u/kwee3

Hi guys,

I am in Indiana and planning to leave my current position. I'm looking into new ones; haven't accepted anything yet, but I'm trying to think ahead.

I have intermittent leave due to severe migraines.

How would that work with a new employer? I don't want to be out too much and be fired, but the migraines are aggressive and prevention is still being figured out.

I did look it up on Google, I'm seeing mostly that I'd have to work for 1 year with most any employer to qualify. However, I was wondering if anyone here knew different.

I also know that policies at workplaces can be different.

Also, this may not sound like the best question - but do I bring this up during interviewing at all?

I am honest and like to be transparent, but I'm worried it will cripple my chances if I do mention it in an interview. I'm also not sure how I'd bring it up after being hired.

Hi guys. I got taken off of Trintellix.

I was on 10mg and did 2 weeks of 5mg, and stopped.

It sounds normal, but I've also been having a lot of work related complications and I'm being picked on and bullied. This doesn't help the whole coming off of anti depressants situation, either.

I do realize I've been way more paranoid about things lately than I should be.

I think I'm experiencing psychosis.

Two weeks ago, I raised my voice at a coworker who was baiting me into a reaction and it went south and got tense from there. Some coworkers have been picking and acting weird since then.

But I also think I may be experiencing heightened paranoia / psychosis.

Example: something I use to work with went missing. I never misplace these, I haven't in three years of working at my job. I looked at home, in my car, everywhere. They're nowhere.

I feel like someone may have taken them.

Has anyone experienced this? Please help. I'm scared.

Hi guys.

My workplace has been flagged for a visit from HR, due to multiple issues with misconduct (not following simple, common rules, sometimes) and bullying/clique situations.

We've been asked to think of two questions and come up with answers to them to discuss with the HR person:

What's working well at our location?

What do we need to improve on?

The what's working well is not what I'm worried about - it is the "what do we need to improve on" part. I have many comments but I'm not sure what's "appropriate" to put.

I have things such as -

Teamwork; specifically assisting others regardless of friendship status.

For management - reprimanding belligerent(can't think of another word) behavior, rather than expecting people to "work it out".

Right now, I even think suggesting a supervisor being in the area may be a good thing to improve on - as the bullying has gotten so out of hand and we do not have a supervisor in the room with us when things happen.

There are other smaller things I'm sure I can think of, but as I said - the reason she is coming is because this clique/bully behavior has gotten WAY out of hand.

Do you all have any suggestions (or ways to rephrase what I said) that won't start any arguments or seem aggressive?

Thanks for any feedback! I have never experienced this, so I am a bit lost.

Hi guys.

I feel almost shameful/guilty when I call off of work due to migraine.

I called in today due to having throbbing head pain last night.

I am having migraine symptoms tonight and feel the need to call off for tomorrow.

Is it odd to say "I haven't had a breakthrough in my migraine" or "I'm still having migraine symptoms"?

I always feel like they think I'm faking if I say "I have a migraine, I won't be in" twice in a row, because sometimes the symptoms do come and go throughout a few days. I don't know if they understand that part and I know I don't have to explain that to anyone.

I do have FMLA(so I suppose how I say it does not matter) - I just worry too much about what people think, unfortunately.

What do you all say, besides "I have a migraine"?

I have absolutely awful anxiety issues.

....

And I also have a coworker who has had awful, belligerent behavior for almost 2 years.

Before this, we were friends and she was fine. In hindsight, she actually was awful to other women in the workplace and constantly mentioned she hated working with women.

In July, she got into a political argument(she did turn it political - it wasn't at first) with my coworker and lumped me into the "to be hated" group, because I was in the room conversation with him at the time and he is also a friend outside of work/before I started this job.

Between July and December - her and I tried to remain cordial. I did nothing to her and she didn't do anything to me(she did talk a lot of shit about my coworker and I'm sure me - but never when I was present).

In December, it came to a head where I walked into our lab and locked eyes with her when she was talking about me.

Of course, I felt I had to address the issue instead of "backing down". Her and I argued.

She physically threatened me - stepped into my face and loomed above me in an intimidating manner.

A male coworker wedged himself in between to get her to back off.

Two witnesses were talked to by HR. HR wrote her up and I did not get written up, because I did nothing wrong.

Since then, it's been avoidance unless ABSOLUTELY necessary.

Wednesday, it came to a head again.

Right now, I'm coming off of antidepressants, so my emotions are very charged and my temper is flared.

She said something to provoke me and I shouted, "Stop it, I'm tired of your behavior. You're a grown woman. Grow up."

Left the room, cried, talked to management and left work.

Later, my coworker told me he heard her say she had a taser to someone.

This was reported to HR.

Needless to say - on top of regular anxiety, I have SEVERE anxiety now. I am fearful of going back in Monday. I've been anxious and fearful for months now because I know she will just bully and antagonize.

I'm tired of feeling so anxious and on edge.

I don't know what to do, I'm doing nothing to this woman at all. I never started an issue with her. I never provoked her. Nothing.

She will not leave me alone.

I am so, so exhausted of being afraid and anxious.

I really don't know what to do.

I've thought about leaving my jobs - she's the only con at my job, besides my boss not being willing to do anything about it.

Also, finding a job right now is very hard.

I'm just tired, you guys. 😭

My boss does not want to fire people. Period.

I don't know what his "line in the sand is", but HR has gotten onto us now so he is in big trouble and everything goes to them now.

This old woman, who has become intensely heinous since Nov. 2024, and I got into it Thursday because she loves to say things to provoke.

I'm coming off of antidepressants permanently, and she got me to raise my voice at her.

I didn't curse, scream, or approach her. I just told her "Stop it, I'm sick and tired of your behavior. Grow up."

And left the room to approach our manager in charge about it.

Later she claimed to another coworker that she carries a weapon at work, so she's "not worried about escalations".

Asked my boss if I can leave the room when she does this. I have to fill out paperwork for 'accomodations' just to be able to leave the room. Just for a few minutes.

Paperwork says:

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Do you have a doctor's note or some other form of documentation from a healthcare professional?

1. What are your restrictions and how long do you expect them to be in place?

I am requesting 30 breaks (after 6AM) when I feel anxious to "decompress". Duration: 3 months

2. How does your condition and the restrictions described in question 1 affect how how you your job?

I get anxious with heightened emotions and this may trigger migraines.

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My boss helped write this. I do have intermittent FMLA for migraines, so sure, that helps drive this to be stamped with approval.

But why the fuck do I have to do this?

He should have fired her months ago. Years ago.

This is insane.

Yes, I know I should quit. I shouldn't have to.

The job market is awful right now.

I'm exhausted with this.

Edit: She has mentioned this weapon before - when she didn't hate me and another coworker. She mentioned wanting one. It seems almost like she wants to provoke us into coming near her, because she does this 'snarky comment' shit so often, so she can have an excuse to do something..like use the weapon.

Hello,

A coworker of mine is becoming extemely toxic and listening to everything I say and making things up to report to my boss.

It is "anonymous", but I am aware that it is this one coworker for certain reasons.

I was telling a coworker I saw an ad this weekend for "pork butt" on a sign at a local grocer and I thought it was funny, I'd never seen it before. I got reported.

They lied and said I had an earbud in when I did not.

They have me under a microscope at all times and I don't know what to do. I feel harassed, but there's nothing I can do, because I have no concrete evidence that it's them.

I've already made myself so small to where I only speak when spoken to or when I'm amongst a friend.

What can I do, besides minimize myself even more than I already am?

*HR is already coming into our building at some point and is aware of the ever evolving drama going on.

I am just concerned with being essentially spied on.