u/Sheniya04

So me and my situationship have been hooking up for almost a year. We bith have told each other that we have feeling for each other and want to be together its just not the best time for each others lives and we both understand.

The last time we hooked up it was a little different. When I got there we went straight to it and it was so good but we were doing extra things that we didn't do before and we were going slow and passionate. One thing that was definitely different was that when we was in missionary he had his chest to mine and he never did that he would usually kiss my kneck or just watch my reaction to what he was doing. Another thing that was different was that we cuddled and fell asleep after wards. We usually stay up and talk but this time we cuddled. For me that was a good feel cause I love to cuddle I always cuddle my stuff animals when I sleep.

Am I over thinking that the last time we had sex was a little different.

Another thing he never says the word fuck he always refers to it as sex. Does that mean something?

So me and my situationship have been hooking up for almost a year. We bith have told each other that we have feeling for each other and want to be together its just not the best time for each others lives and we both understand.

The last time we hooked up it was a little different. When I got there we went straight to it and it was so good but we were doing extra things that we didn't do before and we were going slow and passionate. One thing that was definitely different was that when we was in missionary he had his chest to mine and he never did that he would usually kiss my kneck or just watch my reaction to what he was doing. Another thing that was different was that we cuddled and fell asleep after wards. We usually stay up and talk but this time we cuddled. For me that was a good feel cause I love to cuddle I always cuddle my stuff animals when I sleep.

Am I over thinking that the last time we had sex was a little different.

Another thing he never says the word fuck he always refers to it as sex. Does that mean?

So me and my situationship have been hooking up for almost a year. We bith have told each other that we have feeling for each other and want to be together its just not the best time for each others lives and we both understand.

The last time we hooked up it was a little different. When I got there we went straight to it and it was so good but we were doing extra things that we didn't do before and we were going slow and passionate. One thing that was definitely different was that when we was in missionary he had his chest to mine and he never did that he would usually kiss my kneck or just watch my reaction to what he was doing. Another thing that was different was that we cuddled and fell asleep after wards. We usually stay up and talk but this time we cuddled. For me that was a good feel cause I love to cuddle I always cuddle my stuff animals when I sleep.

Am I over thinking that the last time we had sex was a little different.

Another thing he never says the word fuck he always refers to it as sex. Does that mean something?

I live in Florida and I have a type which is white or Hispanic/ latin men and I don't know what apps are best to use to find these men. Drop some please 🙏🏾

I live in Florida and I have a type which is white or Hispanic/ latin men and I don't know what apps are best to use to find these men. Drop some

I live in Florida and I have a type which is white or Hispanic/ latin men and I don't know what apps are best to use to find these men. Please drop some below where I don't have to pay extra.

Conversation between me and my year long situationship

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Me 23 F him 26 M

Me: Hi I want to talk to you

Us: walking for some privacy, we sit down

Me: fidgeting cause I'm nervous

Him: come on and tell me you know you can talk to me. Come on

Me: I just want us to be friends.

Him: His face looked like a broken heart 💔

Me: You didn't do anything wrong. You have been very respectful to me even through our ups and down. But i don't want to keep waiting are to see where this will go.

Him: still looking hurt

Me: I really care for you and want to be with you but I dont want to keep guessing

Him: I understand, I don't think you should have to wait for me either. I know im going through alot and I want to be with you but I just dont think right now with everything that is going on in my life I can give you the relationship you deserve.

Him: I know i am the problem and not you.

Me:No you are not the problem your getting i just don't want to jeep guessing when cause i really care for you and like you so much.

Me: Abd when you told (my friend) thay you dont think im mature enough to be in a relationshio with you espicaly dunce you have a daughter you was right im not mature enough. I never been in a Relationship, I never had a boyfriend and your the first guy I actually have liked and I dont want to add more stress onto you.

Him:hmmm while looking at me speaking

Him: I care for you so much also

Him: If you find someone i hope they treat you the way that you deserves and is very respectful to you and loves you.

Him: And if you don't find anyone I hope later on we can revist are felling for each other and see if something is still there.

Him: Come on "pulls me into a hug"

Me: Hugging him tight

Him: it's going to be okey ill talk to you later \* walkes away

Me:Starts crying a little.

Edit: I talked to him and told him I said i wanted to be friends out of fear. He said he understood.

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I [23 F] and him [26 M]

I need yall thoughts on this.

So I have started new med's for my ADHD called venlafaxine. It has given me many symptoms. Lately I have been Impulsive, hostile, aggressive, and been showing reckless behaviors with my anger. I have noticed it but thought I was overthinking it but i wasn't. The other day my guy from the post above called me and asked what is going on with me. He kept asking, so I asked him what do you mean then he said "whats going on with you, you haven't been the same for the past few months you've been acting angry and not the same as you were before. So tell me what's been going on you've been acting angry towards (my boss) been lashing out and many other things". I told him I talked it out with my boss and what happened with my friend. So he said " as you're friend i am telling you that i have noticed your anger and its affecting you" so we ended the call.

For me I have noticed that he has been acting different towards me and now i know why. I really care for him and i don't want to loose him. I plan on talking to him and explaining it was my med's but i don't know what to say. We have been going through a lot in each of our lives and our relationship also.

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I texted him and said thank you he said " For what" and I replied with "Talking to me the other night and asking what up with me.People don't do that to me they just say fuck her and ghost me. No one really cares. So thank you." For me this meant alot to me because no one has ever actually asked me what's wrong they usually just ghost me.

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So I want your advise on how i should talk to him about my meds effecting me.

I [23 F] and him [26 M]

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I need yall thoughts on this.

So I have started new med's for my ADHD called venlafaxine. It has given me many symptoms. Lately I have been Impulsive, hostile, aggressive, and been showing reckless behaviors with my anger. I have noticed it but thought I was overthinking it but i wasn't. The other day my guy from the post above called me and asked what is going on with me. He kept asking, so I asked him what do you mean then he said "whats going on with you, you haven't been the same for the past few months you've been acting angry and not the same as you were before. So tell me what's been going on you've been acting angry towards (my boss) been lashing out and many other things". I told him I talked it out with my boss and what happened with my friend. So he said " as you're friend i am telling you that i have noticed your anger and its affecting you" so we ended the call.

For me I have noticed that he has been acting different towards me and now i know why. I really care for him and i don't want to loose him. I plan on talking to him and explaining it was my med's but i don't know what to say. We have been going through a lot in each of our lives and our relationship also.

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I texted him and said thank you he said " For what" and I replied with "Talking to me the other night and asking what up with me.People don't do that to me they just say fuck her and ghost me. No one really cares. So thank you." For me this meant alot to me because no one has ever actually asked me what's wrong they usually just ghost me.

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So I want your advise on how i should talk to him about my meds effecting me

Edit: I'm slowly getting off the meds. I got my meds decrease to get off them

I 23 F and him 26 M have been in a situationship for almost a year now.

I need yall thoughts on this.

So I have started new med's for my ADHD called venlafaxine. It has given me many symptoms. Lately I have been Impulsive, hostile, aggressive, and been showing reckless behaviors with my anger. I have noticed it but thought I was overthinking it but i wasn't. The other day my guy from the post above called me and asked what is going on with me. He kept asking, so I asked him what do you mean then he said "whats going on with you, you haven't been the same for the past few months you've been acting angry and not the same as you were before. So tell me what's been going on you've been acting angry towards (my boss) been lashing out and many other things". I told him I talked it out with my boss and what happened with my friend. So he said " as you're friend i am telling you that i have noticed your anger and its affecting you so tell me whats going on with you" so we ended the call.

For me I have noticed that he has been acting different towards me and now i know why. I really care for him and i don't want to loose him. I plan on talking to him and explaining it was my med's but i don't know what to say. We have been going through a lot in each of our lives and our relationship also.

I texted him and said thank you he said " For what" and I replied with "Talking to me the other night and asking what up with me.People don't do that to me they just say fuck her and ghost me. No one really cares. So thank you." For me this meant alot to me because no one has ever actually asked me what's wrong they usually just ghost me.

So I want your advise on how i should talk to him about my meds effecting me.

I [23 F] and him [26 M]

You can read the post first then come back.

I need yall thoughts on this.

So I have started new med's for my ADHD called venlafaxine. It has given me many symptoms. Lately I have been Impulsive, hostile, aggressive, and been showing reckless behaviors with my anger. I have noticed it but thought I was overthinking it but i wasn't. The other day my guy from the post above called me and asked what is going on with me. He kept asking, so I asked him what do you mean then he said "whats going on with you, you haven't been the same for the past few months you've been acting angry and not the same as you were before. So tell me what's been going on you've been acting angry towards (my boss) been lashing out and many other things". I told him I talked it out with my boss and what happened with my friend. So he said " as you're friend i am telling you that i have noticed your anger and its affecting you" so we ended the call.

For me I have noticed that he has been acting different towards me and now i know why. I really care for him and i don't want to loose him. I plan on talking to him and explaining it was my med's but i don't know what to say. We have been going through a lot in each of our lives and our relationship also.

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I texted him and said thank you he said " For what" and I replied with "Talking to me the other night and asking what up with me.People don't do that to me they just say fuck her and ghost me. No one really cares. So thank you." For me this meant alot to me because no one has ever actually asked me what's wrong they usually just ghost me.

​

So I want your advise on how i should talk to him about my meds effecting me.

I [23 F] and him [26 M]

You can read the post first then come back.

I need yall thoughts on this.

So I have started new med's for my ADHD called venlafaxine. It has given me many symptoms. Lately I have been Impulsive, hostile, aggressive, and been showing reckless behaviors with my anger. I have noticed it but thought I was overthinking it but i wasn't. The other day my guy from the post above called me and asked what is going on with me. He kept asking, so I asked him what do you mean then he said "whats going on with you, you haven't been the same for the past few months you've been acting angry and not the same as you were before. So tell me what's been going on you've been acting angry towards (my boss) been lashing out and many other things". I told him I talked it out with my boss and what happened with my friend. So he said " as you're friend i am telling you that i have noticed your anger and its affecting you" so we ended the call.

For me I have noticed that he has been acting different towards me and now i know why. I really care for him and i don't want to loose him. I plan on talking to him and explaining it was my med's but i don't know what to say. We have been going through a lot in each of our lives and our relationship also.

​

I texted him and said thank you he said " For what" and I replied with "Talking to me the other night and asking what up with me.People don't do that to me they just say fuck her and ghost me. No one really cares. So thank you." For me this meant alot to me because no one has ever actually asked me what's wrong they usually just ghost me.

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So I want your advise on how i should talk to him about my meds effecting me.

1-What are your thoughts on black women dating white men.

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2- Another question what is your thought on black women who date every other race except black men but have nothing against black men they just grew up around them all they life and tend to find other races more attractive.

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I want to know yall opinion. Me and my friends where talking about this the other day and we had many thoughts on this subject. We both find all races attractive. We have seen some women talk down on other women who are black and are dating a white man or a Hispanic man and not a black man even if they have dated more black men then any other race.

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Please droo you thoughts below and please be respectful.

Me(23 F). My boss ( 31 M) decided to go to a guy that I'm cool with at work that works on a whole different shift then me we see each other for only 5 minutes for 1 day out of the week. He is just a joking guy he jokes with everybody male or female. So he decided to go up to him one day and said "hey[my name] you know what they say one you go black..." and my coworker didn't like this and neither did i because he did this months ago and he went to him saying how bad I want him and how much I want to fuck him only because I said he was cute and had a little butt. He just ignore him any time he said that clap to him.

Fast forward to 2 weeks ago he said "hey[my name] you know what they say once you go black..." then I called my coworker "friend" to see why he said that cause they be talking and flirting all the time and she didn't know why. So the next day her and another coworker went in to talk to him saying that he shouldn't have said that cause everyone dosent take things the way he would. He ask to talk to me then said " I'm sorry for saying that I was just joking with him, so I apologize for saying that BUT I know what I see, I watch everything. I just want yall to be careful. ME: Were just friends HIM: continues to say that he knows what's go8ng on." I just stand there and listen. So from then on I didn't act the same with him and he noticed. So the coworkers that talked to him brought him up and i said Fuck that Bitch. And he heard me that that. I said this cause i was still mad that he went around saying that about me cause ever since I was younger I have been on the thicker side when it comes to my butt and people assume I'm getting F*** becasue my butt is big.

Fast forward to this week he has been in a bad mood and been go8ng off on everyone. So he was talking to the coworker and said I'm not doing nothing for (me) anymore, he's not going to fix my schedule when it is messed up and he is not going to approve my days i want off anymore. He also told one of my Mangers to watch me so he can find something to coach me or try and get me fired. I have been keeping my distance to not give him any ammo. My "friend" has been acting off with me The past few weeks she been working with someone else and since then she doesn't act the same she literally stop texting me everyday once she started working with him and not me. And today I was getting backed up in my area where we both work but she is with the other coworker. So I asked for help cause I was backed up and she gave me attitude saying she can't do that right now so I just went back to my area. Then she came over a few minutes later and when she started to help me she started to throw things around and it was just annoying me the way she was and has been acting.

I am getting tired of people always looking at my reaction from something but not what caused it. I am still young so I know i am going to go through this my whole life. I am also getting tired of people switching up on me cause they don't agree with everything I do.

My boss decided to go to a guy that I'm cool with at work that works on a whole different shift then me we see each other for only 5 minutes for 1 day out of the week. He is just a joking guy he jokes with everybody male or female. So he decided to go up to him one day and said "hey[my name] you know what they say one you go black..." and my coworker didn't like this and neither did i because he did this months ago and he went to him saying how bad I want him and how much I want to fuck him only because I said he was cute and had a little butt. He just ignore him any time he said that clap to him.

Fast forward to 2 weeks ago he said "hey[my name] you know what they say one you go black..." then I called my coworker "friend" to see why he said that cause they be talking and flirting all the time and she didn't know why. So the next day her and another coworker went in to talk to him saying that he shouldn't have said that cause everyone dosent take things the way he would. He ask to talk to me then said " I'm sorry for saying that I was just joking with him, so I apologize for saying that BUT I know what I see, I watch everything. I just want yall to be careful. ME: Were just friends HIM: continues to say that he knows what's go8ng on." I just stand there and listen. So from then on I didn't act the same with him and he noticed. So the coworkers that talked to him brought him up and i said Fuck that Bitch. I said this cause i was still mad that he went around saying that about me cause ever since I was younger I have been on the thicker side when it comes to my butt and people assume I'm getting F*** becasue my butt is big.

Fast forward to this week he has been in a bad mood and been go8ng off on everyone. So he was talking to the coworker and said I'm not doing nothing for (me) anymore, he's not going to fix my schedule when it is messed up and he is not going to approve my days i want off anymore. He also told one of my Mangers to watch me so he can find something to coach me or try and get me fired. I have been keeping my distance to not give him any ammo. My "friend" has been acting off with me The past few weeks she been working with someone else and since then she doesn't act the same she literally stop texting me everyday once she started working with him and not me. And today I was getting backed up in my area where we both work but she is with the other coworker. So I asked for help cause I was backed up and she gave me attitude saying she can't do that right now so I just went back to my area. Then she came over a few minutes later and when she started to help me she started to throw things around and it was just annoying me the way she was and has been acting.

I am getting tired of people always looking at my reaction from something but not what caused it. I am still young so I know i am going to go through this my whole life. I am also getting tired of people switching up on me cause they don't agree with everything I do.

My boss decided to go to a guy that I'm cool with at work that works on a whole different shift then me we see each other for only 5 minutes for 1 day out of the week. He is just a joking guy he jokes with everybody male or female. So he decided to go up to him one day and said "hey[my name] you know what they say one you go black..." and my coworker didn't like this and neither did i because he did this months ago and he went to him saying how bad I want him and how much I want to fuck him only because I said he was cute and had a little butt. He just ignore him any time he said that clap to him.

Fast forward to 2 weeks ago he said "hey[my name] you know what they say one you go black..." then I called my coworker "friend" to see why he said that cause they be talking and flirting all the time and she didn't know why. So the next day her and another coworker went in to talk to him saying that he shouldn't have said that cause everyone dosent take things the way he would. He ask to talk to me then said " I'm sorry for saying that I was just joking with him, so I apologize for saying that BUT I know what I see, I watch everything. I just want yall to be careful. ME: Were just friends HIM: continues to say that he knows what's go8ng on." I just stand there and listen. So from then on I didn't act the same with him and he noticed. So the coworkers that talked to him brought him up and i said Fuck that Black Bitch( that's his code name). We're both black

Fast forward to this week he has been in a bad mood and been go8ng off on everyone. So he was talking to the coworker and said I'm not doing nothing for (me) anymore, he's not going to fix my schedule when it is messed up and he is not going to approve my days i want off anymore. He also told one of my Mangers to watch me so he can find something to coach me or try and get me fired. I have been keeping my distance to not give him any ammo. My "friend" has been acting off with me The past few weeks she been working with someone else and since then she doesn't act the same she literally stop texting me everyday once she started working with him and not me. And today I was getting backed up in my area where we both work but she is with the other coworker. So I asked for help cause I was backed up and she gave me attitude saying she can't do that right now so I just went back to my area. Then she came over a few minutes later and when she started to help me she started to throw things around and it was just annoying me the way she was and has been acting.

I am getting tired of people always looking at my reaction from something but not what caused it. I am still young so I know i am going to go through this my whole life. I am also getting tired of people switching up on me cause they don't agree with everything I do.

Conversation between me and my year long situationship

Me \[23 F\] him \[26 M\]

Me: Hi I want to talk to you

Us: walking for some privacy, we sit down

Me: fidgeting cause I'm nervous

Him: come on and tell me you know you can talk to me. Come on

Me: I just want us to be friends.

Him: His face looked like a broken heart 💔

Me: You didn't do anything wrong. You have been very respectful to me even through our ups and down. But i don't want to keep waiting are to see where this will go.

Him: still looking hurt

Me: I really care for you and want to be with you but I dont want to keep guessing

Him: I understand, I don't think you should have to wait for me either. I know im going through alot and I want to be with you but I just dont think right now with everything that is going on in my life I can give you the relationship you deserve.

Him: I know i am the problem and not you.

Me:No you are not the problem your getting i just don't want to jeep guessing when cause i really care for you and like you so much.

Me: Abd when you told ( my friend) thay you dont think im mature enough to be in a relationshio with you espicaly dunce you have a daughter you was right im not mature enough. I never been in a Relationship, I never had a boyfriend and your the first guy I actually have liked and I dont want to add more stress onto you.

Him:hmmm while looking at me speaking

Him: I care for you so much also.

Him: If you find someone i hope they treat you the way that you deserves and is very respectful to you and loves you.

Him: And if you don't find anyone I hope later on we can revist are felling for each other and see if something is still there.

Him: Come on "pulls me into a hug"

Me: Hugging him tight

Him: it's going to be okey ill talk to you later \* walkes away

Me:Starts crying a little.

Conversation between me and my year long situationship

Me [23 F] him [26 M]

Me: Hi I want to talk to you

Us: walking for some privacy, we sit down

Me: fidgeting cause I'm nervous

Him: come on and tell me you know you can talk to me. Come on

Me: I just want us to be friends.

Him: His face looked like a broken heart 💔

Me: You didn't do anything wrong. You have been very respectful to me even through our ups and down. But i don't want to keep waiting are to see where this will go.

Him: still looking hurt

Me: I really care for you and want to be with you but I dont want to keep guessing

Him: I understand, I don't think you should have to wait for me either. I know im going through alot and I want to be with you but I just dont think right now with everything that is going on in my life I can give you the relationship you deserve.

Him: I know i am the problem and not you.

Me:No you are not the problem your getting i just don't want to jeep guessing when cause i really care for you and like you so much.

Me: Abd when you told (my friend) thay you dont think im mature enough to be in a relationshio with you espicaly dunce you have a daughter you was right im not mature enough. I never been in a Relationship, I never had a boyfriend and your the first guy I actually have liked and I dont want to add more stress onto you.

Him:hmmm while looking at me speaking

Him: I care for you so much also

Him: If you find someone i hope they treat you the way that you deserves and is very respectful to you and loves you.

Him: And if you don't find anyone I hope later on we can revist are felling for each other and see if something is still there.

Him: Come on "pulls me into a hug"

Me: Hugging him tight

Him: it's going to be okey ill talk to you later * walkes away

Me:Starts crying a little.

Edit: I talked to him and told him I said i wanted to be friends out of fear. He said he understood.

Conversation between me and my year long situationship

Me [23 F] him [26 M]

Me: Hi I want to talk to you

Us: walking for some privacy, we sit down

Me: fidgeting cause I'm nervous

Him: come on and tell me you know you can talk to me. Come on

Me: I just want us to be friends.

Him: His face looked like a broken heart 💔

Me: You didn't do anything wrong. You have been very respectful to me even through our ups and down. But i don't want to keep waiting are to see where this will go.

Him: still looking hurt

Me: I really care for you and want to be with you but I dont want to keep guessing

Him: I understand, I don't think you should have to wait for me either. I know im going through alot and I want to be with you but I just dont think right now with everything that is going on in my life I can give you the relationship you deserve.

Him: I know i am the problem and not you.

Me:No you are not the problem your getting i just don't want to jeep guessing when cause i really care for you and like you so much.

Me: Abd when you told ( my friend) thay you dont think im mature enough to be in a relationshio with you espicaly dunce you have a daughter you was right im not mature enough. I never been in a Relationship, I never had a boyfriend and your the first guy I actually have liked and I dont want to add more stress onto you.

Him:hmmm while looking at me speaking

Him: I care for you so much also.

Him: If you find someone i hope they treat you the way that you deserves and is very respectful to you and loves you.

Him: And if you don't find anyone I hope later on we can revist are felling for each other and see if something is still there.

Him: Come on "pulls me into a hug"

Me: Hugging him tight

Him: it's going to be okey ill talk to you later * walkes away

Me:Starts crying a little.