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I know I left coldly and quietly. I carried a lot of resentment about how you handled things, especially because I felt betrayed, written off, and constantly overcorrected against a framing. Treated like I'm incapable of the basics of what I had done so much of. I saw you as a coward. It was very conflicting for me because I had once held so much appreciation for you. At that place, I felt a kind of disgust I haven't felt before. I didn't understand it at first, but I knew I couldn't be with you anymore. We became too misaligned and continuing with you felt degrading.

My resentment for you has lived in me. I overcome it and then when I falter it creeps back. You are the person I hate the most. You are also one of those I am forced to appreciate the most. You gave me my foundation. But you also broke me. You used me and tossed me aside like I'm nothing when you felt pressured

I miss you my sweet A. You are the most warm, grounded, cool, and beautiful woman I know.

I loved being around you. I never wanted it to end. My soul hadn't felt the peace it had with you in many years.

You were the light in the darkness I was stuck in. Every bad day was made good by your presence.

I left a company after an incredibly degrading 1.5 year period at the end of my 3 year tenure.

I was constantly talked down to, left out of conversations, work overlooked, and under resourced as a way to make things difficult for me and me only.

I performed very well despite it all and left when the slander and constant attacks felt unmanageable against an assortment of stress buildup in my personal life. It was an incredibly stressful time all around my life.

I worked with some of the most abrasive, condescending, and non collaborative people who I see celebrating their promotions, thanking each other, so full of positive wording and all, knowing how they treated me like shit and pushed me to quit while benefiting immensely from my work and time. I didn't want to leave, I had invested so much time and energy there, I wanted to work well with them, but I became the target.

I've done a lot since I left . I grown in many ways and have really built myself up, however I still find myself pissed off and ruminating over my time with people who probably don't even remember me after all that shit. Me leaving was just good riddance.

How do I let go? I feel like I need to move to the other side of the country and start over. I hate where I live. The chances of running into someone is near zero, but I feel too tied to that period.

I had an old boss that handled a tough situation I was in, in the most degrading and humiliating way possible. Making it worse for herself and everyone while writing me off as the problem.

I wish I confronted things instead of just walking away and quiting. So much unsaid.

So I can vibe well with a girl and become good friends. But it's hard for me to shift the vibe to something more flirty.

How do I do it? I guess I just need to be a little bold and take the lead

She was perfect to me, an angel. Then one misunderstanding and she turns faces. Constantly switching them, one moment toxic then the next warm. As if it was completely acceptable and normal.

I was young, immature, too nice. I just adjusted around it, emasculated.

I had to leave it, I couldn't keep my self respect if I stayed with her. I couldn't hate her. I couldn't yell at her. I couldn't confront it, because I felt betrayed. She had my trust and my loyalty completely and just shat all over it like it was nothing.

To live is to slowly learn. To learn is to slowly die.

To live is to slowly learn. To learn is to slowly die.

Hey, so I've been dating a bit casually lately. I also don't want to mislead or be unfair to someone if I'm not ready to see a long term future in them.

Typically after how many dates should one do an assessment of what they want in the relationship? And make a decision about being open to others

Been dating this new girl. We're weirdly alike and compatible in vibes. I'm not over my ex though so I have been hesitant to invest emotionally

So I'm 32 and have never been in a serious relationship. I've been with girls and have dated before, but unless it's organic its usually awkward (like if through an app). Like comfort is not something I have by default all the time.

I'm meeting a girl through an app later. How do I be good?

So I'm 32 and have never been in a serious relationship. I've been with girls and have dated before, but unless it's organic its usually awkward (like if through an app). Like comfort is not something I have by default all the time.

I'm meeting a girl through an app later. How do I be good?

I was humilated by leadership I trusted years ago. Written off, work erased, and constantly talked down to like I'm a moron. I hate her.

I absolutely resent her heavily. I don't know what to do.

Not that I don't believe in being clean all the time, but this particular day before a first date, my place is not worthy.

I am also quite busy, so not sure how much I should clean. I'm not really trying to bring her back, but like, you never know the vibes.

I'm a 32 year old guy from a large family (grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, 2nd cousins). Growing up we were all pretty connected, saw each other regularly, holiday get togethers, same church, attended family events, etc.

In my late teens and early 20s I went through a rough period. I struggled badly in college and relationships, felt humiliated by it, became very withdrawn, and spent years focusing on rebuilding my life. During that time I gradually stopped showing up to family events, holidays, church, group chats, etc.

There wasn't a huge fight or dramatic falling out. I just stopped participating and became hyper focused on my own life (as if they weren't part of it).

The thing is, I always assumed people viewed me negatively. I felt like I was the screw up, the awkward one, the one who didn't have his life together. Looking back, I think a lot of resentment built up because I felt misunderstood and judged, even if nobody was explicitly saying much. I was always the weird kid, the dumb one.

Fast forward 10+ years and now I barely know some of my relatives. My cousins got married, had kids, built lives, and I missed most of it. My parents and siblings stayed connected to everyone, but I largely disappeared.

Part of me feels like people probably took my absence personally and assumed I wanted nothing to do with them. No one ever reached out. I went through my entire adult life, so many chapters, completely separately. I bought my own place and moved out years ago too. No one knows anything.

I don't miss them, as I don't really know them anymore and my life as I know it now hasn't really included them in 10+ years. If I I get married who do I invite from my family? Would they even show up?

I know I have family, but there's no relationship. I feel weird about it, but not sad since there is no emotional connection at this point.

I want to bring condoms to a date, just in case. How do you typically bring them to make sure they don't get damaged?

I feel like I have a lot of great stories and experiences, but struggle to share them socially in a way that's not awkward or non engaging.

It's like I'm sharing it as an independent anecdote than having a conversation. How do I tell stories and let the other person feel more engaged and interested and part of the conversation?

I especially mean this in the context of dates or even just new friends.

I feel like I have a lot of great stories and experiences, but struggle to share them socially in a way that's not awkward or non engaging.

It's like I'm sharing it as an independent anecdote than having a conversation. How do I tell stories and let the other person feel more engaged and interested and part of the conversation?

I especially mean this in the context of dates or even just new friends.

I had a great job. Great work, great people, great office, great leadership, and great momentum. I was promised a promotion and simultaneously got another offer for a much higher compensation package.

I knew I wasn't being pushed to leave, but I still decided to negotiate to see if the promotion can happen earlier. They said they can hold it for me for a few months, but I still tried to push for at least a raise, but they didn't meet my request. If they gave me even a little bit, I would've stayed, I wanted to. For nothing else but pride, I left with the new offer.

My new job is so bad. Barely any work, involvement, unclear scope, leadership gaps, boring social environment, and what's more, it's misaligned with my career trajectory. I expected something else. I'm sad. The money wasn't worth it

I had a great job. Great work, great people, great office, great leadership, and great momentum. I was promised a promotion and simultaneously got another offer for a much higher compensation package.

I knew I wasn't being pushed to leave, but I still decided to negotiate to see if the promotion can happen earlier. They said they can hold it for me for a few months, but I still tried to push for at least a raise, but they didn't meet my request. If they gave me even a little bit, I would've stayed, I wanted to. For nothing else but pride, I left with the new offer.

My new job is so bad. Barely any work, involvement, unclear scope, leadership gaps, boring social environment, and what's more, it's misaligned with my career trajectory. I expected something else. I'm sad. The money wasn't worth it