna b begging for lifts.