u/Hot-Chair-7706

Looking for potential cat names influenced by my favorite bog man. Give me the obvious names and the obscure ones... it's a cat after all.

Examples:

- Squall (I, Carrion)

- Cherry (Cherry Wine)

- Concrete (To Someone From a Warm Climate)

- Shalala (Unknown/nth)

I’m 28F, he’s 28M, and we’ve been dating for 10 months. There’s many little things that my partner does that bothers me and I’m not sure if there’s a word or explanation for how he’s behaving/treating me.

1. He calls me dumb/dummy frequently (like multiple times a day) and often at simple mistakes that I usually recognize in the very same moment that I’d made. But if I ever point out that he’d said something incorrectly (and prove it), he doubles down and says he’s right. It seems to always be in a joking way, but it irritates me to no end… but if I get too visibly annoyed I’m worried that I’ll ruin the vibes.

2. He pinches. He doesn’t do it hard and it doesn’t necessarily hurt, but I hate the feeling of it on my arms. He’s pushed for me to go to the gym more to get strong and it seems to me that he’s pinching at my upper arms to point out the flab (mind you, I’m 5’6” and 120 pounds, it’s not like I’m self conscious about my body fat ratio, but it doesn’t feel good when it gets pointed out and pinched).

3. He doesn’t *answer* my questions. I could ask if he’d rather we go sit on the porch or take a walk down the street and he’d either ~not respond~ or answer as if it was a yes/no question rather than an either/or question. I keep it light when I say “Answer me!” in a funny way, but he’s so tickled with himself that he doesn’t because he knows it riles me up.

4. He chastises me when I curse. I’m not terribly foul mouthed to start with, but sometimes a “what the hell” or “shit” slips out in conversation and he’ll act like I owe money to a swear jar every single time. I understand that some people don’t like cursing and I try to adjust myself accordingly, but I’m not going to be perfect (especially when I’m around him for such extended periods of time).

5. He thinks I’m sooo messy. Honest to goodness, my house is fine. There’s never junk around, I keep up with household chores regularly, and I keep it smelling nice. But god forbid I leave a receipt on the table instead of immediately throwing it away or drape my cardigan over my couch instead of hanging it up. It’s MY house, but he sure has a lot to say about it. He could see a single crumb on the floor and say “dirty girl”… and not in the fun way.

I’ve definitely brought up my feelings about each of these things with him, but it’s like “he can’t help himself” to keep going. I’m not rushing for a break up, I think that these are workable issues if he’s willing to put in the work. What do you make of these behaviors though?

TL;DR: My partner is very nitpicky with me and often teases me in a way that seems to be harmless, but I’m seriously bothered by it. Is there an explanation for why he does this?

The only ones I somewhat like are:
Miles — sounds sweet, but pretty popular
Logan — means “little hollow,” it sounds darling
Carson — literally just because of Downton Abbey
Simon — cute, but I worry Simon Says jokes will get old

Most all other names?? I find some reason to not like it… I challenge you to find ones that are too good to not like

Helena pronounced Heh-LAY-nuh. I prefer outside the top 100 and I like most anything nature-inspired, literary, and/or classy.

There’s family-related significance for the spelling of the middle name, just in case you don’t love it and try to talk me out of it.

So far we have:
Scarlett Leena M——
Violet Leena M——
Lucy Leena M——
Maya Leena M——

I’m at a loss, what are some of the most beautiful girl names that you can think of that could pair well with this middle name?

I’ve only recently heard this name and I think it’s so pretty! Have I been living under a rock or is it a more recently popular name? I know nothing about it.

Helena pronounced Heh-LAY-nuh.

I don’t like overly popular names, I try to stay outside the top 100. Love most anything timeless, nature-inspired, or literary. What do you think?

Ex. I love the name Sylvia — “spirit of the woods”

I want to love the name Calvin, but I hate its meaning

Yes, like for typing 🤣 what fonts could you see reflecting the vibe for:

1. Helena
2. Francesca
3. Carina

I didn’t even care about boy names when I was younger 😂

Girls:
VALENCIA — (didn’t know at the time that it’s a place in Spain and a type of orange)
ELIANA — (that was the ship name for Liz Gillies and Ariana Grande… it happened to also sound like a good name to me)
JADE — big fan of Victorious / Liz Gillies…
VIENNA — loved it so much until I made the association with sausages
AMALIA — after the Dutch princess

None of these names are on my list anymore, but for being ~12 years old, I’d say I had good taste 🤣

These are the “short” lists for a little sister/brother… not sure which I like the most. Feel free to share new names if you feel something works better than these!

Sister:
Helena and Carina
Helena and Lucy
Helena and Maya
Helena and Viola
Helena and Francesca
Helena and Colette

Brother:
Helena and Miles
Helena and Luca
Helena and Mateo
Helena and Hudson
Helena and Dean
Helena and Neil
Helena and Simon

When you read it, do you see it as Heh-LAY-nuh or HEL-en-nuh? Do you like more one way or another? Does it have good/bad associations? What possible nicknames do you see for either?

Tell me anything 😊