u/sesameprawntoast50

20F immigrant wanting to join the armed forces. Came to this country when I was 6 and yeah I do love the country but idk if that's the reason for me wanting to join the armed forces...it's more that my life is boring. I've done nothing absolutely nothing, except go to school (now in Uni) and do that part-time job in retail. I've never ever done any extracurricular activity outside this. Didn't even travel outside going back to my birth country like maybe 3 times, never did anything outside my comfort zone. So 2 years ago I saw the reserve units in my town and this poster with a woman on it and I was like hmmm..... let me go and research on the RAF now.

And ever since I have this itch to join, but once again "comfort zone" comes in the way and I'm suddenly too anxious to apply and I'm back to the dead life I have.

But also what do I say when they ask me why I want to apply????? I won't just sit there and lie and say YESSSS YESSS I'M SO PATRIOTIC I WANT TO JOIN THE RAF AND SERVE. I am patriotic though....but I wouldn't say patriotism is driving me to join the RAF.

I will say though, if I join I will commit but idk if I'm going in with the right reasons

basically the title. I can't wait for the new episodes though. What's funny is when I was 15 I had a huge crush on Leopold. I rewatched the anime this year, and I can't help but feel weird lol, but this time I was like wowwwwwwww Leopold you go kid. Suddenly I am finding Sukehiro very "YAMYYYYYYYYY"......he's 28 and surely by the end he should be 29/30?

I moved to the UK when I was seven years old. I remember crying and feeling confused about why I had to leave my family, friends, and everything familiar behind. For the first few years, I missed my birth country a lot.

But gradually, that changed. Somewhere along the way, I stopped missing it because the UK became my home.

Regardless of why my parents originally moved here - which was mainly for work - it doesn’t change the fact that I grew up here. I went to school here, made friends here, formed most of my memories here, and essentially grew into the person I am here. England became home to me naturally.

For some reason, though, people seem to expect me to still feel a strong sense of patriotism or nationalism towards my birth country, and it comes up surprisingly often in everyday conversations. Sports are probably the easiest example. People sometimes expect me to support my birth country and seem genuinely surprised when I say I want England to win.

But why wouldn’t I? 😭 England is my home. I grew up here, so naturally I developed an attachment to this country. If England is playing, I’m sitting there going, YIPEEEE PLEASE ENGLAND WIN like anyone else supporting the country they feel at home in.

People also ask whether I miss my birth country. If you had asked me when I was eleven, I probably would have said yes. Now, though, I can genuinely say that I don’t. I’m comfortable here. I feel at home here. In fact, when I visit my birth country, after a while I start wanting to come back home - and by home, I mean England.

That doesn’t come from hatred or resentment towards the country I was born in. I don’t hate it at all. It’s a beautiful country with beautiful people, and there are plenty of things about it that I appreciate. I just don’t feel a strong sense of patriotism or nationalism towards it anymore, and I don’t really understand why people find that difficult to grasp.

At the same time, I absolutely embrace my ethnicity and culture. The culture I come from is incredibly rich - the food, music, traditions and so many other aspects of it are things I can appreciate and feel connected to. But embracing my ethnicity and culture doesn’t mean I have to feel patriotic towards the country itself, support its government, or consider it my home.

Those things aren't contradictory. I can love the culture I come from, appreciate the country I was born in, and still recognise that my sense of home and belonging developed somewhere else.

And England is home.

Idk whats going on with kids these days, and I am aware that there are always a few teachers who are really toxic and project their lack of authority in their private life on their professional life etc etc but cmon we can’t ignore teachers who are amazing human beings the ones who genuinely care about their students and are always seen going the extra mile.

They don’t deserve to be sweared at yelled at and disrespected. I can’t believe how kids as young as 12 will sit in a classroom blatantly disrespecting their teacher. I mean how does it even end at that stage? Even leaving 12 year olds outside of this, what about college and university professors ? They at least have adults in their lectures right, yet you’ll find so many adults just thinking it’s okay to disrespect the person teaching them. I’ve never ever understood this behaviour, I could never imagine disrespecting my teachers

No wonder there’s shortage of teachers in America and the UK, I’m not too sure about other places but yeah no wonder nobody wants to be a teacher or go into academia to teach, I’d never want to deal with such behaviours urgh.

So I'm not emotionally numb or anything like that, I do feel emotions and I am a very very emotional person but I'm just not able to be physically expressive and it's sort of like all the expressiveness stays in my mental state, it doesn't naturally come out and I have to often force myself to fake the happiness or excitement and lately I've been getting tired of faking everything but if I don't I dont know how I'd express what I mentally feel, because it just naturally doesn't come out for me. When I'm sad or angry I just shut myself out and I can't show it to anyone.....or say idk my boyfriend's really upset with me, in my mind I have all these things to say to him stuff like oh I love you so much please dont be upset with me I'll try to make it up to you and I'm really really really sorry I love you so much and I dont like seeing you upset ....but then I cant say this to him and I usually just sit silently and it looks like I dont care, sp then I just text him massive paragraphs the next day when he's at work becasue I wasn't;t able to express myself. I'm really sick of this. I dont know if im being clear enough or if anyone understands what im even on about.

So I'm not emotionally numb or anything like that, I do feel emotions and I am a very very emotional person but I'm just not able to be physically expressive and it's sort of like all the expressiveness stays in my mental state, it doesn't naturally come out and I have to often force myself to fake the happiness or excitement and lately I've been getting tired of faking everything but if I don't I dont know how I'd express what I mentally feel, because it just naturally doesn't come out for me. When I'm sad or angry I just shut myself out and I can't show it to anyone.....or say idk my boyfriend's really upset with me, in my mind I have all these things to say to him stuff like oh I love you so much please dont be upset with me I'll try to make it up to you and I'm really really really sorry I love you so much and I dont like seeing you upset ....but then I cant say this to him and I usually just sit silently and it looks like I dont care, sp then I just text him massive paragraphs the next day when he's at work becasue I wasn't;t able to express myself. I'm really sick of this. I dont know if im being clear enough or if anyone understands what im even on about.

It feels like I’m stuck in an empty room with no windows, the days just go by 2 days 4 days 1 week half a month 3 months. I don’t seem to realise when the days go by, it feels like I’ve seen somebody’s text/missed call and it’s just been a day when in reality it’s been 4 weeks and I’ve not replied. I’m so detached and it feels like I’m in a dream. I feel like a dead corpse. I’m unemployed it’s been 6 months, but I used to work part-time previously but it soon became overwhelming because of my mental health and I quit in a fit of emotions. I’m now really emotionally blank. I’m not motivated to perform daily routines or care for my hygiene. It’s really really hard and I feel like I can’t get out of this. I really want to grab my phone and ring my friends up with whom I’ve drifted off, but it’s like I have no energy even though I’m a living breathing human. I’m so drained. Usually when I’m physically sick/ill I have the energy to message my friends letting them know about my health or that I’d not be able to make it to hangouts (it’s been months since I’ve felt normal anyways so even that doesn’t happen now), but now i don’t have to energy to even reply. My best friend who’s also my cousin broke up with her boyfriend and I couldn’t be there for her I wasn’t there for her I didn’t even text her or call her. Idk how I’ll face her when I do text her. Everyone says “it takes 20 seconds” but how do I try to explain what I’m going through . I really want to text my friends call them hangout reply to their texts/calls because yes it really does take 20 seconds to reply to a text but I can’t even do that. And also tell me why I have the energy to type this entire paragraph and post it on Reddit instead of texting my friends….i feel so hopeless and I wish I were dead

Here’s what I’d love to see in Stardew Valley 1.7:

1. Add Willy to the telephone! He owns a shop too, and it’d be useful to check what bait and fishing supplies he has.
2. Let us order deliveries by phone. Imagine ordering Lucky Lunches from Gus and having them arrive the next morning because you’re too busy farming.
3. Spouses should continue their careers and actually leave the farmhouse instead of standing in a corner 😭 Give them routines similar to before marriage and dialogue about their work.
4. More daily dialogue in general! Especially after marriage and late-game friendship events.
5. Give the player a birthday. Your spouse, roommate and closest friends could visit or give you gifts.
6. Let Harvey give us a yearly medical check-up—and maybe a free Energy Tonic for surviving it.
7. Expand the beach. Most other areas have hidden or additional locations, while the beach feels quite simple. A new cave, fishing area or coastal path would be amazing.
8. Add at least one new crop, animal or artisan product.
9. Can I please Feed my Horse some fruits!!!! And win my horse's hearts !! Please.
10. Can I also feed my Cat some fruits??? Let us feed all our animals fruits/crops/forage it'd be so adorable

I’d also love children to have personalities, spouses to attend more festivals with you, more late-game quests and maybe a few new heart events for existing characters.

There’s honestly so much I could wish for 😂 What would everyone else want from the update? CA would shove me in the void with so many wishes

I made an appointment the first time around early June regarding my mental health and potential undiagnosed ADHD. I was meant to book a follow-up appointment to fill out forms for ADHD, Anxiety and Autism, and discuss medications and therapy for my low mood, I was meant to book this appointment for the same week. it's July 27th Now....this whole ordeal is SO SO OVERDUE. I'm scared my GP might ask why it took so long 😭. I just kept delaying it I didn't mean to. The days kept going by and soon it was a month and now it's almost 2 months I feel like I'm living in a simulation. I need somebody to force me to do it while they sit next to me URGH otherwise I never get anything done. Literally even in order to shower I need to call up a friend so I'm motivated but I can't burden the people around me constantly because it's not for them to carry it.

I’ve seen a lot of posts about students being investigated for academic misconduct, the restrictions around module-specific methods, and whether in-person exams or online proctoring should return.

It is deeply unfair when honest students face investigations lasting months, especially when many may not have intentionally cheated. Sometimes students use different notation, methods, sources or prior knowledge under exam pressure without realising that it could raise concerns. People on this subreddit and in Facebook groups should stop automatically assuming that every student under investigation deliberately used AI or cheated.

At the same time, I understand the OU’s position. As a distance-learning university, it has to protect the credibility of its qualifications, particularly now that AI can generate assignments, code, documents and highly convincing answers. Some professionally accredited modules already require proctoring for this reason. In-person exams are also expensive, while online proctoring has raised serious privacy and data concerns.

However, restricting students entirely to module-specific methods and notation is not a good long-term solution. I can mainly speak for mathematics and physics, as those are the subjects I study, but learning often involves using different approaches and applying knowledge from several sources. Being penalised for using a valid method simply because it was not taught within that specific module can limit genuine understanding.

Until the OU introduces a better system, students should be extremely careful to use module-specific methods, notation, referencing and materials wherever required. The OU should also urgently explore better options, such as using a more trusted proctoring provider, arranging external invigilators or local examination centres, or allowing students to choose between in-person and online arrangements where possible.

Students are paying more than £7,000 a year in some cases, which is only slightly less than the fees charged by many traditional universities. Flexibility is valuable, but it does not excuse prolonged investigations, unclear rules or unsuitable assessment systems. The OU needs to take these concerns seriously before more students begin questioning whether studying there is still worth the cost and stress.

It’s been half a year I’ve not been getting thoughts of wanting to leave, it’s been half a year I haven’t been planning on how to leave and it’s been half a year since I was admitted for my attempt. It’s been all around me all this while but I never noticed how much love I have around me, and how much full of life my future is.

I have parents who love me I have a brother who loves me I have my best friend who loves me I have friends who love me. I want to study so much I want to do a PhD someday I want to do a postgrad I want to study so much I want to write papers some day and I want to travel the world with my best friend I want to have kids of my own and I want to get married and I want to rescue animals and I want to garden and I want to watch my brother grow up to be the man I hope for him to be. I want to be with my parents and watch them grow old and live life.

I had so much when I attempted how could I have even done it??? I’m so stupid it was such a stupid thing to do I’m so scared as I write this because I would’ve not been here and that scares me to death. I want to live. I don’t want to leave. I’m so sorry to myself that I tried finishing off such a wonderful life that I have.

I’m currently getting help and I’m really really really grateful for the second chance. But I just wanted to express I’m really happy I’m here and I’m happy I get to live and I’m happy for my future and happy about all the things I can do!!!

I always chase money in every farm and I chase completing everything and treat it like a competition, I don’t think there’s been a single save where I’ve savoured the pelican town and took time to learn about the NPCs. 🌚🌚I always build 200 - 300 kegs and crystalariums for diamond farming. I literally end up putting stuff in the Quarry or next to the bus stop and it’s such a hassle and it becomes overwhelming really soon.

So now I’ve decided to step away from Capitalism as was intended by Grandpa, because I quite literally have turned into Joja Corporation 2.0. I’ve decided to go with the Forest Farm because it’s very cozy and Tiny, forces me to work with limited space. I’ll try to not chase completion and perfection and I’ll try to savour everything!!!!

Wish me luck guys, the next thing you know I start putting Pigs in every corner of my farm😫😫😫😫

EDIT: There was a user who posted a few days ago who put kegs or something in Linus’s Tent!!!!!! If you’re reading this post 😫😫😝I’m Now going to stop being a capitalist in pelican town Hahahahahahahah

I did my A-levels in 2024. I have grades E - Biology , C - Psychology. I failed my 3rd A level so that one doesn’t count anyways.

I’ve thought that this year I finally want to return to education. Am I eligible for any foundation Years? I have no clue into any of this and IDK how I’d even apply I don’t have an UCAS account anymore and I don’t have any references unless I go back to my college and ask for references. Idk how it’ll work.

I occasionally (TBH maybe a bit more) see player’s posting about how they play with their mum/dad or their Bf/gf/wife/husband or their close friends and I’m so jealous 🙄!!!!! My friends are not into games so I wouldn’t want them to spend £10 on The game for no reason considering we’re all broke Uni students lol. And I’m single asfffff so I don’t have a partner to play with. My dad will probably fall asleep playing the game and my mum hates games🌚AAAARGH UNIVERSE SEND ME SOMEONE WHOM I CAN GIVE A MERMAID PENDANT JEEZ

EDIT: How can I manipulate my parents into playing Stardew valley with me? 😰 emphasis on “Manipulate” *evil laughs*

I'm doing my undergrad in Mathematics and Physics and Have 2 years left. I am planning to do a Master's in Mathematics (Applied Math) ,Theoretical Physics , Astrophysics or Quantum Technologies/Physics. I have thought about Courses like Machine Learning/Data Science/AI as well. I don't know what career I'm looking for, but Tech is in my mind.

Would it be worth doing an AWS certification during my undergrad to get some work experience in tech? Would these be valuable for when it comes to applying to internships?

I currently know Typescript, Java and Python fluently as I've learnt these over the years, why did I not do a computer science degree??? don't ask me that haha. I'm planning on Learning either C# or Go next. Quite interested in Ruby as well but there's so many languages UGRGH. I have 3 projects so far. But when it comes to computer science and tech I don't hold any official qualifications.

Do you think It's worth getting an AWS certification? If so, Which certifications should I consider? For example AWS cloud practitioner sounds non negotiable because it literally introduces you to the AWS platform. I hear a lot of people prefer going onto doing the solutions architect professional certification.

Apologies, I made a previous post regarding this matter as well. After asking one a department member on a Facebook Group, I was told that Pending results due to completion of continuous assessment scores is quite uncommon, but also not related to Academic Misconduct as I would've gotten an email if this were the case.

I was wondering if anyone else's results are also pending due to completion of continuous assessment scores, which by the way I have no clue what this exactly means, but I'm assuming it's regarding TMAs and ICMAs as they\re the only "continuous Assessments".

I was supposed to receive result for SM123 today but they're pending due to "completion of continuous assessment score". I had 4 TMAs for SM123, TMA04 worth 13% was handed in 12 days late and so was marked as submitted late on the system for which I didn't receive a grading. I also submitted a special circumstances form for this TMA considering it was rather holding a significant weighing towards the module grade.

However, I'm not too sure if the delay is due to this because some people who have a pending result have specifically seen on their student home page that the results are pending due to consideration of special circumstances.

I keep getting all sorts of thoughts urgh such as being investigated for Academic Misconduct despite not partaking in any academic malpractice, but if this were the case wouldn't I have received an email for ACO or University stating that I'm being investigated? I am really anxious because Idk what exactly is holding my results.

Literally going through the results day anxiety right now haha. Idk what to do until I get my results but I'm just really frozen in place I can't get anything done until I see my results which will either be out this afternoon or tomorrow as planned. Many people have already started getting their results since 9am today. I'm also scared my results will be delayed because I submitted a special circumstances form for SM123 URGH

My friends don't deserve a friend who replies 5 day later, cancels plans last minute several times, and can't be there for them in their happy moments. I (20F) have honestly been living in a depressed/ADHD bubble for the past 2 years. This year has been terrible for me though, I feel like I No longer exist, as if I'm in a vegetative like state. Sort of like there's a grey cloud over me, I don't feel alive I don't feel any emotions lately I quit my job and all I do is stay at home. I've been canceling on my friends so much and despite this they've been there for me and understand what I go through. The only person I see is Friend A because for some reason she brings me warmth and comfort, and I try my hardest to see her as well as my other friends, but sometimes she's the only person I want to see, I'm not doing any "favoritism" type thing over here, idk just stating what's in my mind. I wish I had the social energy to go see my other friends because they're amazing people. I don't know how much longer they'd want to stay friends with me if I barely see them, don't reply to their texts/calls. And I dont blame them, I am quite literally distant and becoming more and more distant as the days go. It's like something's engulfing me and I can't seem to get out of it, I am so tired of this I'm tired of living like this.

I'm in the uk, so those in the UK would know the wait list for ADHD meds is insane, I don't know when I'd get medication as nothing else is helping me. Literally my mental health has ruined everything for me, I have to repeat a year at uni, I gained like 10kgs, I stress eat, I lost so many friends because I'd never respond to them so they just assumed I have no interest in conversing with them, It has forced me to leave work - I one day got the biggest dread and just gave in my week's notice, and then 2 weeks later realized it wasn't bad and there was nothing really....except for the dread, I regretted leaving work and now I can't find work as it's a bit of a quiet period in the job market this month and August. I hate my life so much.