u/90smomma93

I’m 33F, got dx back in November with AuDHD. I’ve been a SAHM since 2021. I have 3 kids, two are school aged and a 3yr old toddler. Summers and school breaks are very rough for me. School is starting back up tomorrow, so I’m *hoping* it will get better. But, we are moving to a different state in a few months. We don’t have much help right now, just my MIL occasionally watching the kids for a date night. But, once we move, we will be completely on our own. I had a hard time trusting people for child care, and I’m afraid I’ll won’t want to hire someone. I rely heavily on my husband for my social interactions and relief from overstimulation and melt downs. Afternoons are very hard for me, and some days I have to lock myself in a dark and quiet closet for relieve. I think doing this all summer has caused me to become pretty depressed and burnt out. I’ve aggravated and irritated from the moment I wake up, until the moment I fall asleep. I rarely smile anymore, and nothing seems fun and it’s hard to concentrate on most things. It’s normally hard for me to wake up in the mornings anyways, but it has become harder. I’m afraid it won’t get better once school starts. I’m afraid I’ll just get worse after the move. I have been in CBT for a few months now, but honestly, I don’t think it’s helping me. I also have a prescription for stimulants, but I don’t feel like they help much, either, so the point of where I just stopped taking them. I tired different kinds and doses, but only vyvanse 30mg seemed to help, but only occasionally. This also happened with antidepressants. Nothing seemed to help much. I believe my issues is my life circumstances. Which is why I’m in CBT, I was hoping it could help me chance my outlook and thinking patterns to hopefully appreciate things in life more, and learn to be happy and more involved with my kids. But it hasn’t really done much. Idk what to do anymore and I just feel lost.

I’m 33, but I never got the vaccines because my parents heard that it had awful side effects and didn’t work anyways. I hate that they didn’t get it for me. I don’t plan on having any new sexual partners (I’ve been with 12 guys in my lifetime, but have been with my husband now for 15 years and he’s the last one I’ll ever be with). I was recently tested for hpv as an annual checkup for obgyn. I tested negative for the serious stands I guess, but that’s all they tested for. I’ve been thinking about it since, and I can’t help but feel like I got so lucky to not catch the serious strands of it. My kids are now getting older, and everyone I talk to about it says to not get it. Obviously, when the time comes, I’ll ask their doctors about it, but there’s still a few years until then. I live in a very red state, and antivaxxers are abundant where I live. Can I get advice from professionals on here? Where can I find more info about it? Thanks.

I had my GB removed in 2019, after I had my first kid two years prior. I had diarrhea every day until I got pregnant again. Had the baby, and it came back after 6 months. Got pregnant again a few years later, diarrhea went away again, and recently came back after stopping breastfeeding. I am now on Cholestyramine 4gm, that I take a night to help absorb the bile overnight until I eat breakfast. If I take with breakfast, I usually still have diarrhea. But, now that I take it at night, I am constipated. I drink 80oz+ of water a day so I’m not dehydrated. I was wondering since I am about 10-15lbs overweight, and have a strong family history of type 2 diabetes, if GLP-1s would help with all of these issues. I’d like to see if anyone has taken it, and has helped with diarrhea from bile salts?

I used to have diarrhea every day before I started taking 4mg Cholestyramine once daily. Yes, I would rather be constipated than having horrible cramps and diarrhea. But, it’s not exactly comfortable either. I’ve tried cutting back and taking 3/4 of a scoop to see if it would make me less constipated, but nope. Diarrhea. And it’s not like I eat greasy, fatty, or sugary foods all the time. Sometimes I could just eat a banana and blow my a$$ out. I’m going to see if I can get in with a gastroenterologist soon because this is affecting my life in a negative way, and hopefully we can figure something out to help me. If anyone has any advice or suggestions, I would love to hear it. Thanks for letting me vent.

I get that guys need to itch or adjust their junk. Doing it for a bit is fine. But to sit there around people and mess with your stuff for longer than 5 minutes is just inappropriate and gross, idc if it’s just me and our kids. If I were to mess with my labia and vulva like that, I would be called a pervert. I get uncomfortable and itchy sometimes too, but I go to the bathroom and take care of it and then wash my hands, idcccc if I have discharge or not! Sure, yeah, men don’t get discharge. But they still pee, still sweat, still get shit particles on their stuff and let it all hang in or on the toilet bowl. But sure, it’s only gross if women do it, bc “ew discharge”, like women just have it 24/7 their entire lives. 🙄

I’ve told him plenty of times in our 15 years together how I feel about it. He usually just stops and says okay or washes his hands. But today, he snapped at me after I asked him to stop. I didn’t reply and just got up and left. Do it in private like every woman has to. Wash your hands after. This is something so basic, and everyone learns it before they go to school. JFC.

\*\*I will not argue with ppl in the comments that condone it. It’s nasty and inappropriate imo, if you want to touch yourself in front of others and not wash your hands after, and touch your
family and everything in your house, go ahead, but this is my opinion, and I’m tired of asking him to stop. I’m about to just take my kids and myself out of the living room and go elsewhere when he does it. I do not want my daughter thinking it’s okay for grown men, family or not, to mess with their junk when she’s around, as well as my sons to think it’s okay to do it when others are around. If you think I’m overreacting, scroll on. I’m here to vent, and maybe gain some advice on how to handle the situation without condoning that behavior.

I get that guys need to itch or adjust their junk. Doing it for a bit is fine. But to sit there around people and mess with your stuff for longer than 5 minutes is just inappropriate and gross, idc if it’s just me and our kids. If I were to mess with my labia and vulva like that, I would be called a pervert. I get uncomfortable and itchy sometimes too, but I go to the bathroom and take care of it and then wash my hands, idcccc if I have discharge or not! Sure, yeah, men don’t get discharge. But they still pee, still sweat, still get shit particles on their stuff and let it all hang in or on the toilet bowl. But sure, it’s only gross if women do it, bc “ew discharge”, like women just have it 24/7 their entire lives. 🙄

I’ve told him plenty of times in our 15 years together how I feel about it. He usually just stops and says okay or washes his hands. But today, he snapped at me after I asked him to stop. I didn’t reply and just got up and left. Do it in private like every woman has to. Wash your hands after. This is something so basic, and everyone learns it before they go to school. JFC.

**I will not argue with ppl in the comments that condone it. It’s nasty and inappropriate imo, if you want to touch yourself in front of others and not wash your hands after, and touch your
family and everything in your house, go ahead, but this is my opinion, and I’m tired of asking him to stop. I’m about to just take my kids and myself out of the living room and go elsewhere when he does it. I do not want my daughter thinking it’s okay for grown men, family or not, to mess with their junk when she’s around, as well as my sons to think it’s okay to do it when others are around. If you think I’m overreacting, scroll on. I’m here to vent, and maybe gain some advice on how to handle the situation without condoning that behavior.

I’m going to put the TLDR here, as I tend to yap;

Family of 5 moving from Northwest Arkansas to Southern Orlando area for husbands work relocation, I’m a SAHM with three kids, two school aged. Wondering about good neighborhoods and good schools or if I should homeschool. Looking for a great PCP. Two kid are in Speech Therapy, one is in PT, so recommendations on those would also be great. Base salary 85k+15k bonus, worried about HCOL area and not making enough. Thanks.

I’ve lived in Northwest Arkansas for my entire life. Im in my 30s and married, we have 3 kids. My husband works for a major retailer, and he just got a job near the southern Orlando area. Im a SAHM, two of our kids are school aged and we do not pay for childcare. I’m also native and pay very low in healthcare, so those are not too much of an issue for us financially. His base pay will be around 85k, and about 15k in bonuses and more in stocks. I’ve have read that Orlando is a HCOL area, and I’m worried that his income alone will not be enough. We currently live in a M-HCOL area for Arkansas, we aren’t much of a touristy area but we are experiencing a huge boom in population so everything is going up and housing is very competitive and expensive here as well. I like Florida for vacations, but it gets so hot and humid there. I wasn’t too happy when I found out about the job. I like where we live, and we don’t have much of a village, but it’s still something, VS when we move, we won’t have anyone we know to visit or help with babysitting when we need a break. I’m AuDHD and I do take stimulants, and I’m worried I won’t be able to get the meds and the care I need, as well as my kids who probably need to be evaluated themselves. I’m worried that we won’t find a good PCP as well as wait times to be able to even get one. I love my family Dr. now, he is very kind and understanding of my issues. So, if anyone has a great recommendation for a PCP in that area, please lmk! Also, where are the good neighborhoods and school? Our hope is that we can go back to NWA in a few years when/if he moves up in his career. Of course, we hope we do love it in Orlando, but I have a gut feeling that it will just be temporary. So, I’m not sure if going to a new school for a few years would be good for my kids, or if I should just suck it up and homeschool them. Any advice is appreciated!

I’ve had a picking problem my entire life. When I hit puberty and started getting acne, it’s when it started to get bad. I’d spend hours in front of the mirror doing it. Lately, though, it has gotten worse. I have 3 kids, rarely get breaks. Now we are about to move over a thousand miles away, and I’m so nervous and stressed about it. I have AuDHD, and sometimes I cannot cope with the stress. Sometimes I have a breakdown in the closet, other times I stay up all night just zoned out and picking. My face is swollen and red, my back is killing me, my neck hurts, etc. I can get so focused on doing it that it’s literally like a time warp, before I know it, it’s been many hours. I hate knowing I have blemishes on my face, and I also have a lot of black heads and sebaceous filaments. I’ve tried many different acne treatments, but nothing works. I’m too afraid to be judged by a dermatologist to seek help.

If you’re neurodivergent, what do you do to ease the urge to pick? Any advice is welcome.