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speaking as a girl, it’s frustrating how often people make assumptions based on how you dress and then use that to question your identity or honesty. even when someone clearly says they are ace and not interested in anything sexual or “kinky”, their clothing style is used as a reason to doubt them. clothes are just personal style and comfort, not a signal of identity or boundaries. why is it so hard for people to believe what someone says instead of judging them based on appearance?

i wanted to ask book readers/collectors — how do you stop books (especially paperbacks) from turning yellow with time? Do you store them in a certain way, use covers, keep them away from sunlight, use silica gel, etc.? Any tips that actually work?

Like was there any book that lowkey changed ur mindset or made u see life differently? What was it and what actually changed after reading it?

I genuinely feel like being ace in a country like India is exhausting sometimes. People either don’t know what asexuality means at all or they instantly turn it into a joke. Even educated people can be surprisingly ignorant about it.

The moment you say you’re not interested in sex, people start acting like something is wrong with you. Some say it’s “just a phase,” some think you’re lying, some assume you’re secretly gay, traumatized, or that you just “haven’t met the right person yet.” It gets tiring hearing the same stuff again and again.

And because Indian society is so relationship and marriage-centered, there’s this constant pressure to eventually change yourself and fit into what everyone thinks is “normal.” People act like attraction is mandatory for every human being.

The isolation is probably the worst part. You can’t even talk openly about it without getting weird reactions, jokes, or unnecessary questions about your personal life. After a point, staying quiet feels easier than explaining yourself repeatedly.

Anyone else from India relate to this?

Could be annoying, invasive, repetitive, ignorant, backhanded, anything

genuine question because I’m curious and want to understand diff experiences better,for asexual people who are in relationships (or have been before), how does it usually work for you personally? Like emotionally, romantically, physically, boundaries-wise, etc.

Just curious how self-aware people here are. What are your biggest red flags (toxic traits, habits, patterns) and your green flags (good traits you bring into relationships/friendships)?

I’m trying to explore that era more, so drop your favorites (underrated ones are even better).