u/EntrepreneurTop1007

I'm tryna lose weight but also gain a bunch of muscle as well, I'm not sure if there's a sub out there that does both, but you can recommend them separately as well, I just prefer listening to 1 sub at a time.

(20m) Been trying to get some more exposure in. I go on walks to super busy places in my city and try not to shit myself, I go play sports and what not, and there’s a clear difference between day 1 and now (been about 3 weeks to a month but i haven't really been counting). But the issue I’m running into is how goddamn nonlinear it is.

The first few days of doing the exposure I felt like shit. I didn’t walk as far, I was way more anxious. Then it got better, I got better at regulating myself, and after being on a generational roll with it I could see the light at the end of the tunnel. I felt great.

But then I just wake up one morning and for the next week or so I’m anxious again like it’s day 1. It’s so fucking discouraging man. One day I can go shoot some hoops, go walk around the city, enjoy the weather, and then I wake up and it’s like all of that is just taken from me and I’m back where I started.

Ok so i wanna buy a handheld to mod and mess with, id take it with me wherever I travel and use it instead of my phone for when I wanna play games. So what's better, should i get a DS or a Ps Vita?

(20m) I think one of the things that really feeds the loop of social anxiety that I’m really starting to notice now that I’m trying to put myself out there again and talk to people, is that I HAVE NOTHING TO TALK ABOUT. Mfs are going on and on about “I went here, I did this, this is the story of my ex-girlfriend, here’s my other ex who was toxic, here’s an interaction I had with my buddy,” and they want me to contribute and yap with them, but it’s like BRO... WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU WANT ME TO SAY? I don’t have any life experiences that I could share. I don’t have exes, I don’t have random stupid funny moments with my friends, I don’t DO anything, I just rot at home. its discouraging as fuck because its like what do i tell these mfs??? that i have anxiety and stay at home most of the day? what does that accomplish? they think im boring and don't wanna be around me but start being all nice out of pity as if im some injured kitten?

if any of yall have dealt with this and have a way to get around it, PLEASE SHARE. i'm getting sick of this.

stupid ass paradox man. You need friends to have experiences and you need experiences to make friends. HAHAHAHAHA I LOVE MY LIFE! 🙂😭

Its honeslty not something i think i can even handle to begin with. Forget finding one and blah blah blah, all thats terrifying too but what if i manage to get one?? THAT, is even more terrifying because then we gotta do dates and link up and do activities together and restauraunts and i CANNOT handle that. Ordering at resataurunts is impossible, so is random shit like going mini golf or something.

got added to a group chat, full of a bunch of people similar age as me (im 20m) and ive been isolated pretty long and I just don't know how to talk to these people. like, idk what to do with myself it feels like theyre all in a secret club together i don't get the slang, the references, the jokes and memes or trends or anything, n their all so out going and they just met hours ago and are already planning parties and meetups and all this kinda shit, like i keep asking myself what the fuck am i doing here im getting insane imposter syndrome. this is a good learning experience for me because im finally back in a loop in some shape or form but i just feel so outta place even tho im same age as these people. help!!!!

I think its time we make a proper space for men in this community and not leave them behind.

so what would you like to see?

what do you think is missing?

what topics/subs do you think you'd like to see/see more of?

any other thoughts?

thanks in advance !

I think its time we make a proper space for men in this community and not leave them behind.

so what would you like to see?

what do you think is missing?

what topics/subs do you think you'd like to see/see more of?

any other thoughts?

thanks in advance !

(20m) you know, i’m honestly not even sure how long i’ve been like this. it feels like it’s been forever. but at the same time, i don’t think i was always like this. as a kid i was shy, yeah, but not socially anxious in this way. there were even periods later on where i handled it pretty well. i had friends, a real social life, i was out of the house most of the day.

it wasn’t like something just snapped. it was slow. the anxiety just kept creeping up, worse and worse over time. i could manage it for a while because we were still kids. there wasn’t much responsibility, no real pressure to function like adults. but then we grew up. my friends started getting jobs, driving, making money, meeting new people, going to concerts, trips, events. and meanwhile my life just… shrank. ive just been confined to this same room i grew up in.

i think about it a lot, and i genuinely don’t know how i ended up here. if i wasn’t always like this, and i even fought it off for a while, then what happened? covid probably played a big role, but beyond that, i don’t really have a clear answer.

and there are layers to it. a couple years ago, i was just as anxious, maybe even more, but i still had a friend group. people would reach out and i’d go, even if i didn’t want to. i was bad at saying no. then i learned to say no, we all got older, and the more i said no, the more distance grew between me and them.

i saw an instagram story yesterday. my friend drove out to watch the raptors game yesterday, spent the day with someone, had a great time, even had some dumb funny moment at a mcdonald’s. and i’m sitting here thinking… am i too far gone? am i ever going to be in a position where i can just do what i want, go out with friends, hit concerts, games, trips, or even just enjoy my own city?

i don’t know. im kinda losing hope.

and honestly, part of me even wonders if there’s something else going on. like maybe i should get tested for autism or something. because it’s not just anxiety. i don’t feel normal. i haven’t felt normal in years. even simple things, like joking around with people in public or at a drive-thru, feel completely foreign. it’s hard to imagine myself in those scenarios

So I just found out that Krillin was already stronger than Raditz by the time Vegeta and Nappa showed up on Earth, which is crazy considering Goku and Piccolo struggled to reach that level. Then I learned Krillin’s highest power level hit around 75,000 in the Namek saga after Elder Guru unlocked his potential. BRO, 75,000 is insane for a human. This whole time I thought humans capped out at a few thousand, but he was basically pushing 100k. At that point he could’ve wiped out like ten Raditz-level fighters at once.

Now I’m wondering, what if Krillin got another potential unlock from Elder Kai, which is way more powerful than Guru’s? How much higher could he actually go? I don’t know where the human ceiling is, but after something like that, surely he could break past 100k, maybe even 120k or more, or unlock some kinda technique or form that's unique to him.

The worst part about social anxiety isn’t even the anxiety itself. Don’t get me wrong, it’s debilitating and it’s messed up a lot of my life. But what makes it 100x worse is that my parents don’t understand it and just downplay the hell out of it.

Like I can literally see it in my dad’s face. No matter how much I try to explain it, he just cannot COMPUTE or CONCEIVE a reality where social anxiety is actually real. And I’m not even trying to bash him, he genuinely tries to be supportive. I get it, this is one of those things that’s hard to understand unless you’ve actually felt it. But even when he acts like he gets it, I can tell by the way he talks to me that he doesn’t. And that shit hurts.

Because he still expects things from me. The family expects things from me. And when I’m not at the same level as my cousins, my dad gets stressed, maybe even embarrassed. In his head, this isn’t a real thing, so it just looks like I’m making excuses. He can’t understand why I’m not some perfect kid who’s making money and earning respect from everyone.

And I don’t even know what to tell him. This shit is crippling. I’ve never had a job. I don’t have my driver’s license. I barely passed high school because I was skipping just to avoid people. Even going in felt overwhelming half the time.

So yeah… it is what it is, I guess. I just have to learn to live with my dad being disappointed in me, and I can’t really control what the rest of my family thinks. Just because they don’t respect me or think I’m messing up doesn’t mean I can just “lock in” and fix everything overnight like he expects.

Fucksake man. When does this nightmare end.

title correction: Man I really did not realize how bad it actually has gotten.

(20m) you know i just realized something. i just realized just how lonely I ACTUALLY am. it hit me randomly while i was sitting there thinking to myself over some game i was playing, and i was like hold on a minute. nowadays i go weeks, sometimes months without talking to a single soul, whereas just like 3 years ago, maybe a little more, i was talking to people like every day.

it is so hard to even conceptualize that now and actually fathom that THAT was my life. i have bad social anxiety and tend to just kind of run away from people even if i am feeling lonely, but back then i kind of did not have a choice. we were all kids, and even if i was too anxious to play with them i was just kind of forced to anyway.

and it is mind boggling to think about. like holy fuck, i was in VC with someone almost every day, all day, at least one person, most of the time more. when i went out to hang out with people i was out with like 3 or more people a couple times a week.

damn the realization is hitting even harder now. what the fuck happened? (its not even that i developed social anxiety after that either. I had it the whole time i just didnt have a choice but to talk to people before. It has gotten worse in some ways tho, but also a little better in others) was it that slow of a progression that i just did not notice? i really thought my social life was the same and static this whole time. i mean i knew i was a little lonelier than before but i never imagined it was THIS big of a difference.

holy fuck man. Fuck social anxiety i hate this. I actually had a life, but it feels like such a distant memory, I don't know if il ever get back there again.