i’m so paranoid that i sent one by accident and didn’t realize cus im always accidentally doing clicking random shit on my phone. i keep seeing people saying they accidentally sent one, but don’t you have to click the instants button then click the shutter? does it give some type of confirmation?
I wish the categories on Vinted were more like Depop. Why is there no option for low rise or wide leg? And why can’t you select multiple categories?
Or like with the dresses category for example, you can choose mini, midi, or maxi dress as the category. But then there’s also summer/winter, strapless, casual/formal, etc. What if I had a casual strapless mini summer dress? I think you should be separate categories for length, occasion, style and sleeve length so it’s easier to search.
I never know which category I should pick. Have yall found that some categories get more exposure than others? Like if you had a cropped tank top, would you chose crop tops or tank tops?
throughout my life, my weight has dramatically fluctuated and my eating has always been disordered. i started lifting and dieting about 4 years ago with the goal of losing fat and gaining muscle. i’ve had past success with a calorie deficit and eating my body weight in grams of protein, but i could never stay consistent. i always ended up in a restrict/binge/purge cycle and/or filled my diet with highly processed diet foods that wreaked havoc on my health.
about a year ago, i decided to stop tracking and prioritize whole foods. when shopping, i now chose the options with the cleanest ingredients and least amount of added sugar rather than the least amount of calories and highest amount of protein. i started to structure my meals by food groups (kind of like the food pyramid) instead of calories and macros. i imagine a plate divided into 3 sections - 1/2 source of protein, 1/4 fruits or vegetables, and 1/4 starches/grains. i can apply this logic to more than just portions of food on a literal plate. for example, you could fill half of a bowl with greek yogurt or ultra-filtered milk, and the other half with fruit and plain cheerios or granola. or modify a sandwich to have more meat than bread, whole grain bread for added protein and nutrients, kale or spinach instead of lettuce, and a side of carrots or celery instead of chips. this eliminates the need for measuring or weighing, allowing me to rely on visual estimates. i also use muscle soreness after lifting to gauge if i’ve been eating enough protein.
initially, this change was me “giving up” on my body goals. i expected to lose muscle and gain some fat back and made peace with that sacrifice. shockingly, ive actually been gaining muscle and losing fat at a faster rate than i was while tracking. not only that, but i FEEL so much better both physically and mentally. im no longer chronically bloated, fatigued, or unmotivated. my mood is elevated. my skin is glowy and mostly clear instead of dull, oily, and breaking out. i’m finally able to occasionally indulge in junk food without binging. i no longer constantly think about food. i don’t feel guilty after every meal anymore. i rarely ever snack or have the desire to. i eat when i feel hungry, and stop when i feel full. food no longer controls my life.
i’ve always thought intuitive eating was just some bullshit fantasy that health influencers use to sell their courses while they track in secret. turns out it’s not! i still slip up every once in a while, but it’s a hell of a lot easier to come back from now. just thought i’d share incase it helps someone :)
i got my period today, and for the first time ever i wasn’t expecting it. i know my period is about a week away once the little red dots and big pustules start taking over my face. they pop up right on time every single month no matter what products i use, how much i sleep, what i eat, or how much makeup i wear. but that never happened this month. i figured i just ovulated late. that was the only explanation i could fathom. now i know that’s not true. im starting to think the tretinoin is actually working.
ibefore starting tret, i tried adapalene. my skin mostly cleared within first 2 weeks, then got worse and worse and worse. i waited 7 months for the “better” part but it never came. my first 2 weeks on tret were similar, then i broke out like crazy. up until a week ago, i’ve been convinced this is adapalene part 2 and that i’ll end up on acutane. it’s only been 10 weeks and i still have acne so i don’t want to get my hopes up…but i’m feeling a bit more optimistic now 🤞
just did a study called “word memory recall task” by kahana lab. as the directions mentioned, the whole point of the study is to assess peoples’ memories. after filling out all of the demographic info i was asked to listen to a list of words and recall them to the best of my ability as a practice round before the real thing. i have a horrible short-term memory and im pretty sure i forgot some of the words or listed them in the wrong order. a message then quickly flashed on the screen (didn’t have time to read it fully) basically telling me i failed the attention check and to return the study. i didn’t even screen out pay or anything.
seems like a stupid way to measure attention lol. especially considering it’s a literal memory recall study…
today i randomly remembered my family’s “wood day” and i can’t believe i never saw a problem with this until now. i don’t remember many details because of my ptsd, but ik my 2 siblings and i were woken up early a few times each summer (80-90 degrees) to prepare firewood for winter. we were forced to carry heavy piles of firewood from the back of my dads truck to our hatchway (around 100 ft distance), then down the stairs to the basement where we would stack it. i also vaguely remember having to take turns splitting it with an axe..?? once his truck was empty he’d go pick up another load. this lasted all. day. long. and we needed permission to take a break. i remember nearly passing out from heat exhaustion, getting yelled at for complaining and waking up sore the next day. of course my dad was excused from the labor because he “paid for it”. we must’ve been around 6, 8, and 12y/o when it started and we were all super tiny/skinny.
i don’t remember what else we were forced to do besides “wood day” but ik we had to earn our free time through various “chores” as kids. it’s so surreal being grown and remembering the things i knew to be normal as a kid and just now realizing how wrong it all was…i can’t belive how brainwashed i am.
5 Minutes ago, I had hundreds of these studies on my dashboard. I reserved my spot and left to do something else. When I came back my reservation had expired and now my dashboard is completely empty. Did I just screw myself over..?
I stopped posting consistently around October and just started again about 2 weeks ago but I’m still not getting any likes or offers. If you went on a long hiatus and got “shadow banned”, how many days did it take for your shop to start gaining traction again?
Im currently living with my nparents. 2 months ago, I I convinced my mom to get a divorce and thought things were changing. I did the thing I always do and tried to fix our relationship. Things seemed different. The abuse stopped. She started recognizing my dad’s narcissistic tendencies. I told myself we were healing each other. I even opened up about my dad’s SA hoping she’d immediately take action to protect me (she didnt, just gaslit me of course). Like always, I ended up responsible for managing her behavior. She wants me to instruct her on how to improve, but isnt receptive to criticism. I put in so much effort that it drains me, while she sneakily stops giving any. I never notice this until it blows up in my face, which happened 2 weeks ago. Once that mask came off, I finally realized that she’ll never change. I told her I’m done for good.
I’m still looking for an apartment, trauma therapist, and another job on my own. My parents are offering to temporarily pay my rent, which I know is risky. But my dad hoards his wealth and they both owe me more than money could make up for. There is nothing either of them could say or do to make me feel guilty for accepting it. This is the ONLY type of assistance I’m going to accept moving forward.
But my mom keeps texting me like “Do you want me to help you find somewhere to stay?” “Do you want me to move out with you?” “Should I ask [coworker] about job opportunities for you?” “Do you want help looking for a therapist?” “Please give me another chance. I want to help you.” This might seem innocent but it feels like a trap. I know she’s full of shit. She wants an apartment for herself but won’t admit it. I told her I have no desire to live with her, even though my subconscious is screaming that I can’t survive on my own. I was trained to rely on unreliable people. She rarely followed through on her offers in the past. I don’t think it’s healthy for me to anticipate help that I’ll never receive or waste my energy tutoring her on how to be a decent person. But I do need the help.
Why can’t she just actually help instead of constantly asking for my permission? What is her goal here?? I don’t understand. If she actually wants to help me, why can’t she just find an apartment THEN show me? Why can’t she talk to her coworker first THEN let me know if an opportunity comes up? Why can’t she just SHOW me that she cares if she wants another chance so bad?? Is she just trying to feel better about herself? Is it a control thing? Idek how to respond to her anymore. What should I do?