u/J3ezyTheSnowman

That's in 5 weeks. I am done with this shit quite frankly. My mom is on vacation right now and I wouldn't wanna make her go on a plane knowing I am dead, but she is back next week. I am done.

No one knows my struggles. I'm ugly, autistic, have no friends, have never had a girlfriend, my coworkers don't care about me (I make ok money at my job but that is it). I have no desire to fix these things. I don't even identify as a lonely man, just as a lonely person.

Also, I don't want any advice.

That's in 5 weeks. I am done with this shit quite frankly. My mom is on vacation right now and I wouldn't wanna make her go on a plane knowing I am dead, but she is back next week. I am done.

No one knows my struggles. I'm ugly, autistic, have no friends, have never had a girlfriend, my coworkers don't care about me (I make ok money at my job but that is it). I have no desire to fix these things. I don't even identify as a lonely man, just as a lonely person.

Also, I don't want any advice.

I made this post two weeks ago and got a lot of good answers and helpful feedback! Since then, I have narrowed my options down to one place in Uptown and one in the North Loop.

I am a 24m. The difference in rent between the two places I am looking at is like $150-200 a month (with Uptown being the cheaper one), so I'd have more spending money if I was in Uptown (I'd have to pay at least $150 a month for parking in either place since street parking is unreliable).

Another benefit of Uptown is that I could keep my LA Fitness membership (I currently go to the one in Edina but I could just go to the one in St. Louis Park if I lived in Uptown, I really like LA Fitness they have all of the equipment I need). I feel like the gym options are not as great in the North Loop area, at least affordable gym options.

But I also know that the North Loop is super trendy with lots of people my age and places to go and things to do. But I also have read on Reddit that it is kind of a frat bro/finance bro kind of place, and it does seem very yuppie and WASP from what I have seen when I have spent time there... when I was talking about deciding where to live with my therapist, even she said she doesn't see me as the North Loop type. Even with that though, still a lot to do there, and a lot of walking options, and I would be like 7 minutes from work, whereas Uptown would be like 11 minutes (I guess this is a moot point).

Things I like to do and would like to do in a place: I like watching sports (big Timberwolves and Vikings fan), I like bass fishing (which I have done at both the chain of lakes in Uptown and at the river in Minneapolis), I'd like to be able to meet new people to go to bars/restaurants/clubs with, I also just wanna be more active this summer, I am hoping to pick up golf and/or pickleball (which I recognize I can find places to do both pretty much anywhere in the Twin Cities).

I also recognize that while I can live in a place with a lot of people my age, I still need to be much more outgoing and actually take initiative to meet new people and make friends (and meet girls ;)).

Space is important to me and it's how I narrowed it down to my two choices.

I have thought about this in the most logical manner possible.

Rating people's looks is inherently flawed, even if there are features and stuff that are "scientifically proven to be more attractive" or "conventionally attractive", there is still no like scientifically validated way to rate a personally anyways, so when you ask for ratings, it's pointless since it's not objective, it's subjective. Also, rating people kinda just reduces humans to slabs of meat imo, which is wrong.

There are people out there who aren't attracted to even the most people viewed as the most conventionally attractive like Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie (Brad Pitt is also a bad person though but that is unrelated to the subject).

I have the option to wfh 3 days a week, and once I move out of my parents house into a one bedroom apartment, I will start to utilize it. I am apartment searching right now and curious about how big of a 1 bedroom apartment I need? I have my work laptop and then will either get like a 32 inch ultrawide monitor or two monitors. I do Excel and Power BI for the majority of my job.

Is under 700 square feet (like in the 600 range) too little? I don't necessarily mind having to have my desk in my bedroom either, although it is certainly not preferred. I'd maybe like to get a standing desk too.

I should clarify, I do live by myself.

Idk how to word/title this post, and tbh I feel terrible today anyways which probably isn't helping. But I am 24 and looking for an apartment. I work in downtown MPLS and am only required to be in office 2 days a week. I currently live at home with my parents in Carver and am 100% ready to move out ASAP (I get along with my parents but I like having my own space + a shorter commute, currently 30 mins each way). My salary is $90k, so I guess the max I could spend on a place is $2,250 (30% of gross) but obviously that rule is a bit outdated but also, $2,250 is also a ton of money to spend on a 1br apartment.

I have an apartments spreadsheet with ~40 apartments on it, 11 of which I am actually interested in (the ones I'm not interested in were too expensive or too small (cost per square footage), with apartments in the St. Louis Park West End area (I know this is a super trendy area), the North Loop (another trendy area), and Uptown.

Uptown seems more affordable than the other two areas, and the apartments offer more bang for your buck in terms of price per square footage... I toured this place called Blue And Lime in Uptown today and they showed me a few floorplans, of which I only really liked one of them... $1,545 a month + 861 square feet = $1.79 per square foot... and they have a promotion going on right now where you get $3,000 of rent, which can be spread out over the length of the lease, so $1,295 + 861 square feet = $1.50 per square foot.

And a lot of the Uptown apartments I am interested in are like that, very good value for the money and space you are getting. Whereas North Loop and SLP West End, I can afford some of the places for sure, but they are a lot smaller and more expensive for how much space you are actually getting. SLP West End is really expensive in particular, it is a bit perplexing given it was much more affordable when I looked a year prior... I remember seeing 1 bedrooms at Millenium at West End in the $1,500 range and now they start at $1,800.

Anyways, is Uptown still a cool/trendy place to live in? I feel like I have read stuff online saying that it's not what it used to be but is still a good area. I have a former coworker I am friends with outside of work who is my age and I was gonna ask for her input too.

I should also note that I understand that living in a place you want to live in is important and not everything is about money and data and metrics like I have laid out in this post. Admittedly, I probably could have made the post without all of that, but alas.