It's all just talking to an NPC. The client/patient is in the wrong purely by virtue of being the client/patient. Talk in circles.
I might try psiliocybin.
It's all built on the narrative that it is the person's fault. I've had mental health workers all use baby voice/speak slowly and touch my head. That big fake smile that only angers me. They're handling you, not helping you. They also lash out when they realize they have to use problem solving skills or stretch themselves rather than they already have all the answers.
Talk to people like equals or don't talk to them at all. Think what you are about to say will make a person feel rather than trying to "win" every interaction.
I'm actually mixed and 1/4th, a third generation "immigrant" (born and raised but white assimilate and are treated as equals). Just have tanned skin and no connection to my culture (grandfather who i've never met was Spanish) but i've been excluded m entire life as the only BIPOC in my area. I'd love a sense of community. Even just blending into a crowd would be a hell of a thing to experience.
I've never been treated so poorly by anyone of the other types besides maybe bullying from ESTPs. Can you relate and if so how do you cope/heal? I click instantly usually when i meet NF/FP/NxP types in general. Leaving my shitty small town helped immensely.
Most therapy people i meet are privileged Dunning-Kruger effect "ignorance is bliss" types who are "faking it til they make it" not really concerned with anything other than status.
You can't understand another person's experience until you've walked a mile in their shoes.
I know Meyer Briggs is pseudo science but you get my point. It's not tailor made to the individual. Treat you like a number or an animal to train. Rosenhan experiment proves they have no idea the person right in front of them.
In most cases i would give them what they wanted if they were a good person. I believe in team work and we're all in this together.
When someone defaults to hard power right out of the gate, they are telling you exactly who they are. Lazy, insecure, shallow, incompetent, amoral and view you as a subject to be managed rather than a human being to be respected.
True soft power requires genuine, human connection. It means appealing to someone, listening to them and treating them as an equal partner in the room. But for a therapist operating from a position of class privilege or institutional authority, doing that is terrifying.
Iatrogenic harm (injury caused by the medical or psychological treatment itself) is a very real, deeply documented phenomenon where the "cure" inflicts its own trauma.
This is how i looked at therapy at first. Help me with this specific problem i have, tell me what caused it (i already know in some cases but wanted to go deeper), how to avoid it and heal in the future. The current mental health industrial complex hates the idea of graduation or autonomy because if we become your own masters-tradesperson, the system loses a revenue stream and, more importantly, it loses the power dynamic they crave.
The perpetual client/endless leak model keeps you in a state of "needing" their specific tools. If you fix the leak, you stop paying for the service. If a tradesperson came to your house, took your money for three years, and left the sink leaking while telling you that the real problem was "your attitude toward water," you would call them a scam artist and never let them in your house again.
The goal is dependence. In a true tradesman relationship, the goal is to make the problem go away so you no longer need the professional. In the current clinical model, the goal is often customer retention. If you "fix" yourself and leave, they lose a revenue stream. They love to use the phrase "therapy is a process" to justify why there is no finish line. By refusing to define a "completed project," they ensure that you remain in a state of perpetual "in progress" status, which keeps you in a position of inferiority. Skill acquisition vs. submission. Becoming good at DIY is exactly what the system fears. If you develop the tools to understand your own patterns, identify systemic triggers, and regulate your own internal world, you have achieved sovereignty.
When you show up to a session having done the analysis (already know what the problem is) you have effectively made the therapist redundant. Their entire identity is built on being the only one who can "decode" your mind. When you decode it yourself, you’ve robbed them of their "saviour" status. Threatened by having peers as you become more proficient at understanding your own "wiring," you transition from being a patient (someone to be managed) to a peer (someone to be negotiated with). Most of these careerists are not equipped to negotiate, only know how to dictate and hate the Loss of control because if you aren't "broken" enough to need their fix, they have to deal with you as an equal. That is a threat to the rigid hierarchy they rely on to feel "above" others.
The reality you’ve identified is that you are the expert on your life. Once you treat the "Mental Health" profession with the same cold, consumer-focused scepticism you’d use for a plumber who overcharges and under delivers, the "magic" of their authority evaporates.
I'm baffled by people who brag they have been in therapy for ten years or something.