u/Responsible_Oil1975

I’ve been dating this guy for about a month. We’ve been hanging out at each other’s houses, cuddling, hugging and acting like a couple, he texts me everyday to ask how my day was, but there’s no label. I’ve also met all his friends and family.

I had a brain injury 4.5 years ago when I was 11, I'm now 16 and still not the same. I lost my friend group by the time I was 13 and developed really bad social anxiety. My personality completely changed because of the injury so I can't really blame them. I still had two friends left, my sister and I's childhood best friends. One is a year older than me and the other is two years older than me (same age as my sister).

Well, I don't even know if I can consider them my friends anymore. One is extremely popular and off drinking with her friends every weekend, she laughed at me once because I don't have great control of my bladder after my injury and when I drink anything I have to pee every 5 minutes and can't hold it and we don't really have anything in common anymore. The other one still talks to me, but it's not the same. He has a big friend group and they don't like hanging out with younger grades, his friends act bothered when I'm in their presence, so I just stopped trying. I'm not invited to any of their hangouts.

My sister really tries to include me, but only two of her friends like having me around. I've tried making new friends, but it hasn't gone well. I've made four in the last year, two got really mad at me for missing a group project at school when I was really sick and couldn't get out of bed, one became my boyfriend, and the other was talking to my boyfriend's ex and giving her information about me. That didn't end well...

I feel second best with everybody. My boyfriend is great, but I just want to have my girlfriends back. I want somebody to like the new, broken me. I've tried making friends at school too, but I'm not there enough to really make friends. I do my work in a separate quiet room, go home during breaks to sleep and miss a lot of school in general because my head is so unpredictable. This fucking sucks

I had a brain injury 4.5 years ago when I was 11, I'm now 16 and still not the same. I lost my friend group by the time I was 13 and developed really bad social anxiety. My personality completely changed because of the injury so I can't really blame them. I still had two friends left, my sister and I's childhood best friends. One is a year older than me and the other is two years older than me (same age as my sister).

Well, I don't even know if I can consider them my friends anymore. One is extremely popular and off drinking with her friends every weekend, she laughed at me once because I don't have great control of my bladder after my injury and when I drink anything I have to pee every 5 minutes and can't hold it and we don't really have anything in common anymore. The other one still talks to me, but it's not the same. He has a big friend group and they don't like hanging out with younger grades, his friends act bothered when I'm in their presence, so I just stopped trying. I'm not invited to any of their hangouts.

My sister really tries to include me, but only two of her friends like having me around. I've tried making new friends, but it hasn't gone well. I've made four in the last year, two got really mad at me for missing a group project at school when I was really sick and couldn't get out of bed, one became my boyfriend, and the other was talking to my boyfriend's ex and giving her information about me. That didn't end well...

I feel second best with everybody. My boyfriend is great, but I just want to have my girlfriends back. I want somebody to like the new, broken me. I've tried making friends at school too, but I'm not there enough to really make friends. I do my work in a separate quiet room, go home during breaks to sleep and miss a lot of school in general because my head is so unpredictable. This fucking sucks

Is Carleton or UOttawa better for biomedical engineering? I’ve heard great things about Carleton’s engineering program, but UOttawa has a med school so I’ve also heard good things about their biomed engineering program.

I'm going to a weekend camping thing with a bunch of other teens and idk what songs to learn for it. I'm the guitarist of the group, so give me some ideas. They have to be semi well known songs bc everybody coming has different music taste.

I (16F) started becoming friends with these two guys (both 15M) a few months ago. We met through an extracurricular and got along super well. I'm not an extroverted person and it's pretty rare that I make a new friend, I usually stick to my two very close friends.

Well, fast forward to last month, guy #1 (lets call him Cole) asked me out. He had broken up with his gf a couple weeks before. We have been going on dates since and it's been going really well. Guy #2 (lets call him Jim) seemed to get a little distant in the last month. We weren't texting as much and he has been leaving me on delivered a lot, which is not like him.

A couple weeks ago, Jim texted me randomly and said "your eyes are the prettiest I've ever seen, they're so vibrant". I just said thank you and went on with my day, but last week Cole's ex-girlfriend and Jim hung out (they are not friends). Suddenly she knew some information about me that is not posted on my social media and she wouldn't know unless she was friends with me. I know she was hurt about their breakup and has been trying to get information from me and my sister.

Yesterday I texted Jim about our extracurricular and he started asking me a bunch of questions. It kind of felt like an interview and some were kinda personal (about my health), but I didn't really think that much of it because Jim knows a little bit about my chronic illness. Jim has also gotten a little distant with Cole, which is weird because they are close friends.

I'm starting to think Jim is telling the ex-girlfriend stuff about me and I'm kind of concerned. Jim's parents thought that me and Cole were a thing well before we started dating, even though they knew he had a girlfriend that wasn't me.

Now I’m thinking I might have to pull back on my friendship with Jim. I thought he was a good friend, but then this happened…

Me and the guy I’m dating have hung out about 5 times alone. We’ve been friends for a while and he asked me out. So far we’ve hugged, cuddled and held hands, but we haven’t kissed yet. He invited it last time, but I didn’t feel 100% ready. When did you kiss your SO for the first time?

As the title says. This is my first relationship and I don’t know how this whole thing works, I’m still figuring it out. We were cuddling for a couple hours the other day and he grabbed my hand and moved it to his belt. I’m not sure if he was insinuating something, but we haven’t even kissed yet. I moved my hand to his hip and he didn’t try anything, but yeah…

I’m in high school and between applying for biomedical or aerospace engineering or physiotherapy. The problem is, I’m interested equally in both. I don’t think I’d like a 9-5 office job like my parents do and a lot of the engineering jobs in my area are like that. I definitely don’t want to be sitting all day.

Reasons for engineering: I like solving problems, I like building things, I LOVE math and I find engineering fascinating.

Reasons for PT: I want to help people, I enjoy science, I like the idea of owning my own practice and having flexible hours.

Another thing that is steering me away from engineering is that it’s male dominated. I took an intro technological education class last year and the entire class aside from me and another girl were guys. The guys were assholes and made me never want to take another tech class.

TL;DR should I choose engineering or PT?

I’m in high school and between applying for biomedical or aerospace engineering or physical therapy. The problem is, I’m interested equally in both. I don’t think I’d like a 9-5 office job like my parents do and a lot of the engineering jobs in my area are like that. I definitely don’t want to be sitting all day.

Reasons for engineering: I like solving problems, I like building things, I LOVE math and I find engineering fascinating.

Reasons for PT: I want to help people, I enjoy science, I like the idea of owning my own practice and having flexible hours.

Another thing that is steering me away from engineering is that it’s male dominated. I took an intro technological education class last year and the entire class aside from me and another girl were guys. The guys were assholes and made me never want to take another tech class.

I’m in high school and between applying for biomedical or aerospace engineering or physical therapy. The problem is, I’m interested equally in both. I don’t think I’d like a 9-5 office job like my parents do and a lot of the engineering jobs in my area are like that.

Reasons for engineering: I like solving problems, I like building things, I LOVE math and I find engineering fascinating.

Reasons for PT: I want to help people, I enjoy science, I like the idea of owning my own practice and having flexible hours.

I’m in high school and between applying for biomedical or aerospace engineering or physical therapy. The problem is, I’m interested equally in both. I don’t think I’d like a 9-5 office job like my parents do and a lot of the engineering jobs in my area are like that.

Reasons for engineering: I like solving problems, I like building things, I LOVE math and I find engineering fascinating.

Reasons for PT: I want to help people, I enjoy science, I like the idea of owning my own practice and having flexible hours.

I have a couple family events coming up and I don’t know if I want to go. I feel like they always end in me being asked a ton of intrusive questions, someone saying that I need to laugh more and I’ll be fine or commenting on how sick I look. It feels like I’m just the family gossip and then I want to go home and cry. I get so overstimulated and every corner I go, someone wants to talk about my injury.

My close family really wants me to go and I want to go to see them, but I can’t stand the questions, comments and symptoms.