u/Difficult_Carob_3210

Hey Surtis! I need a little help pulling off a massive surprise.

I'm trying to track down a lost childhood best friend for my girlfriend. They completely lost touch years ago, and I want to reconnect them as a surprise gift.

The friend's name is Bhumika, and she and my girl were in the 8th standard together at Akhand Anand Vidhyabhavan on Ved Road around 2017–2018. I've tried searching social media, but she has virtually zero digital footprint (seriously, she is completely off the grid).

I'm guessing she might have eventually gone to the adjacent Akhand Anand Arts & Commerce College, or maybe someone here is from that exact school batch and remembers her.

If anyone here went to that school, has an old class WhatsApp group, or knows a Bhumika from that 2017/2018 batch, please shoot me a DM! I don't need any personal details—just hoping someone can pass a message along to her.

Thanks in advance for any leads!

Hey Surtis! I need a little help pulling off a massive surprise.

I'm trying to track down a lost childhood best friend for my girlfriend. They completely lost touch years ago, and I want to reconnect them as a surprise gift.

The friend's name is Bhumika, and she and My girl were in the 8th standard together at Akhand Anand Vidhyabhavan on Ved Road around 2017–2018. I've tried searching social media, but she has virtually zero digital footprint (seriously, she is completely off the grid).

I'm guessing she might have eventually gone to the adjacent Akhand Anand Arts & Commerce College, or maybe someone here is from that exact school batch and remembers her.

If anyone here went to that school, has an old class What's App group, or knows a Bhumika from that 2017/2018 batch, please shoot me a DM! I don't need any personal details—just hoping someone can pass a message along to her.

Thanks in advance for any leads!

Let’s fucking go! I hit my one-month streak today, but honestly, what happened a few hours ago just permanently sealed the deal. I am officially announcing my retirement from porn. I’m out for good.

I went on a movie date with my girl, and we had our first kiss. Not just with each other—our first kiss ever. Both of us.

She took my hand and pressed it against her chest, and man... her heart was humming so incredibly fast. I could literally feel her breathing, just the pure nerves and excitement. She kissed my neck, my cheeks, my forehead, and then finally... my lips.

And dude, it was so fucking weird! My brain couldn't even process what was happening. I kissed her back for maybe 3 or 4 seconds, and then I literally had to pull away. I just went, "Sorry, fuck, I just can't right now." She hid her face and got super shy. When I asked her how it felt (because I had zero clue what I was doing), she told me she felt completely weightless and her hands were shivering so hard she couldn't even feel them.

We just laughed about it. We talked about how completely awkward, clumsy, and "imperfect" it felt compared to what you build up in your head. Later, I finally worked up the courage, gently turned her face by her chin, and kissed her again. Still weird. Still clumsy. Neither of us had any idea what we were doing. But bro... it was real.

Here is the absolute biggest victory and realization for me:

Usually, when we get super close, my body reacts instantly. Because my brain has been so wired to porn and cheap dopamine, I used to overthink the hell out of this. I was genuinely terrified that during my first kiss, I’d get so insanely physically aroused that I might just automatically ejaculate, like a nightfall.

But when the actual kiss happened? Nothing like that. Not even a hard-on. The connection wasn't this robotic, purely physical lust. It was 100% emotional, completely overwhelming, and entirely different from the fake, perfectly choreographed garbage we watch on screens.

Real intimacy isn't perfect angles and instant arousal. It’s awkward, it’s shivering, it’s weightless, and it is beautiful. Porn completely destroys your expectation of what a real, raw human connection is actually supposed to feel like.

One month down. The jersey is in the rafters. I am never looking back.

Let’s fucking go! I hit my one-month streak today, but honestly, what happened a few hours ago just permanently sealed the deal. I am officially announcing my retirement from porn. I’m out for good.

I went on a movie date with my girl, and we had our first kiss. Not just with each other—our first kiss ever. Both of us.

She took my hand and pressed it against her chest, and man... her heart was humming so incredibly fast. I could literally feel her breathing, just the pure nerves and excitement. She kissed my neck, my cheeks, my forehead, and then finally... my lips.

And dude, it was so fucking weird! My brain couldn't even process what was happening. I kissed her back for maybe 3 or 4 seconds, and then I literally had to pull away. I just went, "Sorry, fuck, I just can't right now." She hid her face and got super shy. When I asked her how it felt (because I had zero clue what I was doing), she told me she felt completely weightless and her hands were shivering so hard she couldn't even feel them.

We just laughed about it. We talked about how completely awkward, clumsy, and "imperfect" it felt compared to what you build up in your head. Later, I finally worked up the courage, gently turned her face by her chin, and kissed her again. Still weird. Still clumsy. Neither of us had any idea what we were doing. But bro... it was real.

Here is the absolute biggest victory and realization for me:

Usually, when we get super close, my body reacts instantly. Because my brain has been so wired to porn and cheap dopamine, I used to overthink the hell out of this. I was genuinely terrified that during my first kiss, I’d get so insanely physically aroused that I might just automatically ejaculate, like a nightfall.

But when the actual kiss happened? Nothing like that. Not even a hard-on. The connection wasn't this robotic, purely physical lust. It was 100% emotional, completely overwhelming, and entirely different from the fake, perfectly choreographed garbage we watch on screens.

Real intimacy isn't perfect angles and instant arousal. It’s awkward, it’s shivering, it’s weightless, and it is beautiful. Porn completely destroys your expectation of what a real, raw human connection is actually supposed to feel like.

One month down. The jersey is in the rafters. I am never looking back.

Pata Hai Aaj Kya Hua

I had my first ever kiss today (meri gf ka bhi first time tha) and the whole experience was just so surreal and overwhelming.

The Event: Hum log movie dekhne gaye the. Waha she took my hand and put it on her chest, aur bhai... uski heartbeat itni fast thi literally humming! She kissed my neck, my cheeks, and then finally mere lips pe kiss kiya.

The Situation: It was an actual kiss aur bhai it felt so weird. Main process hi nahi kar paya. 3-4 seconds baad maine literally usko pull away kiya aur bola, "Sorry, I just can't right now, it's too much."

Wo ekdum sharma gayi aur apna face hide kar liya. Maine usse pucha kaisa laga, toh usne bola she felt completely weightless aur uske hath itne shiver kar rahe the ki usko feel hi nahi ho rahe the! Hum dono ne admit kiya ki bohot awkward aur "imperfect" tha sab. Baad me maine himmat karke uska face turn kiya aur wapas kiss kiya, but wo bhi utna hi clumsy tha. Hum dono ko hi nahi pata tha hum kya kar rahe hain.

The Confusion: Par sabse badi confusion mujhe kisi aur chiz ki hai. Normally jab hum bohot close hote hain, toh meri body physically turant react karti hai. Main hamesha overthink karta tha ki first kiss ke time main itna physically arouse ho jaunga ki meri body overreact kar degi. But actual kiss ke time? Mujhe wo intense physical arousal bilkul feel nahi hua, nothing at all. Sirf ek pure emotional, overwhelming connection tha, jo mere expectations se totally alag tha.

Main bas yahi soch raha hu ki kya real intimacy starting me sach me itni hi awkward, shivering aur emotionally heavy hoti hai badle physical hone ke? Is this how it actually feels the first time?

Hey everyone, I just had my first ever kiss today (it was her first time too) and I honestly need to know if this is how it usually feels, because I am so confused and overwhelmed!

We were at the movies, and when she took my hand and placed it on her chest, her heartbeat was humming so incredibly fast. She kissed my neck, my cheeks, and then finally my lips. It was an actual kiss and dude... it felt so weird and surreal. I couldn't even process it. I kissed back for maybe 3-4 seconds before I literally had to pull away and say, "Sorry, I just can't right now, it's too much."

She hid her face and got super shy. I asked her how she felt, and she said she felt completely weightless and her hands were shivering so much she couldn't even feel them. We both admitted it felt super awkward and "imperfect." I eventually gained the courage to turn her face by her chin and kiss her again, but it was still just as clumsy. Neither of us really knew what we were doing.

Here is the other thing that shocked me: usually, when we get super close, my body reacts very quickly physically. I always overthought that during my first kiss, I would get so physically aroused that my body would just overreact. But during the actual kiss? I didn't feel that intense physical arousal at all. The connection was purely emotional, overwhelming, and totally different from what I expected.

Is real intimacy supposed to feel this awkward, shivering, and weird the first time? Does it get better or feel more natural later? Please tell me I'm not the only one who experienced it like this!

You know how when you really want something, you start seeing it everywhere? You just start noticing it all the time... in my case, it was a new bike!

I really wanted to buy a new bike. Whenever I commuted to my office, I would look at every new bike on the road and think to myself that in just 1-2 weeks, I'll be riding like that too, because I had almost saved up enough money for it.

But suddenly, it was a Saturday, 6:05 PM. I was at the office, and I got a call from my cousin saying that our grandfather passed away. It was a shock for me, of course. I wasn't sad, just shocked. I never really spent time with my grandfather, not when I was little, nor when I grew up. In fact, when I was just 3 months old, he had kicked my dad out of the house.

Then all the funeral rituals happened. In our culture, it goes on for 12 days, so all of that got completed. Afterwards, my dad was discussing the finances and said he would have to take a loan to pay for all the expenses. I asked him, "How much?" He told me the total amount it cost. I told him, "Instead of taking a full loan from the outside, I have 70k with me. Take it from me. I had kept it for the bike."

Of course, Papa being Papa, he immediately said, "No, you go buy your bike!" So I played it off and said, "Come on, just return it to me later. Instead of paying interest to a bank, just give me 2-3 thousand extra."

And I gave the money to him. The next day, I woke up, took a rickshaw to the office as usual, and did my work. In the evening, while coming back home, my chest felt incredibly heavy. I don't know what it was... I just couldn't control it. The rickshaw driver dropped me at the stand, and there was a closed shop nearby. I went and stood right there. Suddenly, I just broke down and cried my eyes out. I was wiping my tears with my handkerchief, but they just kept coming. And in my mind, I was wondering: are these tears of happiness or sadness?

Happiness because I gave money to my dad... I gave my dad money.

Sadness because man, that bike was just 1 week away. Yeah, the money wasn't completely enough, but I would have just put the rest on an EMI.

I kept noticing bikes on the road for a few more days, and then... I just automatically stopped seeing them.

Note: this is a real incident, I just narrated it!

You know how when you really want something, you start seeing it everywhere? You just start noticing it all the time... in my case, it was a new bike!

I really wanted to buy a new bike. Whenever I commuted to my office, I would look at every new bike on the road and think to myself that in just 1-2 weeks, I'll be riding like that too, because I had almost saved up enough money for it.

But suddenly, it was a Saturday, 6:05 PM. I was at the office, and I got a call from my cousin saying that our grandfather passed away. It was a shock for me, of course. I wasn't sad, just shocked. I never really spent time with my grandfather, not when I was little, nor when I grew up. In fact, when I was just 3 months old, he had kicked my dad out of the house.

Then all the funeral rituals happened. In our culture, it goes on for 12 days, so all of that got completed. Afterwards, my dad was discussing the finances and said he would have to take a loan to pay for all the expenses. I asked him, "How much?" He told me the total amount it cost. I told him, "Instead of taking a full loan from the outside, I have 70k with me. Take it from me. I had kept it for the bike."

Of course, Papa being Papa, he immediately said, "No, you go buy your bike!" So I played it off and said, "Come on, just return it to me later. Instead of paying interest to a bank, just give me 2-3 thousand extra."

And I gave the money to him. The next day, I woke up, took a rickshaw to the office as usual, and did my work. In the evening, while coming back home, my chest felt incredibly heavy. I don't know what it was... I just couldn't control it. The rickshaw driver dropped me at the stand, and there was a closed shop nearby. I went and stood right there. Suddenly, I just broke down and cried my eyes out. I was wiping my tears with my handkerchief, but they just kept coming. And in my mind, I was wondering: are these tears of happiness or sadness?

Happiness because I gave money to my dad... I gave my dad money.

Sadness because man, that bike was just 1 week away. Yeah, the money wasn't completely enough, but I would have just put the rest on an EMI.

I kept noticing bikes on the road for a few more days, and then... I just automatically stopped seeing them.

Note: this is a real incident, I just narrated it!

You know how when you really want something, you start seeing it everywhere? You just start noticing it all the time... in my case, it was a new bike!

I really wanted to buy a new bike. Whenever I commuted to my office, I would look at every new bike on the road and think to myself that in just 1-2 weeks, I'll be riding like that too, because I had almost saved up enough money for it.

But suddenly, it was a Saturday, 6:05 PM. I was at the office, and I got a call from my cousin saying that our grandfather passed away. It was a shock for me, of course. I wasn't sad, just shocked. I never really spent time with my grandfather, not when I was little, nor when I grew up. In fact, when I was just 3 months old, he had kicked my dad out of the house.

Then all the funeral rituals happened. In our culture, it goes on for 12 days, so all of that got completed. Afterwards, my dad was discussing the finances and said he would have to take a loan to pay for all the expenses. I asked him, "How much?" He told me the total amount it cost. I told him, "Instead of taking a full loan from the outside, I have 70k with me. Take it from me. I had kept it for the bike."

Of course, Papa being Papa, he immediately said, "No, you go buy your bike!" So I played it off and said, "Come on, just return it to me later. Instead of paying interest to a bank, just give me 2-3 thousand extra."

And I gave the money to him. The next day, I woke up, took a rickshaw to the office as usual, and did my work. In the evening, while coming back home, my chest felt incredibly heavy. I don't know what it was... I just couldn't control it. The rickshaw driver dropped me at the stand, and there was a closed shop nearby. I went and stood right there. Suddenly, I just broke down and cried my eyes out. I was wiping my tears with my handkerchief, but they just kept coming. And in my mind, I was wondering: are these tears of happiness or sadness?

Happiness because I gave money to my dad... I gave my dad money.

Sadness because man, that bike was just 1 week away. Yeah, the money wasn't completely enough, but I would have just put the rest on an EMI.

I kept noticing bikes on the road for a few more days, and then... I just automatically stopped seeing them.

Note: this is a real incident, I just narrated it!

You know how when you really want something, you start seeing it everywhere? You just start noticing it all the time... in my case, it was a new bike!

I really wanted to buy a new bike. Whenever I commuted to my office, I would look at every new bike on the road and think to myself that in just 1-2 weeks, I'll be riding like that too, because I had almost saved up enough money for it.

But suddenly, it was a Saturday, 6:05 PM. I was at the office, and I got a call from my cousin saying that our grandfather passed away. It was a shock for me, of course. I wasn't sad, just shocked. I never really spent time with my grandfather, not when I was little, nor when I grew up. In fact, when I was just 3 months old, he had kicked my dad out of the house.

Then all the funeral rituals happened. In our culture, it goes on for 12 days, so all of that got completed. Afterwards, my dad was discussing the finances and said he would have to take a loan to pay for all the expenses. I asked him, "How much?" He told me the total amount it cost. I told him, "Instead of taking a full loan from the outside, I have 70k with me. Take it from me. I had kept it for the bike."

Of course, Papa being Papa, he immediately said, "No, you go buy your bike!" So I played it off and said, "Come on, just return it to me later. Instead of paying interest to a bank, just give me 2-3 thousand extra."

And I gave the money to him. The next day, I woke up, took a rickshaw to the office as usual, and did my work. In the evening, while coming back home, my chest felt incredibly heavy. I don't know what it was... I just couldn't control it. The rickshaw driver dropped me at the stand, and there was a closed shop nearby. I went and stood right there. Suddenly, I just broke down and cried my eyes out. I was wiping my tears with my handkerchief, but they just kept coming. And in my mind, I was wondering: are these tears of happiness or sadness?

Happiness because I gave money to my dad... I gave my dad money.

Sadness because man, that bike was just 1 week away. Yeah, the money wasn't completely enough, but I would have just put the rest on an EMI.

I kept noticing bikes on the road for a few more days, and then... I just automatically stopped seeing them.

Note: this is a real incident, I just narrated it!

You know how when you really want something, you start seeing it everywhere? You just start noticing it all the time... in my case, it was a new bike!

I really wanted to buy a new bike. Whenever I commuted to my office, I would look at every new bike on the road and think to myself that in just 1-2 weeks, I'll be riding like that too, because I had almost saved up enough money for it.

But suddenly, it was a Saturday, 6:05 PM. I was at the office, and I got a call from my cousin saying that our grandfather passed away. It was a shock for me, of course. I wasn't sad, just shocked. I never really spent time with my grandfather, not when I was little, nor when I grew up. In fact, when I was just 3 months old, he had kicked my dad out of the house.

Then all the funeral rituals happened. In our culture, it goes on for 12 days, so all of that got completed. Afterwards, my dad was discussing the finances and said he would have to take a loan to pay for all the expenses. I asked him, "How much?" He told me the total amount it cost. I told him, "Instead of taking a full loan from the outside, I have 70k with me. Take it from me. I had kept it for the bike."

Of course, Papa being Papa, he immediately said, "No, you go buy your bike!" So I played it off and said, "Come on, just return it to me later. Instead of paying interest to a bank, just give me 2-3 thousand extra."

And I gave the money to him. The next day, I woke up, took a rickshaw to the office as usual, and did my work. In the evening, while coming back home, my chest felt incredibly heavy. I don't know what it was... I just couldn't control it. The rickshaw driver dropped me at the stand, and there was a closed shop nearby. I went and stood right there. Suddenly, I just broke down and cried my eyes out. I was wiping my tears with my handkerchief, but they just kept coming. And in my mind, I was wondering: are these tears of happiness or sadness?

Happiness because I gave money to my dad... I gave my dad money.

Sadness because man, that bike was just 1 week away. Yeah, the money wasn't completely enough, but I would have just put the rest on an EMI.

I kept noticing bikes on the road for a few more days, and then... I just automatically stopped seeing them.

Note: this is a real incident, I just narrated it!

My gf is getting jealous of literally everything I do. Like yesterday I was out with my colleagues at night, I told her about it and she said "why am I not with you, I am jealous." She even gets jealous of me going to the gym, meeting my college/school friends, or going on a nightout with my cousins.

It's not like I am not giving time to her, but the main issue is she is heavily restricted by her parents so she has no permission to go out. Ik it's not really her fault, ig she just wants to meet me and hates being stuck at home

But what can I actually do in this situation? I assure her so much every single time but ig that's not enough

My girlfriend is getting jealous of literally everything I do. Like yesterday, I was out with my colleagues at night. I told her about it and she said, "Why am I not with you? I am jealous." She even gets jealous of me going to the gym, meeting my college/school friends, or going on a night out with my cousins.

It is not like I am not giving time to her, but the main issue is she is heavily restricted by her parents, so she has no permission to go out. I know it is not really her fault, and I guess she just wants to meet me

Right now, I feel like I am stuck in a labyrinth. If I tell her straight up to stop getting jealous over these normal things, I know she will just shut down and stop sharing her feelings with me entirely instead of actually understanding.

But what can I actually do in this situation? I reassure her so much every single time, but I guess that is not enough

My girlfriend is getting jealous of literally everything I do. Like yesterday, I was out with my colleagues at night. I told her about it and she said, "Why am I not with you? I am jealous." She even gets jealous of me going to the gym, meeting my college/school friends, or going on a night out with my cousins.

It is not like I am not giving time to her, but the main issue is she is heavily restricted by her parents, so she has no permission to go out. I know it is not really her fault, and I guess she just wants to meet me

Right now, I feel like I am stuck in a labyrinth. If I tell her straight up to stop getting jealous over these normal things, I know she will just shut down and stop sharing her feelings with me entirely instead of actually understanding.

But what can I actually do in this situation? I reassure her so much every single time, but I guess that is not enough

DM we can talk that's it!! I am new on this sub i though i would share the pics of my physique but the sub is not letting me so forgive the title

adding this extra para's for moderator

I'm 20 years old and currently balancing quite a bit. Professionally, I work as a MERN stack developer and technical content writer.

Right now, I'm just looking for some engaging conversation. I'd love to chat, get to know you, and ultimately get your honest, unfiltered opinion on my fit and physique once we move to DMs. Feel free to reach out if you want to talk!

Seeing the massive ongoing protests at Jantar Mantar over the exam paper leaks got me thinking. What if our CS exams get leaked?

Honestly, we do not even have the numbers for a proper protest. If all the CS students actually went out on the streets together to protest, people would probably just think we are a small college group going on a weekend trip! We literally would not even be able to block a single lane of traffic.

Jokes aside though, seeing thousands of students out there fighting for exam accountability is seriously impressive. Huge kudos to everyone protesting at Jantar Mantar right now. I really hope their demands get fulfilled and they get the justice they are fighting for!

A few days ago, my girlfriend asked me a very simple question: "Why me?"

I honestly didn't want to just give her a specific, basic answer. So I decided to do something huge for her birthday, which is coming up in a few days on June 22nd. I wrote a literal novel for her.

I wrote the story completely indirectly. I am not using her real name or straightforwardly describing our relationship. Instead, I hid subtle hints and glances of our real incidents and inside jokes within the plot. Since I sketch, I also integrated my own pencil art throughout the chapters to visually tell the story alongside the text.

The book does not have a final ending. The last page simply says "To be continued..."

I also added one final surprise. Right next to that last line, there is a custom QR code. When she scans it, it will redirect her to a video edit. I play the guitar, so the background audio will be me playing a track specifically for her. The visuals in the video will just be photos and videos of all the different places we have been to together. Just the places themselves, not pictures of us, to indirectly remind her of all our dates and memories.

I am heading out today to get it physically printed and bound like a legitimate published book.

Since I am sharing this with actual writers, I would love for you guys to check it out. I uploaded the finished draft to Google Drive. If anyone wants to read it or use the concept for their own partner, here is the link:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/14heg7s2M0Jsxs_JDGe5e29AZA2T4wliy/view?usp=sharing

Let me know what you guys think of the writing, the concept, and the QR code idea before I send it to the printer today!