u/Positive-Ability-402

swear i just ovulated WHILE on my period. except it wasn’t a normal period, i just had dark discharge for a couple days then bled for like 24h. now two days later, it feels like im in luteal again. i’m bloated and ugly and depressed. 3 days ago i was hot and skinny and energetic. wtf is happening to me??!!! anyone else’s hormones all out of wack??

btw, i’m 1 month into 50mg

i’m loosing my fucking mind. if i gain another pound im actually gonna blow my shit clean off 😀

I’m 19 working towards moving out of my abusive parents home. They are extremely controlling and I want to get a P.o. box without them finding out so they can’t open my mail with my banking info, find out I have a job, etc. But the USPS website says I need a mortgage, car registration, or something with proof of address as a secondary form of id. I don’t own a home obviously and my car is in my father’s name. The vote.gov website says my voting status is inactive(I live in MA) and I don’t remember receiving a physical registration card, also I’d really like to avoid having to wait for a card to be delivered if possible. Are there any other options for me?

what’s everyone’s strategy for spending points? at ulta it’s simple because cash back is the only option, and the points accumulate in price until they expire. so i just hold off on spending them for as long as possible to save the most money.

but sephora’s point system confuses me. is it smarter to redeem for specific products or cash? and what’s with the offer right now… the 250 points for $5 off…? has that not always been a thing lol?? can’t decide if i should save or spend, and the best method for spending.

i know at least one of you watched 30 minutes of ai porn for 5 dollars…🤨

just want to share my perspective and experience with the topic. (tw) im a child rape victim and have dealt with many types of eating disorders since the trauma occurred. it’s frustrating to see so much oversimplification and misunderstanding about how eating disorders work, especially in relation to ariana. the idea that most anorexics simply develop insecurities from excessive criticism or social media, then decide to count calories, look at thinspo and chase a sickly appearance because they find it more attractive is just wrong. for somebody dealing with similar problems on a smaller scale, yeah sure. but for somebody at ariana’s level of severity, who’s visibly sick and at risk of organ failure, that’s rarely the case, it is much more complex and it is usually just a symptom of underlying trauma, similar to substance addiction.

also, the narrative that people with EDs are promoting a pedophilic beauty standard and romanticizing attraction to children is so disgusting and disturbingly false, so i want to address that as well.

i see a lot of similarities between ariana and myself, but i can only speak on my own experience without speculating. when the EDs first started, i didnt know my behavior was disordered. i felt like i wasnt allowed to take up space in my home. i was made to feel like a burden by my father(abuser) who was possessive about food. i associated food with greed and didn’t feel deserving of taking up the resources. i thought i ate a completely normal amount of food for a girl my age despite being very underweight. my parents told stories to my doctors about what a picky eater i was. i didn’t have any idea what calories even were.

as i entered my teen years, girls my age were developing curves. people started dating and kissing and having crushes. i wanted nothing more than to be invisible. i wanted to shrink so much that i couldn’t be seen. and the older i grew, the less i could recognize myself. i was physically growing out of my child body, but not mentally. i kept getting older but still felt like a child. i never got the chance to be a child, it was stolen from me. so my brain could not accept the concept of my childhood ending.

i lost more and more control over my life. i was helpless against my abuser and couldn’t fight back. but i could control my body. i could prevent it from growing, so that i could avoid the discomfort of change. i could prevent it from being desirable to men. i could keep myself small and delicate and invisible, so i would never burden anybody again. honestly, sometimes i just refused to eat for days hoping it would kill me.

i eventually started tracking calories and dieting after getting to a healthy weight. i did a full 180 and became desperate for male validation. now, all i wanted were curves and attention. i fell into the restrict/binge/purge cycle. became obsessed with the gym and developed OCD. i was very much AWARE of my behavior, NOT in denial. i just saw somebody different every time i looked in the mirror. i wanted to be perfect. and loved. i had only ever known a version of love that was tied to my body and sex appeal.

again, i don’t want to speculate. but we know that dan schneider was obsessed with ariana specifically, and that she hung around tom hanks as a kid. her family seems dysfunctional af. and regardless of these factors, her trauma and PTSD are public knowledge. she displays clear symptoms of BPD which if anything, were highlighted in her petal music video. meaning she lacks a sense of self and rapidly shifts her personality(this includes appearance) to mirror and/or appeal to the people she’s surrounded by. i seriously doubt this woman is unaware that she is starving to death. i doubt she’s getting thinner and thinner because she thinks it makes her more attractive. i doubt she’s in denial at all. she is navigating her 30s as a deeply traumatized and heavily observed individual who has publicly lived as 20 different people. each one of those versions of herself has been loved by one fan and hated by another. i can’t even begin to imagine wth is happening inside this woman’s brain right now. but i know for a fact it’s not as simple as people think. she is clearly age regressing as well, or acting childlike for some reason. again, im not in her brain but i can confidently say it has nothing to do with promoting pedophilia. and i’m really tired of hearing that lazy shallow SICK take. she’s a suffering, disregulated human, not a talking point for your uneducated feminist think piece.

sorry for the trauma dump LOL just wanted to give some perspective because a lot of people seem very confused. im mostly frustrated with the twitter/tiktok takes, not the people here. moral of the story, ariana is extremely private about her childhood and her trauma. i’m guessing this is the reason why, because people with no knowledge of psychology will draw conclusions about her mental issues and use them to judge her character. then these narratives spread like wildfire and people accept them as truth. i think it’s time to just accept that she does not want to be open to the public about it, but that she is severely struggling both mentally and physically and we may never fully understand why. let’s just respect that choice and wish her well please!

I’ve done tons of these studies since February and this is the first time I’ve ever experienced this. It’s the version where the prompt has a video and requests a change like “add a poster in the background” or something. I swear in every single example, both videos were exact replicas of the original with no changes.

I was clicking equally good/bad for a while but I got scared it’d get flagged so I just started choosing random ones. Now I’m thinking I should’ve just returned it… hopefully this doesn’t screw me over

ik the sale is the 4th-28th, all of the best colors are sold out in my size but i’m scared i’ll miss my chance to get ANY color at all if i wait for a restock. i’ve been wanting the smokey gray for literal years but they’re final sale and i missed my chance 😞 should i just settle now or wait for a restock?

also, the sizing is so strange. saying “size up” or “size down” doesn’t really help when sizing is so different at every store now. you’d assume size 28 means the jeans have a 28 inch waist…but no. the size chart says size 28 = 28” waist and 38” hips (i feel like that’s rly big???). but apparently the 28s have a 33” waist that should sit on the hips???? the hell??? btw, this info came from a little description on the lowriders where size 28 is used as an example, not an additional size chart. so i have no idea how these measurements translate to other sizes.

my waist is 27” and my hips are 33”, but i have a bigger butt & thighs and im scared they’ll be too tight at the top. i want them to fit a bit looser.

idek if this sub is active but can people comment what size they got and their measurements if they’re comfortable?

Hello.

I currently live in an abusive environment, and I'm looking for a safe to hold my medications, important documents, sentimental things, etc. I don't have anything crazy valuable; I'm just trying to prevent the headaches of having to replace my social security card, having my mom steal my pills or finding out where I'm banking, things like that. I'm 99% sure one of my parents will attempt to break in at least once. They have an extensive history of picking locks and breaking down doors with force. I need it to arrive quickly so I was looking at amazon, but I'm not sure I trust those Chinese manufacturers... need something sturdy enough to protect my shit but I'm also dead broke so I can't afford anything crazy.

Also, I'm in the process of moving so I need the safe to be small and portable enough to come with me, obviously

Any suggestions?

Please excuse my financial illiteracy.

I'm currently trying to transition my savings from a joint account with a parent to my own bank accounts. I've tried opening accounts at a few different banks online, but was denied by all of them. Now I realize this is because I'm 19y/o with no credit score. I decided to open a checking account at a local bank so I could apply in person and have a physical branch to access when needed (plus I need a safe deposit box), then later open a high-yield savings account online.

I just opened my checking account a couple of days ago. For my savings account, I've been looking at Capital One. The rates at the banks in my area suck unless you have a decent amount of savings (yes, including the CUs). I know Capital One doesn't have the best APY, but I've heard their credit cards are beginner friendly and there are no fees or minimums. I just got off the phone with a customer service rep and was told I would need to complete my application at a physical location. However, the nearest cafe is 3 1/2 hours away in a major city...making the trip would be a huge pain in the ass for a number of reasons.

My question is: will I HAVE to establish credit before a bank will approve my application online? Or would I have better luck if I wait a bit, since I recently opened my own (non joint) checking account? In other words, do I need to open a credit card at a local bank before getting approved for a savings account at an online bank?

I’m just coming out of a ~2 month dry spell, which sucked because I’m a full time student working minimum wage and I heavily rely on side gigs to get by.

The past week has been nonstop studies in the $9-20/hr range. And I’m not complaining…but it’s currently 4pm. I’ve been staring at this damn computer screen doing back to back studies since 8am. Normally by now I would’ve at LEAST gone to the gym, eaten 2 meals, and cleaned the house. But I physically can’t pass up a study with a good pay rate. Because what if this is my last week before another 4 weeks of absolutely nothing?? Can’t take that chance.

The scarcity mindset has me in a chokehold. Prolific is lowkey ruining my life and my sleep schedule right now, but at least I’m making money right?😵‍💫😵‍💫

this is my first time sending/requesting money through paypal and i’m confused about a couple things. the fees page says there is no fee for “personal transactions” if paid through linked bank account or paypal balance/debit. it also says there’s no fee for receiving these transactions. however, before requesting money from a family member (clicked send/request button on app and searched her phone number), paypal says “If you're requesting money for a purchase, you'll pay a seller fee when pays you.”

what does requesting money for a purchase mean?? will i get charged a fee? paypal defines this as a payment “initiated from the "Friends and Family" tab of the "Send Money" flow” but i did not click any of those buttons and cannot find them. then it’s also defined as a payment that is “not for the purchase of goods or services”. how do they know that…? i was never prompted to specify if it was for friends/family or good/services.

also, i read the FAQ on the whole paypal .me link thing and im still confused about the difference. mine is not set up. is there a difference in fees, or is it just a more convenient way to request money? can people see my transaction history this way like on Venmo?

sorry if these are stupid questions but can someone explain like i’m 5? the person im requesting from is also not great with technology so ill probably have to explain how it works from her end too. i have a personal account not a business account. also, all of my transactions are through my PayPal debit if that matters.

i was diagnosed with BPD about a month ago. i’ve been looking back on my texts with my ex trying to get some clarity, and somehow i’m just now realizing how emotionally abusive i was. i always knew the relationship(my only one) was extremely toxic, we were both super young (14-17) and trauma bonded. i only realized how abusive my parents were and how bad my mental issues were months after we broke up. since then, i’ve always felt guilty about constantly acting like her problems were so much worse than mine. i just thought we both hurt each other equally. but jesus christ. that is so far from the truth. her “hurting me” was mostly me hurting from my own mental illness. i’m the one who drained the life out of her and constantly pushed her to a breaking point. i’m completely responsible for her suffering.

yeah she had issues, but i abused her. i’m abusive. i’m so disgusted with myself i don’t know how to move on. i dont deserve a place in society. i’m no different than my parents who ruined me. she was young and impressionable with no support system, and i took advantage. i probably damaged her for life. the whole self forgiveness thing cannot apply here. it’s unforgivable.

one of my posts here about approaching my treatment optimistically and letting go of my suicidal tendencies recently blew up. i was so ready to transform and do the hard work. its not that im discouraged from making that happen, it just seems selfish now. people act like suicide is always a poor choice. i don’t even want to. but i feel obligated. all i’ve ever wanted is to make the world a better place. i think this is the only way to make that happen.

I just started 50mg 5 days ago for hormonal acne, but I also deal with PMDD and was hoping spiro would help with some of those symptoms as well. I experience suicidal ideation ~5 days before my period each cycle, then once I get my period it's like a switch flips in my brain and I'm normal again. It's extremely helpful to know where I'm at in my cycle for this reason.

As I understand it, late periods are usually caused by delayed ovulation--meaning, the luteal phase is almost always around the same length. My periods are often late due to stress, but if I know when I last ovulated, it's pretty easy to estimate when my period will come. However, my period is currently 16 days late. I'm pretty sure I ovulated around the 4-5th... which means my period should've come around the time I started spiro. I keep waiting for my period to come and it won't. I feel like crap.

My periods are usually pretty short and mild, so I don't mind them very much. But I am a bit worried about how the menstrual irregularities caused by spiro will impact my mood/PMDD symptoms over the next few months. The most an OB or derm will tell you is that it may cause "irregular cycles", but I'm curious about how it impacts hormonal fluctuations specifically. I just want a general idea of what I should expect. Can anyone share their experience with this?

i’m 19 and started remembering a year ago. i’ve been in and out of dissociation— it’s the only way i can survive in this house, but i can’t progress in DBT (for BPD) without facing reality, plus denial is what keeps me stuck. right now i’m exiting a 4 month long dissociative period and freaking tf out. i can’t believe i still live here.

i cant keep pretending my dad didn’t rape me.he works in a fucking school. idk who to tell or how to tell them. i tried telling my mom but she’s too deep in denial. i don’t have solid memories of the abuse but i have memories of clear indicators of CSA, plus evidence(????) in my medical records. i have no idea how “reporting” works, what type of evidence is needed, or if it would even help my situation right now.

i’m still unemployed. i dropped out of community college and don’t know how to explain my employment gap. idk where to move—i wish i could go out of state but i don’t feel capable. i have the life skills of a 12 year old. my mom offered to pay for a 1br but im scared it’ll be weaponized against me somehow or suddenly revoked leaving me stranded with no safety net. i don’t have anyone to stay with.

sorry for the word vomit, i just don’t know where to start. i was researching moving out in february but got overwhelmed with everything i need to learn to do myself. my parents sabatoge any progress i make towards independence so i have to be discrete(currently trying to secretly open a new bank account and P.o. box). i’m only stable and functional (eating, working out, showering, normal sleep schedule, etc) while housesitting, so holding down a job feels impossible rn. i would really appreciate any help or advice🙏

so you’re telling me… the entire surgical staff abandons their patients for the night to attend a prom in the hospital basement…including denny, who just underwent major heart surgery…?

then denny flatlines and not a single person is there to try and save him…because they’re all at the prom?? and he just dies alone???? and they tell izzy there’s nothing anyone could’ve done????

ik it’s a tv show but i can’t believe i never noticed how stupid this whole plotline was in my first watch lmao