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Okay so I saw a book where the dude already have one wife and then due to some "life death" circumstances , (which only comes in this hero life) the only way out of the situation for him was to get MARRIED to another girl ON HIS OWN ANNIVERSARY. Now ik it's my fault to even try to read such crap but ig curiosity kills the kitty .

Now this guy doesn't tell his first wife anything about this and try to act all tough by saying I will educate you and you can leave . And this stupid girl , instead of agreeing for a golden chance to build her career and marry someone else starts crying about her fate how she will never get love of her husband . GIRL!.

But I can't believe how people were hating on the first wife , they were judging continuosly the first wife cuz she asked her husband for a gift on her aniversary and was pissed how he didn't came on thier aniversary , instead of caring where he might have been since last night .

Like please now you are expecting the first wife to not be pissed on basic thing too . Audience is crap I swear , glorifying cheating and "innocence" of second girl . I see nothing innocent of this second girl and the husband is absolutely disgusting painted as a hero . Like these guys be full romancing without knowledge of first wife . And audience is like divorce the first , she's rude , gold digger , only keep sati savitri second girl .

Girl please , showing normal wifey things are now being panted as bad to highlight the "mahanta" of other girl , who's nothing but irrtating , there's no enough for her , always wanting more and more , no consideration for feelings of other women .

Anyways I couldn't read past 15 chapters , I would gladly read for fun if comments were bashing the pair but instead they were supporting which irrtated me to the point . And this book had views in millions like fuck off , what kind of crap is being sold .

Okay so I saw a book where the dude already have one wife and then due to some "life death" circumstances , (which only comes in this hero life) the only way out of the situation for him was to get MARRIED to another girl ON HIS OWN ANNIVERSARY. Now ik it's my fault to even try to read such crap but ig curiosity kills the kitty .

Now this guy doesn't tell his first wife anything about this and try to act all tough by saying I will educate you and you can leave . And this stupid girl , instead of agreeing for a golden chance to build her career and marry someone else starts crying about her fate how she will never get love of her husband . GIRL!.

But I can't believe how people were hating on the first wife , they were judging continuosly the first wife cuz she asked her husband for a gift on her aniversary and was pissed how he didn't came on thier aniversary , instead of caring where he might have been since last night .

Like please now you are expecting the first wife to not be pissed on basic thing too . Audience is crap I swear , glorifying cheating and "innocence" of second girl . I see nothing innocent of this second girl and the husband is absolutely disgusting painted as a hero . Like these guys be full romancing without knowledge of first wife . And audience is like divorce the first , she's rude , gold digger , only keep sati savitri second girl .

Girl please , showing normal wifey things are now being panted as bad to highlight the "mahanta" of other girl , who's nothing but irrtating , there's no enough for her , always wanting more and more , no consideration for feelings of other women .

Anyways I couldn't read past 15 chapters , I would gladly read for fun if comments were bashing the pair but instead they were supporting which irrtated me to the point . And this book had views in millions like fuck off , what kind of crap is being sold .

Girls , my breast is decent to small size , I feel every jiggle it get and always self conscious that no one notice , I always try to wear extremely loose clothes , under clothes , I wear bras and camisole , most of the time I purchase bras smaller than my size but it feels suffocating and pain in my chest , I wana wear loose normal fitting bras , but I never find right size , I wana ask if I find my right fit , will it stop the jiggle , do men and women really notice these things or is it just me overthinking?

Girls , my breast is decent to small size , I feel every jiggle it get and always self conscious that no one notice , I always try to wear extremely loose clothes , under clothes , I wear bras and camisole , most of the time I purchase bras smaller than my size but it feels suffocating and pain in my chest , I wana wear loose normal fitting bras , but I never find right size , I wana ask if I find my right fit , will it stop the jiggle , do men and women really notice these things or is it just me overthinking?

So I haven't read any authentic book as of now , just watched Mahabharat on tv and saw how pandus lost and draupadi become the salve or dasi . One question that arises in my mind is that were dasis of that time were treated like that . Would the justice have been served in the same way if ut was any other dasi going through the humiliation , like draupadi ? Ik dasis weren't given respect like queen but still that amount of humiliation for a dasi wasn't that big deal or what ? Cuz they keep saying now you are our dasi , so you can't do such things to a queen but a dasi is fine . Can someone clear this or is it just made up thing by tvs

So I haven't read any authentic book as of now , just watched Mahabharat on tv and saw how pandus lost and draupadi become the salve or dasi . One question that arises in my mind is that were dasis of that time were treated like that . Would the justice have been served in the same way if ut was any other dasi going through the humiliation , like draupadi ? Ik dasis weren't given respect like queen but still that amount of humiliation for a dasi wasn't that big deal or what ? Cuz they keep saying now you are our dasi , so you can't do such things to a queen but a dasi is fine . Can someone clear this or is it just made up thing by tvs

Not the Mahabharat ones , I don't prefer romance with any mythological characters . I just want a simple time travel romance where the female lead goes back in time , something like vikramsamhita , one of fav book , so of anyone if you read / write book like that please do suggest , I am dying to read that and wattpad search engine is shit

I always see people putting forward an argument that "girls don't marry poor guys but rich guys marry poor girl"

First of all in normal societal settings no one marry people way out of thier societal status . Like you don't see a very rich person marrying into very poor families . Arrange marriage setup don't allow that in the first place .

Second , you ain't doing a "charity" by marrying someone with less money . That's the decision you made , no one told you to go and marry her . It's better for her to marry someone with less money than someone who treat her like charity anyways . People always keep blaming women for choosing someone with money but will support the arrange marriage system , that's the major supporter of choosing groom solely based on his societal status , HYPOCRISY.

If you want to marry a women with money and power , go on , who's stopping you ? Even your parents will be most happy in that case . But again how will you oppress her then . The male ego wouldn't allow that ig . If you really married her out of love , then you wouldn't be whining about her status or expecting her to worship you just because you have more money . And if you do expect then it wasn't love in the first place . You married her for authority and obedience that can feed your ego. So she don't have a safety net and can walk out of the marriage any time .

So please come out of the delusion that you helped her , no, it's your selfishness disguised as being goody good . It isn't like you gonna let her sit peacefully in your home , you will make her do household work day and night and tend to your parents . Even the in laws who say "hume to bass ek gareeb ldki chiye jo sanskari ho" [ we just want a cultured poor girl ] are nothing but hypocrites. It's charity disguised as exploitation . And let's not forget dowry that they demand .

All in all , if marrying poor girl irks you so much , that you have to announce it regularly , you never married her for love . It was for your own selfish gains , that you wana disguise in the mask of goodness of a man . A man who really fights society to marry his love irrespective of societal boundaries would never keep reminding her that I did some favour by marrying you .

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So I was reading an Indian time travel romance and left as if the "time travel" tag doesn't justify the stories . I am interested in time travel romance specially indian ones but all the books I have read till now disappointed me .

Why?

The female lead enters the past and blends so perfectly in past era like it feels so unrealistic . You show show readers her struggles in blending with past era , that's the fun I keep searching for in time travel romance and rarely get . Like I wana see how a 21st century girl manages in say some ancient india . The values , the structures , culture , language def will be world apart .

There's so much to explore in these kinda stories . Plus I wana see the reaction of ancient people to modern women . It would be so fun and adventurous to read . There should be other things too besides obvious romance .

You just introduced the 21st century in beginning fee chapters of book and it disappeared like it never existed , thereafter it's just historical romance . I can understand when it's about when a girl gets teleported inside a ancient women body and she have powers of her , so it's kinda understable that why she is blending properly

But where she gets in another era with herself , it makes no sense and takes away the fun of reading time travel romance tbh . I do appreciate the authors who take thier time to write stories they work so hard and love them for it . I do acknowledge that and by no means want any ill of thier books . I did enjoy the cute romance they write and lead pair they create.

It's just I feel disappointed when such a beautiful stories forgets thier core theory , they can explore a lot through these tropes and make it amazing.

It's just my opinion as a reader . If anyone here writes smtg like I stated do comment your book name .

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So I was ready an Indian time travel romance and left as if the "time travel" tag doesn't justify the stories . I am interested in time travel romance specially indian ones but all the books I have read till now disappointed me .

Why?

The female lead enters the past and blends so perfectly in past era like it feels so unrealistic . You show show readers her struggles in blending with past era , that's the fun I keep searching for in time travel romance and rarely get . Like I wana see how a 21st century girl manages in say some ancient india . The values , the structures , culture , language def will be world apart .

There's so much to explore in these kinda stories . Plus I wana see the reaction of ancient people to modern women . It would be so fun and adventurous to read . There should be other things too besides obvious romance .

You just introduced the 21st century in beginning fee chapters of book and it disappeared like it never existed , thereafter it's just historical romance . I can understand when it's about when a girl gets teleported inside a ancient women body and she have powers of her , so it's kinda understable that why she is blending properly

But where she gets in another era with herself , it makes no sense and takes away the fun of reading time travel romance tbh . I do appreciate the authors who take thier time to write stories they work so hard and love them for it . I do acknowledge that and by no means want any ill of thier books . I did enjoy the cute romance they write and lead pair they create.

It's just I feel disappointed when such a beautiful stories forgets thier core theory , they can explore a lot through these tropes and make it amazing.

It's just my opinion as a reader . If anyone here writes smtg like I stated do comment your book name .

Starting with mine , it's my lips , they are pretty thin , I did all I could , from massage to anything but they are just like that , I can't even apply lipstick properly so I stopped applying anything at all , my friends used to make fun of me that "how do you apply lipstick" , so I quit it cuz I don't want any unnecessary attention on my lips , add to that my crooked teeth make them look more ugly , even my ex crush years back made fun of me for this, he said "did someone cut off your lips?" , leave all that even my best friend compared me to a monkey , and it hurt a lot , A LOT . But I would just laugh it off as I didn't want to make a scene . Also I am scared if I told someone my insecurity , they will poke me more with it so I keep mum .

All these affected me so much , that I don't see my face in mirror at all , I avoid taking selfies or photos . I don't tell anyone about my insecurity cuz it sounds kinda pathetic for me to accept that I thing lowly of my body . My gallery is empty , no photos of mine . I deleted everything on my own . I remember each and every word they said years back . It still affects me . I don't dress nicely as I feel what's the point when I am gonna look bad as always .

I laughed it off at thier face but cried at night . As I grew , things didn't change , I just got more immune to this , I just built my walls higher . But inside the walls , the situation is still same , atp I just wana protect myself from further damage . New insecurities keep popping up as I am growing mature . Idk if I will ever be able to feel normal about my body or I have to make peace with this situation of mine . I am too weak and tired of fighting my insecurities and it mentally drains me , so I accepted that I am not pretty , I accepted all the jokes thrown at me as my reality and it does bring bit peace in my heart rather than fighting it .

Let's talk about women in villages . I have spent a part of my childhood in my grandparents village and am still in touch with what happens there through my mother and grandparents . What I have observed is that , most of the friends I made there , "prefered" marriages over career .

But is this really their preference?

I have seen them talk highly of marriages , though I never heard them saying anything ill about career but what I know is that they consider education to be tougher than getting married . I feel things would have been different if they were given opportunities to study in cities . I strongly believe , it's the village's environment , that cultured this thought that studying is difficult . It need is , not denying , but the perks of being independent makes it all worth it .

That's the thing , these women are told that path of education is difficult but aren't made aware of the perks associated with it . So a naive mind would definitely prefer what's best according to what they are told .

A women is born in some random village of India , she's brought up seeing girls getting married after attaining legal age , she somewhere in her mind accepts that this will be her reality . Because her parents don't have enough money to send her for higher studies ( but enough money to get her married) , now she might be thinking what's the point of working so much for studies , if after 12th they gonna get her married .

She isn't made aware about the independent women life , and have never seen any . This lack of exposure shuns her dreams , she was never made to dream about having a job , so most commonly her dream is marriage , which she sees more often . The bright and beautiful lehenga , a better house than her current one , everything seems more beautiful to her . And what's the "fees" she need to pay for all this ? Just work , that too lesser than what she's doing right now in village .

Her parents made sure to make her work extra so that she feels her life's easy at her in laws home . This is pretty beneficial deal for her .

Now if the same women was born in a city , her parents most probably would have sent her in a school , in the school she would have got a competitive environment , it pushes her to perform well , she gets exposure , she learns , she has a choice to make .

While in village , she knows all routes ends on marriage . She was never made aware of both the worlds and then given choice . I myself have seen women in thier 40s hoping for their own money , and I am proud of those , who are putting thier best foot forward to get independent . For example , ik some aunties who have pretty good skills of sewing and knitting and they got connected to some ngo and are now earning , some are making paper handbags for groceries and selling them via these ngos etc.

This shows that no women will deny her own money if given a chance , even a women in her 40s is ready to work for her own money . So definitely "choosing" marriage wasn't their own choice , but a whole system behind it to let them believe , it was their choice . They were never given another option to choose from in the first place , to be called as her own choice .

They don't "prefer" , it's what's the best they have seen , it's the only option they have .

Let's talk about women in villages . I have spent a part of my childhood in my grandparents village and am still in touch with what happens there through my mother and grandparents . What I have observed is that , most of the friends I made there , "prefered" marriages over career .

But is this really their preference?

I have seen them talk highly of marriages , though I never heard them saying anything ill about career but what I know is that they consider education to be tougher than getting married . I feel things would have been different if they were given opportunities to study in cities . I strongly believe , it's the village's environment , that cultured this thought that studying is difficult . It need is , not denying , but the perks of being independent makes it all worth it .

That's the thing , these women are told that path of education is difficult but aren't made aware of the perks associated with it . So a naive mind would definitely prefer what's best according to what they are told .

A women is born in some random village of India , she's brought up seeing girls getting married after attaining legal age , she somewhere in her mind accepts that this will be her reality . Because her parents don't have enough money to send her for higher studies ( but enough money to get her married) , now she might be thinking what's the point of working so much for studies , if after 12th they gonna get her married .

She isn't made aware about the independent women life , and have never seen any . This lack of exposure shuns her dreams , she was never made to dream about having a job , so most commonly her dream is marriage , which she sees more often . The bright and beautiful lehenga , a better house than her current one , everything seems more beautiful to her . And what's the "fees" she need to pay for all this ? Just work , that too lesser than what she's doing right now in village .

Her parents made sure to make her work extra so that she feels her life's easy at her in laws home . This is pretty beneficial deal for her .

Now if the same women was born in a city , her parents most probably would have sent her in a school , in the school she would have got a competitive environment , it pushes her to perform well , she gets exposure , she learns , she has a choice to make .

While in village , she knows all routes ends on marriage . She was never made aware of both the worlds and then given choice . I myself have seen women in thier 40s hoping for their own money , and I am proud of those , who are putting thier best foot forward to get independent . For example , ik some aunties who have pretty good skills of sewing and knitting and they got connected to some ngo and are now earning , some are making paper handbags for groceries and selling them via these ngos etc.

This shows that no women will deny her own money if given a chance , even a women in her 40s is ready to work for her own money . So definitely "choosing" marriage wasn't their own choice , but a whole system behind it to let them believe , it was their choice . They were never given another option to choose from in the first place , to be called as her own choice .

They don't "prefer" , it's what's the best they have seen , it's the only option they have .

I am legit frustrated about how it's always women being blamed . There was a murder news on you tube , where a women was murdered by her live-in partner , and when I went through the comment section , it was bad , like most of the comments were about how the female is to be blamed ," girls nowdays have bad choice in partner" ," aur jao live in me "[sarcastically saying , go to live in now], "ldkiyon ko sirf bad boys psnd ate hai "[girls like only bad boys]," our sanskar are dying " "ajkl ki ldkiyon ko kya ho gya hai?"[what happened to girls these days?]etc . Very few comments showing empathy to the victim or criticising the guy , THE CRIMINAL .

And it's a common pattern , like I understand when it's the female who is the criminal , but when she's victim no matter what happened with her , she's the one that will be dragged , why aren't you questioning the criminal , where are his sanskar ?

But , hold on ...

here comes the hypocrisy , when the guy is victim like in case of alimony , or say got murdered by her female partner , I almost never see the comments about his choice of partner , why not "ajkl ke ldko ko sirf bad girls psnd ati hai "[guys these days like only bad girls] , "his fault ki usne esi ldki se shadi ki "[it's his fault he got married to such a girl]"ajkl ke ldko ko kya ho gya?",[what happened to guys these days?] "aur kro esi ldkiyo se shaadi" [sarcastically saying keep marrying such girls], (I don't support victim blaming in either case ) , in cases like these , the masses sympathise with the male victims .

but whenever a girl getting problems with her boyfriend , husband of her own choice , live in , she is always targeted . Again , this is just my own personal observation . I can be wrong too . Victim blaming , irrespective of gender , is disgusting thing imo , like point your fingers towards criminals not victims . Choice of partner can be wrong , doesn't justify criminals . It's not like ki , tumne choose kiya tha ye shi hua iske sath [it's not like if someone chose a wrong partner , whatever happened with them is justified], NO , it should be shaming the criminals for thier actions not shaming victims .

I am legit frustrated about how it's always women being blamed . There was a murder news on you tube , where a women was murdered by her live-in partner , and when I went through the comment section , it was bad , like most of the comments were about how the female is to be blamed ," girls nowdays have bad choice in partner" ," aur jao live in me "[sarcastically saying , go to live in now], "ldkiyon ko sirf bad boys psnd ate hai "[girls like only bad boys]," our sanskar are dying " "ajkl ki ldkiyon ko kya ho gya hai?"[what happened to girls these days?]etc . Very few comments showing empathy to the victim or criticising the guy , THE CRIMINAL .

And it's a common pattern , like I understand when it's the female who is the criminal , but when she's victim no matter what happened with her , she's the one that will be dragged , why aren't you questioning the criminal , where are his sanskar ?

But , hold on ...

here comes the hypocrisy , when the guy is victim like in case of alimony , or say got murdered by her female partner , I almost never see the comments about his choice of partner , why not "ajkl ke ldko ko sirf bad girls psnd ati hai "[guys these days like only bad girls] , "his fault ki usne esi ldki se shadi ki "[it's his fault he got married to such a girl]"ajkl ke ldko ko kya ho gya?",[what happened to guys these days?] "aur kro esi ldkiyo se shaadi" [sarcastically saying keep marrying such girls], (I don't support victim blaming in either case ) , in cases like these , the masses sympathise with the male victims .

but whenever a girl getting problems with her boyfriend , husband of her own choice , live in , she is always targeted . Again , this is just my own personal observation . I can be wrong too . Victim blaming , irrespective of gender , is disgusting thing imo , like point your fingers towards criminals not victims . Choice of partner can be wrong , doesn't justify criminals . It's not like ki , tumne choose kiya tha ye shi hua iske sath [it's not like if someone chose a wrong partner , whatever happened with them is justified], NO , it should be shaming the criminals for thier actions not shaming victims .